₦airaland Forum

noobody:
They don't do it for everyone
They select passengers at random,
Sometimes,most passengers are always anxious,paranoid and the likes,
You would be excused and a proper search would be done on you.
You are entering another man's country ,they have to the right to protect them selves in how ever way they deem fit,so it it involves invading your privacy,they would do it

Prudent5217:
Not yet will do so by next week. I don’t want to apply on the first day in case of bugs etc.

noobody:
Not just browsing history,
They go through your WhatsApp chats also,
Telegram and other social media.
Once they see indications you are bidding farewell forever to family members,you risk been deported.

Mchearan:
Keep on pushing. It will definitely click soon

Prudent5217:
I will rather apply for the ND than that BSC/HND. Better to be safe than sorry.

Kingrshd3:
I guess all is fire service and besides what about us that we don't remember d subjects we pass during the year we graduated from secondary school rather than the have we did in later years and that's d result we use to gain admission too 🤔

Prudent5217:
I will rather apply for the ND than that BSC/HND. Better to be safe than sorry.

Mchearan:
It's not an error, they know what they are doing. But you see that slot will be tiny

letstalksense:
There is this lady I plan to marry, which I have made known to her already even before she travelled for her NYSC. Although she just came back from NYSC service recently. We are just discussing the way forward and on the process I was asking her about her sexual life and how recently she had sex. After insisting for her to answer. She opened up and told me she had a sexual relationship during her NYSC service. And the reason was because I didn't call her at a particular time so she thought I have find anther woman. And that was when I was having some personal challenges. According to her, they ended the sexual relationship in the camp. That she is sorry and all that. I didn't really expect that attitude from her as she seem to look responsible and Godlily. I was just disappointed even though I pretended like everything is well. And I was also thinking she had the courage to tell me the true.

Now I have to make my decision, but needs a matured advise and guidance from a mature mind please.

Do think I should continue my marriage plan with her?

Pease what do you advise I do?

Thanks in advance.

247man:
So u believe every story on SM? Those that are looking for clouts? Set of “there’s a man i just met at the airport about to be deported “ crew

Odidigboigbo:
I was dating a girl for about 5 years before I travelled abroad, with a promised of coming back to marry her when I found my footings. After about 6 months of travelling, I had issue, which landed me in prison for two years, within this period, there was no communication with her and even with my relatives.
Fast forward, when I came out of prison, I reached to her and explained things to her, and then innocently continued from where we stopped, not knowing she has a hidden agenda.

I trusted her, and start making plans with her for our brighter future, sending all my hard earned money to her to help me buy property.

To my greatest surprised, coming down this Christmas to find out that she has been married with kids. I asked for my money, she claimed its for her compensation for what I put her through.
As I typed this, I'm so depressed, not knowing what do.

Please kindly advise

247man:
I can tell you 5 couples who have been together in uk for over 6 years (early japa crew) and are still together and only 1 with a crashed marriage and it was obvious from d way d husband was treating her before they left that d marriage won’t last, even if they stayed in ibadan. So keep focusing on the negatives. I focus and learn from both sides

247man:
So because some people got burnt, nobody shd make d decision? Tell me ehat is d percentage of couples that have relocated and what’s d percentage that their wives burnt them?

You know d failed ones are always d loudest. Amd they fail cos they are loud. Always want to be on social media

Notfogotten:
Please I have a question to ask.

I don't want to go into details so my partner doesn't trace this to me.

My partner came to UK before me, though still on student visa. I joined her with my 3 children one months ago.

I have noticed some red flags which never happened while we where in Nigeria and I was footing the bills alone.

Each red flag, I pretend nothing happened because I don't want to be thrown out like the man I read about on social media.

My visa is dependent on hers and we are still on student visa.

My question, in the event that we get papers to stay permanently in UK and one day she decides to send me packing or I decide move out, will I be asked to return to Nigeria because she is the main applicant?

