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youngboi:
Indomie strong pas u sef.

I don't know what that means.

Happy birthday stranger.

grad2012:
get ready for beating.

Sounds like you might deserve it too hahahahahaha

Phasesone:
A lady thats smart wise... and all that I would desire... would never name herself foolinlove... she would want to be different... and give herself a name that would make every guy check her profile...

Foolinlove doesn't sound ladylike.... it sounds like a confused guy....

I don't care about getting guys attention, though. Because as I have said, ad nasuem, I met the guy I truly loved and he broke my heart. I still love him and cannot open up to anyone again.

Anyway, I'm not African, so maybe that would also explain my choice of name? Cultural difference plus being a fool in love with someone who don't love her.

Debbywills:
Woah! That's good news. Congratulations!!

Not really. He married someone else...

Phasesone:
I never asked you to prove it.........

and if my beliefs didnt affect you... then you wouldn't have replied...

I'd be interested to know WHY there are all the accusations that I am a man, though. Is it because I am smart?

2 mins then get the h3ll off of me. Let me sleep sha.

It's been a looong time, tho, thank God.

Phasesone:
Real women don't hate men.... That means you are a man that is hiding behind a female moniker

I am a woman, I have nothing to hide. But I don't need to prove anything to you. Believe what you want sha. It doesn't affect me.

lordizak:
Have u ever cheated? just asking....

Never once in my life have I cheated. Never.

dauntless15:
ok pray I'll be in control when i do

Praying for you.

harsysky:
Foolinlove, Is sex the only sign of genuine love? Have you watched the true life movie called "addiction"? Most times addiction could even be the reason your partner who truely loves you go on to cheat on you. Love is far bigger than what we are examining here o.

The bible even says "love your neighbour as you love yourself" but we've come to find out there are people who even hate themselves and are applying it also to others in this way: ," I love them the way I love myself"

Okay - no, sex purely does not define the relationship. But it is a huge part of a committed relationship. If sex wasn't a huge part of a lreationship then we'd all be having sex with everyone around us including our families...

There are a lot of things that define a good committed relationship. Wholly loving emotionally, spiritually and physcially.

Once you have committed, then sex is one thing you have said you will do only with one person. If you are doing that with everyone else then there is nothing special the two of you have together. If you are having sex with everyone around then the two of you may as well just be friends. There is nothing that binds you and keeps the relationship elevated above your relationship with anyone else.

If you respect your partner spiritually and emotionally, then you must respect them, physically as well. Try to meet their needs and desires and hopes and prayers. This is why sex with outside parties is the hugest betrayal.

You can pray with others at church, in the home, with other people and your partner. You have friends who will support you through emotional tough times in tandem with your partner. But to sex around? This is the special part that is only meant for you two alone. When you are committed, sex is the only thing you two have that is unique and special to you two alone.

I'm only speaking for couples who have made a monogamous agreement and commitment though, not ones who think sex parties and all that are okay between them. It's not for me, and though I try not to judge people, I think promiscuity is an awful and horrible thing.

dauntless15:
shes never serious thats a problem, you might be dying and she'll be laughing at something funny she saw thats why i just like her she's too carefree

So tell her that, end the relationship for good and move on. Give her closure. Then she can move on too.

harsysky:
True love is a gift from God. True love doesn't exist just exist in this world of ours. There is a phase called "Apostasy" for those who genuinely loved God. I think that same thing happens in love too. King Asa loved God for 42 years, genuine love and during his dying years he let go.

What am I trying to say. Love is a "lay in all in one basket". Even if you feel it is a genuine love and your partner cheats on you, you should equally forgive he/she when they say they've learnt their lessons and repented.

My point is that even if u truly love them, cheating is a sign that they don't truly love you. You should free them to find that person who they can control themselves for.

I forgive, but it doesn't mean u wasn't betrayed. There will always be suspicion and then everyone is miserable. Cheating is the ultimate betrayal. And it is a signal that they don't truly love you, if they did then they wouldn't make the choice to hurt you so roughly.

UndisputedBosom:
You're hurt, i can see that...well your profile told me shaa but that doesn't mean you have to adopt that as a mindset.

With this mindset right now even if you met ur "Mr Right" any slightest mistake from him you will refer it as cheat.

Learn to make amends to any loophole in ur relationship, remove "PRIDE" it will only leave you heartbroken then u will be in search 4 another guy, same thing happens and u continue b4 u know it u will be leaving "PILES OF EX-BOYFRIENDS" here and there.

I can make amends to anything but cheating. It is the ultimate betrayal.

Accept. If someone is born gay then they can't help it, like being born blind or with no legs. Pray for them, support them. You don't have to agree but you need to show love like Jesus love all his brothers and sisters.

They will go thru horrible things because they are gay and they will need your love and support, otherwise they may take their own life or turn to drugs or alcohol to deal with their pain.

dauntless15:
shes excited around me as well, you know that feeling you have for someone you naturally connect with? I must admit the girl am in a relationship with loves me more than i actually love her, its strange but intresting

You need to tell her you don't want her then. Respect that she can find someone else that will love her as much as she needs.

