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taryour: And when there is no cash to get the washing machine nko?wunt she wash her hubby cloths before they get a machine??
@op yes its the woman duty to keep her hubby clothes clean at all times, I did my hubby laundry including mine and my sons before I got a washing machine. All fingers aint equal so not every family can afford all this washing machine,dish washer,vacuum cleaners,e.t.c. Every woman should know her matrimonial duties before getting married to avoid unwanted and unreasonable trouble.
I just pity all this young single ladies who think marriage is forever smooth with constant flow of cash.

yes, my sister, i agree its woman's duty to wash her hubby's cloths, i did before we get washing machine and im still doing it right now with washing machine, but i cant do it for a man who speaks about it like this.......

okwutency: To me, my woman must wash my cloths o no matter what.

What about you?

afterall, im not a slave, i deserve some respect, and remember, action and reaction are equal and opposite.

taryour: And when there is no cash to get the washing machine nko?wunt she wash her hubby cloths before they get a machine??
@op yes its the woman duty to keep her hubby clothes clean at all times, I did my hubby laundry including mine and my sons before I got a washing machine. All fingers aint equal so not every family can afford all this washing machine,dish washer,vacuum cleaners,e.t.c. Every woman should know her matrimonial duties before getting married to avoid unwanted and unreasonable trouble.
I just pity all this young single ladies who think marriage is forever smooth with constant flow of cash.

yes, my sister, i agree its woman's duty to wash her hubby's cloths, i did before we get washing machine and im still doing it right now with washing machine, but i cant do it for a man who speaks about it like this.......

okwutency: To me, my woman must wash my cloths o no matter what.

What about you?

afterall, im not a slave, i deserve some respect, and remember, action and reaction are equal and opposite.

okwutency: To me, my woman must wash my cloths o no matter what.

What about you?

i can wash my hubby's cloth, infact i do, but not to a man who speak like the above................"no matter what o".....what for am i a slave, is that why i get married to him, is he amputated.........any man's request that ends with this type of assertion will have to sort himself out on anything.
Action and reaction are equal and opposite.
May God help us all.

RedBenson: @greatgod2012, having time to mark down my username on an ananimous public forum whereby even if u see me on the road, u wont event know it's me is a complete waste of ur time. However, i'll advice u find somthing better doing than being on nairaland marking down people's usernames for frivolity cases. It will pay u better even if it's to sell perewinkle in the market.

That being said, am off for medicine.

As for others, hmmmmmm, will be ride back soon.

O boy, eeeeya, what a childish post that i marked your username does not mean i will hate you in real life or i wont relate with you well if we come across each other, but what i mean by marking your username is that i have already marked you out as a poster with low IQ.........so, i pray for you, may God heal and restore your brain....... Amen.

Siena: 9,000,000,000,000 likes sis.

thanks, thanks, and thanks sir, oga siena.

Siena: No one has any issues with your career choice. Your crass responses on a thread you created, and disgusting comments are what any decent humans reading will, and do have problems with.

Your thought process is frankly disturbing.

help me to tell him o, it seems the boy is a teen, and sounds/types so disgustingly, may God heal him.

taryour: If at your age you have such acts in your brain,your future daughters wont be safe at all neither will your female neighbors be safe. Its the likes of you that go about molesting young girls or even end up as one of those God forsaken men that go abt r.a.p.i.ng females.
Don't feel bad o cause this is how it begins. Shior
eranko jati-jati.

i feel sorry for him and i have already marked his username.

RedBenson: who gives a fucken damn abt whatever thrashes u pple type here. That cant stop me from changing my career to medicine.

Do u have any propblem with that?

dont worry, we already know you, by their posts we shall know you and we all have known you and believe me, your username have been marked.

May God help you.

iikkwwoo: Please advice, if a husband borrows money from his wife to pay her bride price and has not paid back, are they. Really married?

yes, they are married, because he could have borrowed the money to do another thing, so,what he used the money for is not really relevant but his willingness to pay back when he has the money is the most important thing.
May God help him.

RedBenson: Omo heeh! Doctors dey enjoy o free of charge.

