₦airaland Forum

igbokwenu90:
..... Was it Buhari that Raised the Alarm or the Church members ?

Go blame the so called MAN of God for not getting the the SPIRITUAL VISION to differentiate between Banga and Boom

Dump point. The church members are civilians, they are not expected to recognize a bomb like the police should.

So you don't want me to enjoy glo oga sim again? Chai! This people ehn.

masterP042:
I think something is definitely wrong with our reasoning here in nigeria, okay, let's say he tried to bomb the church, should his name be the bone of contention?
Is this how we should react to a failed terror attack? We didn't even ask his sponsors, his network, how he was recruited into the act, etc. we are just after his name..
This name checking of a thing is a serious sign of tribalism and religious stereotyping. It's frequent here on nairaland. It's holding us as a people back on the way of progress. It shows this country is not really one, the marriage don scatter since 1967, we are just deceiving ourselves.
We should look beyond the tribalism and religious nepotism if we want progress.

His name is important now because some people want to claim Christians do bomb too. So sad but that's how stupid we are in this part of the world

You know what you want to do but you are only looking for validation, someone or some people to tell you your wife does not deserve a car so as to ease your conscience. I know a man who gave his car to the wife to make it easy for her to get the kids to sch. His home is in Ogun state but he works in Ikeja. So stressful, yea, but those are the men that knows the value of the mother of their kids.
You have been surviving all this time without a car, yet, you don't think your wife who is also taking care of your kid deserves a car.
This is how selfish men create monsters out of good women. Once she concludes you are selfish and inconsiderate, that's the beginning of the end of the good woman you are taking for granted now

I know Nairaland is biased toward Muslims, but the mods should stop pushing posts about these Islamic bodies to the front page. Stop breaking our heart with their stupidity please

See how you covered your fault. The WhatsApp messages ain't because of the cream but your allegations of infidelity,so face it

Even though I could do all he listed, I still can't live in that house. I hate rules mehn

Okada van, we will survive it, but keke? That's wickedness. Do they expect us to start trekking from Ikeja under bridge to GRA or Allen? These people don't think I swear

Yea, but my videos aren't qualified. Have 2 pages with more than 10000 fans

Sheriman:
Nigeria is now among now... But wait I did you get 10,000 followers on your Fan page??

So how will they explain the sign posts placed in some locations? Can't speak for other places but there are a lot of them In Ikeja

He even had the gut to call the southwest the Fulani's God's given land. Chai!

Officialgarri:
The level of Yahoo crime in Nigeria is alarming.
Even ladies are not left out.
I'm not saying club goers are all into fraud, but if you aren't, then explain yourself and get freed

I came to a university environment recently and I was disgusted by how legit cyber fraud is made to look —by music or their common utterances.

I'm beginning to think the government has a hand in promotion of fraud because it's a subtle way of generating revenue in the country without tax

Explain yourself and get freed in Nigeria? Are you kidding? If course there are fraudsters in that club, but many innocent people will sleep in cells for God knows how long. That defeat the whole purpose

BlackfireX:
This is a wrong move,


Let's hear from tinubu first and know his direction..

His direction? Cause Tinubu is a god in yorubaland or what?

Liar liar pant on fire. Tarrif in my house was increased with a rate that's slightly above 100%. Awon oniro
Discos ko, hip-hops ni

Ignorance is a great disease. sometimes, people like this make me want to hide my Christian faith but no way, light shines in darkness and darkness can overcome It

alezzy13:
Chai!! See as them finish us

Some truth, but a lot of exaggerations. In the health sector for instance I don't agree the issue of fake drugs is still as serious as it once was.

Secondly I don't totally agree medications are not available in most hospital. There may be occasional stockout but I don't think it's a general issue


Lastly in this day and age how many people still request for tap water? It's almost always bottled water even in those road side bukas

Even NAFDAC confessed fake drug is still a big issue in the country.

She may not have sex with another guy, she will just entertain other suitors instead of shutting em out

solofresh:
Well, i pray u catch your girlfriend one day having sex with another guy.Either you are getting married to her or not that is not my concern.
Your reasoning ability is very low bro
Imagine you a grown up son with this same issue,is this what you are going to tell him?

So if you a guy proposes marriage to his girlfriend of 4 years and the girl asks for time to think about it. Let's say she is still thinking after 6 months to one year, the guy won't start looking for another bae on a low key? It is easier to throw stones cause it's a girl involved. Walking away may be hard for some people mostly because somehow, they are emotionally tied to the person they are with so instead of just walking a way, they start 'scouting' for another talent while they hold on, who knows?
This is not healthy anyway, the best is still to walk away if expectations are not being met.

But to be sincere, I don't think it takes so long to decide what one want from a relationship. Someone that can't take a decision after 4 years is a time waster... For someone that wants marriage at that point in time

Beating her at this point will make her heart more hardened. She is even afraid of doing it, that's what you should use to your advantage. Let her know the guy is not in love with her, let her know she will live to regret this. Don't exaggerate, but paint a picture of how she will surfer physically and emotionally.
If you can, get an older lady to talk to her. Not a mummy o, preferable a young lady but older than her. I wish you all the best

Lol. 16 is of age? your confidence in speaking about a law you don't understand is completely amazing

nanaman:
Yes. Issues like this should not be taken or decided with personal feelings.

The man was bad. YES.

