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onirugbon1: Yes.
A friend used to do it that way back then. He had a container full of bean flour (peeled, dried and grinded bean).

So he would just scoop some with spoon, add water then pepper and straight to the frying pan for another delicious experience.

Wait o, you go pay for this tutorial

Okay. Thanks alot. My baby likes moi-moi a lot and hubby likes akara once in a while so i guess i can do this.

How much is my bill ?

okirewaju: You can grind the beans dry and spread it outside or oven dry then store in a container then every morning you can bring the bean powder out, add diced pepper/ onion then fry


Na just suggestion oh

Does that mean that i will soak the beans, peel it and then dry it before grinding? I am so interested in this.

eighTHREAD: what do you mean by THEM? Where do you belong?

have a good day and week ahead of you old papa......

eighTHREAD: stop this thing you do. If you can't contribute to the topic, it's best you leave instead of forming maturity all over the place.

And you call what you are doing CONTRIBUTION? Forming maturity is not my thing. I have no time for that. I picked you out because you quoted me at one time and made some somehow somehow comments. I am not following you but whenever i see you on threads i open and i noticed this you bitternes, i begin to wonder.

Anyway, i will be forced to believe that you are not like this for REAL and that you are just trying to form what you are not because you are behind your lappy.

Do have a good day and week ahead of you. Thanks

eighTHREAD: that's the only language unreasonable people understand. IMO

SO that makes the 2 of you then. YOU and THEM.

eighTHREAD: yes you are cos how else do I explain the fact that you show up on every thread concerning feminism and also showing support in one form or the other.

I guess it is a coincidence that you also show up on these same thread....mtscheeeeeew. You will never hear. So showing up here means i am a feminist. fine. Noticing something not nice about you and trying to correct you is supporting feminist. fine. If you have also taken time to notice well, you will see that i do not really contribute for or against such threads. I ask questions that are not clear to me and when i get my answers, i keep observing.

So for example, if someone opens a thread about respecting elders and someone insults another person, If you call out the offender and become an advocate of NO INSULTS, that makes you someone that supports been rude to elders? smh for you o.

I am addressing your behavior and not your opinion. SIMPLE.

eighTHREAD: are you willing to listen to the donroxy himself? What has age got to do with contributing to a global issue? How old are you and how old do you think I am? I might be way older than you, so don't let my youthful look which is a blessing from God fool you. I only put up defensive mode(in your own words) when I see someone try to feed me horseshit, or what would you have me do? It's funny how you feminists come up with lame lines like the above as soon as you notice you are getting put to order especially in threads you opened. Old mama

You see what i am talking about? You just called me an old mama. lol. You really know me o. Good for you. Thank God you know you put up defensive mode. Pele o mr youthful look blessing from God. I only refer to age here because you get to question some peoples maturity with their disposition to things. And have people listened to you now................. You are not even getting the point here so no need of flogging a dead horse.

So far, i don't think i have opened any thread that calls for your attention so stop attributing other people's thread to me. Good luck in your record straightening mission.

eighTHREAD: you don't get it do you? That's the next relationship to be tarnished by these satanists after husband and wife relationship.

And what makes you any different from them? You are too verbally violent IMO.....

eighTHREAD: I can't expect any less from a feminist. Keep supporting your kind but don't get mad when guys like me come around to set the records straight.

SO i am now a feminist and you are a what? You just confirmed my suspicions....... lmao......... Enjoy the trophies you get for setting the record straight......

eighTHREAD: what has all this bullshit got to do with your topic? Your topic only shows how much you hate men and willing to do anything to destroy them, bloody feminist. You stinking feminists want men to conform to the women of today who only think about spending someone's salary in making her hair when she's jobless and doing nothing while expecting everything to be done for her but don't want to conform to the men of this new age who prefer to while away time playing video games and listening to rap music which is big business now. Double standards. A thread currently on front page talking about the alarming rate of female prostitution in nigerian campus is getting no comments from ladies, I wonder why.

YOU AGAIN? You don't have to sound so bitter now. Calm down, take a deep breath and slowly and calmly explain your point. The way you address issue like its a fight leaves nothing to be desired. I wonder how you expect people to learn from you if you always go into attack/defensive mode whenever someone is not in sync with your opinion. Sorry for me talking too much. There are people here with stronger opinions than you've got yet they are not like this. And when people start asking how old you are, you will start writing epistle. Na wa for you o. You shout too much. When you are talking and shouting, it either you are deaf, the person you are talking to is deaf or both of you are deaf...........

