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So pathetic!

Is this in correlation with freedom of information(FOI)?

@ slimyem, thank you very sincerely.....u just hit d nail on d head, i.e u just said it d way it is.......i experience d same thing with our firstborn, he is such a very strict disciplinarian, but while others are fearing and avoiding him, i would confront him, i would sit beside him and ask him questions, and whenever he started with his "as usuals", i always remind him of my age........gradually, we became very close, till now, he sees others as cowards and sees me as bold and brave.
@op, face him and if necessary, if he throws his normal tantrums, dont hesitate to remind him of your age and dt you are no longer a kid, but do it respectfully, do not be rude, do not shout on him, just let him realise how important you are to him. May God give u wisdom to do this appropriately.

Let me tell you d truth...........washing baby's poo with mere hand is not easy and healthy either.........disposable diapers all d way.......
Also, to me, apart frm d cost, i mean d price difference, other reasons stated there have question marks........



Call me lazy a§§, i dont mind,all i know is dt, i cant come back from my busy place of work, headed straight to d kitchen and still be thinking of washing nappies filled with poo, when there is a better alternative.......hell no!



Affordability is d KOKO.......if one cant afford d disposable diaper, then, no choice, but for those who can afford, leave story.
May God help us all.

shawnmeks: It is a terrible situation to find oneself. I'm neck deep in this n my hus has been the malice keeping type from the onset. My mistake was I thot he would change over time but it became worse. We've been married for 3yrs n all thru its been malice. My hus will keep malice at d drop of a hat for months. From d begining, I cried my eyes out cuz I wasn't used to malice n to be ignored by ones hus is better left to imagination. D last major malice we had lasted for 1 whole year, he refused my serving him meals n he refused to sleep on d same bed with me. I tried everything, apologies, seduction, talking matters over, involving 3rd parties but all didn't work. He jxt built a brick wall around himself. But as time went on, I got used to it. I sought my hapiness else where, in friends, chores n activities. It was hard as I almost went insane. I couldn't beliv dat I would pass thru such especially when I am very pretty and attractive.
My antidote: I learnt how to ignore him, live my life without him and I made my kids d center of my world. I tried as much to maintain my weight n look good. I smiled more often and most of all I prayed hard.
He got tired of d malice n still used his ego to get us to settle. I learnt dat he suffered too from d year long malice but his ego kept holding him back.
NB: in trying to pass a silent message to ur wife, u suffer too cuz where there is no peace n harmony, there is no hapines. So malice keeping is d most stupid approad to solving issues. It is so yesterday.
Ladies, get a grip of ur emotions, don't let a heartless over grown baby get d best of u, ur looks and your hapiness. My orders: ignore him big tym, immerse urself in activities, make more friends, both male and female and pray hard. No matter how much he tries to make you feel like shit, I bet u dat if he sees u smiling, hapi, beautiful, appealing n especially when he sees you getting attention outside especially by the male folk, d jealousy in him will drive him back to you even on bended kness. Never ever trade your life n hapiness for a hearrtless malice keepoing husband, I bet u, if u die, he'll marry your best friend!

thank God you made a good decision for yourself, may Gd continue to be with you and grant you more wisdom.


Some pple sha........... Keeping one year of malice where me even want to keep malice for 12 hours and i couldnt make/achieve it. Na wa o!

Another point..............nigeria economy is not encouraging

Gambrosia: Your arrangement seems kinda odd. You all are small enough a family to sleep in one room. . . Make a cot for the toddler and one for the baby. . . .A 2 year-old is still too young to be left alone. . . I agree.


Who adviced you? And what reasons were given for the advice? HOW DID THEY KNOW YOUR BUSINESS AS IN SLEEPING ARRANGEMENTS?

Thank you! E ku se o!

I do not want ANYONE IN MY BED. . . SPOUSE OR CHILDREN!
I used to. . .but not anymore.
I don't want ANYONE TO DISTURB MY SNORING!!!!
If you push me to wake me up. . . I WILL SLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLAP YOU!
My husband knows to phock and go BACK to his own room! Period!!!

The kind of cold room I sleep in. . .NO ONE CAN SURVIVE THERE FOR THE WHOLE NIGHT!

lol @ d last paragraph there

This is nothing but wickedness, ok, if she is witch, do they want to kill her?

My grandma used to say something while she was alive......."the angels in charge of giving out of babies are blind"


i want to believe and accept this statement as true, each time i see, hear or read about something like this, because, if d angel is not blind, this type of woman do not deserve to have any child in her life.

I just pray she repent and confess b4 its too late, because, if she do not cnfess, d spirit of dis little baby will perpetually torment her.

zanga420: one of the reason I envy ur hubby, how did he beat me to you. Do u have a replica? I dont mind

thanks.

