I like the way you think. Oil dey your head.

To the OP, this is one of the best advice you can get here. God will see you through.

UDUJ:


That's serious alcohol addiction then. And this needs to be treated with utmost care because of the withdrawal symptoms which most times can be violent. Please have a sit down with him and have a heart to heart chat with him on how this his addiction is causing a strain on your marriage and making him a laughing stock as well. You can take him to a rehab center that deals with addictions, I know we don't have triple A centers in Nigeria but we have some good rehab centers in Lagos. And act fast because apart from family strains it will also affect his job performance and relationship with other people as well. Please don't abandon him, try and help him get through this addiction. I wish you well.

Happy birthday, Papa. May God's anointing and grace be multiplied upon you in Jesus name.

Happy birthday, dear.

Adeniyi9462:
Today is my birthday

Congratulations, Sis. God bless your new home with peace, love, and blessings over flowing in Jesus name.

Congratulations Papa

Bayern will win!!!!!!!

Like seriously! It's not like the keeper is not doing his job, they just lack defence!

Kylekent59:
Chelsea no get defence

You're correct. But unfortunately this happens every now and then.

Palema007:
The word or act of Discipline shouldn't even exist in a Sane Marriage or relationship. What's that? A Remand home or Correctional center?

Sex is sweet but not everyone can engage in it everyday. Your sexual drive is on the high side.

What I think you can do is to add spice to the whole thing. It doesn't have to be missionary style every now and then(referring to she just lying down for you to do the work).

Repeatition can be boring sometimes. Change sex locations. Leave your bedroom. Try places you haven't tried before. Somewhere like the dinning room, shower etc.

https://imammi.com/7-things-couples-can-do-daily-to-ignite-the-intimacy-in-their-relationship

EastanPower:
My wife is complaining that I demand too much sex. Personally I can have sex every day as I value it even more than food . She is saying that I want to kill her. What work do women do during sex? Is it not just to lie down at the very least while I sort out the rest?

What can I do as I am determined not to cheat on my wife but I am being denied. I am confused.

To Punish or to discipline your partner in a demeaning way is the dumbest thing to do (that is if you truly do love your partner). Some go as far as striking their partner in public and rain horrible insults at them as a way of humbling them so that they see their wrong. How do we forget in a hurry that ‘Two wrongs cannot make a right.’ Whether you punish them openly or behind closed doors, that will not give you the result you seek.

There is a saying ‘Respect is reciprocal’ You cannot get what you cannot give. You give love, you get love in return; You give hate, you get hate in return. Thus, punishing your partner is the same thing as punishing yourself. We both know that no sane person would want to do that to himself or herself except for those who are mentally unstable.

You only want to love yourself and never miss any opportunity to bring out the best in you. Therefore, your partner should be your playmate and friend so whenever you think he or she has hurt you, the best discipline you can give is to sit your partner down and talk it out.

Here are 7 ways men prefer to discipline their partners


1. Domestic Violence
This trait is common with most men. Although not all men perceive violence to be an effective tool for communicating their dissatisfaction. A lot of women have died in marriage because of this vile way of correction which occurs as a result of anger and displeasure.

2. Lock Them Outside
While growing up, I witnessed a man who was accustomed to beating his wife and on one of those fateful days, he sent her out of the house. She stood outside for hours on that cold and rainy night, begging her husband to let her in or give her the children so she could leave. This type of behaviour is not something one should pride in.

3. Cheat on Their Wives
Cheating has become a norm for many men today. They go like “I mean why work things out with my partner when there are million and one ladies out there I can have fun with without reservations?”

4. Eat out Instead of Home-Cooked Food
I know a few who have done this. Men making their wives pay for her misdeed by rejecting their food is another punishment on its own. Eating out is not a crime, I mean… there’s no harm in that but doing so when you are very well aware that the woman in your life must have worked herself out to get your favourite food on the table, is what appears to be another level of torture.

5. Shy away from Fatherly Responsibilities
The man is usually considered the head of the home. It is expected of him to not only oversee his home but cater to his family as the breadwinner. Of course, there are homes where the woman is left with no choice than to fend for the family.

It does not come as a surprise to many particularly social workers who in their line of job, encounter men that shy away from their fatherly responsibilities (To give good and quality education to his children, providing for them to eat, shelter and clothes to wear) as a defence mechanism and a strategic way to deal with their spouse.

6. Avoid Touching Their Wives
This particular method of getting back to one’s partner can be chicky sometimes you know… I mean why starve yourself sexually all in the name of exerting pain on your wife as a man?

This denial on your side could cost both of you. Sex is not only for pleasure but for bonding. That period of misunderstanding with your wife is, in fact, the best time to get intimate and have reconciliation sex.

Regretfully, many men use this mechanism to torture their wives for the wrongs they’ve done.

7. Keep Late Nights and Sometimes Sleep Out
This is an ancient technique many men have adopted to get back at their wives. This single behaviour has led to many divorce and separation.

