Zoie:
The average Nigerian man suffers from an extremely weak self esteem that needs to stay constantly bloated to stay functional.
That's why they chase after ladies who treat them like shi.t and avoid ladies who show them love. The hunt makes them happy. The thrill of having to constantly woo a woman makes them feel good. Makes them feel she is better than the one who shows love even without being wooed..even if the former is a retired runs girl.

piamily:
Oh ! I get you now. So you’re saying Nigerian men really want ladies to play the hard to get very hard then. So why are they complaining. Well then I’ll keep playing it hard as usual since they think it was bread and butter they got in a platter of gold

Millenniumlady:
It's her friend that sent her that message y'all should leave her alone stop creating problems where there is non

Ihenzy:
Approach this lady before going for Siwes. This was the first lady am approaching since I came into the university. Though am not good with ladies I have feelings for. Am so calm around ladies but generally am bold and not shy when it comes to being in public but among ladies I have a big headache that I just feel a new me. I lack what to say, how to start conversion e.t.c. I called her on one fateful evening to meet with her. When we met I lost what to say, she was insisting I tell her my mind but I have to postponed to about 4hrs later. When I came back I still couldn't air my mind so I told her to come online. She requested for airtime because she don't have data. I bought it and transfer to her. She came online and boom I drop it. Her only reply was hmmmmmm but she's dating told her no problem as far as she the guy ain't her fiance. The next day I meet her and ask about the chat, the told me to take her reply on the chat as she can't double date. I just went about telling her to just create a space for me.
At that time she didn't even give me a chance or hope. She kept telling me she has a boyfriend and cannot double date. After then She even threatened to stop picking my calls at a point because I do call her often.

During my Siwes I kept calling her but though I never talk about the proposal again. We finally resume and got along with her. We do call and chat until she demanded for 600 airtime to offset her debt with airtel. She was also demanding I take her out for lunch which I pay deaf attention to anyway.

She even flash me with a new number one day only for her to say, she just wanted to say hi and remind me of her airtime.

I bought the airtime for her when I call her to come her first statement was if am not here with the airtime I shouldn't disturb her.
On new new she called but I missed the call, call her like 2day later, she said she only wanted to greet me.
Resumed and we got along, she was demanding for new year gift which I shun her. I called her oneday to ask about my proposal again and she still brought up her former reply.
Well it been long and I've already gotten over it but I still love her. Although we still meet and gist but I don't give her attention like before.
What are my mistakes to avoid in getting a dream girl.
Modified: I don't have sense of humor when am with a girl except when we are in class. Infact you will laugh and get tired but with girls na yawa ooo.
Mind you too the girl am talking about is in year 3 now whereas am in year 5
Cc HARDON
Trailblazer93
Ferrocene

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reader29:
I need help guys,
There's this gal I've been going out with for some months now, everything was going on smoothly and i was in control of the relationship not until i messed up. all of a sudden the gal that was all over me started giving me altitude and when i asked her what's going on, she said nothing, her altitude got worse and i decided to have a deep conversation with her, there she revealed how she went through my phone and saw a chat of me and my friend (kiss and tell thingy), so since then she's been withdrawing from me slowly. What i told my friend about her was actually bad..i apologized to her and begged for forgiveness, she claimed she forgave me but, things are no longer the same. I don't know how she flipped the switch. she's now in control of the relationship, i find myself apologizing all the time, it's obvious she has lost respect for me and she act as if she's not scared of loosing me..I know walking away is the best option right now, but I'm in love with her. I really want things to go back to how it was, like take control back and make her respect me again. You think it's possible or i should just take my big L and walk away?

Kelvin58:

Not actually but you know girls can pretend..... Just the way she is posting those guys picture sha

Kelvin58:
My girlfriend usually upload pictures of some guys on her whatapp status and on Facebook story and be wishing them birthday... Should I be worried or is just a normal thing

Thanks for your response

drealcivilceno:
Good Evening room!

The Harddon, please clarify!

I saw a post (below) and it got me thinking. There was a time I was into prudes and this one had my attention, in our fellowship, back then in the university! She was 3 levels higher but I had seen more Christmas holidays than she had..

I had tried to approach her but she gave me the cold shoulder and I could not read body languages then... Face value was all I knew.. afterall she is still human, I thought!!!

Nothing happened Sha and I let that fish swim away like that... E pain me gannn... At least still i have leaves to fill in this chapter!!!

So I want to ask how to catch this type of fish... In the case you stated, catch this thief, cos I don't wanna promise her and it very obvious some promising must take place and I don't wanna do that.

How will I do that?

CaveAdullam:
HARDDON!!!!!

Not to flatter you, you are one of the persons I will always love to spend my time with daily--not because of your dating drills only but your balanced masculine behaviour.

I can't believe I'm interested in reading from page one for the second time. Oh HARDDON!

The only problem I have now is; is sex the peak for a guy in this dating game? Any other substitutes?

I'm asking solely because I'm a religious person and sex is only within the marriage boundary. However, I have some personal reservations/opinions(based on some logical conclusions) about some facts which most religious persons discard.

I await for your reply.

