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Prove yourself to your parent that you chose wisely and rightly.
Let your man also prove to your pple that he is from good home, regardless of whatever they have against his tribe.
Finally, let your parents approve of your marriage with him b4 going ahead in order to get their blessings and perhaps for unpredictables in d future.
May God help us all.

My hubby is well close to Nunber 10.
He is not everything listed in that number o, but very close to it.
I love it and him that way, no perfect person in this life.
Welldone.....olowoorimi.
Hhhhmmmmm
may God help us all.

Any side i found myself after...........abeg, neither me nor my hubby feels sleeping in a particular side, we joke and play and........until one of us sleep off and that could be at any side.

Well, i love my mum to bits, i cant.......but my dad, (now late), i can if it was possible......but d irony of it all is dt, its not possible for anyne to do, one can change d caretaker, but no one can change any of d biological parent.

Pls o, what is wrong in your friend wanting to know your child's school and course?.....its not bad, except you are not comfortable with your friendship or you have caught him/her in some mischevious deeds, if no, then, nothing wrong.
May God help us all.

Personally, i dont see anything wrong with it.

From my own point of view, i dont think your hubby really mean those words he said, he only used those words to score points, some men are like that, they seems to be so sensitive to d extent of using cheap blackmail to score points, even though, that tendency of not having forgotten what happened b4 you two became married might be there, but believe me, he wants d best for you, its you that should understand d type of man you have, if he's always using very harsh words each time there is disagreement, then try as much as possible to calm yourself down, and dont argue back,till his better mood, when you can calmly express how you felt.
My dear sister, marriage no be beans, it requires a lot of patience and wisdom, which you have to constantly ask God for.
BTW, your marriage is still young, d disagreement might seems very frequents now, but its an avenue for d two of you to know yourselves better.
Just do something for me, always learn from what might cause any disagreement, so that, there wont be its repetition again, with that, within 2-3 years of your marriage, you would have exhausted what might be causing disagreements in your marriage, and dont always forget to apologise to him after disagreement(even when you know you are right), all men love that ego.
Back to d topic, apologise to him and let him realise that what he said wasnt d case and that you and God forbid it happening. Then that settles it.
Sorry my dear, it is well with you and your marriage.
May God help us all.

This is really informative, but i dnt agree with d number 1.


However, Numbers 23,24, 25,39 and 40 are very real but Number 17 is very funny and surprising.

[quote author=Busy_body]If you can be bothered to read what i wrote again after you have calmed down, you would see that I wasn't talking about "you" nor "speaking" against you...[/quote]then, my apologies!

[quote author=Busy_body]Hmmm, watching the thread in 4D motion, sifting through the chaffs and sorting the hunted's from the hunters

Back to the "other thread" again to check if it is really Chaircover and Greatgod2012............[/quote]and which thread is that?
I cant eat up my words, i mean what i wrote here and i wrote what i mean. I, personally dont subscribe to receiving anything from a boyfriend(not husband), so, i cant feel bad if he doesnt buy me anything.
Well, maybe because i never found myself in op's situation, i never see any reason for complaining dt my Bf didnt buy something 4 me, which even if he did, i wouldnt collect. So, to me, no big deal.



@somebody, i wish to know dt other thread that i've been inconsistent. Thanks.



P. S........... Im not used to argument on a thread, i just post my comment and move away or betterstill read other pple's comments, perhaps i will have something to learn therein, but i just need to reply this particular one.
Shalom!

Most times, d genuis.

Sometimes, d quiet one.

Madam CC, thanks, i thought im d only one who reason like this. Why must one use a BB, if one cant afford it, why will i feel cheated when my money in not taken trickly from me......it is his money, he can spend it d way he feels like, until you are both married, i dont see any reason why you have to feel cheated for not spending or buying things for you, even within marriage sef, it has to get limitation on how you demand from men your own personal things, else, you loose d respect he has for you.
Well, as for me, once a man is responsible for his fatherly roles in d house as much as he can afford, then, my own personal needs are not forced on him.
From another angle, he may even be saving towards your so-called wedding that is on d way, he may even be having a wonderful plan towards what will be beneficial to both of you in d future, which he is yet to tell you.
In conclusion,If you see prudency in him, dont feel cheated......hes only being conservative, and he would surprise you in no time, if you two ended up marrying each other.
May God help us all.