Here are 7 ways women prefer to discipline their husbands

1. Deny Them Sex
This is a common trait among married couples. A whopping number of couples withhold sex from their spouse (as a way of retaliation or punishment). Men are mostly moved by what they see, and many wives today seize this weakness of theirs when a misunderstanding arises.

A woman with beautiful and sexy curves knows how much her husband loves to see her in a red hot transparent dress, won’t miss a chance to arouse him by walking back and forth him in a seductive way, and when he attempts to come close to her, she bluntly turns him down.

It is believed that withholding sex from your partner is an effective tool to get your partner dancing to your tune.

This doesn’t always turn out to be true because a man who is on the inpatient side will take his frustration outside and get his desired sexual satisfaction.

2. Verbal Violence
Women are commonly referred to as the weaker vessel. Women are wordy so to speak. Because of their inherent nature, they tend to express themselves better by going vocal. When a woman is upset about something her man has done, in order to make her point to him, she can sometimes say hurtful words to her man in the heat of an argument. Not many men recover from verbal violence or verbal abuse.

3. Report Them to Close Relations
Not every man likes the idea of a third party. A good number of women feel when close relations know about the unpleasant behaviour of their husband, then they can get back at them. In a situation where a man is jobless, his wife instead of supporting him and bring out the best in him decides to ridicule or punish him before close relations by informing them about the financial state of her husband in a demeaning manner.

4. Stop Cooking for Them
The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. For some women who think their husbands deserve to be punished for some wrongdoing, they’d prefer to restrain from cooking for their husbands as a way of punishing or disciplining them(Husbands) for some behaviour that doesn’t sit well with them(wives).

5. Use Physical Violence
This is common with the men because they are the ones with the strength but surprisingly, most women go physical with their husbands. Gone are those days when we hear a fight coming from the bedroom and assume the man is the one doing the punching. Plenty of women have been taught to defend themselves and many have ended up abusing it, using it to their own advantage.

6. Criticize Their Men in Public
One thing men don’t joke with is their Ego. Criticizing your husband in public does not only hurt his ego but makes him lose respect for you and your marriage. Quit this behaviour of publicly criticizing your husband because if you don’t you may end up losing him forever.

7. They Steal From Their Husbands
Not all men are free givers. Some men will want to have the balance of the money they gave their wives for shopping(either for personal use or household use). Those kinds of men are mostly left with a woman who regardless of their financial state will seize every opportunity presented to them to steal from their pockets or even their bank account.

However, this behaviour may not be the best way to get your man to spoil you with his resources, many married women would rather choose to go by this method, not just to punish their husbands for being stingy but to meet pressing personal needs.

Best Way To Punish/Discipline or Deal With Your Partner

Showing Love is the greatest punishment there is. You just keep loving and loving until you see a significant change in your partner. Instead of obsessing on ways to hurt your partner, here are few things you can do to drive home your point.

1. Have a Heart-to-Heart talk

A heart-to-heart talk has been and will always be an effective tool for a stable relationship or marriage. This can be achieved by being alone with your spouse in a cool and quiet place. One of the best places to have a heart-to-heart conversation with your partner that would yield a beautiful result is the bedroom. You talk with each other, in a soft and low tone- this type of conversation breeds an irresistible connection between you too. During this talk session, you can air your displeasure and establish better ways to approach and handle issues relating to your marriage, career, finance etc.

2. Effective Communication

To have effective communication, there is a need for consistency. Consistency in sharing your thoughts, wishes, and desires. Talk about anything and everything. There is a huge difference between communication and shouting at the top of your voice. Bring home your point by having proper communication with your spouse, that way, neither of you would see the need or harbour the thought of dealing with the other to exert pain and suffering.

3. Buying of Gifts

A surprise gift can mean the world to someone who is disheartened and feeling insecure. Taking and having the best of romantic conversations is great but, sometimes all you need do is get a beautiful surprise package for your man or woman. You don’t need to go bankrupt to make that happen. A beautiful dress for your wife will do. A simple wristwatch for your husband will do. It is the thoughtfulness that counts. Let it come from your heart.

Yes na. She no need waste the opportunity na

Ninejaywon:
Very apt.

Most times na madam go just grab the rod they suck am like lolly-pop because the rod go just stand gidigba like Iroko tree. God knows why he gave men early morning erections.

Don't stress dear.. you will very soon

Blackpearlous:
I want to marry

Uwc, dear

ifko:
Thanks

Please, as you read, you are free to drop your views, opinion etc. I believe that conscious learning should be everyday thing so please don't feel shy to add to what you have read. Thank you

It is praiseworthy and commendable to start your day with a word of prayer especially if you’re a religious person with a strong religious background. But, another unique way to start your day and also bond with your spouse in the early hours of the morning is by getting giddy and sweaty under the sheets with your partner.

Early morning coffee can be refreshing nevertheless, morning sex transcends that refreshing feeling you get from a good cup of cup. It does not only leave you completely satisfied and wasted, but it also fosters a strong bond between you and your partner.

