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Anambra is trying but honestly, if i ever leave this country, I wouldn't want to invest in her for anything.

FRANCISTOWN:
Let's not even go about the DIY test kit and the blood group, those ones get plenty loopholes well. There is a method I always use, and it has never failed me. The reason it is highly effective is because no one knows the method, if anyone knew about the method, they'd soon find a way around it. The power of the method is in it's secrecy.

Baba,share the secret with us.

Nobody takes Lai Mohammed serious.

FRANCISTOWN:
And the most appalling part of it is that, not everyone will have the money to conduct the DNA test. There are other methods you can use, I'll talk about some in my future threads.

affordable DIY test kits can be ordered online plus the costs of DNA tests would continue to fall( at least provided the free fall of the naira against foreign currencies doesn't worsen with time) please talk about the other methods, I believe genotype and blood group is included.

FRANCISTOWN:
When I was in school in those days, I met 2 different men who never even knew each other. I stand by the oath of brotherhood, I lie to you not my brother. I'll only tell about one of the men.

I think it was my sophomore year back then. Some couple with 2 kids moved into the room opposite to mine's . I am this kinna guy who could stay up to 1year Inna the house without hearing my voice whatsoever (exaggerated though).

One day I didn't have lectures so I was reading a book in my room, I can still remember the name of the book, it was "The Djinn" by Graham Masterton.
My room was the first and also the landlord put a chair by my window where people could sit and gist most times. So on this "fateful" day, I heard someone talking by the window, I thought I was the only one at the apartment as everyone would have gone to their places of hustle, but I wasn't really bothered because the voice was familiar. I tried as much as possible to concentrate on the book. (my earphone got spoilt then so I couldn't just put it to good use and ignore) .

As I was trying to return focus to the book I was reading, I heard the woman say "You, you no dey always hear e don do, my husband sef no dey do me like this. You go just dey rough handle person anyhow, I tell you make you no release inside me, and you still do am". ......(some things here wey I miss, because I dey try mind my business) .... Then I heard again "Okay , if you promise say you no go touch me, I go come collect the money for your house tomorrow".
Bruv! When I heard that, I had to look thru my window, (my window was the kind you could see someone from inside but not from outside unless at night if the bulb was on).
Man! I was flabbergasted , when I saw her.

The following day, as I was washing my clothes outside. I saw the man and we started talking about how primary schools had changed compared to our days when you had to touch your ear with your other arm over your head to see if you were mature enough to begin school. Somehow he mentioned to me that he wouldn't be going to work early because he would be taking his kids to school because his wife went for a friend's party early enough to assist them in cooking and stuffs. Immediately I heard that, I heard the big bell of Florence rang in my heard. So we started talking about the wife and I heard that there was a time , the man went to work, came back home to find that the wife had packed and left with their last child who was 3months old then.

She went like that for 11 months until when she came back and the man gladly accepted her... You see it's a good thing your wife came back, but sir. It won't do you no harm to be on your guard. Just have it at the back of your mind that she can leave again. Even if she doesn't leave, you've got nothing to lose.

Honestly, getting married scares the shit out of me,I guess I would always drum it into my wife's ears from dating times that I must conduct DNA tests on my kids, maybe that would put some fear into her. Modern marriages are mostly scams.

Ebelelivinston:
I got married to my virgin wife two years ago and she gave birth last year December which means my daughter is for months old now
Myself and my wife aren't staying in the same state, though I opened a shop for her where she's residing.Am the type that is addicted to checking my wife's phone each time I visit her.So,one day that I visited her, as usual,I went to her phone and saw a love chat on her Whatsapp with one man, like usual ,I asked her about the chat she told me everything between she and the guy.
The guy is her neighbor but he is not residing at the place where my wife is but that's the family house and he comes back every weekend.He has been disturbing my wife who is holding a baby for sex.We decided to set him up and I told my wife to invite him yesterday when he isn't aware that I'm around.Finally,he came and I caught him red-handed,but instead of attacking him,I decided to advise him.He was thankful I didn't disgrace him.My fellow nairalnders,did I act weak or right?

OGA, your problem is with your wife not the man and you're yet to solve that problem, why would she engage in such a chat with the man and didn't even bother to inform you of her landlord's sex demands from her? Your problem is bigger than you realise. The stupid man should have been arrested and charged to court,the Nigerian police always ready made charges for such people starting with 'engaging in action capable of breaching public peace'.

Tunagee:
Yeah, there was a persistent verbal abuse on my part, so her parents decided i needed to work on my anger. Story in my posts of 2019.
I grew up with this 'i cant tolerate nonsense' mentality.

so you now tolerate nonsense and the potential that she only came back after been used,misused and abused sexually by other men and realising that those men have no interest in marrying her? Honestly, having a no nonsense mentality shouldn't make you abuse her verbally yet been away for eleven months? Wow.