Is the father of the child. YES

Did he take care of the child from birth till date. NO

Has she (the girl) being adopted by another family. NO

No where in the law states an irresponsible man should be denied paternity. Lots of things would be posed as the cause of the problem and if the mother denies, DNA would be requested and since the mother knows, truly, the real father is the new man, then, DNA is ruled out.

I already explained what your sister failed to do at the initial stage which brought her to this step.

To custody issue, I stated, the young girl is of age according to law to decide where she wants to live. The court cannot deny the real dad visit and care para-adventure she decides to stay with her mother. Wherever she decides to stay, the man is now "responsible" to law and he should not be denied his right. That's the law bro.

The truth is, bipolar disorder is real and many Nigerians (men and women) are suffering from it but because we don't recognize mental disorder as a disease in this country, we call it anger or frustration. I wish you the best Op

Goddeywithme:
I disagree with you 100%

Verbal assaults can be emotionally and psychologically damaging. Their impacts last for years and destroys people. Sometimes it is more lethal and leaves no trace, in the sense that it can drive the victim to suicide, and leaves the guilty party free to walk away innocently, because there is no evidence. Comments like yours make women feel they have the God given right to use their tongue to kill a man's soul, believing it is acceptable and has no consequence. Not so sir.

I beg you to read up on psychological books on the evidence of the destructiveness of emotional and verbal assaults.

As many have said, op's story doesn't add up. I am waiting for the fuller picture before I....

Just as many women say that the day a man lays a hand in them, that is the end of the marriage/relationship. I often say, the day a woman verbally or emotionally or psychologically insults me, that is the end of the relationship /marriage. This mindset has led me to avoid abusive women.

Some women will come here now and say but that is just a way for a woman to vent her frustration. Thus makes me laugh when I hear it. My reply to them is this, what if I tell u that a man beating u is his way of letting out his frustration?

My advice to women is if u want a shouting match or want to show ur prowess in verbal assaults, go finds a fellow woman. For men, if u want to show ur strength, go find a fellow man and have a boxing match.

I know the impact of emotional and psychological abuse by women. I know men who have committed suicide because of that, and the woman continues to enjoy life.

If a guy who has served in the military for 15 years or even less verbally assault you will you vent your frustration through physical assault on him or you will calculate your weaknesses against him and find an alternative? The truth is, some men vent frustration on their wives cause they know they can handle them. A civilian married to a military woman won't try it

They are still not getting the pint, one wonder the type of bible some. People read. Sigh

Am I the only one that find this boring? Next please
And the hush guy couldn't make 4 statements without mentioning 'mama'... So lame

TonyeBarcanista:
In this case in question, the woman isn't the one feeding the man. The woman is the one having problem with the man caring for his siblings.

Every situation comes with its own merit

You obviously didn't read to understand but to reply. Will leave you to your opinion then. Sometimes, we need life to teach us first hand before we understand some things. Shalom!

If you don't believe some in-laws, especially female ones could make the life their brother's life hell without justifiable reason, then you havent seen the other side of life. The woman obviously cant be perfect in the marriage, we all are, but there are inlaws that hate on the wife out of pure envy for no other reason than 'na she dey chop our brother's money' even in cases where it is the wife covering the man financially. Seen this happened first hand.

TonyeBarcanista:
I don't expect her to say FULL TRUTH because humans are fond of saying half truths to make them appear as oppressed and garner public sympathy. I know that her in-laws aren't mad people to be taking gifts when she didn't err.

What did she do? What has she done? What is the recurring issue? Saying it is envy is the most FOOLISH assumption! Why should her SIL envy her? Is she their mate? Is she the one feeding their brother? Use your brain


You can go hit your head on the wall if you are pained by that assertion!

Only those that don't know manipulating style of women will fall for this nonsense nag

BTW Are you married?

From the text message, your father didn't see any wrong he did, in fact, you are the one that needed forgiveness. This life ehn. If you don't want to come out ungrateful, you should let your mum knows you plan on re-establishing relationship with your dad. That wil show you respect her sacrifices

Timil:
Oga shut up please... its so unreasonable for a grown up adult not to understand the implications of recording ones sexual act.

One thing folks like you don't understand is the internet never forgets, years or decades later you might just wake up to your kids viewing all the nonsense you posted on the internet.

How would you want your kids to respect you or even listen to any advice you have to give after getting to know about your immoral acts. better be guided so that your case won't be like that of Ghost whose son (tariq) has lost respect for him after getting to know about his past in the drug game.

Lets be sensitive and reasonable before coming online and posting anything you will later regret in life, in fact be sensible and think through before taking any action in life.

So, after all has been said and done, when someone acts foolishly and it's all out, should the person be judged, condemned and thrown out? Especially remembering the fact that no sin os greater than the other. We all have sinned at one time and got forgiven

durubennie:
Back then we had better horror movies like van Hellsing ,underworld(not 2017),saw 1-4, hostel,species,evil dead,human centipede,Chucky 1-3
Nowadays they are just feeding us with trash horror movies, asides conjuring,nun and Leatherface others are thrash..
I watched one yesterday called escape room.
directors are out of ideas men.

I wanted to see Escape room but i have been reluctant. Thanks for this, will go delete it straight

finally, a light at the end of the tunnel. we need recolonisation biko. me I don't see this country getting better like this.

looks like borrowing is another source of income now. Issokay