₦airaland Forum

My feeding expenses are high because my siblings moved in with me in 2022, and they’re teenagers who eat a lot. I’m glad they’re here, though. Every time I look at them, I’m reminded that I’m on the right track. Nothing I’m doing is in vain. They’re so intelligent, and I’m honestly in awe of them.

They’re still in secondary school, and the plan is to send them to the best universities possible. The schools I’m eyeing cost millions, so I need to get my money up. I’ve also thought about returning to school, but I don’t think it’ll work out. It’d be too awkward sitting with small children. So I’ll let my siblings do it.

You said something about black tax from extended family
Yes. There’s always one cousin asking me for money or one thing I need to pay for in the village. I just came back from a burial in my village in March because, apparently, it was an important person who died, and if we weren’t involved, they’d look down on my family. I had to buy a goat, crates of beer and even cook for people. I spent like ₦150k on that matter.

Just the other day, I got another call that another person died, and we had to buy another goat and crates of beer. As how?

How would you describe your relationship with money?
I feel like I’m at a point where I can finally breathe. I’m not tense about money anymore, because I have most of my responsibilities covered. Even if I don’t get a client in a month — which isn’t possible — I’ll be fine. I haven’t worked actively since January, and I still get ₦300k/month at the least.

Have you considered getting an additional income source?
The thought of starting a business has crossed my mind. The senator promised to give me money if I ever need to set up anything, but nothing concrete has come to mind yet.

I’m very comfortable where I am right now. I earn more than most civil servants, and I never get stranded; my love-vendor makes sure of that. I even reject clients sometimes when the requests get too bizarre.

What are some of the bizarre requests you’ve gotten?
Someone wanted me to eat his shit for ₦10m. Good money but omo, shit? Nah. Another one offered me ₦800k to wear a Love Machine and peg him, but I wasn’t comfortable with that. Then there are the ones who want to pee on you. People have weird fantasies. Maybe I’d have jumped at these requests in my early days when I was still trying to find my feet. But I’m comfortable enough to reject jobs now.

What’s one misconception about sex work that you’re tired of hearing?
People think sex workers always stand on the road. I’ve never had to do that to find a client. They’re also always shocked that I speak so well. It’s usually the first thing new clients say. Stuff like, “You’re so intelligent”. I don’t get it. Should I be stupid?

How would you rate your financial happiness on a scale of 1 – 10?
7. It’ll be a complete 10 when I send my siblings to the universities I want them to go to and comfortably cover all their bills.

I’m curious. Do you have any financial regrets?
Yes. I opened a charging centre for a cousin in 2023 because his mum — my mum’s younger sister — came to me crying about how he wasn’t doing anything in the village. It cost me about ₦250k to set up the place and buy a generator.

Two months later, he left the shop unattended to go and drink, and all the phones were stolen. I had to pay about ₦450k to the customers who lost their phones and bail him from jail. I’ll never set up a business for a family member again. I’d rather give them money and keep it moving.

How does having a love-vendor make your job better?
He tells me how much I’d get before I even accept a job. So, I don’t have to worry about doing the work and receiving peanuts later. Also, he doesn’t demand for more money. For instance, we can agree he’d take ₦150k for a ₦500k weekend job. If, for whatever reason, I get paid ₦700k instead, he never asks for more. It also helps that I’m very transparent with him, so we just work well together.

Earlier this year, he hooked me up with two Arab guys who wanted to do intense BDSM with a black woman. He was clear they were going to beat me, but I’d get $20k. The money wasn’t bad at all, so I agreed to it and the conditions they set — getting tested for STIs.

I was with them for three days, and it was intense. That thing they did in “Fifty Shades of Grey” isn’t BDSM at all. These guys used real iron handcuffs and beat me ehn. I used a whole week to recover. I’ll never do it again.

Damn. That’s a lot
I’ve not done any major job since that time. Right now, I’m just resting and catching my breath. My love-vendor still hooks me up with ₦200k one-night jobs once in a while, but it’s nowhere close to the weekly jobs I’m used to.

What was your average weekly income when you were working regularly?
2023 was a good year for me. I had many clients who came into town because of the general elections. Plus, due to my love-vendor’s actual job, he was in close contact with a lot of them. Sometimes I could get up to ₦2m in a week. The weekend of democracy day, there was a private party and I went home with $1k.

