₦airaland Forum

Petyprincess:
Thanks you can join me for my lunch also.

Hassanmaye:
First Lady that speak the truth I'm glad

Minemrys:
n0t poverty i can assure you. Being poor isn't an excuse.

Magnoliaa:
[color=deeppink]Hahahaha. This cracked me up. Custodians that'll want to infuse individualistic norms in communal African setting tomorrow. A compromise might be possible oh, but there are bound to be clashes. If you're upholding culture that says you're marrying into a family and you must always honour them with gifts - will you accept the whole family interfering in your decisions to get pregnant, raise and name children, relocate faraway for your autonomy, have sex, spend money and the way assets you both have will be shared after the demise of either partner when the time comes?[/color]

UnBanEbenezer:
reasons

shantti:
Can u imagine how you paint someone evil, because a boyfriend did not buy a gift for his girlfriends mum on one of his visits( he bought gift for the mum on his first visit) he is now a potential bad father, bad husband and bad in law, i know u must be a woman,
Let me ask u a question, the guy you are dating, assuming he stays with his mum, will u be buying her gifts per visitation keeping in mind that u will be visiting like thrice per week. I know the answer in no, so does that now means you are insensitive, irresponsible and bad. Judging someone personality using ordinary gift as a yardstick,I spit in disgust at your reasoning, u need therapy, counselling, deliverance(six, become one wont be enough), rehabilitation,sermon, preaching, exercise( to improve brain function), early morning sun, fruits, vegetables( to improve brain function), milk, surgery, brain transplant, head transplant, yoga, sex, strolling, love and care, education, career, talent, passion, wisdom, exorcism, water, discipline, incantation and chloroquine injection

UnBanEbenezer:
let's talk via email

KosiGee:
Yes you will look awkward. It’s not her birthday, Christmas or her wedding anniversary.

You can get her favourite flowers and not the sort of present Traceey’s mother would expect.

Again that culture and habit of expecting presents isn’t very good. It has to stop

KosiGee:
It’s best to marry a white woman. If you visit your potential mother in law with gifts when it’s not her birthday, Christmas or wedding anniversary, you’ll look so awkward.

Our culture is drowning in corruption and bribery.

UnBanEbenezer:
was your account hacked?
Surprised this is coming from you

Xmen149:
E shock you fa.

ogo bu chi onye (ones In-law is his God) is a term formulated by old reched igbo families they use to tax their inlaw to death. Then they will crown it by giving the in-law one of the girls younger brother or sister to help them raise.

All are big nonsense families are changing now.

The last thing you will do in my house then is to introduce someone as your boyfriend or girlfriend, no matter your age,.fear gree them come again for no fucken reason but to just come and see my parents and bring gifts you don buy case for my parents hand

joseph1832:
says who exactly? Condoms are only safe when it doesn't break. Using a condom and it breaks won't make you say what you said.

well having control over ones semen and health have absolutely nothing to do with condoms and it's usage. People still get sick without using condoms.

Least I mention some people are still good in withdrawal method. That is they "pull out on time, every time", the John Shaft way.
who's looking for excuses? I won't be surprise if the woman in question is the one who requested for unprotected sex in the first place.

Personal responsibility only come into play when that individual is responsible for the pregnancy. On no account should a woman pin any pregnancy on any man whose not the father of the child. Talkless when the father abandoned his responsibilities then they look for Mr Nice Guy to take it up.

Xmen149:
I wnated to keep mute but beign that alot of people are telling this girl she is right i am begining to see her true self in her present comments and even the previous.

I hope this is not the guy you said is having hard times financially (making you have the gut to abuse,shout on him and cut call on him)

1) No matter the reason you dnt shout on your guy (or else he is beign abusive and violent,in which two wrongs still dnt make a right) abuse or cut calls on him.

2)If you did that on trivial issue as this that means you have been doing it b4 and need to work deeply on your self. respect your man always.

3)He is still your boyfriend you introduced to your people.

4)Your boyfriend becomes a fiance after he has initiated marriage process.

