₦airaland Forum

Louislewis: You were born to train and take care of your child. Stop looking for someone to enslave in the name of nanny or daycare. Avoid the mistakes you are bound to make by doing so now, than regretting later when it will be late. Women don't be lazy!

urchbarbie: N ure taking it personal. Life is too short to always blow a fuse dear.

beeevan: I wonder what the advise would have been if a man created this thread complaining of his wife littering pics of her privates online. Man of the house is splashing the picture of his pen*is all over net and these bunch of hypocrites are still yarning pray, love, bla bla bla...


OP diarisss AIDsooooo...

bellong: You claim to be a Christian, yet you couldn't identify a godly person? How can a born-again freely had sex with you and you never questioned his godliness and sincerity of faith?

The skills you used to make a born-again brother to have sex with you when single are the same skills you need now to conquer a wandering born-again brother.

NickiRoman: *Yawns*

urchbarbie: And ur name is Godmystrength.

aisha2: You can check security gadget shops, not all need electricity, some work with batteries. Just put it somewhere that would capture whats going on.

Amhappy: OP You are in for a long ride. I hope you downloaded that his prick picture and transfered to your phone. You need to let him know you saw it in a shocking manner. Send it to him from your account and ask him when he will use it to flog you. I tell ya,he will call to talk.

EfemenaXY: It's worse than that. I mean just think about it... an illiterate and a "pastor"? Toxic mix my dear.

bukatyne: @Godmystrenght + damiso,

You guys did justice to the subject matter

Infinitegrace: I like your suggestion.please how do I get the Nanny Cam? Does it work without Electricity?

kelechiodo: You make me laugh or are you naive. In terms of skirt issue, everyman is a boy. Just dont play with a tiger whether alive or dead. Protect your own in what ways you can and not on the assumption that my husband is a "man" and not a "boy". A word is enough for the wise

aisha2: You asked what works for us you didnt ask for scary stories, some of us have no stories to share, we cant manufacture it to feed your fear.
I was thinking you were looking for realistic practical advice I think I know wherethis all is going lol

^{Feminist things, at the end poster will bring out the scary stories and say allwomen should stay home and care for their kids, how is that your niece copying with her hatred for feminists after seeing a "feminist" church lady in a married mans hotel?}

Sophyrocks: Nice one dear. Keep it up. Following your comments.

Dreal1247: .
If you know the level of negetive effects of polygamy and training a child outside marriage, you wont make this statement of yours. Besides, i didnt see where her life was endangered which is the only case that gives soon for divorce. No price paid to bring up your own child in your best possible way is too much. Remember there is room for improvement and the devil you know is better than the angel you dont know.

Dreal1247: .
Many women are out there waiting to take over. Wait, the issue will surely be over.

yeyenatu: Huh? Oh... chai...my name don see fire for una hand. name wey me dey use do ynga, una dey use am yab...diaris godu ooo...

ogawisdom: Lol u r taking this personal ooo
U kw our culture nw a man can marry as many wives as he wishes n is okay but I ve never heard of a woman married to more than one man at a time. In short a cheatin husband has little to lose n d woman divorcin him after being wit him for years is even doin him a favour to take in a younger bride. A divorced woman has over 90 percent chance of neva marryin again in her life in Nigeria while d man can take in a sweet sixteen as a divorced man in days. U see d equation is nt balanced. D man is alwys ahead in this senerio.
Nb I am nt supportin cheatin by a man but jst layin d cards on d table

ogawisdom: Wat u wrote is nt enough evidence to conclude ur hubby is cheatin. To imagine u tinkin of divorce bc of this weak evidence is childish to say d least. Again checkin ur hubby phone d way u did is nt a gud habit sha.
Act like u saw nothing n sha him extreme love until u ve more concrete cheatin evidence

ogawisdom: U failed to realize dt God sees u n ur hubby as one. So u share in his actions n inactions in d spiritual realm. Prayin for ur cheatin hubby is nt wrong

wellmax: You mean

ogawisdom: Listen like I said d info provided is nt enough to conclude d man is cheatin. If he is nt cheatin hw does d talk of hiv come in here. Neva d less d op may need to talk to her hubby on hw uncomfortable she is with wat she saw on his phone. She shld b more prayerful too n nt childishly throwing in divorce at d slightest provocation.
Marriage is till death do u part.

Jenchi: My Husband Is Already Cheating Three(3) Weeks After Our Wedding

“I can’t talk to anyone. I’m still in shock. I woke up to use the bathroom and my husband’s phone was buzzing about 11pm.

He was fast asleep as I picked his phone and saw nude pictures of a girl named Tolu who lives in Akure. Apparently he has been begging her to send pictures saying how much he misses her and calling her same pet names he calls me. I feel like I want a divorce already.

I don’t think I can ever let him touch me again. How do I handle or get past this? Does any one have a cheating husband? Does this get worse? I’m loosing my mind, please advise…

kayciano: U may be seeing it as cheating ....but Ur MOTHER may see it otherwise....because MOST of them got married as 3RD WIVES....even as 6th..wife...
In Dis AFRICA can u
PLS...DIFFERENTIATE POLYGAMY from ?CHEATING....?

ogawisdom: Wat u wrote is nt enough evidence to conclude ur hubby is cheatin. To imagine u tinkin of divorce bc of this weak evidence is childish to say d least. Again checkin ur hubby phone d way u did is nt a gud habit sha.
Act like u saw nothing n sha him extreme love until u ve more concrete cheatin evidence

Floodgater: Even you Godmystrength! Thought you got it before. It is as it is- an harmless joke, no hidden agenda.

BellaSwan: Good. But when the tests come out negative, he could translate it to mean the last person he probable slept with is negative too. He may decide to continue with her. It won't stop him from cheating. So its back to what I said before that most men cheat. The question should how should women cope with a cheating husband?...

BellaSwan: I'll still like to know what ur suggestion for the op is.

Godmystrength: sorry if you think i misunderstood you. But my position still remains same.
As for the bolded, let her talk to her husband and then both of them should go for HIV and Co test. The result of these will then help determine the way forward. and until then, no unprotected sex with hubby.

BellaSwan: @Godmystrength: u obviously misunderstand me. I'm not encouraging men to cheat but women still hv to know that they do. What's ur solution for the op? To fast n pray? That would work but it won't be immediate. So what does she do in the mean time, pack out of the house? I'm only trying to be real here.

sunvick: For that woman to hide dis most dreaded disease for days upto even weeks shows she ain't absorbed from dis crime. She can even do worst than that.
OR
She contracted it outside n tried using cd so as to save hubby frm been infected, not knowing hubby has already upgraded his status b4 her.

BellaSwan: Cheating is here to stay. As long as the word exists, it MUST surely happen. Cheating differs with men. Its either they cheat on u with a single partner or with multiple ones. Even men r scared of STD's but its hasn't stopped them from playing "away" matches.

jumzzy448: Just add little. Like half a teaspoon.