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[quote author=Mynd_44]Excuse you[/quote]pls, i dont understand you!

Freiburger: Barrack Obama for example.

and Fasola, d gov of lagos state too.

I think......."take care" is more appropriate.

I intentionally ignored this thread, because, i knew its going to turn into war zone.

Thay being said, i will say, everybody should do what seems right in one's sight to make d marriage work. Marriage is not child's play, it requires maturity, understanding, tolerance and compromise.
If d hubby is matured enough to know that, he doesnt have to let d wife work herself to death in d house, d4, she should be assisted, then d wife must also be matured enough to appreciate d man and not always impose it on d man.
If d man doesnt help d woman in household chores, d woman should understand d ego of d man and tolerate him, doing what she is capable to do, not overworking herself to death,which means, that shouldnt be a reason to file for divorce.
Marriage is either simple or complex, depending on d type of individuals involved in a certain marriage.
As far as im concerned, my man helped me in household chores, but i have never and will never impose it on him or remind him about one, hes always d one that decide which one to help me out with.
Above all, no two marriages are d same,everyone should try and make his/her marriage work.........im tired of talking about housechores again, whichever anyone wants, let him/her do.
May God help us all.

So,as beautiful as that lady is, na 2nd wife she go do.........na wa for money o!

Yes, i agree, left handwriters write eligibly better than their right hand mates.
Also, very many of them seems to be exemptionally brilliant and intelligent.......may be as a result of d position of their brain.

Let us share experience together, let us learn from one another, let us exchange ideas with one another, as regards parenthood. What has being a father or a mother(parenthood) changed about you?

As for me, before i became a mother, i spend anyhow, but now, not like so again, i now plan well b4 i spend, taking into cognizance that, emergency can spring up on d kids anytime and i wont like to leave everything for my hubby.
Next, before i became a mother, i can go to bed as early as 5/6pm, but now, who born me, when a lot of things are laid down for me to take care of, i cant believe i can be sleeping at d time i use to sleep now.
Again, before i became a mother, i was extremely neat to d extent of not wanting to have nursing mothers as visitors, because of d fear that d baby will mess up my room, but now, im more tolerant, its not that im no more neat, but i never believed i could tolerate what im tolerating with my kids and other pple's kids now.


As for hubby, before he became a father, once he determine that hes not going to spend a certain amount of money, there is nothing that can actually make him change his mind, if you like, bring heaven down, na so so look he go dey look you, but now, hes no more like that, he always want to satisfy his kids, d4, no special money he cant spend on d kids, especially when they are sick.

Pls, share yours, what has parenthood changed about you, be it positive or otherwise......let us learn from each other.
Thanks.

Hheeeeehheeeh........
Nigeria pastors........i hail o

My own concern and question is, why are Nigeria leaders arrested and charged by EFCC after leaving d office, does that mean that there is no credible leader in this our xtry.........so scary.......
May God help us all.

the bible says.........HE who finds a wife, finds a good thing...not......SHE who finds a husband

Goodlck to you in your search, but beware of gold-diggers, because its going to be hard to know who is actually in love with you or in love with your money.

na wa o, abeg make dem tell am say make e no do tummy......like stella obj, remember say na spain stella died, so, PEG, no go do am o

@ efe, thanks so much, i never heard of this b4,i just checked mine now in proportion to all my children and its very accurate, i even checked for my siblings, its all accurate.
@op, this is going to be useful, try it.
May God help us all.

@op, pls, modify your post for easy understanding, its incomprehendable. Thanks.

@op, firstly, happy married life!


2ndly, as regards this lesson learnt in yur marriage, sorry, she might have really betrayed yur trust indeed, but instead of keeping resentment against her, why dont you call her and tell her what she did wrong, let her know dt dis is marriage and not bf/gf relationship, im just concerned about your marriage, because its just too early to be taking such decision, that is what marriage is all about, no perfect person in life, imagine, two imperfect persons together, therefore, dont expect perfect marriage, its all about TOLERANCE, COMPROMISE and TRUST. May God help us all.

