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why not extend the question to tribe and ethnic groups as is custome of NL?

TEXASGIRL:
And a liar he is. Yesterday we meet and made up. He was coming to my house for the night (we live an hour apart). He stood me up! No show no call, Then I go on facebook this morning to find a message from a friend that he posted that some other girl is his "main boo". So yes I got played & hard. No more tears over this one. My heart is hurt but I have to remember it was all an illusion. People can be so heartless and mean, and it doesn't matter where you are from/ what color you are. He should realize that God will take his revenge for hurting women (surely I'm not the first)like that. You always reap what you sow.

sorry to hear that. i feeel for you and dare say always open your eyes when dealing with nigeian men.

Omoboy:
I have been looking for work in the last 5 months i had an interview last Friday glory be to God they have called me for a Second interview this coming Monday. Pls pray for me so that i get the job i am based in london.Thanks for all your prayers in advance.

God's mercy will go ahead of you in Jesus name

olasboy:
Which EFCC are we talking about here? The one I used to know stopped functioning since Ribadu left.
Waziri is a waste of space.

Why cant Waziri prosecute those that they accused Ribadu of not touching. Is there justice time bound?

[size=18pt]DSP Alams (Alameisigha (pardon my spelling) ) the chief thief, was given National Honour by YAR'DU [/size]and he wants to fight corruption

Yar'dull Vs Waziri - The joke of the century

Up Ribadu!!! my man anyday[/color]

please tell me this is a  joke.  an award?

all of una wey say segun  OBJ no fine need to go for confession tonight

nigerians are  natural takers & askers i dont want to say beggers.  they ask even when they have more than you

nice one

jumie:
I agree, Not every mother-in-law is bad. Mine for example is really good. She is a very good christian and just like a mother to me.

I believe that most issues involving mother-in-laws can be settled when the husband lets the mother know her place and not allowing her cross her boundary in his home.

thanks for this testimony of a christian woman. i am blessed with Godly ma inlaw too. she is a blessing.

do you really believe every ma inlaw should be told to know her place in her sons home?

is it the white she is wearing that cost $10,000?  well all of you buying home videos have a lot to answer for.

arrant nonsence

lumydee001:
I don't think it's true, how much will the producers gain ,how much will they pay other judges and other participants and where did u get ur story??

simon is not just a judge on the show check the credits.

[size=14pt]STELLA DAMASUS’ SECRETS, AFFAIR IN LONDON WITH SILFAX BOSS EXPOSED[/size]
Last Updated: 7/28/2009 9:09:54 PM

Mrs. Stella Damasus-Nzeribe

That the beautiful actress, Mrs. Stella Damasus-Nzeribe is controversial in nature is not in doubt, as every step she takes has always been newsworthy. If you remember that the newly married actress, Stella, was always receiving media attack from unknown quarters due to her waywardness.

Having married to another Igbo boy, Emeka Nzeribe, a bizman, who has a look of her late husband, Jaiye Aboderin, Stella, we gathered, lied to her husband that she was going for an award somewhere else whereas, her body, spirit and soul was in London where, Taiwo Afolabi, the CEO of Silfax Group of Companies, was waiting to receive her at the airport. That was a couple of weeks after their wedding.
Eagle eye caught up with the Nollywood personality, Stella unwinding at De’Eclipse Nite Club, London with her secret lover, Taiwo Afolabi.

After having fun, the lovebirds moved to another location to continue their lovey-dovey while her hubby; Emeka Nzeribe was lonely and longing for her touch.
Interestingly, Shade, the amiable wife of the graduate of the University of Lagos, is said to be making grand preparation to deal with Stella whenever their path crosses when she got wind of the rumored affair between her husband, Taiwo and the Nollywood diva.