Well done DON JUAN HARDDON.

James4bright:


Nigerians girls aren't courageous enough to ask for sex, firstly.

And a good number of Nigerian guys would barely resist a girl who is willing to offer sex to them.

Ferrocene:
Kudos to you guys

I don't even know where to start from, I just started reading this thread and I'm at page 15 and I hope on finishing soon .. OK let me start from this I shy a lot then later developed to fear, I don't know how to make conversations go on even among my male pals and families I just like being alone and never had a gf though with my shyness I tried buh never yielded a positive result.. Also lack confidence and self esteem cause am not that cute I guess that's where I keep hitting it... I don't socialize cause I won't want a situation where I would be shenked Buh on d way along I tried developing myself started talking to ladies that talked to me first( I hate shenking alot I don't easily get over them) then later sometimes flirt with some.. Let's just am a nice guy and am ready to move, it's just that i am free with ladies that are not attracted to me buh find it hard to start a conversation with people I cherish, anytime I try I end up stammering all sort of that and I easily give up.. I need help in approaching a lady cause confidence ain't my thing

Incel:


Sir, can I send you a PM?
Or better still, drop an email where I can send you a mail.
My case is terrible.
I need a breakthrough.

Suzzi23:
Hi guys. Please I need advice.

There is this guy in my department. Let's call him Joe. He is good looking and very intelligent. He also has this very nice voice and good vocabulary. Initially we were just normal casual classmates, we greet, exchange notes and all that, nothing serious. I've always found him attractive but have not found him special in any way because I've met lots of guys like him in my University.

But few months ago he started becoming more friendly towards me. We got talking and we realized we shared a lot in common. He asked me if I was single and I told him I was. This was the truth because I wasn't dating anyone then.

Few days after another guy I was very close to asked me to be his girlfriend and I agreed. I'm in love with this guy. He is very jovial, intelligent and he knows how to treat me well. I know he loves me because I've known him for a while and he has treated me with love, affection and respect. It's always fun being around him and I enjoy his company.

Despite now being in a relationship, I still continued spending time with Joe. We shared a lot of deep intimate info about ourselves with each other. I have never felt more comfortable talking to someone before. Talking to him always made me feel good. I felt I could be vulnerable with him. He was very honest and didn't hide the dark aspects of himself. He wasn't the type to pretend he was a good person. And he wasn't. He had done a lot of bad things in the past and he wasn't afraid to talk to me about them. And although this might sound weird I liked the fact that he wasn't the typical "moral individual" I was used to meeting. I liked the fact that he had a dark personality that only me knew about. He said things to me that made me begin to explore myself and my sexuality in ways I didn't even imagine that I could. He was always fond of teasing me and never hesitated to correct me if I did anything wrong. I loved that kind of honesty.

As we talked more Joe opened up to me that he was attracted to me and had feelings for me . He would flirt with me and I'd try my best not to flirt back but I enjoyed his flirting and I enjoyed his company. He asked me if I felt the same way about him and I was honest and I said I had feelings for him, because I did. He is an attractive guy and even though I have a boyfriend I can't help being attracted to him..

He then asked me to be his girlfriend and I told him I was already dating someone. He was surprised by my response. He told me he was under the impression that I was single and that's why he had gotten so close and intimate with me. But he didn't appear angry or sad. He even told me my bf was lucky to have me.

The problem now is that since that day he hasn't talked to me. When I see him in class, he doesn't even act like I exist. He doesn't reply my messages, doesn't pick up my calls and doesn't check up on me. Throughout this lockdown he hasn't even texted me once. This is unlike him. I feel very bad about the whole thing. It's almost like our relationship didn't mean anything to him and I didn't mean anything to him. I want to still be friends with him.

EronzRichie:

Firstly sir, we just started Talking after we graduated from School. so We were preparing to go serve but Had to wait for stream 2. so We talk but I am d Funny Guy so i just Drop and Go and she laughs. but things hit a Very High note btw us due to this pandemic , Told me everything about her and we got talking everyday Especially Midnight till morning..
But for 2 days i have been using Sickness as a n excuse. she has even Called me today. But i am afraid of handling d balls to her or telling her i like her. my FIrst Gf taught me a lesson.. So i am confused. She is Far,But She Talks to me everyday and i like her. I just want to know if i am.doing it right.

Millennialaku:

okay

Millennialaku:

Pls where did you sent it to

Millennialaku:

i was not able to register, so i left a comment on the how to overcome the fear of fine girls

MichaelBukamzy:
in this case,what do you advise the husband do sir

goldenboyofpsy:


I went to page 23 to look for this but not there. Kindly refer me to the exact page to get these topics,am dieing to read it.

drealcivilceno:
I dey fear for my daughters life ooh! Choi!

Millennialaku:

21 posts actually, some were repeated in some sections

meeting girls online and preamble required audience

Marriage Light; Proposal, Deal Day, Understanding the difference between wify and gf, Planning life, Finances, handling Both Families, Kids, How to handle misunderstanding and resolution, effective ways to communicate, Ignoring her once in a while. Husband; Roles and responsibilities.