Please I need urgent answers. I may not play the fool for long. We are very certain of getting papers next year.

maasoap:
What is there to be "tiju" about?
I was living in our family house during bachelor hood, I got married while still living there. I only moved out after 7 years of marriage when I felt that I could comfortably rent a 3 bedroom flat. I lived in a rented apartment for another 5 years until last week Saturday when I moved to my own apartment.
During those 7 years of marriage in our family house, I used the opportunity to build and expand my business.
It is not always about unseriousness when men make decisions like this, it's about walking at your own pace.


You described me, friend.
Finished university education at 33. Married at 34. Moved out of family house at 40. Moved into my own house at 45. It's my life, my plan.


You are not listening to anyone, looks to me like you're full of yourself.

CSTRR:
Yeah, it did.

I didn't call him for four months.

Though To be fair, I was already working 9 to 5 job and earning, while still living in my parents house.
He saw no reason why I was still in his house

Sammy5413:
Bro, nothing to feel bad about, even the prodigal son saw bills wey dey outside, Em run back go em papa house

Mirasteel:
Lol he posted today but it was only Christmas tree that he posted.

mariahAngel:
How did you feel at the time, being given an ultimatum by your father to leave?
Would you do that to your own son?

Olam09:
To stop gambling

Starships4u:
From Master Warrant officer to CAPTAIN?
Non-commissioned personnel to an Officer just to retire?
Wow!
Is this grace or corruption?

Anyways I understand his too...
The same way they did for former EFCC Chairman.

churchkilo:
That's too high jare. May be people should just focus on fish for this Christmas

Peter532:
I don't know if I should be angry about this.

Imagine someone I considered a friend and helped him with 10k last month so he can travel back home. He finally came yesterday and met me broke, I was really broke..wanted to buy me drink and I insist I would rather have the fund to subscribe data. (I guess he thought I would have declined) he removed 1k from his pocket and told me to give him #500 naira change.

It was already late no pos around to atleast help me sub from their machine..
He wants us to go around to change it but I couldn't,, they were streetlight allover and I wasnt ready to be seen in thee street that evening.
Which he knows I am a secretive person
I had to give him back to my surprise he took it from me.


i really didn't think about it but later that night it dawned on me that this was someone I gave 10k free of charge last month and I have also done huge monetary favours for... common for him to say I can have the 1k he couldn't.


I don't know if I am a fool
I am so angry thinking about it because I know if it was me I would have tell him to have it.

I feel like to call him this morning and let him know that he really fûcked up because I hate keeping things in mind.
Or

I should just lock up

Iceman2017:
Please I need your help and advice. This post might be a little bit longer.

I met my baby mama through a friend in January 2023 and we bonded So well. The relationship was so lovely and I supported her in her academics and also helped her to acquire some skills, which I will not go in details to avoid a long thread.

Fast forward to may 2023, I proposed to her and she accepted the proposal. Though she earlier told me that her mother wanted her to marry from her village but she loved me and will want to spend her life with me.

Yea, we are from different state but the same tribe. After the proposal, I told her that I want to come and see her parents for proper introduction, and she told me to wait first, that she want me to meet her mom first.
Then her mother traveled and she spent like 2 months before she came back.

Fast forward to second Sunday of July, I went to see her mother. I bought some things and went there. She accepted me and told me that they are Christian family. That they will pray and seek the will of God before she will ask me to come for other things. That I should give them time.

So, after that brief introduction, my girl change. Though we were talking everyday as usual but I noticed that she was sliding away somehow. I confronted her about that which she denied and assured me of her commitment in our relationship.

I had my birthday that same month, my girl sent me personal messages on WhatsApp and text but she failed to post me on her WhatsApp status or even Facebook. But I didn't take that serious, but my friends that have her number began to ask some questions why my woman failed to post me on her status.
They even confronted her and later she apologized to me and gave me one stupid reason that she doesn't want her people to see her post of me. Since the family is already praying, that they told her to minimise the way she Relate with me so that our steady communication will not influence her decision or affect the prayer.

