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dre11: no probs.......
I gat u on that one


will be waiting for u to shoot the infor
btw....... sorry i didn't invite u for lunch, i think its time spent now

enjoy your lunch alone o. eat alone, ................

dre11: will be waiting

My first blind date i may say. There was the guy i met somehow (can't even remember how again whether facebook or phone call. its been long sha). we got talking and we seem to be getting along on a platonic level initially. after a while, we decided to take it to the next level. We arranged to meet. On the said day when i saw him, i felt so inadequate for him. I am not taking about beauty wise but stature wise. He has actually told me that he is tall and solidly built and i was like ''i am tall as well' so what. But because i was tall and slim, i felt like a child compared to him. He was just about 5inches taller than me but he was BIG. well in my mind i was like not to big, still okay. we got talking and some talk led to some talk and i got to know that he just got out of a relationship where the gf dumped him because he was the ''no sex before marriage person''. she wanted sex meanwhile, the agreement initially was no sex until marriage only for the girl to change her mind. In my mind i was like wow!! good man. exactly the kind of man i want o. we had a nice time and the meeting went well. When it was time for me to go, he dropped me off at my bus stop. After that day, i noticed that he stopped picking my calls. this happened for some days. i now sent a text msg to inquire about the change in attitude. He sent me a msg and was like ''I am sorry for all this, you have what i want in my woman but i don't think anything can work between us. I don't think i am ready to go into a sexless relationship and you don't seem to want sex because of your status(i was still innocent then). So let us just end it here.'' was i pained? YES i was but i stopped calling him and forgot about him.

dre11:
that bolded part got me confused.....
Anyway i will let it slide away since u don't wanna talk


will be waiting
guess the day has being all good 2 u.

i am trying to say that i don't want to go into the description of the person because i don't want to commit sin this afternoon.

And also trying to tell you that i have had other dates that was the other way round.

dre11:
oh mah gosh.........


*just asking mah self...... what would a lady see and she felt like the ground should swallow her up,
that means that thing must be.............*

but, i bet u its was his dressing and packaging that put u off,
or is there sometin else, because ur preference might differ from another person preference

it wasn't his dressing or packaging o. in fact, dressing and packaging was tight. would have been better on someone else o. let me not even go there abeg. I NO WAN COMMIT SIN THIS AFTERNOON. Before you start thinking of me as a bad person - for the records, i had other dates that i was the one at the receiving end o. will tell you about one in a moment.

Bigsteveg: Would u rather want the husband to beat the hell out of the wife, if the man had taken revenge, women will come out crying dat he shouldn't have, and dat u cant compare a man punch with a woman punch. Can u now see y i always say women are a very confused set of being.

dre11:
u made up ur mind ATM not to have anytin to do with him, u barred his brother from calling u
and all time u think about it when eating u did say u puke.........

So, no way of going back as in liala
i know 7yrs is a long time and he had moved on...

#just asking.......... is that the only blind date u had

I know. I was talking about when it was still fresh. i didn't tell anyone. and no point of bringing it up later na.

I had other blind dates sha. see another one here.

Godmystrength: I was coming from the office one night and a guy just walked up to me and was trying to do the usual toasting things. It was so late in the night and i was so tired and didn't want to be kept waiting and that made me commit a great blunder - i gave him my number that he should call me later. The guy called later and we got talking on regular basis. Because it was night, i didn't see his face well and was sure i won't even be able to recognize him. He got so interested in me and was so talking and already planning marriage things. Saying he is so ready to marry me now and then. I was not interested in the guy but i was using him to kill boredom.

One day, he called to ask where i was and i told him i was working from a client's office at so and so place just for him to tell me that he was somewhere around the area and will like to come check on me. I told him no problem and he said he was going to be there. Lo and behold, after some minutes, i was told that i had a visitor and i went out to the reception area to see him.OMG!!!!!!! when i saw him, it was as if the ground should open and swallow me o.(God please forgive me o. I don't want to talk about it sef). I was like 'no wonder he was still single at his age with all his achievements. I was just looking around to make sure there was nobody around to see us together. (i am sure the receptionist would be wondering what the heck). The guy was trying to act all lovey. He bought me cake (different flavors because he said he didn't know my favorite). I didn't want to embarrass him so i collected the cake and lied that i was actually in a meeting with the client and only excused myself to see him. I told him we will talk later on phone and thanked him for the cake.

After he left, i stopped picking his calls and avoided him.