Infact i don change my mind.

***dumping my career to go study medicine (gyno in particular)***

I wan follow enjoy. Imagine me playing wit commissioner's wife pusssy and be touching different pusssies everyday. E for make sense naw.

RedBenson: @taryour, me 15? Then u r wrong then. Infact, add 12yrs to that 15, that may come near my age.

Besides, Even if i am 48, do u think i cannot quit my career to go for medicine for the fun of it? Men love punny, that is natural! Where punny is found, that is where u wil see men.

i have accepted that i wasted my time replying your thread, i never knew the op has empty brain on his head while asking the question, i thought the thread was going to be educating and expository until i saw these empty posts from the op, i wish you quick recovery from your empty and useless brain.

Im not being tribalistic here, i really want to say/type what i saw with my two eyes korokoro.

Some people are doing it right here in our obodo Nigeria here.
One of my mum's tenants, a calabar woman, did it for all her children, she sells stuff at the market, and when shes going to the market or elsewhere, she always leave her baby at home and she would instruct the elderly children to take the baby to one iya Akpan, at another time, it may be iya Florence for bosom feeding when the baby cries, and some of those women also bring their babies to her, if shes also breastfeeast at that time to help them bosomfeed their babies when they aint around........, so they all do it for one another. At a point, i approached the woman, i mean that our tenant to ask her why they do such thing, i tried to educate her, that, such a practise is not healthy for the child involved, she disagreed with me, that, nothing is wrong with it, that, there is no difference in every woman's bosom milk, she said, bosom milk is bosom milk, regardless of whoever gives it. She said that is their own way of accepting that they love one another and that they see themselves as one family in their own tribe. She even jokingly attacked me, that, this is better than giving our kids cow milk, which is why our (we yorubas and some other elites)children behaves like cow.


Well, well, well, that was her opinion, i have never done it and i will never, i will suggest formular feeding if anything goes wrong with the mother.
One thing those who do it doesnt consider is.......what if the other woman is having an underlying disease, hhhhhmmmm,well, to each her own.
May God help us all.

slimyem: In summary,a good wife must be completely angelic abi nor be so?

Vikin: This ur list na wa o!

Na old age be dat!

they are what the bible says, not me, but i try to possess the ones i am able to possess to the best of my ability.
May God help me and all of us.

RedBenson: Based on the rate of things that happen in labour room btwn the woman and the male doctor during child birth as nothing (absolutely) is hidden b4 d doctor, do such women become ashamed when they see such doctors elsewhere?

how i wish you are a woman, so that you will be able to answer this question yourself. However, as for me, im aint ashamed, whenever i see them, because they did what i expect them to do.

SniperInADiaper: ^^^^

A good wife knows all of those things.

a good wife knows it all, but doing or practising it is another thing. However, whoever knows what is good and refuse to do it has decided to be bad and wicked. We all need the grace of God and determination to possess the qualities.
May God help us all.

Funny but true, however, i dont agree with number 3, one can still regain one's dignity if one really works about it.

lanre80: @ Op
All has been said. I read through your post and followed statements, and i found out that your case is just like mine. Talking about admission, assigments, pockect money, money for hairdo etc all these i provided. But she left with same excuse admidst all plea from me, families and friends. In my own case i think she gave five months but left after only two months. Later, I got to know she was dating a guy from her place(~he has a job, a car etc). But then i had this strenght within me that i will make it. Two months after she left me, i got a good paying job with an official car, laptop, phone etc. But do you know what happened to my ex? Her new man left her. Though we're still friends, It's been two years, she still searching while i'm married to a more beautiful woman who also has a well paying job.
pls be cheerful and hold onto God. He will surely come to your rescue.e

thank God for you and this is why i always say, "all things work for good for those who love Him.

Im a lady, but i just dont like it when a lady is only for goody-goody alone. Haba!

A real lesson learnt...........so hillariously true.

Sister, you are so lucky, you've got the best advice you could get, its now left for you to decide. Make the right decision, so that you wont have run back to NL seeking for help on why your hubby do not show concern about your matters again.
I sincerely wish you goodluck(not our presido o) in the decision you are about to make.

