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Taiyescott:
The Rapist Takes All Blame, But In Cases Where A Full Grown Lady Dresses Indecently And Is Raped, I Believe D Blame Shud B Shared By Both D Rapist And D Rapee.. In Case Of Pedophiles, They Shud B Killed Instantly!

By this logic then anyone who gets robbed should also be partly to blame for the robbery.

Olalan:
You have what many ladies wish to have, please try your best to reciprocate the love, care and respect he has shown you.

This

Domislaz:
I admire your consistent logic.

Thanks?

YES.

It's cases like these that make real rape cases so hard to prosecute.

myfantasies:
Nd women r not heartless either

We love doing charity work

Hahahahaha! Omg so funny

You only have two choices.

1. Stay with her.
On the knowledge that she's a cheater and will do it again and again.

2. Move on.
Knowing that you will sleep easy as no one is cheating on you.

It is not an easy choice. She is your true love. No on can make that choice for you. Unfortunately, sometimes your true love doesn't love you back. I am testament to that. I have also tried to end my life over mu true love.

But if you choose option 2, you need to cut her off. The longer you have no contact with her the stronger you will be. Otherwise, she will be like a drug to you. You will crave her attention, when you get it you'll be high. So the best way is to cut off the "drug supply". Over time without her, the cravings will fade. You will move on.

Also, be honest in yout next relationship if you have one. Let the lady know that your ex is your true love. You need to be honest in everything, so that you don't pass on the hurt that has been done to you.

Bless and good luck.

RAPE IS THE FAULT OF THE RAPIST 100%.

Rape can only be prevented if rapists stop raping.

falconey:
really? if we apply this logic . guys will be changing gf like boxers.

It's not the behaviour it's the *change* in behaviour that is important... and *when* the behaviour changed.

sekem:
Okay, if that's what you really want, then no problem. It's your decision. A very wise decision. You have your own life to lead. And I fully support you and wish you luck.

But just so you know, you won't be missed at all!!!

Life goes on whether you are in a relationship or not. Unfortunately, you are either too proud or too foolish (in love) to realize how irrelevantly insignificant you are in the grand scheme of life.

I recognise that. I know I won't be missed. That's why I tried killing myself before?

Anyway, not like I was asking any of you to sympathise. I was defending myself against the olosho accusation.

icedbeatz:
Was I typing about how females partners will feel or the natural instinct in men and how men's mind function? I was describing how men's mind works but let me deviate a little and answer your questions.
1. Not just to me but to MEN. yeah, love and sex goes hand in hand for most girls but not all, for whores, money and sex goes hand in hand for some girls they just want to have fun and fuk around that said/typed this is a personal question dear so it depends on who my "partner" is.
2. Most of you are expecting answers like yes I will respect her wishes but sorry to disappoint you guys because I don't can't make such decision about my "partner" (not defined, wife,gf, girl next door, e.t.c) based on only love and sex because its relative and more than that. Basically what am saying is it depends on my partner's personality.

Do as many mental gymnastics as you like. Yous a cheater boi, and most ladies don't like that. Cheers.

sekem:
Kitty shop?

So you were selling before?

No wonder no man wants you anymore!!!

Maybe you haven't heard but no sensible man wants an ashawo as a partner.

But don't worry, okay?

I'm sure your lesbian sistas will never reject you.

Idiot!!!

It's a turn of phrase you fool. Meaning : my heart is closed and I'll never be in a relationship or have sex again.

myfantasies:
Nd i hope you won't mind if ur woman is helping guys who have lost their missing ribs to accident and childbirth too

This woman has a point, sha.

KevMitnick:
Guy keep quiet and take control of the relationship. She is obviously stirring the ship. Why don't you start chatting with a lady and delete the chat too. It will make u feel better and I hope she is not the one feeding you. You better man up. Smh...

This is immature.

You need to drop her. You're not being insecure or jealous - you have a reason to be suspicious.

Time to move on to be with someone who will be totally honest with you.

Cheating starts when people are deleting texts. Even if it's not sex, it's emotional infidelity.

She definitely cheated. Or she's seriously considering it.

The guilt makes her be overly nice. She asked you if youve cheated before because she wants a reason to justify her cheating to herself.

You need to drop her and not contact her ever again.

uyisteven:
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I stand to be corrected...Your Facts miss...

Rape is rape is rape.

Forced sexual intercourse, ie, intercourse with a woman after she says no.

There is a thing in USA called continuous consent for the reason that most men dont understand what rape is. Educate yourself.

icedbeatz:
Hahahahahaha I'm now a misogynist?! lol wtf! you're hilarious dear, I'm not justifying it at all. This post is not about being smart or battle of the sexes, who brought all women into this? you? what is wrong with you dear hmmm? please relax ok

Like I said, don't patronise me.

You say love and sex are different things to you. What if they are thr same for your partner? Will you love and respect her wishes for you to remain faithful even though you want to fucc around with others?

Breadmaker:
I think the percentage should be around 50 or maybe lower in Nigeria depending on the type of rape you're talking about because some types of rapes which are illegal in some countries are legal in Nigeria. Marital rape 4instance is illegal in some places but it not illegal down here.

Gray rapes are rampant down here because it is not a punishable offence so these will considerably reduce the percentage in Nigeria but I expect it to go up in the future cause our men, mostly elderly men aged between 50-80yrs have gone nuts.

Wow. I need to read about this more.

icedbeatz:
lol lmao hahahahahaahaha though you might be old by age yes but I'm not talking about just age because "wisdom is a luxury has no age tagged on it", your comprehension needs to be enhanced.
1. The post is not about you kapish?
2. Its not about females but MALES, MEN to be precise (hopefully you understand this time)
3. Since its about MEN and not females so why would you judge or make statements based on a female's perception?
4. Sacrifice? really? let me not go down this path at all.

