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falconey:


woa woa easy Oprah

I can explain , I am a bachelor ,also studying bachelor degree ,you get the connection? sure you do.

if I stop calling doesn't that imply I don't want her anymore or love her anymore ?why will I be worried or concern seeing her with another nigga ?

she should get the message max a week.

But I mean in the case you HAVE fallen in love. You don't call her in a week because you are in a coma. She moves on because of guys behavinglike you do. #regrets

Akjr:
prove it plss.. I dnt like such guys. No self respect. Prove u a woman

Woah. Someone doesn't like a smart woman who disagrees with them.

olumide81:
if u really want a relationship with her, be prepared to still share her with that guy in the early months of the relationship..... and to your question, stop playing the good boy it only helps in breaking your heart

Real love doesn't cheat.

falconey:
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thats my style , it saves lots of energy, who needs the drama you ladies bring ?


if I no call you again me don EX be that

So for HOW long? You decide on day one... when should she get the message? How many days/weeks later?

And how will you respond if she finds soneone else two days after you stopped calling, but you actually loved her and wanted her? You'll call her a cheating wh0re.

Time to man-up.

blackboi:
Because we are nott desgned to reason so; a lot has met their water-loo just by being honest with their lovers. If you still don't get it: Juju is real, someone might get your life fucked_up if you tread that path... That's if they don't kill you, yes Kill you

I guess you can just go about treating people like dirt then, because juju.

Smh. Find God.

You've never known true love. I feel sorry for you all.

Engineers? Ew.

"Three years ago I couldn't even spell engineer, now I are one der der der".

Antina:
Well said. Some people will just stop talking to u and would want u to decode they are no more interested in the relationship. Its doesn't give respect to their personalities also. Do they care? Shm.

Not caring is really different to not respecting. A lot of people don't understand that

GogetterMD:
Old school style, that was down the list on requirements. Ability to perform at some certain "tasks" forms the foundation for love.
You guys are new school sha, so I don't blame you

Yeah. When women were property to be boughy and sold. Like slaves...

doskie:
if you didn't mention that you are not African, i would've asked if you are a lawyer. You string words together properly and it's impressive.
I am both a member of nairaland and an American forum called Quora. There is unfortunately a marked difference between the prowess of writers on quora and that of my darling nairaland. People in Nigeria seem to have jettisoned the idea of learning correct grammar and putting up impressive writeups. My people have embraced shorthand, fallicies, and other logical blunders that makes reading comments here very annoying. Now that you stated that you are not African, my curiosity has been doused adequately.

It's all linguistics. I love English, but it evolves and changes when isolated from it's source. It develops different characteristics and them turns into a different dialect of English.

Case in point is how white Americans speak vs. Black Americans. I have to say I love how black Americans speak

blackboi:
This isn't for my Naija people!
Take it to maybe Kenya

Why?

You did the right thing. She sounds like a flake. Indecision is the root of false love.

Sistem007:
U'v really been so unlucky

You don't have to tell me. I was there. Lol.

Doggy. Don look at my face and makes gyy quicker to come so it's all over quickly.

When you don't want date someone anymore, you should always show respect. Even when you dislike someone so much your stomach turns, you still have to show respect.

No excuses:
Just dropping someone and not talking to them with no explanation is not only disrespectful, it shows how much of a coward you are. It can be uncomfortable to break up with someone, but if that is what you want then you can at least have courage to tell them.

With no explanation, the other person will be harmed - it can send people crazy! They might always harrass you, stalk you, talk bad to your mutual friends and family. They will always wonder what they did wrong or what happened to you.

It may seem like a mean thing to do, but a break up provides someone with a down point from which everyone can grow and learn.

How it's done:
Communicate properly. Be precise.

