₦airaland Forum

Mrs mansson: It depends on hw much you are talking about.I have actually begged for money before and I was so well dressed.is not as if I didn't have money but I just needde 20 naira note.it happened when I was stiLl in school.I actually went shopping and I can remember so well I went out with notes comprising of 1000 naira note and I took some change for taxi.I just can't explain how it happened that when I was finally through with my shopping the last change with me is what took me to my school gate.I needed to take a shuttle to my hostel which was 20 naira.I searched and searched all I could see was 500 and 1000 note .i was so confused.I couldn't just treK and before anyone boards the bus you make a payment.when it got to my turn,i was trying to explain that I had 500 naira,the kind of embarrasment I received was horrible.the driver sent me out of his bus immediately.i stood for about 15 minutes.I couldnt spot any of my friends or room mate.I approached a guy and begged for 20 naira with proper explaination.

aadetoyin: funny enough this has never crossed my mind. i feel it depends on your kind of family and the kind of family that your spouse comes from. if they are the type that will come racing for their brother's property then one should start preparing a will immediately you start acquring assets and you can keep amending the will when your assets increase. if not, just wait till your children are teenagers and let them know about every property that you own because no one is to be trusted.

bukatyne: Dis is interesting. However, what is d hubby doing when d woman is trying to balance career and family?

enaye1: Yeah play acting is ok. and face painting is kiddies play. What I think d poster is talking about here is serious adult make up like lipstick, mascara and glitter etc for going out. Heck I see it often in church yes church!



What she if 'decides' to use lipstick, foundation and such when she is 6 or 7? is that ok?

ayobase: So Jarus eventually resigned!

bjcole: This discussion is not just about what d woman ought to do & ought not to do. Lets talk more about how a married woman can joggle her carrier & her family well without any one suffering. Is it really possible? can a lady that works in a bank, wit kids & closes 6 or 7pm ve time 4 her family? I think Ladies shd knw when 2 go down low when family is involve. I m running after money, my wife is running after cash, @ whose expense? who takes care f d kids? house maids i guess. God help us.

jaymichael: JOKES section please.

davidylan: you sir, need to go back to school and pay attention in biology class.

baba dey: Thx. Children are really the joy of motherhood, He will be released from the hospital today by 12pm.


@gambrosia.. Exactly,what I felt.


@greatgod2012... She has her reason(s),pls. Let's don't pick on others.

coogar: females with male genitåls?
i am still wondering how you managed to discover this......



your boss is hypersensitive.....
this is a minor issue. if any worker does not show up for 2 days because of a flimsy excuse without a prior notice, divide her salary by the number of working days and deduct the number of days of her absence from her monthly wages. this is why i like contract jobs. you get paid for the number of hours you clock. no sentiments, no megedefegede!

davidylan: she should use her vacation time.

jidegirl12: Like debrief already wrote..there's more to that story... In my world it's considered a 'No Show' and I can fire you for that( labor law says so too) .....

But if the employee is a hard working person and has good work ethic ( like Damiso) then that's another story and the boss's call.... a day suspension without pay or query whatever...

You just can't call me suddenly when your service is desperately needed( esp when you've done it several times before) .... It's your duty/role to plan ahead for your emergencies , or disciplinary action will follow .period.

ileobatojo: Is your boss on crack? How does he expect her to make herself available when the child is admitted to the hospital and there's no one else to watch the child there? So she should abandon her child in the hospital to go to work right? Or she should get the child discharged, haul the poor thing with her to work and then drive back to the hospital to get readmitted? Someone already has called in sick, taking a sick day o, but you want them to make themselves available? People should not abuse their sick day privileges agreed but when a real situation arises, then you must allow then to take their contractually allowed sick time!

biolabee: greatgod

for me i see it this way

Make a decision based on the mitigating factors this includes salary, distance to and from work etc
Evryones circumstance is different and solutions have to be customised based on this

I advise people should work in child friendly companies such as schools, NGOs or some professional firms which easily prefer to absorb ex - staff rather than retrain new hires. The pay is not as much as the banks but allows you flexi working

Also forgotten are the manufacturing companies like Nestle, PG and Unilever which have good packages (live on the mainland so not much traffic stress)
Living on the mainland means cost of living (creche, day care, schools, food is lower which also means on a smaller income you save more

Also child spacing is also key
Dependin on the age of the woman though The better the spacing the more time the woman has to acclimatise and less body ravages
2.5 - 3 years spacing is good
This will also help in the future to avoid a case where you have three or more kids in secondary school or university for prolonged times

people look down on working outside lagos but these cities at times are best for family life though u dont make as much as in Lagos
Land is cheaper you can thus easily build a bungalow and live rent free
Eg Enugu, Calabar, Ibadan, Jos , Akure

The major thing to me though is commitment think one has to make conscious decisions and stick to it
God help us all

Just a thot there is no one size fits all