Tunagee:
''A king doesn't beg, I personally hate begging. The moment you beg a woman, you already sold your authority''

Bros, you are full of wisdom. One silly mistake i made some years ago when my wife left. Really, the several begging did not bring her back until i also abandoned her for close to 11months b4 her brain come reset.

Wonderful post that made my day.
I also saw some areas where i erred in this your write up. Nice one

your wife left you for 11 months and you still took her back?

Heroicvic:
hello everyone please I need your candid advice
I'm confused about myself; I don't know what I am.
I can say I'm kind and I'm not, that I'm generous and I'm not... here's my reason

I'm not comfortable giving out my money to people that's not my family, especially ladies (I hate myself when I do coz they never stop asking and I feel I'm not obligated to help) I can spend on myself and my loved ones but when a lady ask me for money I grow furious instantly

and when I say I'm generous, I feel very Happy and fulfilled when I give to the less privileged or someone that is starving on the street even without them asking

I live in school area and most of my neighbors are female who always need your favour almost all the time requesting anything requestable

here is my concern, these neighbors tag me stingy but within me I know I'm not, I'm not just comfortable giving to some set of people

do you think this is normal? what advice do you have for me please? please be kind with your response.. thanks

there's nothing wrong with you,Nigerian girls are professional beggars without appreciation, however, when you're ready to marry,you must be ready to spend in order to attract the lady of your choice, love don't exist in women's dictionary, ignore at your own risk.

MackyNaija:
Instead of doing the aluminum or styrofoam parapet, I'll do the regular concrete one and cry once about the cost

POP in the living and dining rooms are more likely to happen than the parapet. Not too expensive.

Those fiber boards will not happen, too ugly with 2" plank running end to end to hold them in place.

why don't you like aluminum parapet?
Iol @fibre boards, I'll send you a picture later of a tastefully done patterned fibre board later. You have really done your research.

Bye bye to free and fair elections in Nigeria.

MackyNaija:
Plan is to use something like this below/concrete stamping.
Can't deal with paving stones falling apart or grass growing in between them.


Multiple cost cutting measures are planned (still unsure what to do) chief of them are parapet and ceiling pop - both beautiful but cost a lot.

Still I believe in "buy once and cry once". Just do it.

we know have aluminum parapets that cost almost nothing extra for the same look,You can limit POP to only the living/dining room, a good quality PVC or even patterned fibre cement board can be used in other areas of the house.

MackyNaija:
Thanks greenermodels, location is my hometown in Abia state.
There is no estimate and no time-frame to build this, I'll keep funding till it gets completed but I just need to ensure any money spent goes where it's intended. In my head, N15m should take this project very very far.

Nah, not overlooking anything. I have no fear, I just respect the fact that building a house is not a small endeavor but one can never finish what you don't start.
Na so we take start this waka. Small small, it will be completed afterall if was an empty parcel of land this time last month.

you have already done your research very well, 15 million would surely finish the house with modest finishing, this excludes the cost of any external works like paving stones.

MackyNaija:
As it's widely known, the cost is dependent on what you want to build.

Floor Plan was done in multiple iterations, it cost a whole lot as I kept asking for it to be redone until the interior layout was achieved. Cost could range from 50k to 500k (make una no vex, other costs will be more precise).
We started in March 2022 and Completed the plan around January 2023. No rush, na small small we go design and build am.

This plan make sense die, I would redesign it to my taste later, please where in the southeast is this project and what's your estimate for everything? ( I think you're overlooking the cost of finishings such as tiles, plumbing fixtures, electricals etc, that's where most money goes into(plus roofing if going for a high roof).

God1000:
This is really unacceptable

The government of Samuel Ortom, the traditional rulers in Benue should rise to the occasion before things spiral out of control

The fight which started in border communities of Obi and Otukpo is now escalating to towns and cities with reports of targeted killings and destruction of properties.

I know we have a lot igede and idoma guys on this forum, they've been keeping quiet as well

Please call your brothers and tell them to stop this senseless fight.

I'm not here to trade blame, we don't have time for blame games, all we want is peace, we are brothers, we've lived together for so long, intermarried, we have so much shared history, we should stop killing each other for God sake.

This whole fight is over electricity

I don't want anybody to turn this thread into tribal war, please don't say anything if you don't have anything good to say

Houses, shops and communities have been burnt with uncountable deaths.

Nlfpmod

Did you say that all these damage is over electricity?

lhordspy:
But Peter Obi, you guys Messiah said the policy was okay and perfect. And i remember so well you all celebrated every letter that made up those words of his back then because you thought it would affect Tinubu. You even praised Emefiele and cheered him on to 'walk and never stumble'

All of a sudden election is over. Eyes don open. Zombidients are now crying to buhari and emefiele for cash. Go and meet your messiah, Peter obi; the one who misled you.

Are you people not 'reaping gain again'?

the policy was supposed to prevent vote buying and rigging so all patriots saw sense in it then till Buhari did his worse.

chuksdev:
Hi Good evening

My current girlfriend doesn't call me

We only talk when I call or text.