5)He dsnt owe your mum anything on a visit as a boyfriend,and after he has turned fiance or in-law he brings what he can when he can (The main thing is there must have been a time he brought something on visit).

6)You have given the guy impression your mum will be influencing decisions both of you make in Ur home. and you cnt even stand for him if need arise.

7)you should take time to grow in mind or change your perception of life and things if what we are actually talking about here is you beign someones wife (na big task for mature minds) plus you are also a mother,you suppose don see things wey suppose don make you calm haba.

And for those asking : a correct igbo home wont even harboure the site of a boyfriend more than once in their house talk of bringing gifts. if they see you once na introduction,the second time ua either coming for to start something or jeje sit on your couch and make calls. Infact the mother will even advice the daughter not to receive gifts from him so that if she changes her mind she can easily go with another person.

The poor and really weird family amongst them will receive anything from the man and even make demands. It is not the IGBO way.

A traditional igbo family never tax their inlaw

izzou:
[color=royalblue]Is there even a cultural obligation?

The "culture" line of defence is just to justify the entitlement mentality.

Nothing more[/color]

Prestonn:
Village kitchen


Breakfast Oatmeal

Topping
●Banana
●Date
●Granola
●Maple syrup
●Peanut butter
●Mixed Berry


Last photo, lunch some days back.

izzou:
[color=royalblue]The fact that she's using culture to justify the entitlement mentality just dey pepper me

The Op still dey even defend the mama...No mind of her own

Wahala for us wey get Mama wey no dey vex if gift no reach her hand [/color]

Petyprincess:
Thanks dear,corona isn't my portion

Petyprincess:
They usually check my temperature two times a day but today my temperature is high,They kept asking me if i went to the sun or if I'm stressed, I told them i have body ache due to flight stress i just needed paracetamol which i was given they looked so disturbed i told them i have no corona that i will be okay by the end of today they said they will come check on me this evening.

Meanwhile i had this for breakfast.

TrebleChamp:
God bless you aunty

joseph1832:
It's not about using condoms or not using condoms. Mind you condoms break because no condom is break proof.

What is despicable here is the actions of these women. Many don't even care. It's all about what they want.

Even the baby mama's won't fail to tell you to take up the responsibility of taking care of their child. That's the one they had before they met you. Ask them why the biological father isn't taking up his responsibility and you'll hear them rain all kinds of curses on him.

Recently I found out some women have babies whose daddies don't give a rats penis_ about them. Ask yourself why and you'll be able to find the answer yourself.

Ladyhippolyta88:
Oh my people still watch Fake news CNN

Trump and MAGA will not like this

Ishilove:
This is just terrible. People are becoming increasingly irresponsible. That man you're sleeping with without contraceptives should be good enough to marry you. Why toy with a man's emotions like this? It is evil.

Fiscus105:
Why won't she? Going to ur in law place around festive period and you go thr empty handed, Whc type of careless and insensitive fiance is that, such guy will not be sensitive to pay sch fees and dropping food money in future, if she tries to marry such animal


Yoruba will say..... Ko moju Ko Mora (one who doesn't know what is shameful)

StacyO:
Teenagers doing things at your backs certainly depends on how you brought them up.

Wasn't making reference to only you,sorry bout that

StacyO:
Please,teach your children about sex.

Let them know the disadvantages therein cause,I for one no there is NO advantage when it comes to pre marital sex.



Let them wallow in wisdom instead of freedom.

wilblanc1984:
Is it a taboo for my wife to pack her things out of our matrimonial home. Her brother and brother-in-law came to move all her items including some of mine. Is this also a curse on their head for helping in breaking our marriage due to external family influence and control from her family in our marriage?

deleSayo:
Because you are her!

RisenPhoenix1:
Why do you persist in making assumptions based on fresh air? You're wrong. Please give up. I don't enjoy this type of conversations.

GIANTPLUSHUB:
Your mum have a hold on you on trying to compulsorily leech on your man? Sorry, you aren't yet matured for a relationship. You need to be enrolled in a pre-relationship class.