Is your partner, i.e d father of d twins involved in this decision or not?

9lifes: The only way to deal with "family curse" is to set a goal,have a vision,do things differently,pursue your goals,and don't make decisions based on religious nonsense.

Don't let fear stop you from pursuing your goals,don't see temporal shortcomings as spiritual consequences..life is generally hard,hard work is not a curse,god is not the originator of shortcuts. believe in yourself,no matter what.The failures of others is not your cup of tea,mind your business..live you life,enjoy it,both the ups and the downs,such is life.

thank you.
It has to do with gullibility of those who believe in such trash.

So sad!
Very pathetic!
May God console d family and give them d fortitude to bear d loss.
May d souls of d lost lives rest in peace.

@op, it just occurred to me now, so, anytime you want to go to mount kilimanjaro, u travel out of your room, to another room, and if d room is already locked, you start knocking and talking silently......open d door! open d door....., in order not to wake d kids up....., and you think all those ones wont have effect on your mounting of mountains, and if and when you are done, you travel back to your room........ ..........hhhhhmmmmm, you people dey try o.

Firstly........to answer your question.......Y E S?

@op, your family is too young to be sleeping separately.........let there be two beds and a baby cot in your room, one bed for you and your wife and d other bed for your toddler and d cot for d baby.
Personally, i dont encourage couples to be sleeping on different bed, not to talk of separate rooms.
Even d bible says, when it is cold, you get heat from each other when you sleep together
When a couple sleeps together, having misunderstanding for too long of a period is most likely to be erased, also, having spontaneous s.e/x is there, which has to do with catching fun with each other, then, being very close to each other, when sleeping together can not be ruled out. Sleeping together breeds love and more love. It makes misunderstanding to be settled within a short while.........more and more benefits there.
Having said that, each to his own, as for us, neither I nor my hubby is ready to separate our bed, not even our kids can separate it, we are one, and one shall we be until death do us part, infact, i cant even sleep if my man is not beside me, all our misunderstandings are settled on d bed, we gist everyday on our bed till one of us sleep off, we dont even go to bed separately, if im not ready to go to bed, he too will not be ready and if hes not ready, im also not ready.......that is our own o, and it has helped us in our marital relationship a great deal.
May God help us all.

To d murderer...............Wickedness!



To d father of d kids.......lesson learnt, in a very terrible way.



To d mother of d kids.......... pathetic, pity, sympathy, regret,back to square zero, consolation.........





To d kids........rest in peace!


To all of us.........let us always be contempted with what we have. Avoid exta-marital affairs
......wife, be faithful to your hubby.......hubby, be faithful to your wife.
Let us all have d fear of God.
May God help us all

Be very respectful to them, especially your MIL and FIL.
Dress decently anytime you are around them, most MILs are usually aged pple, and they dont really like all those dresses we call "sexy dresses", many of them, most times, think those dresses are for sluts......talking from experience....(btw, im yoruba married to yoruba, but this is one of d things they really love about me crazily...........decent and responsible dresses).
May God help us all.

To d murderer...............Wickedness!





To d father of d kids.......lesson learnt, in a very terrible way!





To d mother of d kids..........pity, sympathy, regret,back to square zero, consolation.........


To d kids........rest in peace!




To all of us.........let us always be contempted with what we have. Avoid exta-marital affairs
......wife, be faithful to your hubby.......hubby, be faithful to your wife.
Let us all have d fear of God.
May God help us all.

Yeah! Im from Ijebu and i have heard that story severally, but im yet to believe it is genuine.

To be happy in marriage.......................... Do unto others what you want to be done to you.............applies to both hubby and wiffy
if d wife treat her hubby d way she likes to be treated and d husband treat d wife d way he likes to be treated.........i bet it....both of them will forever be healthy and happy with each other.
May God help us all.

LastApostle: Your response to the op was too feminine and I hate feminist.
Though your suggestion is accepted but I wanted to read where you would have totally and vehemently condemn the woman's action but u never did rather you swooped on the man with bitterness condemning his action and giving him option whereas both parties are guilty of both moral and emotional harassment.

Let me put this question to you. Assuming the man did not hit the lady as a gentleman he is and went for a check up only to discover he has contracted HIV/AIDS from the woman she loves and adores, can a slap at least justify his anger?

and where did i commend d lady?mind you, not commending means condemning, how old are u sef, since it seems you dont understand my post, it takes maturity to understand my posts..........its like you are d man in d post and you are looking for supporters, mind you......grown up guys dont beat up their g/f or wives, they take actions that will make d lady sober, and once she is sober, what other better ways to deal with an unfaithful gf.....gerrit?



To d last paragraph question there..........it is very foolish for a man to be intimate without condom with someone who is yet to be his legal wife...........anyone who does that in dis age is a big fooooooooooool!

