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Very annoying, but that doesnt mean i will also do it, why?.....two wrongs can never make a right.

The only way u can forgive her is to remember that she is your mother and that you can not change that fact. Tolerate her till you get your own place or betterstill, till you get married, if that is what you want, that does not however prevent you from giving her what you can afford, be tolerant with her and avoid further hot confrotation with her. Place her as a human being, human beings will always f*ck up, always remember that....,to err is human but to forgive is divine.
As for d cursing, it cant harm you, but to fulfill all righteousness, apologise to her sincerely and insist that she prays for you, if truly she has forgiven you.....its very important, as much as i believe that, that curse cant do you nothing, i still believe that blessing is always better than cursing.
I wish you goodluck

@op, thanks for d information.

How many would i even write here, but d good thing about it all is that, i always conquer them and d experiences has made me a better and wiser person.
May God help us all.

@vikin, be careful o, i laugh so teeeh, i no remember my name again, abeg,this is something else.


@op, not every mother deserve to be called a mother.

Nothing wey pple no go believe, well, me i know believe this o.

Seeing a man cry is no big deal, doesnt grown up women cry too? The way we handle emotion differs, if someone is really emotionally robbed and feels like crying, pls, let him do, its even healthier like that than bottling up one's emotion, but what will make a man cry must be very weighty and highly challenging, however, i will prefer d man to be left alone without being consoled, when he is thru, he will think strait and be consoled from within.
Personally, when im crying, i dont like pple consoling me, i love expressing my emotion that way, and by d time im through with my crying, an ocean of ideas would have flown on my head as regards d next line of action.
May God help us all.

Well, pple are getting smarter these days, when we wanted to rent d house we are living now, d landlord was a retired barrister or lawyer(i dont really know which one sha), he asked my hubby so many questions, including his job and my job and where we are working. Without d man informing us, he got to my hubby's place of work to ascertain what my hubby claimed to be doing, he asked of him and asked to be taken to his office, he met him there and they exchanged greetings, later told hubby that, he is now rest assured to allow him get d house. If a landlord can go to that extent, i dont see any reason why a father cant do d same thing, not even now that, almost everyone is hard to believe.
In my own case, my elder brother did something similar, he asked for my hubby's I.D card b4 he could believe him, and he even said he can pay him visit anytime, which he did b4 our wedding date.
Everywhere and almost everybody seems to be baaaad now, and this has made pple to be smarter now. So, personally, i wont blame d father o jare.
May God help us all.

L O V E.....all d way.
With love, u understand.
With love, u tolerate.
With love, u compromise.
With love, u respect.
With love, u submit.
With love, u humble yourselv.
With love, u ignore shortcomings.
With love, u appreciate.
With love, u accommodate.
With love, no jealousy.
With love, no hatred.
With love, no selfishness or self centredness.
With love, no record of wrongdoings.
With love, forgiveness is faster and easier.
With love, u protect ur partner.
With love, u are kind to your partner.
With love, u accept your spouse d way he/she is.
With love, u accept his/her pple.
With love, u always wish your partner well.
With love, no evil thought against d other partner.



LOVE IS THE FULFILLING OF THE LAW .
GOD IS LOVE, WHEN YOU MAKE LOVE THE FOUNDATION OF YOUR MARRIAGE, THEN, GOD IS THE FOUNDATION.
EVERY OTHER THING IN MARRIAGE IS BUILT ON LOVE.
May God help us all.

slimyem: Instead of asking anyone their age henceforth at the risk of them lying,na to just ask "what shoe size do you wear"?
Them go think say you wan buy them shoe

but, you will still need d year of birth of d person now, abi, what do you think?

obowunmi: If you love your husband, you will respect his mom.

There are no CONS....

thank you, sometimes, when i hear or read about how some women talk about their in-laws, especially, their MIL, i often wonder if they really love their hubby and if they realise that d woman gave birth to that their hubby b4 they are able to marry him........smh.
I just want everywoman to remember that every DIL is a potential MIL.
May God help us all.

Fight over food leading to killing d other partner..........na wa o, im sure some very heat argument must have been going on between them ever b4 dis last one.......hhhmmmm.....smh over some types of marriage.
We all know that every marriage has its ups and downs, but when it gets to d level of claiming life, i think d wise one should have ran away to avoid something of this sort, as much as i dont support divorce, i cant discourage one when it is life threatening.

@op, how are you and your wife now? It is well with you IJN.
We still need you on this thread o, dont forget your promise here.

Hhhmmmm........
Small pikins full this section.

Binger and luvmijeje said it all.

I did it now and it worked out, i even did for all d pple i know their detailed information, it all came out correct......whao!

Heee sorry o, may d good Lord comfort you, may he give you and your family d fortitude to bear d loss. Pls, accept my condolense.


Rest in peace.....mama!

It depends on d PIL involved, some are very pleasurable to live with while some are very difficult.
My MIL had lived with us and it was d most wonderful experience i've had in my whole married years, very hospitable, very interesting and pleasurable, very wonderful woman, infact, im looking forward to having her back, we all want to have her live with us, so we normally hijack her from one another. Im even thinking of going to where she is now to bring her to my place.
Awwwww, oh Lord, pls, i dont want to lose my MIL now.

