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aisha2: God bless you and keep you.
I get so overwhelmed reading things here. Then you go to HCT clinic and see plenty "see no evil say no evil " wives testing positive during antenatal. Yet we treat cheating as a non issue that wives should accept.If a man wants to play with his life fine but if he is having unprotected se-x with me I have a right to be aware and protect myself

Exactly. A man goes out to have all those sexcapades with women of all shapes and sizes and still wants to come back to use same instrument on wifey? hell NO.......
When i go to make my hair and the likes, i go with my own items to avoid stories that touch so why won't i be bothered with something of that magnitude.
I am so sure that a man that is having unprotected sex outside with not come home and use condom with his wife...

snazzylove: .

I guess the woman is as guilty as her hubby for keeping her status from her husband till she found proof. What if she didn't find any proof, i am sure she would have done the same thing hubby did. So i don't think she is innocent either.....

Who knows whether the hubby was also thinking like her and wondering where he got it from but was too afraid to ask the wife.

BellaSwan: The earlier wives realize that most men cheat, the better it will be for everyone. I suspect ur husband has always done this but u never noticed. U can talk to him about it has gently as possible cos trust me he'll try to accuse u for invading his privacy. Also, u need to play ur part as a good wife n forget about other female distractions.

So what now happens when the husband comes home with HIV and Co that he harvested from these ''other female distractions''

Why can't we just be an advocate of ''NO CHEATING'' instead of trying to encouraging it and expecting the woman to accept it and act like all is well. It is one thing for your partner to be cheating on you without your knowledge, it is another thing for you to be aware and be expected to KEEP QUIET. I don't know if i can take that o.

yorex2011: Didn't mention money...

I mentioned money because of your reference to dangote. Sorry if i got you wrong. But what makes it okay for her not to complain if it is dangote sending her on errands?

yorex2011:
One question... If na dangote dey send her errands like dat, will she grumble?? If not.. Then make she no grumble to d husband

Sorry to ask but is MONEY power enough reason to treat your spouse the way you like?

MARKone: Stay off your spouse's fone
Did he tell you to answer his phone for him, or you don turn to answering machine.

See what she wrote

Jenchi: I woke up to use the bathroom and my husband’s phone was buzzing about 11pm.

He was fast asleep as I picked his phone and saw nude pictures of a girl named Tolu who lives in Akure. Apparently he has been begging her to send pictures saying how much he misses her and calling her same pet names he calls me.

Are you saying she should have ignored the ringing phone seeing that hubby is sleeping or maybe she should have gone to wake hubby and tell him his phone is ringing.

This marriage thing is a serious business. If you ask whether there should be privacy with your phone in marriage, people will ask you what you need privacy for and ask what you are trying to hide. If you pick phone, they will ask you what business you have with your spouse's phone and that when you find something you will definitely see something.

@OP- Please try and talk to you husband first. He might have an explanation for that. Pele pupo.

cococandy: Insist she pays you.
Tell her you're tracing her and if she doesn't pay up you'll catch her and make her pay.

Just kiss the friendship goodbye after that though.
So choose one. Your money or the friendship.

Even as it stands, the friendship is already goodbye. Whether she pays now or not, i doubt if they can still continue to be friends.

@OP- Since you said the money is not that much, why not just forget about her and the money and stop wasting your credit calling her. It is so obvious that she has no intention of paying.

Forget about her parents living in USA and them being rich. It could be all lies from her just to ''feel among''. Maybe those expensive things she buys then are money from somewhere else and not from her parents.

Floodgater: Now dont you just love nl-this thread especially where ladies not only have equal right but also have their husbands answer their names eg Mr babygirlfl, Mr shaybebaby, Mr naijababe, Mr lydndaroyce, Mr lorreta u, Mr phema, Mr aisha2, Mr qdamcel, Mr Nkechi, Mr Patience Jonathan..... Oya ladies the floor is open, come and make your hubby answer your name.

Where is your wife? abi you are Mrs Floodgater

babygirlfl: Thanks for sharing and may God bless him. Honestly that's why this thread was needed. To make us appreciate and celebrate the good husbands. Maybe it will make the bad husbands think twice. As for some men in NL, I somehow think they just say what they would not do in real life but that might just be the way I see it.

Me too because most times, i just wonder what actually goes on in their minds..

Godmystrength: typing.........

This thread got me reflecting big time. I thought about my hubby and all the good things about him. I kept typing and typing away. When i looked at what i had typed and still having more to type, i had to delete the longggggggggggggggggggg epistle and come to the conclusion that my husband is the best. Even with all our issues, he is still the best unless i want to be deceitful.

No one could have been able to cope with me better than you are doing. No one would have been able to tolerate all my excesses and many other things

Though we have pending issues but i am very sorry for complaining. To those that were there to give one or two advices, thanks to you all. Our issues still remains but in all these, i promise to no longer complain and work harder to make things better.

I still thank you for making me your choice and i have no regret choosing you.

I LOVE YOU, I LOVE YOU and I LOVE YOU. You are a GOOD man and i know you will be better with time......

Plus you are not like some men on NL yet you are not a butt licking nigga or a pvssy.. because if you were anything close to that, i might have disappeared out of your life longgggggggggggg time ago.

typing.........

egopersonified: Thought someone opened a thread about ways your
husband says I love you without saying it, this is just one of those
ways.

okay o

onirugbon1: Talking about seeing bodies am I late?

no you are not late. we are just starting. let's start with you

eighTHREAD: what point?