Happy life to me.......is making
other pple in distress happy.

Its helping to help solve problems

@wogged2005
lol @ "begging for alms"






Real atorobaras

k2039: *coughing*

hey, my bros......pele o, la epo si iko yen!
Happy weekend to you!
I got your pm.

Unprofessional......on d part of d teacher, i think biolabee has answered your question!

I think this issue is about individual.......each to his/her own......this shouldnt cause chaos.
Thanks!house.

1.Ludo..........help kids in mathematics area.
2. Scrabble.....help kids in spelling.



You can get them in any gift shop.
May God help us all.

biolabee: i dont get ur q.. u already have ur kids.. do wat works for u
There are so mant factors

career: some like to have their kids sharperly so they can focus on their work, others like good spacing so they have enough time with the kid at a time and build their career
Kids Bonding: anecdotal evidence shows that when spacing is not too much, the kids grow n bond together than when it is a bit much

financing: some like it spaced so you dont have all your kids in sec school or uni

health: miscarriages, ivf etc

So many reasons

thanks, Biolabee, you have answered d question.
I will like to add this:
age of d wman when she start to have kids......if a woman is lucky to marry below 25yrs old, she may decide to have 4-5 yrs gap, but when a woman get married at 37+, believe me, 1+ yrs gap will even be too much in her eyes.
Again, if a lady has delay in child bearing till she get to around 40+yrs old b4 d womb open, abeg, na every year she go dey born o.
So, @op, different factors are on ground to consider in gapping children.
May God help us all.

When i come across some stories here in romance sectin, i cant but burst into laughter.......build a house worth#100m b4 marriage......hahahhhahahhah...........laugh wan tear my bele.

Sometimes, when i read a post like this, i get irritated, i wonder where some ladies are bred or let me say, some ladies do not have what is called integrity at all, and they will be complaining that their men are autocratic, they are authoritarian, they shout on them, they order them around.....blah,blah,blah.....why wont they? When d ladies involved have thrown their self respect into d thrash by asking d man they never get married to carry all their financial burden. Smh, if i were a man, there is no way i will respect such a lady.

I have shared my story here once or twice, when i was courting my huuby, we sat down and talk about how d courting process will go.......no premarital sex from me and no any form of gift from you! Dont use gift to kill my sense of reasoning. I dont want to use sex to tie you down and i dont want you to give me any gift, dont use gift to rob me of my sense of reasoning,so that, when any of us feels like quiting d relatinship, it wont be like im used and dumped and you wont feel like i fool you, i dont want my conscience disturbed and to d Glory of God and stern decision, we were able to achieve that till we did our first introduction.
I lived within my means, i was working then, but in a private school, i never go for expensive things, even till now, i dont buy expensive things, i was always contempted, i gathered self respect for my self, even some of my friends nicknamed me tomboy.....i never see what i cant achieve myself, i always ask myself....what if im created as a man?, afterall, i have seen men who collect d same amount i collect as salary and they take care of their family, why will i then think that its man that should be responsible for my financial obligations.... I cant imagine a human being like myself shouting at me, God forbid! When i am not a burden to you.......awwww, so demeaning. He gets my respect and i also get his respect, he always say he want our daughter to have d same mentality i have, and by d grace of God, she will be like that.

I love d man in d post, just lke my pple in Ijebu says.......eni to ba sowo kuduru gbowo lowo okunrin, gbodo setan lati "gbepon" ...........(she who knows how to collect money from man must be ready to collect kpetus as well.) na long throat dey worry that lady, she be thief, she dey even thief d man's smartness. Abeg, im out........smh once again.

I remember when i was preparing for my wedding, one of d things my mum told me is not to employ a househelp, she said none of them cant molest, her words......."if you employ a male help, there is tendency for your girl child to be molested, if you employ a female help, there is also tendency for your male child to be molested, so, dont try it, do what you can when you can, thank God you are not a lazy person" then, i asked........how can a male child be molested? She said, when we were young, one of her maids, then, was always asking my elder brother to be playing with her nip....ples and her clitori...s, that it was her friend who came to pay her visit that caught them, and she decided to sack d three of them instantly, then, my elder brother was around 5 yrs old, while i was around 1+..........that was in early 197's....not to talk of this time where disordeliness, perversion and waywardness are d orders of d day.
As for me,i always tell my kids, bole male and female....if anybody ask you to do any wierld thing, first of all tell dad or mum or even both of us.....awww, d level of perversion these days is scary.
May God help us all.

@jidegirl&Gambrosia......... I love your comments.


In these civilisation days, one cannot but start building one's kid brain very early, except one wants his/her own child to be odd among his peers.

@op, me, im yet to see where a two year's old kid is given several homeworks to do, except it happened to you.
May God help us all.