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CodeTemplar:
i wonder why japanese will ever choose DHL over a equally performing Japan Post.

DHL is faster than Japan Post. What Japan Post would deliver in one week, DHL does in three days, especially when the receiver is outside the country. That said, we cannot compare JP to NIPOST as both exist in vastly different countries in every ramification of life.

CodeTemplar:
What is the cost of nipost versus the others like DHL Fedex?

NIPOST was considerably cheaper than DHL (according to their rating book). FedEx was about 22K (I sent documents to Norway), while UPS was 20, 100 naira to send to Japan. However, I have never sent documents via NIPOST as I dread anything publicly managed. That is, I don't like patronising the services of a governmental agency or organisation unless it is the only option. Where there is a private alternative, I use it no matter the costs.

But costs have nothing to do with competency as DHL Japan is more expensive than Japan Post, yet the latter delivers although a few days slower than the former.

CodeTemplar:
Nipost is active and fuctuonal un case you are not aware. I still use them.

NCC regulates what telcos charge so calm down and stop bringing facts that contradixt your arguments.

NIPOST is very incompetent and thoroughly slow when patronised compared to DHL, FedEx or UPS. I say this as someone who was forced to utilise its service when I was expecting the Certificate of Eligibility by the Japanese immigration bureau. The policy by the immigration bureau states that the COE would be delivered by the public postal service of Nigeria since the dispatching party in Japan was by the Japan Post (a publicly owned service). JP did her part, but it took more than one month for NIPOST to acknowledge that it received a package from Japan Post. Eventually, after one month and two weeks, I got notified that the COE had arrived. Upon collection, the officials asked for egunje aka bribe, which I declined as I told them in clear terms I no go get money as I was planning a trip. At that time, it was useless as Japan locked its borders due to the coronavirus pandemic. However, I never had an issue sending documents to Japan because I utilised DHL all along. One week, and my documents arrived at the university.

When I re-applied to the same university and went through the same process of receiving the COE, I specifically told the school to inform the immigration bureau that NIPOST's workers were on strike and the COE should not be sent via it, but through DHL or UPS or FedEx. Expectedly, the COE arrived in less than two weeks via UPS. In fact, my instincts told me to call the office in my Nigerian city on the day of arrival to check whether the package had arrived (the school informed me that UPS would be used), and I was told the package was arriving that afternoon. I got to the office and got it. UPS workers never asked for a bribe, and the process was fast!

I explained it in the Japan immigration thread that no one should use NIPOST. Those who used NIPOST regretted it, and those who heeded to my warnings got their packages delivered swiftly via DHL.

Gerrard59:
Like ship wey dey sail for water? If so, currently, no idea. But if something comes up, I will let you know.

Any other form of logistics, I recommend DHL.

P.S. Don't ever use NIPOST in anything logistics.

Gerrard59:
No idea about Russia, but what I stated is the bare minimum for a foreigner to be employed as a pharmacist in Japan. I hope you know that medical programs are regulated according to national laws worldwide.
Before Covid, it was N23, 000. As of 2022, it was N30, 700. Use your intuition to know how much it should cost now. Preferably, Google DHL in your state and give them a call. For MEXT postgraduate, I do hope your BSc grade was at least a strong 2.1 (4.0/5) for you to stand a chance?

P.S. NEVER USE NIPOST

Publicly run services, especially in less homogenous countries, tend to be incompetent, slow and inefficient. Japan Post works swiftly largely because the Japanese are competent and the country is homogenous. No one asks for bribe because na dem dem. Due to the frequency of earthquakes, they understand the importance of swift deliveries of packages.

I regretted the day I used NIPOST, just I regretted using the public bus company owned by the state government. When I changed to God is Good Motors, I never encountered any problem of any sort.

Everything should be privatised. Publicly run services, especially in demographically heterogeneous countries, are inefficient, incompetent and corrupt. Privatise everything! Entrench the free market!

cc: IbeOkehie

Well, the OP is largely correct as modern-day women are still hypergamous even though they now earn good money and have greater freedoms. The benefits most men would get have been reduced, with nothing to replace those lost benefits. You compete with women in the same school admissions and labour market, etc. There are some industries and roles men cannot even break into simply because women have occupied everywhere. So, women have reaped these benefits WHILE maintaining hypergamy - where as the man, you still have to be at the top of your game financially and societal status.