Do you worry about running out of clients at some point?
I do. It’s why I’m focused on saving for my siblings’ education and my family. I fear becoming old and ugly and suddenly being unable to land clients. Everyone in my family depends on me now, and I subconsciously save almost everything I earn in a month. Before January, I used to save like ₦800k/month.

I have three savings accounts: one has ₦1.7m in it, and it’s for health bills and emergencies. Another has ₦610k for rent savings — it’s not much because I don’t have to worry about rent for another year — and I have ₦9.6m in the third one for savings sake. It’s usually where the money for groceries, food and flexing comes from. A large part of this money came from the January job. It brought me ₦18m after my love-vendor got his cut, and I used part of it to get some wigs, pay my rent in advance, got phones for my siblings and a generator for my parents. There were other expenses, too. When I was done, I was left with about ₦10m. But it’s the account I spend from, which is why it’s around ₦9m now.

Why was that?
My boyfriend had started dating someone else and misbehaving, so I ignored him. Now, I had to renew my rent myself, and I was saving for that.

Then, I met a senator at work. He told me he’d pay my salary so I wouldn’t have to work at the spa anymore. He knew about the happy endings and didn’t want me to do that while we were together. Apparently, people could “get to him” through me if I slept with other people.

The first night we slept together, he gave me $500. That was the first time I held foreign currency in my hand. When I got home that day, I had my bath and told myself I was washing away poverty.

Mad
It was a moment of realisation. So, I could earn that kind of money. Around that time, I was planning to leave my neighbourhood because of increased robberies. The senator suggested a place in an upscale part of Abuja, so we wouldn’t just be meeting at hotels.

I found an ₦800k apartment and told him the landlord requested a two-year payment upfront. This man sent me ₦4m. When I saw the alert, I just started crying and shouting. Like how? I immediately sent ₦700k to my mum and told her someone who wanted to marry me sent the money so she wouldn’t ask too many questions.

The COVID lockdown happened immediately after I moved in, but it was an amazing time for me. The senator’s wife was stuck in the UK, and I spent most of the time with him. He gave me ₦300k monthly and would sometimes send more when he wanted me to cook for him. He liked food, so that happened a lot.

What’s the highest amount of money he gave you?
₦9 million. I visited my parents for Christmas in 2020 and didn’t like the state of the house. So, I told him I wanted to build them a house, and he gave me the money a few months later.

Also, forget that thing he said about me not sleeping with other people. I occasionally had one-night stands with people I met in town or through friends I met at the salon or where I shopped. My friends would tell me about one actor or someone coming to town who needed girls, and those usually brought in $200 or about ₦100k.

The senator was my stable relationship and income source, though. But things fizzled out between us in 2021 when he started dating my friend.

Your friend?
Yeah. We met at a salon and became friends. They both met for the first time at my house. Sometime later, he asked about her and told me he was interested. To be fair, he asked if I didn’t mind, and I honestly didn’t. The girl asked me too, and I was like, “Girl, eat his money”.

The guy was married with kids. I wasn’t under any impression the relationship would go any further.

I think he felt guilty about “dumping” me, though. He sent me money more frequently towards the end of our relationship and even renewed my rent for two years. We still talk today, and I’m friends with both of them.

Did that affect your income stability?
There was no longer a particular amount guaranteed to come at the end of the month. So, I focused on getting one-off clients. I’d meet guys in clubs, we’d have sex, and they’d pay me. It wasn’t a great model, though. I didn’t discuss money with them before sleeping with them, and there were situations where I’d ride someone like a bicycle for hours and only get ₦50k after.

Why didn’t you talk about payment, though?
It was an awkward conversation for me. My friends always told me to discuss payment before the deed, but I just expected guys popping bottles in the club to have sense and do the right thing. By this time, my average income was about ₦200k – ₦300k/month.

I worked with this model for about two years, and it often didn’t turn out well. I even had a pregnancy scare in 2022. Technically, I only found out I was pregnant after I had a miscarriage. My period is never regular, and I’d missed it for about three months when I started getting really bad cramps. I was rushed to the hospital, and that’s how I found out. Ironically, I always use condoms. I got pregnant the one time I didn’t use one. It was crazy.

I’m sorry you went through that
Thanks. It’s not even the most unpleasant thing that’s happened to me in this job. One time, I was having sex with a guy, and his friend walked in. Then the guy I was with went, “Well, with the amount I plan to pay you, it makes sense if my friend gets a go, too. It’s the same one night.”