We have dated for like 6 months now and it is a long distance relationship.

She has been like that but at first I thought it was because we are getting to know each other.

But it is beginning to bother me now I feel like she does not love me.

I have not called for like one week now and she has not called.

She is not demanding but I do send her money sometimes.

I love though

I want to break up with her. I just want to know if this is a good reason to leave her.

she's not interested in you.

Soludo and his minions must suffer the consequences of their evil actions.

I don't know who're more evil,our present crop of politicians or those supporting/working for them.

Kobojunkie:
Depends on the kind of marriage they wish to have. If the man wishes to sit as god over the woman in marriage, then she probably shouldn't contribute even a dime of her money since her submission and body are pretty much all that culture requires of her. However, if a partnership is what they seek to have, then the man foregoes his ego for an equal partnership or something resembling it instead.

Haba,god over a woman in this modern times too? Can you endure such an arrangement even if the man is Dangote?

JASONjnr:
Why should any man allow his wife to contribute equally in the affairs of his house he lord's over?


Except he's a hard working man and things aren't setting in for him and the house needs fundings and the wife is capable.... But if he's capable, he should set his house in a good light ...

I will never allow my wife to contribute equally....

She can use her money to do what she wants.... But I will almost handle the biggest bills...

So if both of you earn 50k as teachers, you would provide entirely from your earnings and she keeps her because you want to impress her as a man? Please, what's the biblical role of a woman in a marriage? Is it to be a mere consumer using her money to do what she wants?

Epilogue: The Wife of Noble Character

10 b A wife of noble character who can find?

She is worth far more than rubies.

11Her husband has full confidence in her

and lacks nothing of value.

12She brings him good, not harm,

all the days of her life.

13She selects wool and flax

and works with eager hands.

14She is like the merchant ships,

bringing her food from afar.

15She gets up while it is still night;

she provides food for her family

and portions for her female servants.

16She considers a field and buys it;

out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.

17She sets about her work vigorously;

her arms are strong for her tasks.

18She sees that her trading is profitable,

and her lamp does not go out at night.

19In her hand she holds the distaff

and grasps the spindle with her fingers.

20She opens her arms to the poor

and extends her hands to the needy.

21When it snows, she has no fear for her household;

for all of them are clothed in scarlet.

22She makes coverings for her bed;

she is clothed in fine linen and purple.

23Her husband is respected at the city gate,

where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.

24She makes linen garments and sells them,

and supplies the merchants with sashes.

25She is clothed with strength and dignity;

she can laugh at the days to come.

26She speaks with wisdom,

and faithful instruction is on her tongue.

27She watches over the affairs of her household

and does not eat the bread of idleness.

28Her children arise and call her blessed;

her husband also, and he praises her:

29“Many women do noble things,

but you surpass them all.”

30Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;

but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.

31Honor her for all that her hands have done,

and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.

Proverbs 31vs 10-31

Commonsense dictates that a woman that doesn't fulfill the above description is not a worthy life partner, she's more like an employee to be hired and sacked as the need arises.

Esoresor:
NO

Why? Explain the reason for your answer.

The couple met in their workplace and later got married, they earn roughly the same amount of salary, should they contribute an equal amount of money monthly for the family upkeep?

When NNAMDI KANU keep saying that the UK is our biggest problem in this country, some people thought he was joking, now how far? They didn't even allow the election to end before coming out with their true colours. Neocolonialism.

All obidients affected by this election should be donated for,that includes the fellow that lost an arm to APC thugs in Lagos.

Please, I don't know where to begin but I don't want to be in Nigeria by end of next year. I'm single and university educated.

Achiever247:
Good day everyone, please i need help. I want to travel abroad what is the first thing i must do?.

which country and for what purpose? I hope it's not the incoming election result that is pursuing you?

All those people trying to divide this country along tribal and religious lines would fail, we all suffered under Buhari's pro north nepotism and we would all suffer if PDAPC wins. Let's be Obidient and Yusful to ourselves.

The biggest question is "How sure is the man that he's the biological father of the child?". In an era where girls keeps more than one boyfriends plus hookups, a man should make sure that he's the real owner even if it's medical tests after childbirth before assuming responsibility.

Ekundayo7574:
all my generation are voting for tinubu and we will make sure that Igbo don't go out in Lagos to vote for there useless candidates during that day that's my mission

you can't even differentiate between there and their? You're even proud to be a tout and a menace to your society.

RuddyFusion:
Only God knows if they are truly unknown gun men

This is my exact reaction, could be innocent fellows killed after the attack, we've seen too many reports of such.

Savedday2:
Nigerians are very stubborn set of people!

You were given 3months notice to deposit your old note but, refused believing there most be extension of deadline.

If Buhari like, let him extend the deadline to the next 10years, some people will still wait for die minute.

Is only dull brains that doesn't know that El-rufai is fighting for his personal pocket.

it's scarcity of the new currency is that is the problem, some of us are living now by God's grace.