I check on my baby and then check the time on my phone.

dre11:
its mah pleasure, good to know you


good u took that way out and you didn't let it out because am so sure most ladies would have follow the other way round by making jest of they guy and so on.


How has the day being and i guess work is going on well?

Abi o. God forbid but what if i had ended up marrying him, will i now go back and tell people that his teeth are now white or what?.

Good day so far. and hoping that it will be good all through. work is as usual o

Churchill96: If I ever give birth to a disabled child, I'll kill it

dre11: he don tay ooooo
and u bottle it up for that long time......

U must have a deep mind that bottle up alot of things

yes na. What if i tell someone(say Mr A) and later in future, we meet again and Mr A happens to know him, won't that be so embarrassing and not fair on the guy. Asides that, if i tell someone, you know there is no way they won't make jest of him and that is what i don't want. And this is nairaland, I FIT DENY SAY NO BE ME TALK AM since no one else knows this my username.


[size=4pt]I think i like you. Will you be my friend? [/size]

In my baby's bag.

dre11: cheesy
oh mah goshcheesy
na how many months the tin stay self.....
U try ooogringrin

so, as u let am go now......... hope u will let the image go so...... so that u can eat wellwink

dancok: no mind Godmystrength because of wetin self,u should have another way of telling him not by what u did,well sorry for d guy.i just pity d guy..

@dre11- for more than 7years o.
@dancok- What did i do? By telling him that i am not interested and that he should stop calling me? Pray please tell me how i should have handled it in case of next time o. I have read other people's stories here and i don't think my action was the worst o. MAKE UNA NO VEX O i won't do that again. infact, no more experience sharing again, na to just dey observe.

AfricanApple: no dey feel for dat guy joor, he fit marry one of d best women for dis planet sef

na true you talk sha but the guy never marry now sef. I dey see him for facebook wella and na long long time ago this thing happen o.

dre11: eatery no be place.....
Where u drop no be place.........
I dey sure say the guy no dey Nl because he will surely know

dre11: in that case, that one no concern me again o. eatery full every where na.


no mind me joor......
I just wan see ur post again

am glad i acheive that
but, i sure say u go mumu d guy die when u got home

I didn't even tell anyone at home. This is the first time i am talking about it sef. the thing just dey inside my belle ni o but now wey i don talk am, my belle don reduce.

dre11:
tar.......
I no even sabi the place u discribe self

Did i even describe any place? na

dre11: i completely understand yah
u be mah person nah
but, t[b]hat discription too hard on that innocent soul nah[/b]

thats nah wetin i dey try tell her...........

I am only able to say this because it is a faceless forum and i left out so many details. So even if he is here, he might not know he is one. I won't be that detailed in telling that to him face to face o.

dre11:
na sometin i dey do oooo
i dey over multitask mah brain so i no see say nah teeth she dey talk........
But, d discription of the teeth no be am......... how correct looking guy go get such a bad, crooked, infested teeth she talked about.....
When d guy no dey sell 'goro' for market

dre11:
nah person teeth u describe so ......

But, am still trying to come in terms with that discription because am sure the teeth won't be as bad as the way u paint it

is that YOU??

dre11: have picked what i want...... dentation, chewing habits and........

you still dont get it. Not dentition, neither is it chewing habit. He has ''spirogyraed'' layered teeth. Not even scaling and polishing can help him.

Godmystrength: .................good dentition but at that point where the tooth meets the gum, i thought i was looking a some spirogyra in a biology lab...............Anytime i remember this story and the picture of his teeth comes to my mind any food i am eating at that time goes to the dustbin o. God help me jare. If i marry that kind of man, that means no kissing be that o. and he must not touch my cup or spoon. Yuck!!!............

dre11: i no hold u nah......
Mah bad......
So nah hin dentation carry u leave the guy

.......
Anyway nah u get food to dey waste if you think about am and the next thing nah to carry the food for dustbin

Read it again slowly

dre11: u said everything about him is perfect except his eating habit........
And because of that u dump him

anyway its ur choice, but don't u think u can teach him to make him conform to your ways.....
Abi you think say u tooo no get flaws

where exactly did i say eating habit? na wa for you o. Abeg leave me alone o.

Godmystrength: .................good dentition but at that point where the tooth meets the gum, i thought i was looking a some spirogyra in a biology lab...............Anytime i remember this story and the picture of his teeth comes to my mind any food i am eating at that time goes to the dustbin o. God help me jare. If i marry that kind of man, that means no kissing be that o. and he must not touch my cup or spoon. Yuck!!!............