@op, i've said it b4, if your friend tries it, either you or him will definately come back here to narrate how your friend loose his wife to a customer or how she just packed out from d house without any reason or how she left d business within a short period (if she is d one that cant handle shi*t).
My mum told us a story, initially, nobody knew such a thing happened to her until a woman came for an advise on how pple advise her to open a beer parlour.
She told d woman, "i've been in your shoe b4, but wasnt proud enough to share it with my children, today, they will hear about it" and she called all of us to sit down and listen, including d woman.............her words........."I have done this business b4 and for over 30 yrs ago, im still feeling guilty and ashamed for ever doing it, i did it for just 3weeks, but i cant get over what i saw within that short period after over 30yrs ago, some pple, when they are "sayo", would bring out their JT out and ask her to see and touch it,she would push them away, some will urinate inside d shop, some will not pay, some when they are going home with their cars will be shouting,"won ti gbe steering moto mi lo" when in actual fact, it is d booth he was opening, some will sleep in front of d shop or in d gutter in front of d shop, some would touch her bosoms and that of d sales girls, and when she pushed them away, some get injured in d process, some will even be fighting with themselves until police will come and pack them to the station, some, out of no more sense, brake bottle and start injuring themselves, etc. One day, d day it was exactly 3weeks i started, i just thought within myself, this madness must stop, i prefer not to have money than to continue with this madness, and that was how i stopped going to d shop, when d shop rent was due, i looked for somene who could buy all d drinks with d bottle, i sold everyting off and that was how i regained my serenity"
@op, i just summarise o, if i were to type what she told us here, hhheen, my lappy will even refuse to work again..........my word of advice, your friend should not try it, there are other businesses out there, though may be less lucrative and profitable, but full of sanity and pride. I stop here.
May God help us all.

troubledSoul: i was working b4 we got married then i took in n was seriously sick n my company been a private once dropped me n after giving birth my hubby has refused me looking for job. saying he doesnt want me to work.

awwww, sorry about that, but you know men, most of them are egostic, let him realise that he is using those words to intimidate you because of his financial status and how he stopped you from working, which is why it seems you are not contributing financially to d family. Now, that things seems to be like this, insist on getting a job, use your money to take care of yourself, always look sexy, attractive and appealing, then, we shall see if he will say that "marriage no be do or die" statement again.
Sorry, it is well with you, may God guide you and give you d neccesary wisdom required in your marriage.
Shalom!

@op,Sincerely, you got it all wrong from d beginning, i dont encourage women who are jobless to get married b4 getting married. 90% of d men we have nowadays prefer working class ladies, so that they wouldnot be shouldered with all d financial responsibilities of d family. Your hubby is worked up because he sees himself as too burdened with almost all d financial responsibilities in d family and you are d closest person he can transfer that aggression to. Find a way of being financially independent, and you will be surprised how things will fall back in their rightful places.
May God help us all.


Sorry for sounding too harsh on you, i told you what i could have told my sister if hes d one in your situation.
Goodluck.

First of all, have you sincerely examined yourself?
Are you sure you are not d one pushing him into extreme?
What exactly do you contribute to d marriage?
Do you have kids for him?
Do you constantly nag or engage in hot argument with him?
Do you always have cause to constantly complain about something you have or do not have in your marriage?
Do you always compare your marriage with that of his friends or your own friends?
Do you love his family and does he love your family?


Sorry for all these questions, your answers to these questions may be why he talks to you d way he does.
May God help us all.

@op, tell your friend that, if he eventually open d beer parlour business for his wife, he shouldnt come on NL here to solicit for advice after those useless rich old men have snatched his wife frm him.

A husband is referred to as a responsible man while a boyfriend is often seen as a playboy.

@ op, sincerely, i love this thread. As much as it seems you are making a lot of sense, i would rather live my life believeing hell is real only to discover that it doesnt after death than living my life believing that there is no hell only to find out after death that hell is real, afterall, no one claimed to have been there. There is nothing actually to loose, afterall, according to you, d concept is to scare pple away from doing evil, d4, i will like to run from evil and later found out that there is no hell. It shall all be well.
Thanks.



P. S........im really following this thread.

@op, so, prefer to follow another person's heart?

Stop giving her money for a while and observe her reaction.

We dont watch football in our home.

Greedy children!
A whole professor killed by his own children like that!
Professor's sons= University drop-outs= something must have gone wrong somewhere.
Where was d mother of d children/wife of d prof in d picture.........smh

Bottom line..............train your child in d way he shall go and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

Last minute respect........may d dead rest in peace.

If dis story is true, then, the 2 of them are runaway yaba-left patients, they need to be taken back there as soon as possible for d safety of other pple around them.

@op, u never did anything wrong by telling her your past, she is d one that is too emotional, give her some time to ponder over it, she may later come back after thinking thoroughly about it and if she doesnt come back, then, that means she would prefer a pretender to a man who will open up to her, in that case, hope for d best, it means you are not meant for each other, your own who would prefer you opening up and even help you to get over it will come .
It is well.