Take some lessons from donroxy jare.

aisha2: Believe me I have met silly women before who would love to "show off" and end up embarassing themselves. One I know is over 50 and actually brags about it, if you go to their house to show you how much her husband "loves her" she will ask him to get her juice, when he gets back she will ask for water.

Some women can be childish and silly, best believe it

Let her come and try that with my husband.

Oahray: Wow! This thread is a jewel among threads. I had to read every post very slowly. I'm glad I did. I felt surprise, shock, relief, sadness, pity, disappointment, anger and mirth through it all.

@ Godismystrength... I think others have said it all. Make your child your priority. Improve yourself and save for the future. Don't spend on your husband, don't take loans to pay for his responsibilities. Whatever you do, don't give him the key to your account.

Your husband is shameless (sorry o, I would not be happy with myself if I leave out that part). He needs to get realise that he has responsibilities and that it's not okay to push them to you. He cannot live off your sweat and still boss you around. Toughen up your love


May God bless the marriage of every sincere person working hard to make it work.

Amen and thanks.

Royver: Interestingly I worked in a private hospital in Edo state at Akpakpava, Benin City for 6months. During that time I saw 5cases of partner violence. The interesting part was that 3 of those 5 cases was perpetrated by the woman.
The first case was a woman who hit her husband in the head with a mortar while he was preventing her from smacking her kid. The second was a woman who stabbed her husband in the chest using a kitchen knife because he had refused to give her money. The third one was a woman who physically beat her husband and almost blinded his left eye and left scratch marks from her fingernails all over his chest and back. She came with him to hospital weeping and when we asked what happened she said "na temptation." when we asked the man why he didn't defend himself he said he wasn't brought up to hit a woman.
The men beaters were both drunks.
It made me realize that family violence is not the sole domain of the male. its just possible males are more embarrassed to come to hospital.

nonsense temptation. nonsense women.

aisha2: Na so, one day Oga accompanied me and when he saw the instrument shaped like a peni-s and then they inserted a condom on it, he said he no go gree oh, they must buy us dinner, that no wonder am always "looking my best for the scan" lmao

abisquare: @Hispinkolo I need to come 4 lectures on how to over pepper his meals. Lol there re times I just need it to set him straight lmao

i am begging you on his behalf o my sister. Please forgive him in advance. But won't you guys eat from the same pot?

CircleOfWilis: Ur wife is the playrr ,she is causing problems between the two of u so as to prevent u and her sister from involving ursef in stories that touches....

MzMariah: Why did op even request for pounded yam? na there he wan chop he night food?

NA hungry man he be ni. How can you request for such tasking food? I don't blame him sha. It is the couple i blame now for asking what he wants to eat. And when he mentioned pounded yam they could not just say no and give him boiled yam and fried eggs.

But i don't even believe the story because what right thinking wife will have that kind of conversation with hubby in the presence of their guest? Who does/says that?

dotuna3: Is very funny yesterday when i make visit to a family.Though i went to the husband's office and from there he said we are going to his new house he just moved to.Getting home we met the wife and jokingly they said they will give me a good meal and i said i will prefer pounded yam since am just coming into their new apartment not knowing i don cause kasala . After the wife finished putting the yam on fire and the yam is done she called her husband for the pounding the hushand responded with eheeennnnn wetin? i should come and pound what? is like you are sick, is it because i sometime help you in pounding yam?.the woman responded with " how will tell me that is it my duty as a woman to be pounding it after i put it on fire? where do you want me to see the power? is that how uncle seun use to do to his wife?'. for my mind i know i don cause wahala so i said they should not worry i will do the pounding since i get power. lol.


but my qusetion is. who is to do the pounding, the woman or the man?

I can only pound for 2 people and visitors are not included. Just myself and hubby. Visitors should just make do with poundo yam abeg. I can't start developing muscles and hubby won't want anything that will spoil my/our sexy body for me/us.....

bellong:
Antidote for cold....

hispinkolo: Nkan be! imagine putting extra pepper but the person is enjoying it and saying the food is soo sweet.I go cry well well.

@bellong,
You normally give good advice,you need to say something to someone who is in Africaines'position especially since you are a man..Maybe we can see things from a man's perspective?

hispinkolo: The truth is that some good men just have some flaws that are just almost impossible to deal with.
Na to toughen up my dear,love am well well but hol body when he wan mess up.
God willing,things will get better,somehow..Maybe you should try the pepper method

nah. That won't work for him. He is a pepper eater. If i try that, he will just think i am giving him a treat.

aisha2: Lmao, thank you jare, extra clean and new. You know sometimes you can wear that[b] granny panties for comfort ignoring the loose thread by the side[/b]. , especially when Hubby is out of town and you no get power, you just want to wear anything and go out and get back home to sleep.

