₦airaland Forum

cococandy:
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Don’t get me wrong, yes I may have presented it wrongly but the fact is that men are created in a away different when it comes to affection. Yes I totally agree with what you said, but my submission is base on the fact why a man can marry 4-5 wife and still love and care for them equally but a woman can’t.

cococandy:
Every reason is a good reason because it means if they don’t say no at that time, they are going to be having sex with you when they don’t feel like it. The proper thing is to resolve the matter before initiating sex once more. Saying they can go ahead and do it because they “don’t have a good reason to say no” implies that you don’t mind if the person feels forced into it.

And honestly, do you want to have sex with someone who’s not sexually into you at the moment? When y’all say conjugal rights, you sound like it’s something you’re taking and you don’t care if the other person is on the same frequency as you.

Unk about it

I can understand you @ the bolded, but u need to understand that man does n’t need connection or neither do we care if we are in the same frequency with a lady while having sex or to have sex, our own no to pour out oo. That is why some men will have sex with maid and even mad woman.

cococandy:
I’ve addressed your other points in my other posts

Hormonal issues are treatable.

Hygiene issues can always be fixed as long as the couple are willing to communicate and listen to each other .

Okay, Thanks. That is to say, those things are not necessarily a good reason to deny a spouse conjugal right.

cococandy:
Yes if a man is sleeping around, it’s perfectly splendid reason for the woman to refuse to sleep with him.
Women aren’t dumping grounds for diseases

Eww!!!

Accepted provided she did not go and sleep with someone else because that makes both of them the same. But you never address other points that I raised.

cococandy:
Since you asked. Here are some reasons women have said they reduced marital sexual intimacy

1) poor hygiene

2) loss of attraction

3) wife is carrying a larger portion of the family responsibilities (big libido crusher)

4) hormonal imbalances leading to decreased libido

5) husband cheats, so wife no longer respects or cherishes his sexual attention. Wants to avoid getting STDs from him

6) husband is poor in sexual performance, So it becomes a chore for the woman . Sex that doesn’t give you orgasm or sex with a partner who doesn’t care if you enjoy it too or not must be tedious I imagine

So the solution to these problems is to deny him his conjugal right?
The hormone aspect is it not what the woman can work on, what about the men who don’t cheat bu their wife denies them sex, why the loss of attraction biko, when did he develope this poor hygiene, after marriage or it has been the same before they got married?

freshkpomo:


If he really died from football related injuries, how did the parent get to know the names of the other boys?

NB: these boys are not his classmates, but his senior... You chop bribe ontop person pikin, your pikin go die like fowl for Nigeria, if him dey abroad,street gang go use knife seperate him heart from him chest.. You will feel the pain of loosing someone you love also...

Justice for this boy means nothing because it's not bringing him back, but it's the least you can do to prevent future occurrences.

God bless you, that was the question I wanted to ask then I saw this urs.

This guys have not stated the reason why he was ask to go out.

BRATISLAVA:
A sad story.

But what stopped your mother from saying that the food was salty? What stopped her? You've painted the picture that she cannot speak. Is she disabled? Your wife didn't deliberately set out to kill her. You're exaggerating for reasons best known to yourself. Talk to her and find out what truly happened. Unless you know it was the doctor who was giving her the food, since he knows everything that happened.

Let's hear the wife's side of the story.

Just listen to yourself, an old woman on a sick bed who has no option but to eat what was given to her and also may not want to cause trouble b/w her son and the wife. Like someone says here knowledge is also important you think if the woman has the knowledge of the implications of eating that food, she would prefer to starve to death instead. Micheal Jackson’s personal doctor is in jail today because of negligence on his side. So you don’t know that this DIL a an go to jail for negligence and manslaughter.
@ Beremx,
You would n’t quote Oyibo’s now. She simple killed the woman out of negligence so all of you here talking trash should stop defending evil.
@ SoundOsonic
Just read the nonsense epistle you type there.
I’m not saying the man should not forgive his wife, the deed has been done but let condemn evil and teach people to be careful with other people especially when their life is involve.

yyba:
that is how all this ipob terrorists news outlet are

You are really stup.d.ty personified.

When prophesies are given, is either you pray it to happen or you pray against it.