Studies have shown that couples who take morning sex seriously last longer in their relationship than couples who neglect the importance of intimacy in the early hours of the morning. Did you know that you can learn new things about your partner during early morning sex? Did you also know that your partner gets more expressive about how they feeling about you, the relationship, and how good you are in bed during and after early lay? Did you know that the best type of sex can be mostly achieved in the morning? Morning sex is a great way to start your day!

Benefits of Morning Sex
Experts recommend that couples start with a new kind of greeting – “Good morning sex!” Good morning sex is very promising as it helps to strengthen your relationship, add spice/flavor to your relationship and improve intimate connection with your partner.

1. It’s a form of exercise
A good, quality, and effective work out can also be done in the bedroom. You may wonder how. Working out is not by having a dumbbell in the bedroom or any other work out equipment but by engaging in quality sexual activities.

Exercise is usually done in the morning, so instead of trying to burn those calories by squatting to get that perfect figure 8 shape you desire, you could turn things around. Whilst you are deriving maximum pleasure from a great early morning sex, you also get to burn calories. According to research, a single session in the bedroom can burn as much as 200 calories.

2. Erection is at its best
Morning erections are quite distinct from normal erections(erections that happen from being aroused). Sometimes referred to as ‘morning wood’ or ‘nocturnal penile tumescence’ is very normal and can occur a few times during sleep. Erection in the early of the morning should be utilized. If your partner isn’t conscious of the blessedness or perhaps the goodness that comes with an effortless early morning erection, you can make a bold move on him because he is sure to last longer. A healthy morning erection does not last for more than 4 hours. So take advantage of his natural morning erection and have a good time in bed together.

3. It is a natural pain killer
The endorphins released during orgasm help to control chronic migraine, cramps, or headaches you may be having or may experience later in the day. Sex in itself is a pain reliever.

4. It’s good for your brain
Relevant studies have shown that early morning lay releases a mix of neurotransmitters and hormones. Before you completely emerge from your sleepy state in the morning, get in tune with your partner and kick off a connecting time with them. Sexual activity will help for brain relaxation and sharpening of the mind.

5. It gives you a younger look
Research has found older men and older women with active sex life looking five to seven years younger than their real age. BBC News once reported that older research suggests having sex at least three times a week can make you look younger than those who have less sex. Experts also think that morning sex is key to looking younger because it releases oxytocin- (the feel-good hormones) which engender bonding.

Effective Ways To Make It Happen
Just like making out time for a good massage or body exercise in the morning, you can also make out time for some Sexy morning moments with your partner which can be a better substitute to any type of body fitness. Morning sex no matter the type of sex position or location will always turn out great as long as both parties are up for some rompings. Irrespective of your schedules, you can have sex every morning with your partner.

1. Sleep naked
Why go to bed with some tight pants on when you’re with your spouse? Sleeping naked as a couple is one easy and sexy way to get giddy with your partner, especially when you’re both caught up in a dewy weather. You and your spouse wouldn’t go through the stress of undressing yourselves when you go to bed unclad. Sleeping nude facilitates intense cuddling which will most likely lead to body-quivering sex.

2. Be on the same page
Morning sex can be great. With all the juiciness that comes with early morning rompings, you shouldn’t assume that your partner would get along if you suggest it; Talk about it and be sure they’d like an early morning sex just like you do so they also prepare their mind. You don’t want them to see your advances as a form of disturbance.

3. Be spontaneous
Sex is not like taking preventive measures not to catch a virus. You do not need a guideline to take your partner to cloud 9. You also don’t need to be in perfect lingerie to get your partner aroused. Do a little work if you must to get them aroused and Hot.

4. A sexy/transparent nightwear
Imagine rolling over, being half-awake, and right beside you is your woman in a net-like short nightwear. As a man with a healthy erection, would suddenly get curious and want to explore her body to the fullest. A sexy nightwear is almost enough to get you in the mood for a hot sex session.

5. Make it a quickie
Morning sex doesn’t have to be like a marathon. It may not be possible to have as many sessions as you would like because of the day’s goal and objectives. However, having a quickie with your spouse before you step out for your daily work won’t hurt. An expert noted that, “Not everything has to be a marathon. Sometimes it’s just maintenance sex, like an oil change. Get it done.

6. A sensual but suggestive touch
Wake up your partner with a sensual massage. By so doing, they get aroused and tuned into the mood for a frisky morning in bed. To add, you need to ignite an irresistible spark with your partner by touching their sensitive organs so as to get their full attention. There are times when you’re in the mood and your partner isn’t, it’s up to you to turn them on by making them feel good and wanted just by the calculative movement of your hands; allow your hands roam freely on their body.

Oil dey your head

donstan18:
If we are to execute all corrupt elements in Nigeria, nobody will survive it.

We only condemn corruption when it doesn't Favour us and call it connection when it Favours us. Simple!!