By the ending of July, she ran some test and discovered that she's pregnant. She called me and even sent the PT test to me. I invited her, calmed her down and promise to be by her side.
I told her not to tell her people yet. That she should ask her people when they want me to come for the marriage rights and if they ask me to come, we must have done everything before they would know of the pregnancy. She insisted of telling them, that her mother would know. She was crying and was so much worried of what people will say, what the church will say and bla bla bla. I tried my best to calm her down.
I told her that we need to visit hospital to run a proper test instead of the urine test. She said it should be upto 2 months which I declined and I reminded her the day we had sex, that in my calculation, it should be 3 weeks.

She went home that day and the next day she went to see her elder sister. After that very day, my girl totally changed. She refused to go for the test I told her. She was like she don't want to run any test, that if I insist that it will be by Saturday of that week.
I got annoyed and later that Wednesday night, I asked if she was really pregnant, she said yes and I asked her if I'm responsible for the pregnancy. She got mad and ended the call.
The next day I went to her house, I heard her praying inside. The sister asked me to wait for her outside. After her prayer, she came out and told me that her dad is around, that since he doesn't know of me yet, that she don't want to bring me in.
The next day, she told me that no need to go for that test again, that she's no more pregnant. I was confused. I contacted her friend which she reported me to when I asked her if I'm responsible for her pregnancy. She told her friend that I got her pregnant and want to deny her.
When I told her friend what she said, she told her friend the same thing. I asked her if she took abortion pill, she said no. She was like she declared a word of faith and God has taken away the pregnancy. The whole thing sounded so stupid to me. I was more confused because she sounded with so much convintion

But I insisted on going for the test. I took her for the test and the result came out the next day and it was positive. When I collected the result, I asked her to come around so we can talk but she refused and told me that she won't come to my house again.
I tried so many times so we can talk, she kept hiding from me until after 2 weeks, she asked Me to come to her side. I went there, she took me to one church close to her house.
She told me that she don't want to go ahead with the marriage, that she want to hear from God. That if I want to travel out or do whatever I want to do, that I should go ahead and do it. That she will wait on God no matter how long it will take. After some days
I went to see her elder sister. The elder sister told me that their mother swore that anybody from my state and few other states she mentioned will not marry any of her daughter's. That any of her daughter that refused, she will never had any relationship with the very daughter and she would assume that the person is dead.
That even the very first day my girl mentioned my name to her mom. She was not happy.

To cut the whole thing short, they took the girl to a hidden location. They want her to stay there and gave birth there. When she was about two months pregnant, I asked her to go to hospital and enquire about atenental. She said I should send 20k for it. I sent her 20k

They now lied against me that I sent her 20k to go and run test to check the gender of the baby.
The mom told me to forget about the girl and the baby. That I should take it as one of the relationship things. That I shouldn't send any money again to her.
The girl has blocked me both on WhatsApp and Facebook.
I am not interested in the marriage again. All I want to know if there are legal ways I can have access to my baby. I never denied her in any way. Even In the relationship, she can't say that I wronged her.
Around early November, she returned my engagement ring. She told me that I will never see the baby nor have any relationship with the baby.
When I asked her what I did wrong. She couldn't utter a world. She kept saying unrelated things. She has been looking for excuses and reasons to hold against me.

She's 25 while I'm at my 30's.

Scholace:
According to him, it should worth 5 million

Yes, he has the documents

Osun state, few miles away from Ibadan

coleon:
I stopped rolling with fake friends, backstabbers and hypocrites masquerading as real niggers.
Ota bi ore, ore bi it's koloun gbe won jina Siwa.

DSS1335:

Before rushing to embarrass yourself, know that 10 students can all clear that paper with A1. Positions, when there are ties amongst them will be determined by on the basis of the decimal places. For example, 95.2%, 95.3%, 95.1%, 95%, 95.8% etc. When rearranged on descending order, the 1st is 95.8%, 2nd 95.3%, 3rd is 95.2%.....
That's probably what plays out in your ward's school. So it's best you celebrate her achievement and fulfill your pledge as a way of encouraging her