One would then ask himself, what is the benefit of being a man? Only wealthy men benefit from being men; other men don't share whatever so-called patriarchal benefits feminazis claim male folks enjoy.

In conclusion, the only benefit men derive from marriage is having children within a two-parent household, as wedlock does more harm to both genders and the greater society. Also, having children from different women whom you as the man are not married to is absolutely nonsensical and financially draining. No one should mention sex, as many married men don't even get sex from their wives, and when they do, it is timetable-based. Who makes this timetable? The woman. The reason married men patronise sex workers more than even single men, and I am willing to bet that sexually active married men get less sex while being married than single men who are equally sexually active.

So, where is the benefit?

Zooposki:
Nobody dey beg una for marriage na. The man controls marriage, yet na una dey rush/fight to marry multiple women. Abeg carry your hypocrisy dey go, biko. You can as well remain a bachelor so as not carry that woman/family burden.

That is the problem I have with Nigerian men - they are the ones who complain that marriage largely benefits women, which I agree with. But they are same persons who are itching or rushing to get married EVEN more than women. See the ones who japa'd recently, all are whining of kini kon kini kon how women there are not interested in them.

Apparently, it looks like Nigerian men desire marriage more than their women, but shame no gree them accept.

Zooposki:
Keep screaming.

There’s a 4B movement going on in South Korea, Japan and most Asian countries due to all this male chauvinism. Their birth rate is so down, they are inviting foreigners into their country but I don’t think it will work. American women are adopting it as we speak right now. It will soon get to Africa.

On the other hand I wonder what the Asian women will do if they jam African men who are even more misogynistic than their Asian counterparts. Lol

Only happening in Korea, and very little of such in Japan or other Asian countries. Although all East Asian societies are suffering from low birth and marriage rates, their causes vary. Korea's issue is multifaceted and terrible as it imbibes Confucian and Western cultures and practices both to the extreme.

Well, the future of the country will be seen in the coming decades as the population reduces, the pension system begins to crack, immigrants with varying cultures are invited, and a roaring North Korea is abut them.

Image123:
Hope you learned the meaning of that word? i have less patience and tolerance on this forum for sore losers infected by the Obi disease and hoping that the country doesn't prosper, so that they can gloat. If you are not one sorry. Observe the attached pictures and letters and stop crying more than the bereaved. The bereaved is complaining over 2weeks after notice, you are crying about 7days.

Typical Nigerian who suddenly loves the country after voting for an incompetent feudalist in the name of Buhari.

In end the case, nowhere in the letter by Landmark was two weeks stated. Instead, the LASG mentioned seven days.

Regarding the bold, I did not support Peter Obi to win the election as I knew he would not win. Not everyone who questions the present government's policies is Peter Obi's supporter, and even they (PO's supporters) have the right to question government's policies.

https://www.nairaland.com/7225545/why-peter-obi-step-down

Image123:
You may file compensation claims or go to court on his behalf. You don't seem to understand the meaning of the word "ill-fated", you're adviced not to use it until you get proper understanding.

You could not answer a simple question. This implies it is out of place to order the vacation and subsequent demolition of a multimillion dollar project within a week.

udomonday:
Nigerian govt is dumb, they can still find a way to build that road without destroying landmark beach, they can build a massive fly over across the landmark beach area and continue their road there after.

The original plan did not involve Landmark resort areas. That is Paul's first and main grouse. The second is the short notice to vacate the property. The third is that he obtained the licence to develop the property in 2007 meanwhile the project was conceived more than forty years ago, and first approved by Jonathan.

Image123:
Don't be unfortunate. He's not the only one affected, many more will be affected and compensated across 9 states. The FG has right of way by law. The man has duly and early enough been given the demolition order, which also urged him to file compensation claims. Stop thinking like a termite.

Could you please mention other places and ill-fated multimillion dollar projects where the owners were given seven days to vacate the property?

MasterTeeUSA:
Nigerians always running to their colonial masters to complain. Why did he not write this in a Nigerian newspaper? Slave mentality

You did not address the issue but rather attacked his personality.