I was so pissed. I called my cab guy and left without collecting my money. See, having a cab guy is very necessary in this job. Online cabs don’t work all night, and sometimes I just need someone to come get me.

Anyway, my job became easier after a love-vendor approached me in 2023. He’d seen me hang out at a lounge a couple of times. He offered to hook me up with clients for 30% of whatever I make. It sounded good to me and we tried it for some time to see how it’d work. It worked out great and we still work together.

What’s your earliest memory of money?
I grew up in a small town and thought I’d attend secondary school in the state capital with my friends. But my mum made it clear that we couldn’t afford it. The school fee was ₦65k, and books and uniforms would’ve added to that. I was 12 years old, and it was the first time it clicked that money makes things happen.

Tell me more about the financial situation at home
My parents both worked for the local government — which is the worst government job ever. They’re retired now, and my mum’s monthly pension is just ₦30k, and my dad’s is ₦47k. They spent almost 30 years in service.

But growing up, it wasn’t obvious things were bad until the secondary school incident. Most people in my small town didn’t have money, either. I settled for the run-down school in town, and when I asked for money to buy books — I love to read — my mum would be so confused. Like, why would I even think of using money to buy books when the money could take me to school or feed me for a week?

I’m also the first-born of three children, so I quickly learned to sacrifice my needs so my siblings could have nice things after I realised things weren’t great. For instance, my mum would buy Fanta, and I’d claim not to like it because of cramps, so she could give my siblings. If I said I wanted Fanta too, I knew she’d have to do mental calculations to see how we could afford to buy one more.

When was the first time you made money?
2017. I left my small town for the first time to write JAMB in a neighbouring town that was close to the state capital, and I remember being so excited. I was one step closer to the big city. I started thinking about what to do to make money and finally get to this city my friends had gone to.

So, with my mum’s help, I got a job in a small provisions store close to my house. My mum just wanted me to have something to pass time before uni.

The pay was ₦3k/month. The first time I got paid, I got the money in ₦500 notes, and it felt “bigger” in my hands. I was so excited.

I can relate
I used my salary to buy a book — Castles by Julia Garwood. When my mum asked about the money, I had only ₦500 left. My parents beat the shit out of me. After that, my mum collected my salary directly from my boss.

Well, uni admission didn’t work out, and my parents convinced me to try a polytechnic or college of education. But during Christmas, a friend visited from Abuja. She had a Tecno Android phone and a Facebook account. I didn’t have any of these.

She also had a job and lived in a rented apartment. I was fascinated by her stories about Abuja. At that point I was like, “What even is my state capital? I’m going to Abuja!”

Did your parents agree?
It took a couple of months and my grandmother to convince them, but they agreed. I told them I could get a job in Abuja and apply to a polytechnic in Nasarawa State.

In 2018, I landed in Abuja with ₦12k, moving in with my friend who lived on the outskirts of Abuja. My first culture shock was how expensive things were. What do you mean I had to pay ₦200 for a 10-minute bike ride? At home, ₦200 could take me from one town to another.

How did the job and school plan work out?
I focused on making money first. My friend helped me get a waitressing job at a bar. The salary was ₦15k/month. That was big money to me.

The male customers often tipped me ₦500 or bought me a plate of pepper soup. Of course, that involved flirting with them and rubbing their heads. One of them gave me ₦5k once, and I finally opened a bank account. In my head, I’d blown.

It was during this time I met the person who changed my view on life.

Who was that?
A free-spirited and loud fellow waitress at the bar. She encouraged me not to limit myself to the men in the bar who could only tip a maximum of ₦5k. Not when men in town could give me ₦50k.

At that point, my dad had retired and was dealing with blood pressure issues. My mum was also calling me frequently to complain about their needs and indirectly ask for money. So, I was more than ready to meet the ₦50k guys. If they liked me and wanted to sleep with me, no problem. As long as they brought money.

I started following this friend to clubs in town. Shortly after, I met a soldier. We started dating, and I quit my job at the bar.

Was he giving you an allowance?
Not exactly. But whenever I visited him, he gave me ₦10k – ₦20k. He also paid for my groceries and toiletries.