SpaceGoat: insalt?

nope. insugar

dancok: ah!ah!! Babe is unfair u should not have acted like that,ah u broke his heart.pray 4 forgiveness,at least tell him very calmly.

are you the guy's brother?

tell him what exactly?

Dazzlee: @bolded....seriously?



@post....why would I even marry someone like that? You would have seen warning signs of such behaviour before saying 'I do' nah.

What if there was no warning sign? except we are saying that it is IMPOSSIBLE for people to CHANGE for whatever reason.

brabus: Indeed, she really has a different story to tell when she had a miscarriage[i](mom had left though)[/i]. She wished my mom was there. My mom is not God but she treats her DIL's like her own child.

#talkingaboutmyownmom

Thank God you said this. Some MILs treat their DILs like piece of shit who has only come to reap where they did not sow yet they cry foul when her own daughters come to report their MILs to them. They want to be 100% in charge of their own house and also 100% in charge in their son's house. They pray for good MILs for their daughters yet they are terrible MILs to someone else daughter. And some men don't even help matters. when there is a problem between MIL and DIL, they just assumed that its the DIL that must be at fault. They want DIL to treat MIL like their own mothers but what SIL can do to MIL and get away with it, if DIL does same, na family meeting things ooo.

nairalife2013: .

Na wa o. You and this your wife.

Imagine a woman that wont allow her own MIL in her matrimonial home but will now turn herself to mario in her son's house when she becomes MIL and now make the house hell for DIL because she will already be prepared and just assume that her DIL might be a replica of herself. She won't want to be treated the same way she treated her own MIL. May God just help us.

Sophyrocks: The first bolded is very True. Some people have terrible mothers who are manipilative and controlling. This is very common with people whose mothers have been controlling them right before they even got married. But these same people expect you to cope with them just like that. In fact, interference from family/relatives is one of the major cause of divorce. People just have to learn how to be balanced and avoid interference at all cost.

At the 2nd bolded, God forbid o!! Your mum is over trying ooooo. Pounded yam every single time? Haba!! You have not heard of those that after preparing food for them, they will say No they dnt want to eat that one o, they want to eat something else. After all the ceremony of putting the food together? Is that not wickedness? A woman i know got stroke and died simply because she aged sooo quickly out of stress of caring for her husband's mother. As old as she was, she was still doing hard work, going to the market and cook. She has being caring for her since they got married. Now she is dead but the husband's mother is still alive o. All their children ran away from home because of how difficult their grandmother is. Who wan stay for that house dey do wetin? I have a feeling that some men purposely get married so as to bring a woman to care for their mothers till the end of time. SMH.

You are right jare. I don't think i can be as tolerant as she is. Imagine her saying she wants to start selling things. ask her where? In my mummy's shop o (My mummy has a shop built with her house where she sells provision when she comes back from work and during weekends). She wanted to take over the shop. When her wahala became too much, to avoid trouble, my mum had to vacate the shop for her. But she now also wants my mummy to be the one to go to the market to buy the things she will be selling in the shop. My mummy no gree that one o. Now the shop is there and nobody is using it and she is happy. You can imagine if that shop was my mum's only source of income. it won't have been easy for her to let go and that would have led to another trouble. Her other children don't even visit or call her and when they even call my daddy, they don't want to talk to her. And she sef no send them. Anytime you talk about money to her hearing, she will quickly rush to her room to go and count her money.

When you think about MIL ish, na just confusion things. Just that there are also very good MILs that you would even prefer them to your own mother.

Another one that i remembered was a guy i met on phone. i think wrong number thingy sha. to cut story short, we started talking on phone and the guy didn't mince word and said straight away that what he wanted was a relationship that will lead to marriage. I was like how can you be talking about that with someone you haven't met. So we agreed to meet in one eatery. When i saw this guy, mehn he was . Handsome, well dressed, well composed bla bla bla. in fact, na dream man. to talk true, i don dey excited o. when we entered the eatery, we sat down and we got talking. I wasn't looking straight into his eyes. i was busy admiring him in my mind and already thinking of so many things ooo .

He now said he was hungry and needed to take something. I told him i was hungry too but would just like to have snacks. we went to get our order and came back to our seat. And that was it. He opened his mouth to continue talking and my breakfast almost came back to my mouth. Jesu Kristi!!!! See teeth!! good dentition but at that point where the tooth meets the gum, i thought i was looking a some spirogyra in a biology lab.
OMG, i felt so like vomiting and my appetite for the snack just disappear. I just endured it and allowed him finish his food. He asked why i wasn't eating and i told him i was no longer hungry and would take the snacks home. When i finally escaped and got home, i couldn't even tell anybody.

when he called me later, i told him straight away that he should please stop calling mu number again. He asked whether he has offended me and i said NO but i don't just want to talk to him again. His brother called to beg me but i also told him to help me beg his brother not to call me again o. Anytime i remember this story and the picture of his teeth comes to my mind any food i am eating at that time goes to the dustbin o. God help me jare. If i marry that kind of man, that means no kissing be that o. and he must not touch my cup or spoon. Yuck!!!