I wonder why all of you are complaining, when he said south east region are 5% that did not vote for him thus did not deserve dividends of the government all of you supported him.

Magnoliaa:
I have. Plenty of times.

Reasons:
- Money
- Attitude
- Ideological differences
- Religious beliefs
- Sexual Incompatibility

This one too much,

InTheCloudySky:
He has found out his wife is not cheating. That should be enough to remove all doubts from his mind as per her faithfulness to him, hence no need for him to continue recording her calls. Continuing would be taking it too far and invading her privacy.

Her “privacy” you say? When did husband and wife started having privacy biko? I expect you to say remove the app and trust/love her more.

Aufbauh:
Honestly I don't know why most Nigerians are too emotional and sensational. Above all they hate the truth.

The woman just said what she knows and people start attacking her left right center.

Even though her statement may be insensitive and inhumane, the right thing to do is to probe her further to tell us more instead of shutting her up.
Her revelation may be helpful in the long run and ensure justice for all.

The bolded was exactly what Femi Falana did, telling Lagos state police command and the investigating officers to question her because she has something to tell us about Sylvester’s death.

desiredhome:
I thought I was discussing with an adult.....now I know.....
Is it about Party or the people that made up the party?.......
What is the behavior or mindset of an average Nigerian if not greed and selfishness......

You can't eat your cake and still have it......

How can your company grow if you keep stealing from the company?.......ha

Ofcourse you are an adult like those old people looting and rendering Nigeria useless.
You had that mindset that it will take many people to make a change but to me it takes only one or 2 determine people to make a change. I remember what Major Ike Nwosu did when he was a military administrator of Abia state, Dora Akunyili during her time as DG NAFDAC. You don’t need crowd to make a change. So it’s not about party but about Leadership.

desiredhome:
Nobody is ready to clean because the same people who are suppose to clean/fix the country are the same people messing the country......
Majority of the people that was in the PDP are the same people that are in APC......
The only reason people are so desperate to win election/get to power especially in Nigeria is to steal and to become rich overnight.......and people like you will start celebrating them without asking questions.... that is the poverty mentality I'm talking about.......
The stealing/looting is not only the politicians alone, all sectors of the economy are involved.... these are all as a result of poverty......

GREED BREEDS POVERTY.....

Is someone like you that talk down on other people in public and go behind to join them. I see in you a typical FFK who upon seeing money will start singing for the person you castigated few minutes ago.

desiredhome:
It's same old wine in a new bottle......the same wicked Nigerians,........

You lied, PMB has never been a member of PDP. PYO has never been a member of PDP.

desiredhome:
I think you should read those comments with open mind so you can understand points....

The white man's reasoning is different from the black man, they don't do things the way the black does and that is why they are not poor even with lesser resources,
The black man despite all the huge resources are still poor because they are wicked and greedy......

A white man will go for a job because he has the passion and to build that job irrespective of who is the owner while the black man especially in Nigeria will go for a job because of how much they can get ......

We should stop blaming others for what we are part of.......

How many white man had stolen their own money to come and hide in your black man country?.......
Even the poor/vulnerable Nigerians are the same people that are cheering these criminals as some of you are supporting Reno without asking him questions.........

Long and short, it's not the person in power that is the problem but the people themselves and their reasoning/mindset.....
In other words even when Obama, Donald Trump or whoever is made the president of this country things will still not work.....

I think we are almost saying the same thing here or can I say h deviated from your initial point. Like you said, white people when elected they face the challenges by working on their manifestos which is to solve that problem not to keep blaming the past government. They knew they were not elected to blame the past government but to clean the mess of the past government and fix things. How can this administration of 8yrs still blaming the past government and some of us join them as Blackman we are to still blame the past government.

desiredhome:
The white man's problem is not the case of poverty, that is the reason you blacks die in hundreds trying to cross to the white man's country for greener pastures.....

The past government are still Nigerians with same mentality of looting and looting out of greed/poverty mindset to the same white man's country without considering the consequences..... The black man is foolish both the leaders and the lead.....either in the present or past government.
You can't give what you don't have......the black is black with black mind (slave mentality) and will always be/remain slave to the white ......

Same people that had sold this country to poverty are same people shouting/complaining of bad economy...... foolish/poverty mindset blacks....