You are very correct o. couple of days to my EDD, i was so self conscious. I gave down below some nice shaves, shaped my eye brows well, loosed my braids and retouched my hair(didn't want a situation where i will be pulling at it in the heat of labour),got some new panties and bras etc. Hubby was wondering what was going wrong with me with all preparations.....

hispinkolo: @Godismystrength
He know oo cos I confessed.He knows me well well and was eating the pepper cos he knew it was his punishment.He saw one of my writings about him and asked me about it,he tried to explain himself and his behaviour.
He refused to read the dangerous ones though

You are a naughty case. Your Hubby LOVES you VERY much. He is a good man.
I can imagine the look on his face while reading your journal


My hubby is a good man o. Its just this financial management things that's always the problem that refuse to go. We know how we settle our differences. but this particular one na REAL MESS.

hispinkolo: When I wrote mine,to deal with my hubby I was putting extra pepper in his food out of anger and generally being mean.
After all I wrote,I'd come back and read again,then we had a talk and it blew over.
I even have pages and pages in my journal where I've cussed him and his entire family out It helps me to stay sane.
Writing helps,it is therapeutic..

Maybe each week,we should write one thing we like about our husbands?

. I pray he doesn't see this your journal or else...........

Its all those things i like about him that even keeps me going anytime i am about loosing it.

@Africaine

God is your strength o.
Be strong.

hispinkolo: I understand you perfectly but you see in life ehhh,you will hear all sorts.Criticism,even insults but I have learnt to look at everything and take what I need cos to me there is always some wisdom in every critical statement.
Take for example my story,I've not been able to put everything down in writing and some have blamed me for my predicament..I accept what they believe mainly because they don't know everything and it's their own thought but that won't stop me from reading and maybe gaining one thing or two from what they said despite how unhappy their statements make me feel.

People will be harsh and rude,but they aren't doing it to be wicked to you,it's just that they are exasperated and angry at what you are going through and would want you to take drastic action.However,only you knows how hard it is and the situation on ground,so just read and take what you can then move on. Don't take it personal ok dear?

I know you are doing your best,you will be fine!!In life when things get too hard for me,I just remind myself that it must end one day..Something must give.
So,try not to be deleting..We are all here to cheer you on and encourage you. You are also here to cheer us on and encourage us!

E-hugs to you!

thanks.

aisha2: Please feel free to share, apologies for what i wrote earlier, sometimes talking helps us stay calm and not break down or go crazy.

I have seen your mail and sent a response.

nothing to do about you my dear. Not even to do with anyone here. I was just fed up.

aisha2: Hmmm, my dear, how would you now survive?

I will surely survive somehow.

aisha2: Your baby is both your responsibility and he should have paid it back at least 50%,

I know he is suppose to be OUR responsibility but when he is also in support of what his mum said (his mum actually poke to him on phone. I was there with him. And he still told me what his mum said and said i should also reason with her and that what she said is true) then i should know i am on my own.

aisha2: all this " I dont want people to say stuff" wont really help

I wish it is that easy.

hispinkolo: @Godismystrength
Why did you delete your update,it would have helped encourage someonelse.
You have done very well even though you paid it still.
I can understand how difficult it is to take a hardened stance when you are being harassed from all corners,I know that's why you gave in.
It's okay.As you have decided not to fall for anything again,I'll encourage you to stand by your Word. I'm sure you will be tested again soon enough but harden your heart and stand firm.

We are not wearing your shoes so I can only imagine how many sleepless nights you have from thinking. I believe you will start tackling issues one by one till you get to a point where you are able to live with whatever reality is facing you in a way that won't drive you crazy..

Face front,face your baby,face your life...

You are doing a good job ok?!! GOOD JOB SISTER!

I just changed my mind. i am the one that knows whats up with me. Maybe there is really no need of bothering people anymore. Having to see the posts and reading them over again makes me unhappy sometimes. Maybe i will just be watching from the sides. I actually intended deleting all my posts but i discovered that some have been posted so no need.

aisha2: Sent you a mail I think

Yep. got it. and i have responded.

aisha2: I do a wax and wear clean underwear.

hanhan..before nko? Is it not clean underwear you wear everyday ni? Maybe you want to say new underwear.
Don't mind me o.

aisha2: Lol Sister, I think you were supposed to accept the link and follow it not send it back to me

don't mind me. I don't know how it works too. i clicked the link but it took me to your profile.

pickabeau1: All due respect this is still windowdressing... the issue still remains

okay.