The mother of two, we were reliably informed by a close family source that Stella and her beau, Emeka have been having tough times with their few months old marriage over Stella’s over possessiveness. In Igboland, it’s unheard off that a man, after married to a woman, moves into the woman’s house. Stella allegedly said to have told Emeka before their traditional marriage that she would be Mrs. Nzeribe in her house and that she would not move into his house for the sake of her two children, Angelica and Isabel had for the Aboderins, though, the Aboderins are in low tone as per the acceptance of the last child on the ground that the pretty girl, who is like a half-caste, is a split image of Ramsey Nouah, a co-actor in Nollywood. Gossip merchants say the six years old girl is a product of Ramsey and Stella’s illicit affair years back even when the husband, Jaiye was alive.

The genesis of their marriage, we gathered, started when Emeka went to Stella’s town to seek for the consent of her parents and he met brick walls. The journey of a day that later turned out to be three days, aroused his natural feeling into knowing further the kind of family he’s going to marry from.

“Stella’s mum objected their union due to the fact that, the woman has promised to give the mother of two to a certain High Chief in Owerri, the mother as well as Stella, however, benefited immensely from the largesse of this pleasant and philanthropic Chief of Owerri financially, that’s why ‘mama’ was indisposed to her daughter marrying the Youngman for she know how powerful and highly influential Owerri moneybags was and still is.” The source further revealed.

There are other stories surrounding the marriage of the new couple which shall come to your notice as soon as we are done with or findings

By Uzoma Anayo for http://nigeriafilms.com

ilosiwaju:
Good move jare. I feel Abiola would have been worse than Abacha. If not violence-wise, corruption-wise.
Abiola ko, Abiole ni.

so true. he was a criminal of the highest order

MUZBO:
@the viper, please get something. I don't just wake up and post here on NL, I probably spend more time researching before I post than @presido spends on porn sites. If you think I'm trying to pass myself off as smarter than @presido then you are right because I am. I only stayed this long on this thread because I perceived him as a tribalist and someone else concurred. Don't know if you noticed but it ceased to be about MKO a long time ago.
I'll never praise myself but I'll continue to acknowledge those that appreciate my little contributions which was what I did to you. Your reply seemed unnecessary but I understand. I also have people I respect here on NL and I'll let them know even though I don't always see eye to eye with them.

you know you are mostly right.

[size=24pt] Coping With Nagging Mother-in-Law[/size]
By Gladys Omoragbon


Last week, a colleague told me about a neighbour of hers who the mother-in-law has decided to make her regret ever setting eyes on her son. Now, the story is this, the woman (that is the daughter-in-law) is married to a guy who apparently loves the mum more than the wife. Why? Because, anytime the mother coughs, he answers. In other words, he attends to his mother’s beck and call to the detriment of the happiness of the wife.



Hey!, do not get me wrong. She is the mother and so should take care of her but a responsible and balanced man would try to balance both. Don’t hurt your wife’s feelings because you want to please your mother and do not hurt your mother’s feelings to please your wife. So a man tied to the mother’s apron string needs to asked for wisdom to balance the two. Recently, my sister’s friend got married and the mother-in-law is already giving her hell.



As a matter of fact, she had started her manipulations even before the marriage. She dictates everything even to the clothes the lady should or should not wear. She said no trouser in their house. The man’s comments always starts with “my mother said this or that”. So imagine what that lady is facing having a mother-in-law who dominates things. The son works with one of the leading banks in Lagos. The mother ordered him to work his transfer back to benin and the son without consulting with his wife, worked his transfer back to benin to satisfy his mother.


Now back to my colleague’s neighbour. The lady is married to a guy who lives in London and so, she lives with the mother-in-law in a four flat apartment built by the husband. The man first mistake is asking the mother (a high society woman) to come live with the wife. So Imagine the scenario in that house. The mother-in-law feels the woman is eating her son’s money. If a wife does not eat her husband’s money, I wonder who should. The problem now is that the woman is fed up and is seeking solutions to her problems. The husband is presently in town and has offered to buy the wife a new car. It will surprise you to know that the woman has been doing school run on motorbikes why the mother-in-law has a posh car with a chauffer attach to herself alone. Now the husband after telling the wife about his intention to buy her a car, later came back to her to tell her that she should take the car his mum has been driving why he gives the new car to the mother. Strange you would say. Well, that got me thinking about this week’s article.