But I met someone else at a club four months after we started dating. The first time we had sex, he gave me ₦50k. He also wanted us to be exclusive because he wasn’t comfortable with me sleeping with other people. I weighed my options and decided soldier man could go. T[b]he new guy put me on a ₦50k monthly allowance, and he paid for my first apartment inside town. The rent was ₦105k.[/b] He also bought me a mattress and a standing fan.

Then, in 2019, I got a job at a spa.

How did that happen?
I’d become active on Facebook, and that’s how I met this babe who asked me to come be a masseuse at her spa. I hadn’t done it before, but the work schedule was on a one-week-on, one-week-off basis, and I figured I’d still have time to do other things. Plus, she offered ₦70k/month and the option to make more in tips from clients who wanted happy endings.

What do you mean by “Happy endings”?
The clients could request hand jobs or sex after the massage session. This brought me tips between ₦15k – ₦20k per client, and I could have up to eight clients in a day. The highest I ever got from one client was ₦50k.

My madam took a liking to me — maybe because she also came to Abuja to make it on her own. Three months into the job, she asked me to replace the manager, who was stealing and diverting her clients. My salary increased to ₦100k.

Managing client payments was one of my new duties, and it made me realise just how much the spa made. My madam would charge people ₦150k for a one-hour central massage session, and she was paying the people actually doing the work ₦70k/month. I thought it was unfair, but there was nothing I could do.

Interestingly, some of the clients continued to request for me even after I became the manager. My madam sent pictures of the girls available to the clients before their sessions, and they’d sometimes say they wanted me rather than the actual masseuses. I only accepted the requests if the tips were at least ₦50k. I was trying to gather as much money as possible.

Katcall:
so the guys paying high amount are mad. You talk as if transactional sex is an anomaly. Fool, swear you haven't given a gal thank you money after fúcking her. Its people like you that encouraged these gals to be commercialising their pussy after sending them gifts. No free pussy again

Snowx:
You mean I have paid for hookup? Lol..I haven't paid even 2k to have sex let alone paying 10- 40,k when I am not mad..

Mind you I am from South.

If there is real discipline among the girls they will never accept any money for sex.

Gerrard59:
I beg to disagree. It is men because men are the ones demanding for sex. No woman goes to force a man to sleep with her. It is men who seek out to get women. It is a global phenomenon which I illustrated. It is the reason governments cannot outlaw sex services. My stance is these men who wail daily to know that it is their fellow men, rich men, that fuel this demand. Women on their own don't like to fvck random men. It is biological as they are demisexual, but when there is an enormous demand for a service which only you can provide, economics says offer it provided it is legal.


If more men adopt this stance, the supply of women doing hookups will plummet. It is that simple. But as long as there are men who fork out 80K for sexual service rising, these women will continue to be in the business.

It is not the same dynamics because in all cases, economics trumps emotions. Australian politicians don't like Chinese politicians, but because their farmers have to sell their crop produce to China (a major consumer), they are appeasing the Chinese. I don't have to like you before I sell something to you. It is business. If I don't like him, but he offers good money, why not take it? It is the reason people study hard to get into tech. They don't like tech, but because it pays better than other professions, they learn it. Should the salaries of tech workers plummet to that of say teachers, nobody will want to enter the industry.

First, apple-to-oranges. The government can argue that there are alternatives to use, even though they might not be abundant or safe. In hookup's case, there is no natural alternative for a man who wants to fvck. In developed countries, there are suitable alternatives for those who don't have cars or want to drive, and they use them. Should keke become available in Tokyo, no one will use it because trains are ubiquitous and cheaper. Let there be a vast train network in Lagos, I bet you, no one will use an Okada. In return, Okadas will cease to exist. But Nigerian governments being who they are, put the cart before the horse.

Again, I disagree. The women don't sleep with themselves or ghosts. They sleep with fellow men like you and I. Also, I am not arguing it should stop because it cannot due to testosterone. I am not that idealistic. The average man globally likes to fvck.

I mentioned this - reduce poverty rates in Nigeria and most women will see reasons not to engage in hookup because there are plentiful alternatives to earning good money. Remember, they are demisexual. So an opportunity has been made available. Also, to create a functioning society depends on the men in that society, not the women. It is you who stated that "men create the society and women integrate into it".

Gadafii:
It was weak men that made these girls what they are today

We all know girls have always been materialistic since donkey years ago, but you see the year 2020 was when this nonsense escalated, Yahoo boys made billions of naira that period from their trade that tjeybstaryed buying stuff without bargaining, including trousers and oloshos.