Interesting to note.

indigenous234:
If you must build a house outside the Southeast, let it be just a living house for you and your family and not more than one. If you must build for commercial purpose outside the Southeast, let it not be more than one and while at it, always think how to move your investments to the Southeast.

They are jealous and envious of you and your progress... Know this and know peace.

The short term plan should be to lease. The long term goal should be to park the wealth outside Nigeria. The die-put-mentality in Nigeria by Igbos has to change. There exist other places across the world to invest and actually OWN properties.

Laple0541:
Really sad the road will affect that beautiful resort. I watched a documentary on the resort and really fell in love with the great work the man did and it impact on the state economy. However. I think the road is a bigger project which will have far more impacts considering the number of states it will cut across. The man must be properly compensated.

But the original plan did not involve where the resort is situated. That is the major point. The project was conceived more than forty years ago while Paul got the land in 2007. How come the Lagos state government did not know his land was obstructing a major infrastructural project?

Anyway, another day to know that no one owns land in Nigeria.

"No one owns land in Nigeria" - IbeOkehie.

I won't lie, God bless the day I came across your posts.

IbeOkehie:
The Igbo are going to be severely trampled in Lagos State. But for Nigeria as a whole, I keep saying it - withdrawing from that country is one of the best decisions I've made in my life and I'm glad I saved at least 3 other people from the trap. When I realized what Nigeria is I was shuddering with fear, anger and gratitude. I couldn't wait to get out.

Good Luck to Nigerians.

I am not surprised as I predicted it few days after Tinubu's victory: https://www.nairaland.com/7621766/tinubus-nigeria-nigeria-2050

Only ignorant and as usual arrogant Igbos would continue to chook head inside. I would be here to remind them, and gloat at the same time.

IbeOkehie:
But this is old news. Nobody owns any land in Nigeria, it's all government property.

Good Luck to Nigerians.

https://edition.cnn.com/2024/04/05/business/landmark-beach-nigeria-demolition-superhighway/index.html

You are a God!

Sapasenator:
Date very well so you dont miss anything like me, take all your courses and education, invest in properties and then settle down in the late 30ies or early forties with a lady with a career and have only one child.

You will never feel the burden of marriage.

The bold is what most Nigerians tend to gloss over - have children one can take care of. Marriage isn't the issue, but having more children than one can care for. The number of children is important as Africans marry because of childbearing, not companionship purposes.

Tonididdyx:
I was a chat with an older friend I've known for donkey years, he's prolly in his late 30s or early 40s.
We were having a steady back and forth chat but the moment I asked "wey our wife", he didn't reply until 30/40mins later with " Wife never dey oh".( I mean immediately, our chat turned sour)

All am saying is in the part of the world, it's a necessity. No matter how you try to mask or make it feel unnecessary, society views you different and of course you yourself view yourself different.

I for one didn't get married under this "type" Of pressure.... Na it's just happened and till date reality still hasn't sunk in am a father, let alone a husband but I justn

I do agree it is a necessity in Nigeria and most parts of Africa, the reason we see very few if not non-existence of black DINK couples. But as the global economy gets tougher and more Africans, especially Anglophone countries, adopt Western cultural practices (for the younger generation), things would change. One major cultural force which pushes Africans to marry and bear children is religion. Islam on its own is an unstoppable force in that aspect.

maasoap:
Come to Yoruba land to marry if you don't mind intertribal marriage. Most families would be happy to give out their daughters free without collecting anything. If you care to know? It's like a culture that gives the parents confidence to tell you that you should treat their daughter well because they don't sell her to you.

You, an Osun Muslim man, go gree your daughter marry an Igbo or Efik man?

Afolue:
I have feelings for the ladies more. I am 37 (male) not yet married and no kids yet. To me , na women get children. A man can have kids anytime in his lifetime just not to end his genealogy . What’s most important is investment for his wife and children to have a meaningful living after he passes on.

