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sunnydayasaba: U really don't get my point, Is he's choice to say thank you or not, But in this case, The wife is requesting for it..... Is not by force for the man or woman to say thank you.

Godmystrength: I disagree with you here. I am not talking about the sex in OP's post but it is good to be appreciative of everything we receive whether it is our right or not. But for OP's wife to be asking directly for a thank you, that i don't know about o.
[s]What's even the big deal in saying thank you? if it was one of the side chicks, i bet you will have said enough thank you in advance to last the whole year.[/s] Knack your wife's brain & ass out and she will be screaming more than thank you. She won't even remember her name or anything afterward.

snazzylove: , I offered him to join me on the rug as a seat, he said he doesn't sit on the floor, ok. I went out to get a plastic chair for him from my neighbour which he managed to sit on .

davno: My dear get born again and pray in tongues. It will stir the spirit of power in you. Am telling u from experience. If u activate d Holy spirit inside of u, nothing and nobody can intimidate you.
Keep praying in tongues and watch urself grow powerful and fearless. Her domineering spirit will become very much afraid of who u've become.
U love her but u can't stay with her effectively till u become more powerful than she is.

Tallesty1: And you still dey call her your fiance? You get liver gan!



When she fully becomes your wife, she will give you a speech time table, when to talk and when to just sit and listen

sunnydayasaba: Appreciating once wife is a different thing when she does something not expected frm her in the home. Is like thanking once wife for taking care of her own children while u work to provide for her and that same children.

sunnydayasaba: Is like asking ur husband to always say thank u after meal when u actually provided the money for the food. That's nonsense and shouldn't be tolerated

filani: Duly noted, I framed my post the way I did to encourage men not to accept abuse from women as 'normal'.

Abuse instigated by any gender is wrong to be sure but look around you, when was the last time you saw a topic on abuse which did not cast men as the abuser and women as the perpetual innocent victim?

When was he last time you read an article in the papers on abusive relationships where abusive men are demonised but abusive women are 'swept under the carpet' and treated as a myth?

How many Nollywood and Hollywood movies have touched on the (cliche)issue of abusive men and strangely silent on abusive women?

We men will continue to be on the receiving end of this biased mindset until we are ready to push for a change!

Maybe the same way a woman is not allowed to complain when her husband cheats on her (it is her husband's right to cheat),
same way the men keeps quiet when their wives abuse them (it is expected of the man to be strong and not show sign of weakness).
The same thing that's keeping the woman's mouth shut should also keep the man's mouth shut.

abinoam: As earlier mentioned, my friends have been lucky in the past.

eighTHREAD: I hear you! And when a NL female opens a thread about
how her husband physically abused her, one nairaland crew won't even
care to hear the hubby's side of the story before condemning the him and
even advicing the woman to divorce him. Most physically abused women
instigated the abuse with verbal abuse. There's no monopoly of
abuse.

ogawisdom: Marriage is till death do u part. Manage ur husband as he is n pray for him while loving him with every cell of ur body. Some women wud gladly ve ur husband n thank God. So posssess ur possession

abinoam: Going by the degree of success this particular handle has earned my friends in the past, I feel I could get lucky too. I am a Yoruba girl that crossed the threshold of 20s last year and thus been getting the threat of eviction notice from my folks. I have never been single in all my adult life but just haven’t found my IDEAL man. I am slightly above 5:6ft, dark, slim, well-schooled and presently working. Nobody has ever referred to me as being bland rather I get the opposite.

I am presently looking for a Man older than I am with at least one and most seven years( age inferred earlier) He should be taller than me, dark, Godly, Yoruba, well-schooled, huge sense of humour, believe in family, seccy, financially responsible , not averse to exercise and most of all with a beautiful mind. I just want someone with whom I would be as alike as two peas.
Anyone? 080-743-76539...thanks

But what happened to the one you got here before?

aisha2: Chai. Poster got me sha, seems He/she just gets stories off blogs and posts for us to be busy hitting our fingers on keyboards

Archildao: please let the Op speak for himself jare!I will only advice him to thread with care for the sake of his child.

Godmystrength: I didn't even see this before posting. Chai!!!!!!!!!!!! and see me defending the OP. Diaris God oooooooooooo
@OP- you should have told us that it happened to a friend of your friend as is the usual trend here now.

Godmystrength: I just went to check OP's profile after seeing this and i remembered seeing a thread about his mother hating him and his sister. he could be telling the truth anyway. Though he didn't mention any child or woman in his life but he did mentioned having a younger sister who is married. And he has said in this post that he took his maid/gf and child to his younger sister's place to continue school. He talked about returning to lagos and i saw from his previous post that he planned relocating to enugu or lagos.

I remember him saying his mother got pregnant during the end of the civil war so his age here kinda correlate sha. Just saying. I no know the OP before o.