One more thing, stop running to your parents when you and your hubby have issues, it wont earn you any respect.
Shalom!

I will like to put the question this way.......

What makes a man a man

1. Maturity.
2. Sense of responsibility.
3. Ability to make decision and be able to stand with his decision.
4. Financial independence.
5. Sense of reasoning, no matter the age of a man, if he doesnt reason well, he would be addreesed like a kid.
6. Accurate sense of judgement.
7. Self control and self discipline.
8. Ability to control one's emotion.
9. Leadership quality.
10. Accountability
May God help our men.

All i can say is, May God help us all.
And besides, lets not all be weary in good doing, with time, all these bad leader will be no more and if we are all good to one another, if we all become law-abiding, if we all become God-fearing, if we all see ourselves as one and start to see ourselves as brothers and sister, i think there will be a drastic reduction in our national and general corruption and injustice.
Once again, may God help us all.

The qualities of a good wife, hhhhhmmmmm, they are so many, and it takes the grace of God and determination to be one.
However, proverbs 31:10upward give us a clue into the qualities of a good wife.
It starts with a question.......who can find a virtuos wife? For her price is far more above jewels.
I have tried to summarise the qualities in such a way that it is understandable and acceptable and practicable for all wives and wives-to-be.
Now lets go......
A good wife........
*Must be her hubby's confidence and companion.
*Must be good to her hubby and children.
*Must be trustworthy, reliable and responsible.
*Must be industious, hardworking and diligent.
*Must be submissive to her hubby.
*Must be intelligent, wise and tactful.
*Must be an helpmate to her hubby.
*Must know how to cook/prepare delicacies for her family.
*Must be financialy independent.
* Must not cheat on her hubby.
*Must support her hubby's dreams and aspirations.
*Must be good in bedmatics.
*Must be conservative and creative.
*Must always look after the family needs and wants.
*Must be full of wisdom, i.e talk and act with wisdom.
*Must be beautiful internally.
*Must be the type of woman her hubby will always want to be with.
*Mustnt be a troublesome woman or a street-fighter or an abusive woman.
*Must not bring shame to her hubby or her children in any form.
*Must be peaceful with everyone.
*Must be humble and not proud.
*Must be prayerful and watchful.
*Must be multi-facet, i.e must be able to be a good wife to her hubby, a good mother to her children, a good daughter to her parent, a good friend to her friends, a good sister to he siblings, without any conflicting with another.
Finally, must treat her hubby the way she want him to treat her.
Above all.........a good wife must be God-fearing.
May God help us all.

After J. S. 3, hes going to S. S 1, right? Then, let him be enrolled in a private coaching centre where he would be exposed to the rudiments of S. S subject, that will enable him to know his area of interest and future professional capabilities, which will at the end of the day help him to choose the department (whether science or arts or commercial class), he would be when he gets to the senior secondary school.
May God help him and provide for you and all of us.

And some people are looking up to God for these beautiful and precious gifts, yet, some are selling off their own kids, may God forgive them and grant the wish of those who are sincerely yearning for kids...... Amen.

Night ke
Well, since that is their culture, may his gentle soul rest in peace.

Lol, they are all true, especially, that posing for photos, constantly injuring themselves and always finding something to put in their mouths......
......children are precious gifts from God and its only God that protects them, most of the things they do and go away with it, adults cant, may God continue to protect our kids and us,

The boy has just shown who he really is to the whole world..........a bastard.


#ti ile ba ntoro, omo ale ibe ko tii dagba ni.


May his soul rest in peace.

spongeback: I have been following the dailymail for a couple years now and I noticed that this year alone there have more than 20 case of rape,pregnancy and murder of underage girls some as young as (2) being a mother my self I really can't understand what would make a fully grown adult to find a minor sexually attractive, I would like to know and probably get ideas on how to protect our kids both male and female from this sexual predators.

the fact is that, people keep quite because of stigma on the part of the kid involved, (i mean, they thought they are protecting the image and dignity of the kid involved), when it happens to their kids or their neighbour'kids for fear of blackmail on their own part, or for other reasons best known to them, but personally, i believe that, if such a molester is reported and dealt with seriously, it will serve as detterent to other potential abusers/molesters.