This is true, as most children tend to align with their mom. They might change later in life, mainly for the male kids, but at that point, it is late for the man to reap the love and affection children have for their parents. To me, men should be a little more selfish because las las, even at old age, you are alone. The aspect of kids caring for parents is changing gradually as the children have to fend for themselves in this tough global economic climate.

chisupport:
Your IQ is too low... Bye

But Reflect7 is correct. There are more Asian immigrants in Japan than Africans. In fact, there are more Thais in Japan than Americans. The criterion to qualify for this visa is quite high (minimum N3 level in Japanese), no route to permanent residency and participants get to leave the country after five years.

However, I don't know where Reflect7 aka Rossikk got the information that the entire number of Africans in Europe isn't up to one million. Does this number exclude North Africans?

IbeOkehie:
NOBODY in Nigeria can show any Deed of Ownership. There's some arguments about how Chapter 34 of the Constitution provides for Land Ownership in direct contradiction to the Land Use Act which is part of the same Constitution. The Chapter in the Constitution about Welfare provides that government must control the commanding heights of the economy....one of which is land.

In practice though the LUA is what is applied. For example, the law states and I know by personal experience that you must get the consent of the state governor to transfer any land. LUA is responsible for the dearth of mortgages in Nigeria and thus low home ownership in urban areas. Combined with the Petroleum Industry and Solid Minerals Act, the land laws of Nigeria are plain and simple robbery in the same way that White Europeans robbed Black Africans of their lands in South Africa, Zimbabwe and Namibia and Kenya. It's the exact same principle.

Based on this argument, how come mortgages work in Singapore where most lands are leased by the government (only few lands are outrightly owned by citizens)?

toujurs:
How can you be a man, and you are not vocal, you can't express to a woman, how you feel about her, like are you stupid, or you are just mad?


Move onto the next. Till you get what you want. And settle for what you want.

As long as she is not, someone who sold out her coochie for money.

Toast women out there, it's sad to hear how men of this generation are too weak to woo women in public places. I understand tinubu happened, but this disaster touched every gender.

It's not, All women that are after financial benefits, some believe, money comes gradually.

Some men don't want to be accused of sexual harassment or have a poor dress sense even though they have money. As a result, they don chop enough rejections and snubbings, so they are no longer interested in wooing women. Most importantly, it is far more preferable and beneficial for a man to attract women than to chase them.

Another thing, and very important to note: you should seek for geninue desire from women. If the ladies you come across are not interested in you or don't expressly show genuine desire in you, don't bother. The era of forcing or buying women to like you suppose don pass.

2braithe:
Alright.

Due to anonymity, I wouldn't want to reveal my school. But it is among the top 6 in Nigeria(It is a federal uni).
I also finished with 4.34/5.0.

After the MBA, I can apply for the NIW in the US I presume.

Good grade. You need to get quality work experience in Nigeria. Once that is achieved, then write the GMAT and score exceedingly high.

Xfemt:
Dear Nairalanders,

In 2023, I traveled to the USA, leaving my brother in charge of the business. However, the business didn't do well, and the store was empty. Before leaving, I rented the store to another person, but their business also failed, and they moved out.


I've sought legal advice, and legal action is being taken, but I'm still afraid of what might happen. Should I leave the building to avoid trouble, or should I stand my ground? Any advice would be appreciated.

Thank you.

Pardon my curiosity, what kind of businesses were those?

ednut1:
not true. The most common interracial dating pair in western world is white male asian female. There are many asian females ( Chinese, Japanese, Koreans etc) who have never dated their race. Then their men are known for small peepee . 🤣

Wow! I sympathise with those Asian men sha. Their women in the West, especially in the California area, have been so westernised that they cannot compete. However, the good thing is, that these Asian men have the option of moving back to their countries which they built to high standards and get the best women there. Asian women are facially beautiful and genetically slim, so no surprise white men like them.

Karleb:
I use to doubt this until I did a survey in a viewing center during an important match when the place was crowded.

Truth is, for every average or handsome guy, there was atleast 6 ugly guys/men. I mean very ugly men, from dentition, shape of head, terrible accent and voice, bad form/no muscle, terrible hairstyle to say the least. Many were not just ugly but they were not also putting efforts into looking good, this is where our women are doing better but they also become really unattractive after just a child.

Only set of people that are goodlooking/looking good are young unmarried ladies.