Some even went as far as buying them iPhones and expensive wigs just to have access to the pusse them

This was the era, that saw a sharp increase in everything, pairs of trousers that used to be 6-9k suddenly jumped to 16-18k, home delivery rounds them up to 25-30k, you know what home delivery is Sha

When you hear this girls say if you don't have money to spend on them move away, I don't blame them, because I know there are still several other weaken out there who will carry her responsibilities on his head, just for her to fuckkk him or clean his house amd do few wifely duties, and men being men, he would soon get tired of her and discard her, look for another girl that have been discarded by another guy, while another guy picks up the one he just discarded

bukatyne:


I guess the girls are sleeping with themselves.

I wonder when men would wake up from their delusion that they cannot police women's sexual activities if:

1. They are not collectively ready to abstain or be sexually responsible
2. They are not ready to be homosexuals

Happy wailing

zanshi:
Atleast men are there to advise other men if they err, who dey advise today's women if they misbehave even older women would look away and tell you the babes are sisi, young girls.

A young babe would be gaslighting a young man who is just starting life that if you dont have a car you can't talk to me, if you don't use iphone xyz shooooo. They are fazed by unrepentant consumerism buy buy buy not build, build, build.

Snowx:
If you realised that your wife or your wife to be have less body count and doesn't cheat on you, hold her tight you found a good woman.

Social media have have brought more damages on Our ladies.

When you enter Tinder, coded runs and so on you will begin to wonder if you will ever see women to marry in this generation. Very pretty little girls especially on Tinder where they will just get verified easily. Though I can't denied that good and decent ladies still exist..

Imagine the kind of body counts those girls are accumulating and one day a man will fall in love with one and pay her bride price without realising many dick she had received.

Some times I catch cruise with them telling and asking them how much and when to meet..the least they can say is 40k. what is 40k compare to the risk you will be expose to? You don't think of murder, you don't think of several diseases and so on. Mehn it's terrible out there.

realG101:
I agree with you for the most part.

But imagine that you have a particular babe that was there when you were building your shit. She cheered you up when you were not yet wealthy and even supported financially.

Will it be fair to take a second wife over her when you finally arrive especially if you are aware she wants monogamy.

Eunoiaa:
It's you assuming I would not have been building my own life from scratch too for me.
Mtcheeeewwww.

Jman06:
Real men marry one woman and stick to her.

No matter what some people think, I'll continue to say it that men are not naturally designed to be with multiple women! It's just about ego boosting and for show off that some yesteryears men were polygamous. If nature designed men for multiple women, a typical man would not get tired after one to two rounds of sex.

y3mi:
Most women in their selfish thoughts and parochial way of viewing things often tend to conflate polygamy with promiscuity. Polygamy curbs, if not eliminate promiscuity while monogamy Bo only aids it, enables all factors that warrant it.

If one man marries one woman, who married the remaining rest? They are the ones who lures and entice the married men.

All this issues should be blamed on the menfolk. Men are responsibile for ruining everything.

I have a lot analysis to share on this, but ain't got the strength now.

Ps.
One thing I have always disliked men/guys doing is - after going about destroying girls/ladies in their young sexually active life, introducing them to vices, and badly things or by demanding such from them in order to fulfil a puerile fantasy they will outgrow as they mature, when ready to settle down and start a family, they now not only complain and weep around about the scarcity of decent, tight, up-right, non-wayward girls/ladies who aren't b1tchy, but forgot that they contribute to their making.

Dybala11:
Please can you give more insight into this.

LINSAR:
Thank you very much for taking your time to respond.

At the risk of sounding like I'm asking too much, do you have a glimpse of how I can stay back please?
What options do I have?
I know H1b visa is tough and even tougher for non-stem grads.
I know of marriage which I'm too young for.
Any others?

vikgreen01:
Thank you for your prompt responses. One of my uncle want to sponsor me. I just want to know if there will be need for Wes evaluation before applying to either US or Canada university or I can just start applying to universities without the evaluation.
Please make me understand... Thank u

Alakoriomo:
But you need to tell the guy that getting graduate fellowship in the US is extremely competitive even for those that have first class. Imagine a school having to defray $51,000 for you in tuition and cost of living for the first year.