The three key things to say are:
1. The relationship is over!
Do not be vague. Say you are not dating them anymore and that you will date other people. Say you do not love them truly. That you hope they will date other people too.
2. There is no hope for the future!
Do not give a false hope. This is very cruel and keeps the person hanging on to you for no reason. They will think they still have a chance with you and pray on it. Give the person CLOSURE.
3. Thanks!
Even when you are not thankful, you should be. This person spent their time on you (and possibly more was spent than just time). So say thank you always.

If you've only dated that person for a short while, or even only just one date, they still deserve respect. A text message saying "it isn't going to work" is good enough (but not good enough for something longer than 3 dates).

Why:
Because how can you respect yourself if you don't respect others? If you give a good close to the relationship the other person can start to move on properly instead of waiting and wondering all the time.

Difference between a relationship break and a break UP:
Taking a break from relationship committments is different to ending relationships. If you need a break from the committments for some reason be careful and precise. If you want to take a break to taste other people, and leave the other person hanging and waiting around for you, you are disrespectful and a coward. Let the person go before you cheat.

It is important to be respectful when you take a break too.

How to communicate a relationship break:
1. Tell the person you need a break for whatever reason. That you are not breaking UP, you just need some time away from relationship committment (for study, work, family etc.)
2. Tell them you still love them and will come back in a decided amount of time. Make sure you tell them how much time it will take before you contact them again.
3. IMPORTANT!!! Tell them you won't date or sleep with another person during the break.

You need them to be confident in your partnership so they honour your need for a break. Likewise, they won't find someone else because they have no confidence in you or your words.

EVERYONE DESERVES RESPECT.

obyrich:
You are equally wrong.

Glad to be wrong then. Thanks for the correction.

obyrich:
I was referring to your ' I no go marry' ish.

I didn't think men liked to marry girls they haven't bedded. They like to know what they gettin.

obyrich:
Still on this?

Op said "always works". He is incorrect.

Doesn't work for me sha.

I won't bed til I got a marriage. And I don't see that happening soon or at all.

tk4rd:
Easy dear.. I was moved by your story.
But then, you can't just block off the happiness in your own life just because of someone else.

Maybe it has been long enough but am still coming to terms with myself and how the whole thing ended.

Maybe a lovely husband will sneak up on me when I least suspect? I pray so. Believe me, I pray so.

Hbee1:
This lady was spotted in an award show!! I mean she no get mirror for house. This is wat I call slippers breast..

Sabipeepz.com.ng

It two fried eggs nailed to a wall. She proud enough to show them off then more power to her.

No shame!

Icansing:
what are you now saying miss

Sayin I never wear underwear. Aint nuttin wrong wit dat.

If ur getting married u shouldnt have any boyfriends. From the time u start dating to the engagement to the marriage to death. No boyfriends. That's cheating.

Smell is linked to infection.

Either bacteria or yeast. Washing aint gon help those tings.

Go to doctor, get test done. Then get medicine. These infection can cause infertility so she need to know straight away.

She may be ignorant to these facts. She will thank you.

Something that can be seen as an "excuse" can also be seen as an explanatory reason.

Your head really has been boiled.

Etc. Is contraction of ETCETERA. Real word.

If u harrassed me like dis I gon slap u too.

It's not what you have it's how you use it. P lus you could use your hands too.

You mau also be interested to know that length isn't the mosy important. It's thickness.

Just my opinion, some oyher girls may disagree.

Whatever happened to love?

Maybe some womem cry because they know they've just been used by a guy.

It also could be they feel guilty.

As much as people say women shouldn't have sex except with their husband, most women have sexual appetites. So before they meet a husband they will seek sex elsewhere.

It's the same sexual drive that men have. So crying due to guilt over failing to live up to (stupid) societal expectations would be common, especially when women receive such horrible treatment when it is found out theh aren't a virgin before marriage.

harsysky:
If you had been writing this people like myself won't be questioning you at all. I love you though, even if you hate men. ( Love of God actually)

How sweet. I have the love of God for everyone too. Despite my anger.