It is widely believed that mothers-in-law contribute a great deal to the success of any marriage. Any man that is tied to his mother’s apron string would always have problems because the mother would continually have a say in matters concerning the home. I am not disputing the fact that sometimes, his mother’s advice is very necessary for the betterment of the home. But as the English people would say, “too much of everything is bad”.


Most women when they go into marriage, forget the fact that they have not married the man alone but the entire family, especially the mother of the man. So, some women do not make room for the man’s people. This problem of mothers-in-law has broken a lot of relationships. The problem of nagging mothers-in-law comes to play when the guy’s mother feels over protective towards the son. Some men are their mother’s pet, so whenever the man decides to take a wife, the mother feels jealous because the man’s attention would now be deviated from her.


This kind of mother in-law could just decide never to like the son’s wife no matter what she does to satisfy the family. So that is the beginning of trouble for the ‘poor’ woman. Many mothers-in-law nag because the son’s wife has not been able to produce children for the family. She then urges her son to take another wife who can procreate for him. Some mothers-in-law would not allow their son’s wife peace off mind. This particular problem has resulted in many homes breaking up. Some mothers can really go to any length to ensure that their son does not take the particular girl they don‘t approve of.
Sometimes, the problem lies with the wife. Some women because of the pre-conceived notion that mothers-in-law are terrible do not take the pains to study their mothers-in-law and they do not also try their possible best to win the heart of their mothers-in-law. Some ladies even pray for their mother-in-law to die before they go into the home. They have forgotten that whatever measure you used in measuring people, the same measure will be use for you.


A lot of women are so lazy and dirty and this of course does not endear them to their mother-in-law. Some are selfish and wicked and may even use any means to make sure that the man’s attention never goes to the man’s family. No mother-in-law would be happy to know that the woman her son married is a hindrance to the progess of the family. Some women also nag whenever their husband’s mother is around. They begin to complain here and there. And of course the mother-in-law cannot help but feel unwanted in her son’s house.


However, in everything in life, there are always two sides to it, so if some mothers-in-law are bad, there are certainly some that are like real mothers. Even better than some real mother. Some mothers-in-law are really nice. They do anything to make sure that the son’s wife is comfortable in the home. I know of some who would even take sides with the woman (whether wrong or right) whenever there is a conflict between the couple. After, she would call the woman and admonish her about what she did. But she does not reproach the woman right there in the presence of the man (that is her son.)
So in coping with a nagging-mother-in-law, one needs first and fore-most to learn to accept her. Also be determined to make the best out of a bad situation.


Learn to understand your mother-in-law, do your utmost best to win her over to yourself. Even if people have said it is impossible, believe that yours will be possible. Show her love and be undaunted to win her to your side.


Mothers-in-law should also try to stay off their son’s marriage because the Holy Bible has said that what the Lord has joined together, let no man or mother-in-law put asunder. Please give peace a chance. After all, somebody gave you a chance to succeed in your own marriage.   http://www.nigerianobservernews.com/29072009/features/features3.html

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to those of you whose mission is to hurt your ma inlaw know that you will reap what you sow one day cos it wont take long for you to become ma inlaw yourself.  your sons will get you an enemy that will cause you pains too.

if you are a ma-ilnlaw you have no business working against your inlaws. stop and treat your inlaws the way you will like to be treated. it is only fair or you stress and wear yourself out quickly.

it is sowing and reaping.  no prayers work against it. you cant confess and wish it away.

tubabie:
You want to be considered for such a position, but see the most recent set of typical madness that assails you
You cause unrest everywhere you go without making an atom of sense!!

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you speak for me and the sensible majority.  this scheming and hatefull liar a mod  as if we dont have enough.

abusola 22 today  72 tomorrow. you are sick.

