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Also, a full time house wife i think is a sign up for life degeneration (physically, emotionally and intellectually).
1. To start with being a full time house wife doesnt guarantee that a child would be perfect, many examples out there.
2. It leaves a lot of room for idleness which results in a woman being a gossip, a nosey-parker, quarreller etc.......as we all know, an idle hand/mind is d devil's workshop.
3. There is nothing challenging except chores and even more house chores, BUTTO WHAT END.?
I think a woman should get busy no matter how small. Not necessarily corporate work. It could be home grown business. But pls BEING A FULL TIME HOUSE WIFE IS DAMAGING TO ANY WOMAN'S LIFE. GET BUSY.
May God help us all.

Hhhhhmmmm, there is more to this being fulltime housewife o, i cant just subscribe to it at all.

To me, working and taking care of d house can be balanced, either take up a more flexible job or a stay-at-home business, instead of being totally dependent on d man.........it is more honourable to balance d two, rather than sitting at home all day. God forbid, if anything unexpected happens to d man, apart from d traumatic experience d woman will suffer within herself, what about what relatives, friends and others will be saying of d woman, wont she be accused of killing her husband with too much responsibilities to cater for......dont you think all those allegations could be prevented, if d woman has been somehow busy or creative in her own ways.
Well, as for me, i prefer to be a balanced working class and a housewife than not having my own personal income.
May God help us all.

It has to do with slow development of her brain.......she will change as time goes on. Reduce d intake of d liquids she takes, especially at night. Let her always take her dinner by 6pm, and after 7pm, no more liquids.
Continue to assist in waking her up to ease herself, let d time be consistent, like, may be every 1am and 4am daily, with time, her body system will get used to d time, and she will be waking up on her own to ease herslf.
May God help us all.

If Joseph, Daniel, d 3 Hebrew men, etc, in d bible could overcome all d challenges they faced.......then you will definately overcome every challenges you are facing.

If it wasnt difficult for God to create heaven and d earth, then, it wont be difficult for Him to solve your problems very soon.



Read jeremiah 32:27 and 1Corinthians 10:13 to build up your faith.
It is well!

coogar: if that is what it would take then so be it.......
we take loads of stuff for granted in africa and when kids turn out weird, we blame familiar spirits and the market witch whereas there was little or no time for the parents to bond with their kids in their formative years. no amount of wages can replace the bonding time spent with kids when they are young - ignore that and the salary people chase aggressively would be spent on that kid when he becomes a menace to the neighbourhood.

@ coogar, in as much as you are making a lot of sense here, we all know how tedious, time-consuming and sacrificial parenthood, especially, motherhood is, that is why i always encourage wives to go for less-time consuming jobs...........that is what i did, instead of me staying at home completely without any personal source of income.
It wont be out of place for women to also be independent a little, it wont be bad if women arent part of d liabilities of d home, it wont be bad if both couple assist each other in their respective responsibilities, it wont be bad if iron sharpens iron, it wont be bad if when husband falls, d wife raises him up, it wont be bad if both of them rely on each other, instead of one continuosly relying on d other. As for me, dear, i love my hubby beyond that, i dont want loads of responsibilities to kill him early.
For those who are full housewives, its not a bad idea if your hubby can afford it and at d same time, it wont be bad either, if you have one business opened for you in your own name.........paradventure.........
May God help us all.

@ ileobatojo, bless you too.
Go to this thread and see what we are just talking about, d woman in question was a fulltime housewife b4 death snatched her hubby away, read what becomes of d woman thereafter.......a big lesson for we women there.

https://www.nairaland.com/1177967/widow-confesses-m-now-lovepeddler#14055080

dayokanu: Maybe he don catch gonorrhea outside or one girls boyfriend whom he phuckkked put a bounty on his head and he is laying low

@ dayokanu,you are damn too funny.


A man doesnt really need all that to grow up.........d man just grow up......ie.......maturity get level......d level of his maturity just skyrocket.

@op, enjoy your man, hes now a matured, responsible, real and grown-up man.

[quote author=Efemena_xy]A clear case of schizophrenia.

Sad tale though...[/quote]@ efe, im tired of all these sad news, i intentionally ignored d thread...........im no longer interested in them......its getting too scary and unfortunately, too rampant.
May God help us all.

BlueMurder: I disagree with the bolded. No self-respecting married woman will ask another man to zip her dress!

and that is why i used "MAY"........i think you are clear now. Thanks.

[quote author=tpia@]People in nigeria usually assume overseas is a land of milk and honey where gold is lying around on the street waiting to be picked up and sent home.