It's ok I understand now. You're a misogynist. And you think your opinion or perspective on things is automatically worth more than a woman's.

Since you think you're smarter and more worldly than all women you can justify anything to yourself including hurting your partner with unfaithfulness.

Good for you. Aren't you wonderful?

uyisteven:
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Thankx for clearing things up...Love the way your opinions are stated...

Facts not opinions.

Breadmaker:
80% of women in Australia or worldwide?

BTW, how many % of this women experience it when they're young?

I should probably look at the study again to clarify who. But it was women between ages of 14 and 45.

icedbeatz:
True love? :-) you don't know much about love yet well I understand the stand point of your ignorance dear because you're not a male, you think most things in relationships should revolve around love probably and still very young as your post depicts and yet can't tell the difference between telemundo,love stories, romance novels and what we call reality but don't worry we all passed through this stage you are right now.

I'm old enough to understand sacrifice. As in, I will sacrifice one session of hot s3x in order to respect my partner who I love and dontwant to hurt.

Don't patronise me.

uyisteven:
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Not going stick my neck out for the rapists but really, do explain what a lady would be doing in the house if not knowing **some shiit is about to go down**
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You can't tell me you felt you folks were just going talk or watch some cinderella movies togeda....
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He is Fvvcking not your therapist...

No means no. She's allowed to say no regardless of circumstances. If a woman says STOP halfway through, and he doesn't stop, that's rape.

The number one cause of rapes is rapists.

lilzcee:
U have not said anything yet

O just haven't said anything you understand or can wrap your brain around.

Does this make it easier: DON'T CHEAT. SHOW RESPECT FOR YOU FELLOW HUMANS. EVEN THE FEMALR ONES.

It could be because they were? 80% of women experience sexual assault in their lifetime according to an Australian study.

Also, it could be the fear that they'd get called olosho and dropped.

Trapnews:
Why display your ignorance on a public forum. Why do you think they call us bridegroom? We are meant to groom you folks to our taste Most of you ladies are not groomable unfortunately you find solace in your parent's house

My parents are dead a$$hole. I am an adult person not a child. If youwant someone to mold into your image, don't complain about stupid weak women - because that's essentially what ur lookin for.

funshow247:
How many loving and respectful ladies do we have.... If ladies could just try to be submissive a little, I can assure u , men will dance to your tune and respect you on the long run.

I was loving and respectful. You seem to all blame it on me that my ex cheated. That was HIS choice, not MINE. He could have broken up with me before he moved on. He could have given me that small dignity.

Nateben:
See my point?
I don't know you dear, and I might never will, believe it or not, your point of view right now is reason men cheat.... (Advice) If you see a guy that wants you to change a thing or two in your personality, please marry him. Some men don't care, they smash and move on, so if you find that one who wants to make it work, don't loose him.

I told you I already had that experience. I did the riggt thing, I listened, I changed, I worked hard. He still cheated. I'm now closed for business.

icedbeatz:
My dear that's why you females get it wrong, to us sex and live are two different things. We can be so much in love with a girl A and FK madness out of girl B but we can never ever intentionally girl A for anything. We can even go to war for girl A or do anything just to make her happy but wouldn't even break a sweat for girl B because to us she's just a puna on the side dear. I know this might seem crazy or whatever but I'm giving you the fact and God made us that way just like he made you females to act how y'all act sometimes. It makes and keeps the world interesting.

You just don't know true love and you dont know self control. Not ur fault. Maybe one day you will be lucky enough to understand.

Trapnews:
Those who respected themselves and did the right thing in relationships are happily married now There is always a way that seem right to us. You need to amend your ways and start doing the right thing

Yes that's why I am so fuccing angry all the time. Because I DID do the right thing... and I'm not married as I was promised.

Efriday1:
Yeah it's parnership actually an the woman is the helpmate not the figurehead. You play your role and submit and he will love you. Most men are conquerors. Show a man you know your rights but don't fight to get it- it only hurts. A man delights in his strength and the weakness of a woman is what makes her strong. Don't change this pls. And don't overplay your role, don't underplay or challenge his role.

Pls. This type of power is an illusion. Any woman who buys into this crap is bound to be ten times stronger than any man.

Imagine giving birth to all those children, raising them, looking after the house, possibly working a job, putting up with his cheating and lying... you'd have to be emotionally and physically strong. Not just lie back and cry all day because "I'm just a woman waaaah". Idiot.

Owliver:
a vice president is literally as important as a president but by law and responsibility they are not

a president can't do all the duties so the vice assists. both are important but not equal.

the president has veto over the vice. which is needed sometimes where there is conflict of interest.

the point is, meeting the right person, even if he's above you you'd still be cherished. but the concept of societal equality is totally dangerous. am talking from a point of human psychology.

if you give humans chance they'll take more. someone got to check that. we men have done dat for ages. changes brought has really cursed lots of damages.

get my point?

I don't buy your analogy at all.

Relationships are built on an equal footing. Each have different but equally important roles. It's not like the woman is second in charge - she rules certain things - if she falls ill then the man has to take over. Vice versa applies. It is about helping and rspecting one another and making compromises.

uyisteven:
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Rape..That's some serious issue...Not all boys are se.xed starved...
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Plus this question doesn't necessarily spell me...Might be the thoughts going through the minds of some Male Folks...Am just helping them out....

It's just thay the excuse most rapists use is "that woman did (insert thing) so what did she expect?" In thjs case the thing is going to his house.