Until you blacks changes your greedy mindset you will keep complaining and complaining.....after this present government, you will still complain again in the next government.....

You are still talking out of point here, you are a black and like you said white people don’t dwell in the past, when they find a mistake they fix it and they don’t keeping making the same mistake and continue to blame the past, get it.

desiredhome:
This is how tribalism and sentiments have taken over some of you people's sense of reasoning........
You will be well when you decide to do the right thing....for now no single individual is your problem as far as this country is concern....
The criminal Reno was with the government that saw nothing wrong in looting......

Black man with black/slave mentality.....
Let the blame game continue...

We all agree and we voted them out for the APC government to fixed the damages and they ended up doing more harm than good and you are still blaming them and dwelling on the past. Can’t we forget the past and move forward? Stop talking about tribalism and face the fact.

desiredhome:
Was Reno not part of the previous government that legalized corruption in this country?.....Awon stealing is not corruption.....

Stupid black Africans that instead of building their own country will rather steal from their own country to the already developed countries and still come home and be blaming every other person except himself.....

The criminal Reno is also receiving the same prayer because he is part of the people that have looted/destroyed the economy of this country.........

I’m sure u re referring to urself as “stupid black African” Are you stupid when u decide that enough is enough and voted the past administration out for the new one hoping that things will change? Use ur sense before u talk.

desiredhome:
It's a case of sowing and reaping.....the problem is with you black man and greed/poverty mentality.......no matter who is there, it will only get worst.....how many Nigerian is ready to build if not to collect?.....

And you a white man has no problem. You are still here blaming a past government that all Nigerians voted out because they want positive change and yet it got worst after all her promises. Here you are talking about black, look at your mentality, negative mentality that “No matter who is there it will always get worst” change ur mentality please.

desiredhome:
Was he not part of the government that was legalized corruption in this country?.....Awon "stealing is not corruption". ....

The criminal Reno is also receiving the same prayer because he is part of the people that have looted/destroyed the economy of this country.........

And your government of today took the corruption to the next level. Anyway, I just answered your previous question sha.

Aonkuuse:
This man's problem in life now is Buhari, I wonder who is paying him to do this.

If you really mean well for Nigerians, why not help other Nigerians rather than disturbing our already frustrated life with your shit

He has really helped Nigerians and the rest of the world more than any state or federal government of Nigeria and her officials.
Go and watch his teaching on how to make money on YouTube.

Beebah2000:
E fiancée flog am because e cheat and some fools up there dey talk say him dey weak.
If na the woman cheat and the man con dey flog her, Una go dey insult her.
E good as she flog am sef, so that him no go cheat next time.

And you will be calling for the Man’s arrest but now you would n’t. What makes you different from them?

cococandy:
Has she been arrested yet ? Because what the fvck is this nonsense? I wouldn’t even be surprised if she’s the one who shared it on social media thinking she’s done something worth clapping for.

I like reading your comment because you are always objective in your opinion. I have been reading to see all the Ladies( Feminists and Non Feminists) to see if any of them will condemn and call for the Lady’s arrest but non.

ivolt:
What is Falana turning into?
He is asking the police to arrest Kemi for airing her opinion.
He would have been shouting oppression and due process if a politician did the same.
Hypocrite.

Did you call that an opinion? SHe sounds sure of what she was saying and was implying that Sylvester died because he consented to the beating. 12yrs old junior school boy that was beating and tortured to death by his senior school mates?

samsard:
Thank you for this. Vasectomy becomes less reversible as times goes on. She wants just one kid and wants the man to give up his fertility after that. Ridiculous.
She should find similar options for women if the one child idea is her and she doesn't want to be absolutely selfish.

She should remove her womb too. Just imagine?
If na me na slap she go chop. Nonsense

But they also married to our daughters naa, atleast they are not married to Animals.

They should publish the names of the people and the properties returned to them with location of the properties.

Candidlady:
iwont turn down a 500k offer!

but if he has hidden agenda, then two can play the game!

he knows ihave a boyfriend/husband but decided to blesme with 500 thou'. Am sure my boyfriend/husband wont telme to turn it down

Husband yes, but “Boyfriend” Babe you go think twice. Unless you earn more than that amount.

Candidlady:
what is bad in becoming a second husband

I believe you should be wise enough to know that you can’t compare husband and wife.