That you can have a sane conversation with people and get your opinion across without insult or verbal violence. If you can keep your conversations this way, even when you are talking ''rubbish'' (not saying you talk rubbish. Just an example) people will be eager to listen to the ''rubbish'' and it might even make sense to them.

Calm down and people will listen to you

eighTHREAD: pardon my mistake.

You are pardoned.

eighTHREAD: picture or am chatting with a ghost

That you have a picture here does not mean you cant be a ghost as well. What if that picture is the picture of your ghost?

I am not having this conversation with you because i am jobless. But just to proof a point to you.

eighTHREAD: no! Body language is an idiom, so don't take it literally. Still don't mind seeing your face or else I agree am talking to a ghost

Body language an idiom?? Okay. Have you seen everybody's face on NL? Are you saying majority of NL are ghosts?

It depends on why he is sending her on all errands. maybe he is on a wheelchair or something. If not, he needs to get up sometimes and walk around and try to do things himself. What if the wife travels?

But if na the wife spoil him like that then na ''gbe agbelebu re'' meaning carry your own cross because it won't be easy for her to change it.
Any attempt to change will lead to the husband saying stuffs like: you are becoming lazy these day, you are becoming insubordinate these days, you are beginning to have bad friends teaching you bad things or maybe you have started cheating on me and that is why you don't obey me again etc.

Some people are like that not because they are wicked but because of their kind of upbringing where they have different people at their beck and call.

As for me, my hubby can send an unborn child on errands. But he knows better than to send me on some of those his errands. I just use to pity those he sends on those his errands. Sometimes, it can be so embarrassing that i will excuse myself....

eighTHREAD: your face will do.

That hasn't answered my question. Have you seen me/my body on NL??

eighTHREAD: your body language passed you off as such. Am sorry then. Btw, which one you be? And can I see a pic of you?

. Have you seen me/my body on NL

Which one am i out of what?

No you can't.

eighTHREAD: I don't have. I was just an observing guest who had to register when he couldn't take the fact that you feminists were having a field day on NL

Why do you have to address me personally as a feminist? That is not too good. That is a false accusation.

Godmystrength: and for the second time,is that you on your profile?

eighTHREAD: it means am going to land on any thread that promotes feminism cos I believe their posts reeks of eigh.thread

So you had to register on nairaland because of them feminists?? well i think you are ''poly-monikering''... What is your real nairaland ID? and for the second time, is that you on your profile?

eighTHREAD: it's not there yet na

okay means that i will tap you when it gets there.

besides what is the meaning of this your ID? hatred?

eighTHREAD: A nairalander should tap me when this hits front page

Okay

onirugbon1: Better ignore.
I can guarantee its just as nice as how good you prepare the wet akara too. You can always try it out to confirm.

okay.

onirugbon1: Oh for your baby? Alright its free

Oh so sweet of you. Thanks a lot.

okirewaju: Yes and you also have to ensure that you go to the engine early so that you'll be the first person to grind when the engine is still dry or if you have a powerful blender(say from 750W) or a food processor they can be used instead

Its basically the same way we grind unripe plantain for amala

okay thanks

georgee: Good day pple. I need to report a neighbour of mine who overly maltreats her 9yr Old Maid. She beats her like a criminal at the slightest provokasion. Hits her head against the wall and kick her like a footballer wen on d floor. This woman is an illiterate who doesnt knw aw to write ABC. I av confronted her so many times to stop this act, but she wont listen. Pls if anybody knws the phone numbers/email address of any child abuse orgnaisation, abeg give me.. This 9yr old must nt die.. As i write, she is currently sick without any medication. I stay in surulere Lagos

9 years old MAID?? So pathetic.....

Rufex07: The man should quit the job. But the wife must agree to split her salary into two. That of the husband's must be paid directly into his account by the woman's company monthly. gaskia!

Which company does that?

So assuming that is even possible, so when the salary is paid (into their accounts), what will now happen?
Will they now sit down to decide how to spend the money or the woman will keep her portion and the man will spend his own on the family or vice versa?

Anyway my own point is that if it gets to the point where the condition has to be that company pays half of wifey's salary into hubby's account, then i think none of them have any business resigning o. Abi what's the point of sharing salary into two? Is it still not going into the same family purse? If they have this mentality of sharing, then noone should resign. whatever will suffer should suffer at their own risk sha.....

Is that how hubbys of housewives share their salary into 2 and tell their company to pay half into wifey's account? Na question i ask o before that old papa will follow me here now and start talking....

coogar: nothing ventured nothing gained.
tell him to sample the three of them & choose which one suits him the best.

fr3do: So you can actually leave politics and bigotry and comment on a feminine thread?!

Op, ignore people's suggestions about grinding beans into flour. Akara made from bean flour is wack!

You can wake up early enough daily to soak and grind beans every morning, you sound(write) like a real African woman, just take it as exercise.

Are you serious about the ''Akara made from bean flour is wack!''

Waking up early everyday ke? That's assuming that OP is a stay at home mum. What about for the women that have to go to work early and get home late. Except she will have to limit the eating of akara to just Saturdays and Sundays.