JeSoul:
Does anyone still take this lost, confused soul seriously? there is no voting going on anywhere. Insinuating Seun actually considered making him a mod is an insult to Seun's intellect.

dont do thanksgiving just yet

TEXASGIRL:
He is 40. I opened his phone beacuse it kept going off in the middle of the night. When i tried to shut it off, i accidentaly opened the message. It was from another woman. He is here legally. No we don't live together
She is not his business partner, she is his ex girlfriend (according to him), who still lives in his home and collects the money from his business. He goes home twice a year to collect the money from her. I was supposed to be going with him in September.

shine your eyes. naija man dont give business money to girl friend you hear. the guy is 40 if he is nigerian he probably is married to the girl with some kids so stop being naive. he is telling you lies and at 33 you cant catch a liar.

iyakadit man also had a man with papers so it is not papers. a liar is a liar and a liar.

i am not going to argue with you but our people re-write history as if truth is evil. that is just my opinion and i am not charging you for it.

cre8tivity:
i will not change how i feel about ribadu on till be returns like a man to face all charges.
the protocol is do as i do and not do as i say.
at this moment, ribadu is nothing but "a wanted criminal"

you stand for what is mainly wrong with our people. you have thrown being objective and telling truth to the wind.

nues aweso:
Where are men like Adekunle Fajuyi these days? What happened to trust, true friendship and true loyalty that knows no ethnic, tribal or geographical boundaries?

I am longing for the days of old! Please come back to Nigeria!

it is god to dream but days like that will never come to naija. not even in the religious community. we are one selfish and self centered lot.

i have my doubts those words were actually said or meant becos knowing some people can easily say anything in your front and do something else behin your back. most people are double minded especially nigerians who are almost liars by default settings.

silly woman she is a weapon in yara move slow hands too

eya, sorry to hear this at least you tried

theolar:
I cant believe u guys imagine i already have a kid peeps na wa o. Well sorri we havent given any recent updates. Shinatu tanxs 4 d compliment .Nezed,chinesedoll,gen2genius and all odas missd u guys.how u guys doing .dis is still d part we are gettin to know each oda.

good for you.

what are they supposed to do?

TEXASGIRL:
Yes I'm white. I am 33, and have been married most of my adult life (that ended about 8 months ago). Howerver, I am not dumb and can usually recognize game. Either I have lost it or he is a master playa, lol. I never thought he would cheat on me. I truly believed he loved me and wee will eventually get married.

i dont have my crystal ball today but i see hurt coming.

sadly liars dont come with handle with care warning labels.

get some anti depresants ready cos you may soon need it

Bota:
Cut them some slack guys! Do you have any idea what kind of budget these movies are produced on? They are really low budget and they are doing a good job with the meager resources at their disposal. You simply cannot compare this to movies where Angelina Jolie alone will be paid millions. And it's not really fair to lump them all together, I don't watch a lot but I've seen that movies produced by Tade Ogidan and Tchidi Tchikere are quite decent.

if you give some naija producerrs same facilities as hollywood people you will get same old poor movies.

why did this one die prematurely?

ebila:
@GEW,
lol

u think it is funny? a friend said she need a gift for the baby. my question is what for?

cut him off not always worth it.

an ex sent a text to say she delivered and i sent her a congratulatory reply. now it is

is that all you can say i tot i meant a lot more that.

what do you do when a person you didnt know was pregnant tells you she delivered?

Gekko:
Ha! this thought actually crossed my mind. Envy leads to animosity.

so true plus everything he touches goes down while the other is doing wonders.

Nezan:
You are most guilty of the offences you enumerated above. Funny you, to choose a christian wife just because you want to be vice mod.

now u know why naija is the way it is. wishy wash people all over the place. when they are not tribalists, religious fanatics they are busy hating and telling lies

almondjoy:
Yes if you cared enough--but you must consider it a "gift" not to be repaid. If you have a broken engagement--see it as "tithing"! No hard feelings. Only part with what you can afford to miss.

this is wisdom