Playing with my rest of mind.........no, never, mba!

Dress nicely, listen to good music with positive messages, visit friends, infact, make yourself happy........money will surely come, when and where you least expect.

[quote author=Mynd_44]Ma'am, you are not getting my point. I am againt the word "Permission" even you have said there that it is one of those things you will thrash out before the marriage. You you will tell him what he should/should not do but he can decide to go against those rules.

You are not permitting him but he does anyway and that's when you will bring in the law. But that first time, he does not need your permission. It is just like saying you cannot allow yourself get robbed. You can and might get robbed but the correct statement is that you cannot allow any man get away with it.[/quote]o.k oooo, i concur

My brother, its natural, very natural, part of d reasons is dt, he's still d only one you've got for now, by d time they are 2,3,4, nobody will tell you to cool down, except, you want to be a regular customer in d hospital and that is not my wish for you, so calm down, its a phase and you will surely pass d phase.
Another reason why you have to calm down is not to kill or spoil his reasoning power, if you are too overprotective, he wont be able to take personal decision, he will always assume/believe that daddy will do it for him, which will not be beneficial to his mental development.....so many reasons there, but let me leave you with this for now.........LET YOU SON GROW UP.
May God help us all.

There is no way one can forget such thing, except d person suffers from "memory loss"(dont know d medical term).

[quote author=Mynd_44]^^
Ma'am, I completely disagree with your point that no man can beat you without your permission. As wife battering is a crime, we canot say a man needs permission to commit a crime.

But if you meant a man needs your permission to turn it into an habit then you are completely right[/quote]heloooo, my dear brother, a man may not need my permission to commit any other crime, but not when my body is involves, as i've said b4, its one of d things to thoroughly thrash out b4 marriage, no, not ever, will i allow a man to lay his hand on me and IF he makes an attempt to break our agreement then, he should be ready to pay for his criminal and unheard attitude of his.
I wish you know me in real life, im very tolerant, but highly principled. Abeg, no make me talk, even reading about it is disgursting, i tell you, i can go EXTRA-EXTRA MILE with anyone that try it with me.

Why wont he suddenly become responsible................after all he did, he knew he would be sentence, hence his seemingly responsible face.



Pretence at its highest order.

Yomieluv: Last week,a buried baby found alive.
Now, a baby survived 7days alone with a dead grandma.
Point: God is awesome. Wish I were a baby.seems the angel guarding babies are powerful,and strong.no wonder,Jesus said heaven belongs to them. I have witnessed a baby falling from balcony of a storey building unhurt.

that is d awesomeness of Almighty God.

A responsible prisoner........hhhmmmm, what a description!

D 1st section i visit is family section

Why do some men beat their wives?

Because their wives allows them.


Sincerely, no man can lay his hand on me to beat me, that is d MOST UNACCEPTABLE in my marriage.......no man dares it.......he will rot in jail. Infact, those men knows d type of women who can indulge them in that area.
Women, d fact is that, if you dont allow it, no man can do it.

No man can beat you without your permission.
Its one of those things to thoroughly discuss b4 marriage.
May God help us all.

Depending on who really mean it.

Phartymah112: I agree with your last sentence.
And i have seen a marriage that worths been called "perfect"... The couples understand each other more than my expectation,they'd never fight to the extent of inviting third party,they don't expect perfection from eachother,accept eachother's fault and if it requires them to argue they do so lightly(in a loving way) and they don't cheat on eachother...*that's my own defination of a perfect...i mean perfect marriage*

this is it..................no perfect marriage but seemingly perfect.

My type of marriage.

Let me suggest a name:




ST. NWANDO ANGLICAN, METHODIST PENTECOSTAL CHERUBIM CHURCH OF HOLY MARY IN CELESTIAL.


This will enable you to attract members from virtually all denominations.
Goodluck.

It is d most terrible thing to happen to someone.......living with one's stepmum, abeg, its gonna be hell on earth

I love this thread, learning and learning from it.