Don't double date, it's wrong. Especially when you know you are wasting her time.

dauntless15:
your no contact rule was exactly what happened we didn't meet or talk or chat for almost five months, how she miraculously located my mum yesterday was amazing

Maybe she is serious then. You two need to have some serious talking. About your future together. If you don't want her, tell her. Then no contact again.

But if u want her, serious talking. If she say no to serious talking then she is just playing games.

As much as she may want, things can never go back to how they were. But with serious talking maybe the two of you cam be stronger.

Another rhing to note : if ur man is cheating you'll notice he only contact you at weird times.

Like im the middle of the nighy when his other girl is sleeping. Or very early in the morning when she is in shower. Or only when he is on the way to work. He won't talk you on the phone during normal hours, and take a long time to reply texts.

dauntless15:
its not working and i called her and when we met she told me things i do that she doesn't like and i did the same, and we both decided amicably to give ourselves space, that was February, we stopped talking on whatsapp but yesterday she claimed it was because she lost her phone and she got a new line as for me i deleted her number and blocked her on whatsapp

Good for you. Regain your peace. Well done!

harsysky:
I think you get the point. Those who claim they are loving with the head were not actually loving. It's just mental manipulation, and any other person who sweeps them off their feet, they are bound to leave their Partner.

True, powerful love can change. Remember, change is constant. It could take years, but it could change. I'm implying that to everybody o. Some who actually were genuine love birds got to a point they now hate themselves.

Yes, relationships go thru down points. And you can hate and love at the same time. The ppint is, that when you love your love overrides the hate and u get thru it. True love never ends.

Those relationships that end, even after soany years, were not true love. Because those people weren't invested in their heart enough to try to make it thru the rough times together.

UndisputedBosom:
U talkin about pride here...then u do not luv him much as u claim.

So if he were 2 be ur husband u will leave another woman 2 have him just bcox of pride.

Then u hvnt seen nutin yet...

You can love someone and not be with them. I want his happiness, so if he want another woman then hee can have if it make him happy.

I'm not going to be cheated on. If he loves he won't cheat. If he loves, je will communicate what's wrong wit u so u can work on it, not just go to some other girl all the time.

How can I hold my head and be happy in relationship if my man cheat on me? I can't. How can anyone?

[quote author=UndisputedBosom post=46907686][/quote]I think that's disreapectful to yourself and shows no pride.

If they cheat they just dont love you. No point banging ur head on a brick wall. U can't force someone to truly love u.

dauntless15:
ya just saw it lemme go and read, but the explaining to my family is useless I've done that couple of times anytime they raised her issue. to prove my point is what they did last night.

You need to be firmer with them. Tell them is a metter of respect. Do they respect you or repsect her more? Who do they put first - you or her? They have to make choice to let you be happy with your own experiences and not force something on you. They will see in the long run that you can make good choices for yourself.

Marriage advice: don't marry anyone you don't truly love.

dauntless15:
its not thier fault shes a likeable girl, but whats up with the no contact rule

I wrote a post about it. It helps a lot.

Just because your family like her dosnt mean u have to as well. Explain to them how you feel and get them to respect your feelings on the matter.

UndisputedBosom:
How many will open up you say?

The guys that cheat doesn't open up but you ladies with your instinct finds out and why can't you ladies use the same method to find out why he's cheating.

Only one reason he's cheating: he don't love you truly. If he did, he would talk to you not just be lazy and go with another girl.

Maybe tell your family to butt out of your relationship too. Is not their business. If they know how she destroyed you, then why would they want that to happen again to you?

Tell them no. Tell her no. Then do the no contact rule.

No contact. Its the only way.

schumastic:
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not saying anything to affect anyone, am not saying should give your heart or pvssy to anyone, as a matter of fact, I don't think there is any heart left for u to give to a guy cus u seem like one who will date a guy out of pity..you can go nun but for how long, u say 4yrs already (I still don't believe cus is not possible) but how long more can u go?...finally u don't change to make me happy, because I tell friends n foes around me to do things that make them happy..finally most friends you have now were once strangers to you, so drop that mentality.

I'm guessong I can go for the rest of my life. Been 4 years so far. I didn't date out of pity. i didnt accept marriage proposal from pity. Was him chased me.

I don't have any heart to give. My heart is broken into a thousand little pieces. No one can mend that. Only God will mend when I die and am in His arms.

No matter how much I pray, I still love that one guy. Maybe u just can't comprehend what it is to love truly and wholly.

It doesn't work. My ex and I did this. He said so I wouldn't cheat on him. Then he went out and cheated on me.

schumastic:
tell yourself the truth, you know am not lying..the fact that you loved him so much and almost went suicidal cus of what he did, doesn't mean you should keep yourself in the dark for that long, even though I find it hard to believe that you have not been with any man over the past 4yrs.

Believe whatever you want, it doesn't affect me. I still love him and I havent and I'm not going to give my heart or pvssy to anyone else. I can't endure any more heartbreak. And I'm hardly going to change myself to make you happy... we are strangers.

Withambition:
I believe there's more to it. BTW, I can't ask you personal questions on this public platform nw

Like what more? Anyway u can ask. I don't care.