SO people know the kind of mothers they have and they know how difficult it is for them to even cope with them but they just expects that their spouse should be able to achieve that by default. It is not easy jare.

In my grandma's case, i am sure if it was my mummy that brought her mother and she behaves in like manner, my daddy won't even take half of the things my mummy is coping with. Imagine her still pounding yam at her age for my grandmother because that is what she wants to eat. she will not eat any poundo yam or machine yam o except she hears you pounding with mortal and pestle. if you give her eba, amala, semo etc,, she will carry the food to keep in her room and she will just be crying.

whenever the issue of MIL is mentioned, the guys always assume it is only their mother that is been referred to here. The babe's mother is also a MIL. Some MILs(both sides) are just so troublesome.

Example is my grandmother (my father's mother). She once said she can't stay in lagos so all the children agreed to be sending feeding money to her and also be visiting her from time to time. When she now fell sick, my dad now insisted that she must leave the village and come stay with one of her children so that she will be well taken care of. The children agreed to take her to one of her daughter's place(the daughter is a housewife) and my daddy was sending her feeding money to her. After a while, another of her daughter sent my daddy a very BAD text msg abusing him that he refuse to take care of his mother (she included some medical jargons about granma having high BP, high sugar etc) and that if his mother dies in an inlaw's place, then shame on him.

My daddy was so scared and told them to bring her to lagos for care. when she came and we took her to the hospital for checks, the doctors said she was okay and didn't have any of the things my aunty said. My grandma has been living with us since then. It was later we discovered that they just planned and stylishly came to abandon her with us. Their reason been that my grandma is too extravagant, can't be satisfied, her eating habit is expensive to maintain, and that when my daddy sends her feeding money, she will keep her money to herself and she will be dictating what she likes to eat. Meanwhile, my parents are working class and all the children are out of the house(some of us married and last child in university) which means that she will be the only one left alone in the house till they come back and she can dictate like dictator. There was a day my mummy served her food and she was eating. when she heard my daddy's voice from outside, she started crying. imagine you as a man coming back from work and meet your mother crying while eating.

Thank God for my daddy(he knows what his mother is capable of doing) he didn't even look at her side. when she noticed my daddy wasn't concerned, she cleaned her face and finished her food. later my daddy now asked her why she was crying earlier and you can imagine what she said. She said that nobody use to eat her remnant(i.e. when she doesn't finish her food, we don't use to eat it, that my mummy use to pour it away). infact, i can go on and on. You can imagine if it was my mother complaining about her and telling her daughters to come and take her, i am sure people will say that she wont do that if it was her mother. Imagine the daughters saying that it my mummy that can accommodate her because they know that she won't be able to complain as per MIL things.

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I was coming from the office one night and a guy just walked up to me and was trying to do the usual toasting things. It was so late in the night and i was so tired and didn't want to be kept waiting and that made me commit a great blunder - i gave him my number that he should call me later. The guy called later and we got talking on regular basis. Because it was night, i didn't see his face well and was sure i won't even be able to recognize him. He got so interested in me and was so talking and already planning marriage things. Saying he is so ready to marry me now and then. I was not interested in the guy but i was using him to kill boredom.

One day, he called to ask where i was and i told him i was working from a client's office at so and so place just for him to tell me that he was somewhere around the area and will like to come check on me. I told him no problem and he said he was going to be there. Lo and behold, after some minutes, i was told that i had a visitor and i went out to the reception area to see him.OMG!!!!!!! when i saw him, it was as if the ground should open and swallow me o.(God please forgive me o. I don't want to talk about it sef). I was like 'no wonder he was still single at his age with all his achievements. I was just looking around to make sure there was nobody around to see us together. (i am sure the receptionist would be wondering what the heck). The guy was trying to act all lovey. He bought me cake (different flavors because he said he didn't know my favorite). I didn't want to embarrass him so i collected the cake and lied that i was actually in a meeting with the client and only excused myself to see him. I told him we will talk later on phone and thanked him for the cake.

After he left, i stopped picking his calls and avoided him.