₦airaland Forum

Prettycute90:
Since we got married, everything about the upkeep, rents, bills, feeding, general upkeep. I mean everything is on me and he has refused to provide for us as he always claimed he doesn't have. I have always be an understanding person who believe, I should be doing while I can, pending when things gets better for him.
I never knew he was getting little little, but was gambling away with it.

We really do not date for a long time before we got married. Because I knew him back then in school from a far distance. And we liked each other but didn't date. So, meeting again after graduation and in a different environment, made me believe I already knew and the fact that we already liked each other.

He was struggling with a little job when we got married. My foresight then was to grow with him. I supported him in all ways. Infact, during our wedding, most support came from friends and relatives.
Because I'm not the type of a wife that pressurized, It took me a very long time to know the nature of habit he had that has kept him low even before I married him.

He is a chronic gambler.
No money stays with him. He wouldn't even care about himself so long as he can afford little money to gamble.
Now, I don't have a job and too much burden has crippled my business.

To be honest, I'm losing myself. Sometimes I feel I need a therapy myself.
My husband has refused to change or make effort to make this marriage work.
Before I had my second child, he was pretending as if he has changed. But immediately I took in, he continues this lifestyle. I almost died due to emotional breakdown and responsibilities shouldered by myself.

I have done everything, (both family members have adviced him severally, I have prayed, fasted, cried, shouted, talked with a calm voice, all my efforts. but non is working.


Presently, since two weeks ago now, I don't cook for him. I source for food for just myself and my children. We barely have decent conversation in this house. I can't even remember the last time we had intimacy.
I always avoid him, each time he tries to get close. Because of the situation of things in this house.
We had two children and I don't intend having any other.
The cost of taking care of myself and the children all by myself is emotional hurting me so much.
School has resume and I can't even afford all the expenses of taking my first son to start a new school and I know, he would watch our son stay back at home. He wouldn't care.

We're in the house, but he's only concern is how to get little money to gambles.

Are these not enough reasons to divorce him?
During one qurrel we had recently, I told him I want us to separate for now, so we can work on ourselves, and he said he will be with our children not me.
I see that as way to make my children suffers.

What can you advise please?

I just want peace of mind.

I don't want to waste my youthful life in a loveless marriage. Where myself and my husband can not support each other to grow in Love. Rather, stressing me.

EcoNews:
Is your father cursed beyond redemption
Why not open a thread for that or who ask your father for the rubbish you are spill here

Diligent1:
You are a manipulator

Felimax:
I love my wife so much, she was just one in a billion.

The way we started and the dreams and projects ahead of us will not allow us to get deterred by our same genotype.

We are both AS and right now we are blessed with an angel and three handsome princes.

My sister rejected her AS genotype husband to be and ran after an AA genotype man who she later married bad as it is they have been married for like six years now but no child.

My marriage of seven years is blessed with four kids already.

Bottom line - go to your God and talk to Him about it.
PLEASE DON'T SHOUT, DON'T SHOUT when you are talking to your God. If you shout you will hardly hear Him talking to you..

He will tell you your next line of action. Marriage is of God not man.

Throw the NON away and keep the SENSE.

phr0nesis:
My guy cannot post his video without saying rubbish first. We already got the hint from the topic, and if it happens that we failed to see that, the video also displays the caption. The voice intro is therefore irrelevant

taylor89:
May God punish you and whomever that paid you to sabotage the hopes of 250 million Nigerians

Does these people know how difficult it was to register for PVC? I mean I paid 5k to register and waited for 6 months for PVC to come out

PVC came out I went to council three times without collecting later it was transferred to wards still I had to spend a whole day just to collect and paid bribe too

Only for me to risk my life on the Election Day to vote and our unit wasn’t uploaded because Obi was winning

Whomever that’s celebrating this robbery of election because of party tribe and religion I’ve one prayer for you that on the day of your success and your turn to take what’s rightfully yours a higher evil will snatch it from you

In Jesus name Amen

APCnaPDP:
People thinking Obi will win in Nigeria are weed smokers. Tribunal can never throw Tinubu out, stop dreaming abeg .

saasala:
Tinubu is an astute politician. He knows how power works.

This move is what Robert Green wrote in his book, 48 Laws of powers. Law #2 states that you should use your enemies.

Falana and his son, Falz are big enemies of Tinubu, but now, baba has called them to dine with him and also tap from their wisdom for his own good.

Cromagnon:
the average Nigerian doesn't care. Why should they?
70million did not bother to vote

Elnuk34:
Lamention!