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mumumugu: ashamed of being naked? Ashamed of ones natural body? Is it a crime to be in ones state of creation

y should parents teach kids that being naked is terrible thing. The kids were born naked, were they terribly born?

Did you by any chance typed this naked?

well i don't think i know the standard way but in my own case, my husband's family took care of the engagement list i.e the yams, oil, box of clothes for bride etc. I didn't contribute to that.

But for the rest, we made a list of every expenses and shared it appropriately
eg me paying for reception hall and him paying for the photographs and video, he bought his clothing and i bought mine i.e suit, shoes, wedding gown etc, i paid for the IVs , he paid for the wedding program, we both paid for the rings, we took care of the feeding from my own side though his people still brought food when they were coming etc when i paid for something on his own list, he paid for something on my own list to balance it.

I can't really say specifically what the % of sharing is but we made sure neither of us carried a burden bigger than us.

[size=5pt]Na 2 of us marry each other.....[/size]

hassymo5: AT POSTER THATS A GOOD ONE,, SO YOU THINK WOMEN ARE SAINT LETS REPLACE THE HE WITH A SHE
* SHe is too eager to know the exact amount his partner earns as salary.

* SHe pushes responsibilities to her even when they are things he can readily afford.

* SHe checks her phone, hand bag, purse and pockets indiscriminately but always warns her from searching his.

* SHe emphasizes on the fact that he is the head of the house at the slightest opportunity but yet reminds his partner of the importance of sharing when is comes to financial responsibilities.

* SHe grumbles when she is being asked for basic needs in the house but call up friends and volunteer to take them out for a beer.

* SHe struggles with the TV remote with her partner but run away when it is time to help out in home chores.

* SHe only pretends to be romantic and nice to his partner when there is a 3rd party around.

* SHe keeps arguing with his partner and want him to give in on the argument to show he is truly the head.

* SHe is humble and patient when she is broke, but arrogant and rude when she has little change in his pocket.

* Even when She doesn't drop money for food, he expects to be served like a King.

You just scattered the whole write up. This up here doesn't make sense jare. Read it again. It is not just about replacing the HE with SHE.....

prince3009: My good Lord! You went through hell and came back. That woman was just out to frustrate and even kill you. To think she is even on Nairaland I am so happy for you bro. You are a survivor!

And she could even be someone acting all nice here and people will be dying to meet/see/become friends with her. I am afraid of this anonymity sef. You don't even know who is who.

aisha2: Wow, wow, wow. You did right. Start a blog, let men in similar situations speak out. She seems sick, then the constant "bring money" demands na wa oh. She married an ATM. Thankfully it seems kids were not involved

thankfully. Some people are just SICK o. Happy for the guy.

lofty900: those guys may probably lie to u but that's exactly d way it is.

okay o but i still don't want to agree. I will ask when i get home.

@DrummaBoy- to be honest, i didn't read your earlier post because it was too long. when i saw it, i promised to read later and i forgot. I asked what i wanted to know and i got my answer o. maybe sometime later i can read up what you typed.

dotmanz: The whole stuff went on and on, I was only prayerful, frustration was quite obviously seen mere looking at my face, till she came to create a scene at my office. She's not the type that makes an empty threat, my friends, I cldnt commit suicide simply because God frown at it. To cut it short, I was on 2 wks leave, I lied to her that I lost my job. Actually I'm not the type that drink and hangout in bars and gather with friends, I was watching TV at the sitting room one afternoon when she came to me and said, whenever she sees me, she get so upset and she doesn't know why, she was shouting that I should just leave the house for her, she doesn't care where I go, I cld go and die if I wanted, just get out.. I called her parents, no response, I assumed they were not with the phone. I sent a text, while I was doing that, she was already shouting in her voice, insisted I must leave the house for her. I called the parent again, no response, I put on a shirt and moved out of the house without a particular destination in mind. as I was going, all that kept coming to my mind was where I cld go to make me live like this problem never existed, I stoped over at a boutique, I got 2 shirt and 1 additional pair of trousers, I proceeded to a park and moved completely off the town, Traveled from PH to Zaria just to at least do away with everything and anything at all. I spent 8 days in Zaria without beep from her, at the 9th day, I received her text she sent her new account number, I need some money.. I was already in close contact with a Lawyer who advised me to come back to be sure there was no emergency in the house that cld warant so much money, but he arranged for me a police officer as protection. When I got home, there was nothing much, she only wanted money for her upkeep for the next month. immediately she got that, I was advised by my Lawyer to pick all I might need from the house and take them to the office while he assist in geting a temporary accommodation..