Thank God you don see am for yourself. Mine is a dating/friendship group comprising largely young people within a particular region. I noticed the introductory posts by new members: the ladies looked pretty good, while the men weren't so good. I don't look at complexion, but general dress sense, structure of face, dentition, hair style etc. Where you see a handsome lad, even other males dey confirm say this dude is fine. The lad gets many positive responses from the lasses, with some "green light comments". Before readers think it is a group of poor people, no it is not. It is mixed, but mainly young people who are unmarried and very few married folks.

After a series of introductory posts, I con dey think say our men aren't really that handsome. This was before the yukay wave of videos. When I saw the faces involved in these videos, it confirmed my observations: Nigerian men are not handsome. Now, how can these men compete with born and bred Black British or African American men? No be say we get long preek pass Sudanese, Gambians or Senegalese. No be say we tall like those people sef. Our ambitious spirit might be a positive factor, but that is not a phenotypic feature.

Another thing too, people tend to think of Nigeria as just Lagos and Abuja, but there exist other places in Nigeria; and there, being ugly is the standard. Places like Kogi, Bayelsa, Ebonyi and Kwara would never have handsome men no matter how hard they try.

2braithe:
Thank you so much.

I don't seem to understand what you're trying to say at the emboldened.

I'll work on the certifications. I might start with ICAN because it's cheaper then write a paper of ACCA and proceed to CPA.

That you don't need to go through the study route as a means to get inside the US. Work authorisation is not certain after studying in the US. Your aim is to work in the US, so the NIW solves the issue. However, if you are dead on private equity or IB, you need an MBA from a top Business School. Also, the university and grade you graduated also plays a role.

Which university and what was your grade in undergraduate levels?

2braithe:
I just checked the cost of the MBA now. It's between 100k USD to 200k USD.
They better give me full ride scholarship. I can't afford it if it's partial scholarship😔

That is where your grade and GMAT score comes in. Score at least 780 and a fat scholarship is certain.

2braithe:
The problem is I don't wish to work as an accountant. Only Investment Banking, Private Equity etc interests me.

I'm also not desperate. But I prefer there to here.

Then, an MBA from an M7 is a must. Check Reddit/MBA section to know whatsup

2braithe:
Thank you.
I checked out that NIW requirements omooo😂

NIW is easier and more straightforward than Canada's EE. Five years experience with BSc/BA or an MSc and the five years' work experience gets omitted. If you get into an audit firm while in Nigeria, write ACCA then CPA, you would be qualified to become an accountant and get the work authorization to work in the US. For investment banking, an MBA is extremely important, considering you are a black African coming from a largely poor country and one where there exist very few US investment vehicles compared to, say, India or Vietnam or Brazil. So, MBA from a M7 business school or at least T15. Again, to be admitted into a good MBA program, you need quality and cognate work experience.

If I were you, looking at finance, I would focus on getting quality work experience in Nigeria.

dkidd:
I understand u sha but I want to go into it and I'm not Yoruba or any of those people u mentioned. I think it's about willingness to learn how it works and capacity to own and control resources are what matters most. Yoruba farmers speak pidgin too

Humans are tribal; they would prefer someone who looks, speaks and thinks like them. If you have someone who is willing to show you the ropes or you have plenty money to navigate the process (money removes the language aspect), good. But remember, you are sourcing these cocoa beans from farmers in the hinterlands, aka thick forests. There is a reason commodity firms employ people who speak the language of the region where they source a particular raw material.

Had to put this here:

Men who married in their forties and early fifties:

Poju Oyemade
Oscar Onyema
Olumide Akpata
Tayo Oviosu
Victor Asemota
Olumide Aderinokun (married Stephanie Coker five years after his first wife died of cancer)
Dr Ola Brown's Husband (popular TwitterNG personality)

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The issue isn't really early or late, but not having plenty of children more than one can adequately cater for. Nigerians have this mentality of producing more children just because small change enters their hands. Just because one's finances have increased after two children does not mean the person should aim for another child or children. Raising children is terribly expensive and largely a thankless job.

Also, men should opt for vasectomy if need be as female contraceptives can fail atimes. When I mention this aspect, many get upset.