A lot of diasporans do give this impression with the way they blow cash when they visit nigeria. How they acquired the money is best known to them but not others.

Its not until folks actually travel out that they understand the real situation of things.[/quote]exactly......reasons why some Nigerians are alwayas dependent on their pple in diaspora.

Almond De Joy: My family na my BBBBBBBBBBEST FRIEND O!
I nor dey take 'em play atol-atol!
I don't reall care about 'others'. . .AT ARM'S LENGTH AND BREATH ONLY. . . .AND WITH A VERY LONG SPOON!
The most boring thing I could do is VISIT OTHERS IN THEIR HOMES OR ALLOW OTHERS TO VISIT ME.

No way! Na me and my computer or TV. . .or I go clubbing.

I am HAPPIEST WITH MY FAMILY MEMBERS!

same with me!

I dont use any drug for it, d engorgement/pain is no more than 3 days or maximum........5 days.......endure it......its one of d prices of motherhood.
However, this hints will help to reduce d engogement faster.....

- reduce your intake of liquids during d period, if you can, avoid drinking of tea and eating of pap completely for d period.

- use a very tight bra always....for d whole period, dont remove d bra, except u want to have your bath, use it morning, noon, eve and night, even, when you want to make love with your hubby during d period, explain to him, dont remove d bra.......it helps d bossoms not to be further engoged and also helps to dry d milk in it faster. You can even wear 2 tight bras, if you can.......dis system is what i use and it walks like magic for me, i have never taken any drug as regards this for all my children.
May God help us all.

@ ileobatojo, thank you, one of d reason i cant and wont be a full housewife.


@post, each to his own, what works for A might not work for B, if you think it can work for you and you/your hubby have taken decision on that, then, goodluck, i sincerely wish you well.

But as for me.........its Hell NOOOOOOOOOO no matter how wealtyh my hubby is, i cant accept,,,,,if hes s wealthy, let him equip me and set up my own business for me....in my name.........abeg, anything can happen anytime, we dont pray for bad things but they do happen, so, when d unexpected happens, and im a full housewife, where and how do i pick myself up? Anything can happen, d man may go bankrupt, d business can be ablazed, when it seems things go wrong, im suppose to fill d vacuum, but how do i do that when i have to completely rely on d man for every needs of mine and d children.

My own governor is known for bitterness..........i dont know why.......he will always find something to be embitter to/for.............guess my state!

One thing that i think everyone should always think about is bearing d number of children they can adequately and responsibly catered for.

Parenthood is not by force, it is by choice, if you have decided/chosen to be a parent...........be a responsible parent..........so that, at d end, whatever d child turns out to be, you will boldly say...........I DID WHAT I COULD DO, I TRIED MY BEST AS A PARENT, I REAP WHAT I SOW.

May God help us all.

Chai! I really sympathise with your friend...........this is serious.

I support Gboliwe's and Afam's opinion.

[quote author=Larry-Sun]I only made a joke and you guys are already gathering woods and nails to crucify me. Smh![/quote]na joke mee sef dey make o.......mi o ba tija wa o

Personally, i wont encourage it.

Dont they do monthly contributions in your place of work.....if they do, you can join one, they normally roll paper to know which month you will collect money, but you can be given preference, thereby, giving you d first or d second slot.........no interest paid, no collateral.
However, some factors are considered b4 joining one, like, d members involved.........d pple in such a group must all have integrity, so that, there will not be room for betrayal. Secondly, d group will be better if salary earners are involved and d monthly contributions is deducted from d source to d account where it will be paid to whoever is due to collect money.

Nigeria get as e be, but with proper planning, one will not be left behind.
May God help us all.

It is gradual, if she is already eating solids, make sure she eats well in d evening and that will make her to sleep soundly, thereby reducing d rate at which she wakes to suckle at night.
As for me, except my first born whom i weaned at d age of 1yr and 2weeks, others are very matured b4 weaning them, i dont wean them until they embarass me in d presence of visitors and d day that happens is d day i wean them, but because they are usually older....like 1 yr,8 months, they dont usually give me any problem, na to dey eat dey go remain. Once i decided that as from a certain date, i will wean them, i follow d decision to d end........mawoju uche system, i guess.
However, each to each her own, withdraw gradually and make sure she eats well and healthy.

When my sister wants to wean her kids, she usually rob her ni....pples with bitter leaf extract or flagyl, once d baby tastes it, she withdraws her mouth, until she is made to believe that it is always bitter to suckle, with that, it is even d baby that will refuse to suckle, but that system may not work for every child.
May God help us all.

Na wa o, what type of question is this, we all know its both of them, both in d face of God and man.