This is just out of this world o. What kind of woman is this? things are happening o. How did all these start or was it like this from the day 1 of your marriage? Some WOMEN sha-- they can make you do the unthinkable.

lofty900: u make me laugh. 1st of all, I didn't say I always stare @ n.aked kids, I said that if I focus my gaze long enough I become aroused just like that and it's the same with all guys, but a lot will deny because they don't want to be called psychos. A guys brain is programmed that way. Easily controlled by sight but it's only good morals and self control that keeps guys from doing silly stuffs. Getting aroused does not make one a perv but doing d deed does. Goodmorning

As in you get an erection when you focus your gaze on a naked child? na wa o. This is strange to me. Is it a normal thing? Is this what happened to those men that rape kids??

All guys? i don't think so. will be back. lemme ask some guys around me.

lofty900: if I focus my gaze yeah, all guys do not only me . So back to the question, are we all pervs ?

focus your gaze on what?? as we still talking about a naked child here or something else?

lofty900: I also get turned on. Does that make me a pervert ? I don't get it, re-phrase

turned on?? same feeling like when you see a naked woman or when you are with your woman??

@dotmanz - what kind of woman did you marry? Haba!!!!! This is just too much o. So sorry for all that you passed through. How did you even survive all that? This life sha, when you think you have heard or seen all.

Bgino: i only said "i have a feeling" not definitive..is that why u had to hit
me so hard below the belt??so thats about when women abuse
men

how did i hit u o. you said something and i only helped you
confirm it. it is that feeling that is yeye. feeling that i can beat up
my hubby? Yeye again. So now i have abused you. No vex.
[size=5pt]and what i said about the beating is true. [/size]

Bgino: i have a feeling u could beat up ur hubby

. You are so in spirit o. I beat him up o, every time, anytime, anyhow, somehow, all rounder.... I still flogged him some hours ago.....I beat him up/flog him real good.........He can testify to that....so what's next? yeye


[size=5pt]I just hope what you said is a joke (i.e You trying to be funny)[/size]

hardbody: I see your point and feel your pain. You cannot win a woman in a fight. If she beats you, you are a wimp. If you beat her, you are abusive. Good for them though until the slap me. But you are dead on point.

bring your cheek here lemme slap it for you.

hardbody: Make me and u try am na...

inbox me

try what?

inbox you?

snazzylove: Where are my 'co-wives' and our 'husbands'? Una don Zap? Make una come oo. Gist dey. #onlineamebotinz#

present ma!!!

MRbrownJAY: ^^^sadly the men are not better, just look at how many get "pregnant looking" pot bellies........ hideous!

and bald head when they had thick and curly hair before marriage.

Okay o. I pity your wife. How can you say you hate your wife and want to go back to your ex? how are you sure that your hot ex will not become like your wife after some years and kids too? Are you exactly the way you were when she got married to you?

If you don't like something in your partner, both of you should talk about it and then work on it. No need for the hatred.

Meanwhile, i read somewhere that some kind of birth control pills make some women add some weight.

damiso: It's just human nature to complain or feel pained when you have sooo much stress or responsibilities on your shoulders.Its up to the spouse to choose to help relieve the stress and that's why these days women even want to contribute to the family purse so as not to make the pressure overwhelming on their spouses.

Why I said I will not talk is that on this thread I am baffled that people could say breadwinning is not naturally the woman's terrain she is just helping him and is not her role and then in other breadth say men have absolutely no right to complain when asked to help with the chores even if they pay 100% of the bills I am just a bit baffled ni.I though there was now no such thing as gender roles and chores are not the woman's role so why should breadwinning be seen as she 'helping' him when him doing chores is not seen as him 'helping' her?

This same thread??
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hardbody: I read the article and a few of the posts. Let me say that a woman can never abuse me. You try to break me emotionally, i engage another babe and take my mind off you. You try to be abusive physically, i beat you to pulp. You deny me s3x, i get it out there, You touch my shirt, i tear your mouth, abi you dey craze?

Second base jare

Na mouth you get o. ..........I don't believe you...

SStoneCCold: ^^^ Wait until you marry a crazy woman who earns more than you with some female divorcee as her best friend. I have witnessed this threat firsthand more than 5 times in my 6 months of putting up with my uncle after NYSC.

Na wa o. That can't happen to me sha

Amhappy: Right now,i will choose the yellow one. I need money like yesterday. However if i lost a loved one at that time,i will choose the blue. Money is not everything.

SStoneCCold: My uncle's wife abuses him regularly by always threatening to divorce him.

So one can threaten a man with a divorce?