First lesson learnt.............to grow up, i use to behave funny when we first got married, on any little issue, i flare up as if im dealing with a non-human, d day my hubby called me by my first name and said, "i want you to know that this is marriage and marriages are not meant for babies, d4, grow up, if you want us to enjoy this marriage together". That statement was an eye-opener for me, it changed d way i reason and helped my marriage, 8yrs and still counting, its like we just got married yesterday..
Again, may God help us all, especially to make and take d right decision.

There is nothing to cry about here, but nevertheless, i say ..... Amen.

Very scary now, to employ househelps, hhhhmmmm, may God help us. I just pity d little girl.

Instead of him eating chicken, he "abused" chicken.....LWKMD.......
crazyman indeed.........i wonder d satisfaction hes going to derive therein......too many strange things happening these days.

Thanks.

bjcole: Its not a question of who owns, the two are distinct & important people in his life, they perform distinct roles & he cannot do without any of them. I think d question shd be who is more important or first among both, 4 me, my mum & my wife are both important but my wife takes precedence in all matters & decision, she is one with me.

did you notice dt d wife did not respect d MIL from d way d thread was written, d argument btw both of them was disrespectful to d MIL, which shouldnt be encouraged, hence, my comment.

k2039: Actually known of them own me, I own myself.

yes, i agree with you, but did you read d original post of d poster, from d way d content of d thread was written, it obvious d MIL and d DIL are at loggerhead, which i can never support, so, to let d wife know that she is not suppose to be at loggerhead with her MIL, one has to let her know dt, b4 her, d MIL was.
May God help us all.
Btw, you scarce small o, hope no problem?

I think you should be more concerned about having one more child than trying to have a baby boy, what if you are still waiting, will you be agitating for gender of d baby.
That being said,why dont you ask your hubby what his reaction will be if d next trial turns out to be a girl again, then you both reach a concensus whether to try it or not.

It depends on d personality and d temperament of individual. If d hubby is a sanguine and d wife, a phylegmatic, the man will definately make more friends than d wife. And if d wife is a sanguine and d hubby is a phylegmatic, d wife will make more friends than d hubby.
Also, upbringing is another factor, anyone who is brought up to believe that friendshipness is his/her ladder to greatness will always make more friends than d one that is made to believe that friendshipness is evil.

This is one of d questions i hate most in my life. How can you compare d mother with a wife.
The two of them are peculiar in their own way.
And for d wife, has it occurred to her that d man can exist without d wife but cant exist without d mother giving birth to him.
Im not d type of wife that will see my MIL as a rival but as a person that should be highly appreciated and respected.

There is no amount of response here that is going to change how you are going to be or look, just prepare for it and focus on your health as well as dt of d baby, when you are preggy.
May God help you!

chaircover: You want his people to say that I cooked him egusi with 7 lives

I'm not being funny but this kind of mumu behavior will annoy me so much that it will lead to divorce. I like my men with balls and not some poncy gay airy fairy cotton wool sissy!

Good morning sweetheart in the morning is good enough for me.

for how many years will this continue?
abeg, madam CC, leave d guy till he get married, may be he will get time for all this bullshit for even 10 yrs. Some pple think marriage is child's play, until they get into it, they will now realise that there is more to it.
Im not saying couples should not show love to each other, but not every morning, after every breakfast.........abeg, time will tell.

No way!....im a very shy person, i will be thinking everyone in d workingplace is talking about us and besides, it can cause distraction, when you both are deeply in love with each other.

Femsyn: Well, I follow Zodiac signs/astrology, but I don't dwell on it. Although, after a careful study of d signs, u can't help but see traces of similarities in people, especially, intimate friends. For example, a Taurus Male tend to do well with a Pisces Female, except in a few special cases.
PS: don't be too quick to discard what u haven't made a thorough research on.

pls, on a serious note, i want you to enlighten me, can gemini male and gemini female get along? Thanks for your response.

Astro.......what?
Me i dont even know d one i fall into, and i never heard my hubby talk about it, which means he too doesnt believe in it. I do my things d way i think it should be done and therefore i am(not d astro..nonsense) responsible for d outcome.....be it positive or otherwise, thank God, most of d time, i dont regret my actions, including my marriage, so, to me.......that astro...something is bullshit.

I think this should be in jokes section, pls........

@op, you are absolutely right!


Let d change start frm you!