Reasons may differ, but both are guilty, we all know, except, we want to economise d truth.

iamswizz: I think the person who caught them should be blamed

how?
Why?

gregg2: Nigeria is a poor country!

you think so?

May God deliver us from these reckless, clueless, merciless, loveless, lawless, and Godless leaders of ours in this country......... Amen.

Dis guys don high!

even, if robbers invade d place.......na lie, dem no go know.......they don sayo.......big time!

As for me, i dont envy her, na real work she dey do to keep this.

Btw, how does she get d hair combed, is dis how d hair should be dragged on d ground always. How many litres of water will she be using to wash d hair once, how much will d shampoo will she be using to wash the hair once, can she even wash d hair by herself, what about d hair-cream she will be using to maintain d hair? Many reasons there why i dont envy her, but anyway sha........ Goodluck to her.

thank God for him!

Well, personally, i will call a spade a spade..............d mama is damn selfish.........yes, she doesnt sound like a caring mum, if shes caring, she would be more concerned about what d couples are passing thru and not about her personal gain, she would be more concerned about d care of d little kids d young couples have, she would be more concerned about their ultimate success than all dis "if you like, succed, if you no like, dont succed, just send money to me" attitude.


I dont know why people seems not to be considerate with their daughters when their daughters get married, i dont think why some parents think that when their daughters get married, d husband MUST be responsible for all their (financial) needs, as if d man is a money-making machine, as if they didnt pass thru that stage, when they were passing thru d stage, was it easy for them to be metting all d MIL's needs then?

Your friend should just let her mum realise how dissapointed she is towards her, how she seems insensitive to their cnditions over there and tell her to take it easy with them, she should also tell her that whatever and whenever they are able to send her money, she should accept with love and be praying for them to be able to do more.

The problem here is not even of papers or stay or whatever you pple call it, it is AFFORDABILITY, whatever they can afford and whenever they can afford, they should send money to mama, and mama is obliged to appreciate them, d mama should not put her interest over d young family's interest, except, the mama is suffering from any form of ailment, if not, she should augument whatever she is given by this couple with what others give her and manage with that, afterall, all her children are grown ups and there is no any heavy financial responsibilities on her again. Im not saying they shudnt take care of mama, but mama aiso have to be considerate, if they having bben sending money b4, but could not now, she should understand and always pray for them.

Understanding is very essential here, if she fails to understand their present condition, and she feels more concerned about her own interest, then, she is damn selfish.
May God help us all.

Well, personally, i will call a spade a spade..............d mama is damn selfish.........yes, she doesnt sound like a caring mum, if shes caring, she would be more concerned about what d couples are passing thru and not about her personal gain, she would be more concerned about d care of d little kids d young couples have, she would be more concerned about their ultimate success than all dis "if you like, succed, if you no like, dont succed, just send money to me" attitude.


I dont know why people seems not to be considerate with their daughters when their daughters get married, i dont think why some parents think that when their daughters get married, d husband MUST be responsible for all their (financial) needs, as if d man is a money-making machine, as if they didnt pass thru that stage, when they were passing thru d stage, was it easy for them to be metting all d MIL's needs then?

Your friend should just let her mum realise how dissapointed she is towards her, how she seems insensitive to their cnditions over there and tell her to take it easy with them, she should also tell her that whatever and whenever they are able to send her money, she should accept with love and be praying for them to be able to do more.

The problem here is not even of papers or stay or whatever you pple call it, it is AFFORDABILITY, whatever they can afford and whenever they can afford, they should send money to mama, and mama is obliged to appreciate them, d mama should not put her interest over d young family's interest, except, the mama is suffering from any form of ailment, if not, she should augument whatever she is given by this couple with what others give her and manage with that, afterall, all her children are grown ups and there is no any heavy financial responsibilities on her again. Im not saying they shudnt take care of mama, but mama aiso have to be considerate, if they having bben sending money b4, but could not now, she should understand and always pray for them.

Understanding is very essential here, if she fails to understand their present condition, and she feels more concerned about her own interest, then, she is damn selfish.
May God help us all.

@op, be friendly with them and through that, you will be able to exchange your likes and dislikes, they will also do d same, and you stand to be good neighbours to yourselves.
It is not good not to be friendly with neighbours, sometimes, you might just need their emergency assistance, and when you are not friendly with each other, it becomes difficult to call on them. God forbid bad things, if anything unexpected happens, they are d first set of pple who will show up for help. So, be tolerant and friendly with them, it helps.
May God help us all.

MERCY JOHNSON!
She is a better actress, she acts more naturally than Ini edo.
Acting seems easier and natural to mercy Johnson than ini Edo.