So maybe he is for real.

simbaddsailor: Everytin abt my post must relate to me. U dnt even know if its a friend or a brother is seeking an advice from this forum. We are also here to represent people by proxy. So withdraw your statement.

Archildao: @ op going from your previous threads i dnt know wether to beleive you or not.Please try to be consistent with your threads cos there is no uniformity.Today your mother is maltreating you,tommorow you are in love with your maid.Hian!

simbaddsailor: Yes it waz consensual, I never forced her, we talked abt it and planned for it. Before them, she told me she had a boy had sex with her once because she knew I waz avoiding having sex with, whe I finally had sex wit her, I discovered it waz nt true. She apologized and said she does not want me to forget about her. There waz a mutual understanding and agreement in everythin we do. She has never for once felt guilty or that I am exploiting her. Its just like wen you have a gal friend and two of us are getting on very well.

SAMBARRY: Nawa o.market dey sell here



it's rather unfortunate I came when the show was over




I see all the grammar wey una blow


*Bye.zooming off*


driver oya next bustop

pickabeau1: Yes Ma

pickabeau1: Ok.. Like a market people come and go

I believe there are reasonable people everywhere.. the issue is if you can be on the same wavelength with them

Bashing threads are not new...

If a thread is designed to bash people, when people dont post.. the thread will die

Naetochukwu: Fool? Can't remember calling you nor anybody a fool so what are you saying

eighTHREAD: only fools bring their marital issues here,

Godmystrength: @the bolded, that's not true. NL family section used to be saner than this until..........
Despite all, we still have reasonable people here. You just have to be extra careful in picking up advices...

Naetochukwu: The reasonable people nolonger comment on threads because of the number of married children posing as adults that deems it neccesary to post rubbish here. Their numbers are higher now and you can hardly read any meaningful thing so being extra careful is out of it because there's nothing to pick from the gabbage.

Godmystrength: okay.
But does that mean no single reasonable person on NL again?
What about all those people still commenting? All are unreasonable?
Even if it is just ONE SINGLE person remaining, there is still a reasonable person here.....
Going by what you just said, then of what use is the family section then?
It is well.
Despite all, calling people FOOLS is not a nice thing to say. No need to call anyone a FOOL just because they do what we don't approve of.

pickabeau1: Without timelines and facts, then your account may not be fully objective.
When you say nonsense threads, personally i prefer nonsense threads to some of the fights and bile which dwelled here a while back,

However i will speak on the tsunami.
I feel the tsunami has even sanitised the place, less e fights than some months back

pickabeau1: until when...?

Naetochukwu: The reasonable people nolonger comment on threads because of the number of married children posing as adults that deems it neccesary to post rubbish here. Their numbers are higher now and you can hardly read any meaningful thing so being extra careful is out of it because there's nothing to pick from the gabbage.

Ciela: If he should i would just say honey i forgot to tel u i jst quit my job 2day to b a full time house wife so there's no need for a maid.

foxgiovani: He will resign and quit the job. Lol

eighTHREAD: only fools bring their marital issues here, where they meet with femisnists who are looking for marriages to put assunder just to add to their swelling ranks of disgruntled people. A woman comes complaining of abuse by her husband and the next thing a silly person can think of is advice divorce. Did you even hear the husband's own side of the story? (Not in support of abuse)Perhaps he did what he did to save his child from her while she tortured. A nairalander shared of how a woman usually beats her children to the extent of applying pepper to their body afterwards. The husband couldn't take it any longer; when he intervened, he got hit with a pestol by th woman. What am saying in essence is that, every action calls for a reaction. The abused might also be an abuser. Verbal abuse is also an abuse. If you abuse verbally and you get abused physically, don't come here and narate the abuse on you alone, narate all so people can have a balanced judgment.

onirugbon1: This is the 4th time I have scrolled back to check the picture. This will surely catch your attention everytime she's around you, especially when she turns her back at you while going to the kitchen/room.

You go just dey look the exhibit, dey wonder, and the exhibit sef go dey wink at you as e dey shake.

youngalex: I wiLl speak for myself..the very moment my wife asked her to stay as a househelp i will leave both of them..maka why
I have very high affinity for big ass so i can't stay with her even for one day, Am not promiscous but i can't tempt myself.
Not all big ass is unclean it depends on the person's hygiene habit

aisha2: How will you understand? You are an "Internet wife" Fight oh, it doesnt matter if the man wants you or not you must fight and fight and fight both seen and unseen to keep him and ya home. Blows and STDs are minor, a "home" is what is most important more important than life itself

yomickey: My honest opinion is none.

If you have the means, take care of your children yourself or get their grand parents or close family.

aisha2: Lmao, I no talk am? When the poster dey find horror stories wetin remain? Yes oh, super mothers like you have 10 children and home school them to university level, Lazy Nairaland women with una feminist agenda, go home and take care of ya shildrens