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Liposure:
reminds me of "first sunday"

Ishilove:
Very serious o

budaatum:
Your interest in Psychology has made you a therapist who helps others know and overcome weaknesses.

I'd say your prayer is answered Hathor5.

Bosch10:
hmmm.ok thanks for the reply.It was as if i have never seen or heard such before.I had to screenshot it.As a Christian,it helped to keep me in check

toye440:
Simple, most 9ja men end up choking or shooting them down. Most of which the women are to blame.
Google why most 9ja men kill their wives abroad.

mployer:
Who are the ones liking posts like this?

Nigerians and hypocrisy Sha. I don't know anyone around me that is not having sex, wether married or single.

Akeem79:
You're right about shape and filling in anything you like but she posted meat pie not jiaozi

descarado:
Dumpling fillings can be anything.
Also you can shape it as you want.

Ishilove:
Wetin mama wan use 1m do at the age of 80.

Konkoja:
Good you are cautious and doing what is humanly possible to stay safe. Have a very merry Christmas with your family.

For me, Christmas will be as low keyed as possible - no visitors expected nor visits planned.

My neck of the woods goes into full lock down again on Boxing day.

Konkoja:
Family gathering? Stay safe dear, COVID-19 is real and raging.

RisenPhoenix1:
Yes, but even when they marry doctors, they get married to higher status doctors. And looking at it from the woman's perspective, many female nurses still marry doctors. Male nurses? Ummm probably not so much.

There are exceptions of course, but very few. The point is that women always marry up.

You can check the status of the top men and women billionaires. It's not secret. I even cited some names for you to cross check. It's not an opinion, it's statistical fact. Women who reach the peak of wealth mainly do so as a result of marriage or inheritance. Men who reach the peak do so on their own.

RisenPhoenix1:
You mean the bolded? I could have phrased it in a more socially acceptable way but its meaning is not untrue if you only think about it without bias. Why do women always; without exception; marry up? Why does 'love' always work to make a woman fall for a man in a higher social status than herself, but usually works in the opposite direction for men? Earlier, before I deactivated my first account, I think there was a thread asking how many women on NL would marry an okada rider given that they liked his character. Not one said 'yes'. They all beat about the bush.

And on a personal level, while I do suggest that the overwhelming majority of women do tend to underachieve because they lack the testosterone to forge ahead in business, I am not really surrounded by exceptionally underachieving women; just averagely so. My wife, sisters, cousins are all; to my knowledge; highly educated professionals; some at the peak of their careers. But they are all married to men who are wealthier than them. None of them can maintain her lifestyle on her own, and not one of them married down socially, as you won't.

You see, women cannot really compete in the business world against men. They are given favoured status as employees in the workplace (which is why you get some excel as workers), but in business, they have to make it on their own; and usually find the battles extremely difficult. This is why there are 20 times as many men billionaires as women, and why; if you look at the lists, you'll find out that most of the top women billionaires actually only made it on the backs of their husbands or fathers; either through marriage and inheritance (the Jobses, Koches, Waltons, Meyers, Reinharts etc) or through divorce settlements (Bezos' ex), while many men are self made.

But it's ok. It's only natural for women to be this way.

Petyprincess:
Lol i love thissssssss

Mindlog:
Patience! Truth is sometimes you will feel like giving your client a knock on the head but you have been drilled on UPR (Unconditional Positive Regard) during training and must keep calm as you are expected to have big ears to hear what is not being said, big eyes to pick up non verbal communication and a small mouth because the therapy is not about YOU!

It is in you, you can always have a new dream whenever you feel ready and process through the impatient self, na so we all take start.

Petyprincess:
I love the bolded neither should we take bullys or trolls serious,most of them aren't worth it!

Mindlog:
With this, you will make a good therapist!

Petyprincess:
Now you understand why one should not believe stories we read on here?
Too many lies just for likes SMH.

MOLOTOVcockTAIL:
This part worries me the most. Hope you have a full dossier on what she was up to while in those countries. Guys get mind shaa. Good luck to your marriage.

Petyprincess:
This moniker you accusing claimed to be married

cococandy:
I always buy mine pre-made. Chicken is my favorite filling.

Akeem79:
Lol
What you have there is meat pie not jiaozi

The difference is clear

Mindlog:
So much hot air in the thread!

Needs change as we course through our developmental stages of life.

canttedra:
The recent topic on the home page motivated me to make this post, anonymously of course.

We were dating before I left Nigeria. We've been dating for about three years. Sometime last year I got a new job in the US (I schooled there so it was easy), and moved away from the country. Until a few weeks ago, we talked nearly every other day. It's always fun talking to her. But lately, things have started to get a little rough because of something that came up, and which I would like to believe is not my fault.

Prior to dating her, since I was a kid in university, I made myself a few promises relating to women:

1. I will never pay a woman's school fees
2. I will never rent a house or apartment for a woman, nor furnish an existing apartment
3. I will never sponsor a woman abroad.

Of course, this does not mean that I won't buy a woman gifts (I do that regularly), or take her on a nice trip. I just do not envisage myself pulling a woman up the social ladder. I prefer she makes her own growth moves as it relates to finances or relocation.

I made these promises based on the fact that I expected that whomever I make a partner should be able to make something of their own selves. I do not want to be anybody's savior or anyone's get-out-of-jail card. This resolution has made lose a few women in the past who thought the relationship should be based on what they can get out of it, and my girlfriend knows this.

The situation right now is that there is a path for her to come to America through studying. We already talked about her applying for graduate studies and then transitioning here into a better job. However, she now feels that would be stressful and may not work. Instead, she thinks it's better if I return to Nigeria this December to marry her and then sponsor her eventually to the US. That's not going to happen. This has created a rift and we have not been talking for a while now.

Am I being unreasonable here? How can I make her realize she can be her own person and not have to depend on someone else to "sponsor" her? It just drives me nuts that she knows this about me but is now vehemently insisting that this is the only viable option.

RisenPhoenix1:
Women don't marry for that sausage. Even after marriage, they try to do everything to minimise access to it, so if it is for that reason alone, women would not marry.

Yes. Most women work, but they are inherently greedy and they can never achieve the kind of material status they aspire to on their own. Men work diligently and persistently to get where they are because they are gifted with the stamina to do so. Women on the other hand, are emotionally erratic. They can rarely commit to that level of dilligence for the same length of time. It is much easier for them to find a man who is already at the level they wish to be, and take over his wealth; all for the small price of opening their legs once fortnightly. It's a win-win for women. For men, not so much, although I do endorse marriage for men; if only to ensure at least a minimal level of paternal certainty. Of course with reliable DNA testing, this will likely become more and more unnecessary as time goes on.

J0hnTrevolt:
Local girl