Another way, which i believe can save better but to some extent is to always be closer to our kids, we must always allow them to be able to pour out their minds out withour fear, so that, they will be able to confidently confide in us when anyone is trying to make a suicidal move towards them, but this may not apply to kids who are to speak.
Also, we as parents should always tell our little ones not to ever allow anyone to touch them, especially, their privates anyhow,and that if anyone tries it with them, they should run away from the person and report him/her to some other adults around them.
May God help us all.

Thank God im from ijebu, and we dont play with ikokore and ojojo, which are made up of wateryam.........

[quote author=young-dude]This questions goes specially for the ladies on Nairaland, Whats your defination of an Inresponsible man?[/quote]this has been thoroughly discussed on this thread, it might be of help.


https://www.nairaland.com/1061049/signs-irresponsible-man

A good husband is the one who will treat you the way he want you to treat him.

You have learnt your lesson, you dont need to avenge, karma will surely catch up with her, just dust yourself, and move on with your life. Thank God you discovered ealier, before you introduce her to your parents or even before you guys get married, its because God knew you dont deserve such a pretender that He allowed you to catch her. So, thank your God and move on.

Another thing, you are still in school, God will see you through but dont harbour babes in your place again, its distractive.


One more thing, dont try to have s...ex with her in order to avenge, two wrongs can never make a right.
Goodluck.

Double Congratulations!!!
One for your wedding and the other for your wife's employment.
May this be the beginning of good things in your marriage and family. Amen.

#shake my hand

What exactly is happening Is BH stronger than the FG, why has it taken so long for FG to do something about them in order to put a stop to all these killings Those killed aint animals, why isnt there no sympathy for them Is it because their children or wives or husbands havent been among the dead Or is it part of GEJ's agenda that innocent bloods must be shed Im confused.

May God help us in this country o.

My heartfelt condolence to the family of the Rev., may God give them the fortitude to bear the loss. Amen.




R. I. P to him.

samoje: i just got married some couples of months ago,he is loving,caring,we play ad crack jokes together like brother and sister, but the greatest problem and challenge i have with him is kneeling down for him.My husband made a law that when i want to give him food i must be on my two knees to present his food on the table, be on my two kneels to greet him every morning and also to be on my two kneels while presenting water for him to drink because that is how his mother has been doing to his father as a sign of respect and also want his wife to do the same to him and also raise up children that will learn from their mother.But i find it difficult to do which has generated problem since i got married and my husband is ready to dissolve the marriage if i refuse to obey him.somebody please advice what do i do, should i obey him irrespective of what my friends are saying.advice pls

did he asked you this while dating, if yes, then do not stop, if no, tell him your mind, even though im the type that kneeling for hubby doesnt really bother me as such, (only that hubby isnt always comffy with it), infact i do it alot, but since im comfortable with it, im ok, if you are not comfortable with it, humbly tell him, this is no big deal, kneeling or no kneeling shouldnt get to the point of thinking about divorce, however, if he insist, compromise and do it, he will soon get tired of it, or may soon feel ashamed about it, even, if i were you, i will always embarass him with kneeling down sef, anytime hes in the group of his friends, na so, i go just dey kneel like housegirl, everywhere and everytime hes in the midst of people, i will make sure i embarass him with my kneeling down, he is the one that will come and beg me to stop it when the shame becomes too much for him.


Secondly, never tell your friends what happens in your marriage, they can mislead you, beware of all those "i cant take it" friends, you will be amazed that most of them accept hundredfold of what they told you they cant accept, so, shine your eyes, no two marriages are the same, what works for you may not work for them and vice-versa.
Even, it is unhealthy of you to even be thinking of what people think or say about you, so be wise, keep your marriage, the best way you could and never allow other parties to rule your marriage for you.
May God help you and grant you the wisdom needed to keep your marriage........ Amen.