The question is people that don’t have competitive profile and doesn’t have parents who can bring $70,000 , how are they doing it?

KORLAR:
Thank you for taking the time to compose this.

I have a first class in Business Administration from ABU and I intend to do an MBA but I can’t sponsor myself at the moment.

Please advise on where and how to get a scholarship, preferably fully funded.

vikgreen01:
Hello sir, pls I have a question on the WES evaluation.
Do I really need to evaluate my results to either a Canadian or US degree equivalent.
I have a diploma certificate with 3.70/4.0 cgpa and a degree with 3.0/5.0 cgpa. Do I really need to evaluate my results with Wes before applying to any Canadian or USA universities.
Note I will not be looking into any scholarship route as that path is extremely competitive.
Secondly, if my Wes evaluation can give me a 2.1 Canada or US degree equivalent, can I still go the scholarship route?!

Thank you.

004gist:
Raising children here no be child's play. Have you reason why onyibo de born just one kid or 2?

Once u start raising kids and they are in primary school below then one parents have to stay home or look for part time job... Like 20 hrs etc.
You Need to plan how to get them to school, how to bring them home etc.
You need to plan the kind house to stay. How here is so expensive. Rent

You dare not shout on ur child no matter what they do. Else u risk ur job n children.
A child can wake up n say he wants to be a opposite gender. You have nothing to say.
A child can smoke.. You have nothing or little to do

But u see that student visa e don do many people something including me. Coming here to cough out pounds paying fees +rent

VanuatuWycombe:
Why prospective MBA students get it because of the huge fund they could have committed. AnMBA, in the US, that’s less than $70,000 per session stands lesser chance of getting the visa.

STEM that have to do with Space Engineering, Robotics and AI get it. I am not talking of general STEM courses like Civil or Mechanical Engineering.

Gentlesoul2021:
I have used the WES iGPA Calculator by inputting all my scores from polytechnic down to university and got this score below 👇

I am only contemplating if I will still get the same when I start the process which is extremely expensive plus the stress I will go through by obtaining my transcript from the two school and DHL to WES. .

Harpyeagle:
I feel real sad when u guys make such comparisons, it's filled with so much bias.
U see the culprit of this crime, they'll actively search and place him behind bars. Take naija for inatance, there are so many (numbering in thousands) confirmed murderes that are roaming free only because of their religion. They are deliberately spared and forgiven by the system. It's the reason why we complain daily, but here u are making an incomplete comparson. Playing the victim card. Just few days ago i saw a news where a community got attacked with more than 10 dead by bandits and it did not even make headline.

Kennyfancy:
If any black or Africans want to do such he should do it in his home country and if any Islamic jihadist want to do such, they should do it in Muslim dominated countries like Iran and Saudi Arabia, why must you travel out to another country and commit crime and you still want them not to lebel ur country evil, They have every right to cover it because it thier citizen, just the way you guys cover up evil in the North and only cry out loud when it's start burning same north, they might just be learning from you

Gentlesoul2021:
I would like to evaluate my polytechnic and university grades via WES. Do I have a chance of still maintaining equivalent to 2.1 US degree class...

Newton2024:
How does a fully funded international scholarship works? Would they pay for my visa and ticket?

004gist:
Can you explain the above?
Another line some people left for kids.. I have 4 parents currently in my school that have lost their kids to the government through social care. I mean between space of 7 months of my stay here..i see am korokoro. One is 5 kids including twins. Woman wants to run mad. And all of this parents lost their jobs. Are jobless currently

My brother Nigeria gives more sanity than this countries except u have a good job as expatriates, someone to bail u out in difficulties etc.

The time u start to remain stable is when u have your permanent residence.

VanuatuWycombe:
Don’t apply for management courses in the US, if you are older than 18. E get why…. your chances of getting the visa are slimmer than a 1mm diameter thread.
If your brain fit carry all those STEM courses, go for that. Think of courses in that field that are not too expensive, otherwise, go and study in Europe fez and later on cross to the US.

LINSAR:
Thanks a lot for this. Your responses are always eye opening.

I noticed these countries' universities favor STEM courses. Any hope for people in management sciences, with a 2:1 at that?
I know it's possible but is there anything I can do to successfully compete against STEM people?

WantsandMore:
You wrote well but kindly desist from giving out too much info about you or your fam. It's a security risk. Just my opinion.