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Sir, this is a terrible disaster waiting to happen.
A terrible one, a disaster she won't recover from.
I have never heard a good story from those who tried this, even those who decided to make it temporary pending when they iron out the challenge which brought them to sich family house.... All the people I know, and got to know mutually, the story is same disaster.
In fact a colleague who experienced such gave me his experience, he was almost knocked down by a vehicle (he never saw it coming as he was lost in the daily battle with his wife and mother).
So I repeat, it is a disaster waiting to happen.
Your niece is at that stage where love means all, she can barely see anything after the wedding, she doesn't know what it means to face such battles (waiting for her)....
Please, remain firm in your decision if you don't want to see her premium tears.
For me, it's a capital NO.

One way or the other, Dem go sha drag Africa into this...
Omo, how did militia from Russia, fly into Ukraine from Africa?
This story no clear at all

I just know say na poor man...
Room & parlour with 2 wives, just imagine the audacity.
And two women just accepted living in room & parlour with a man, Dem no get life at all.

trutharena:
RRS now!

The best police squad in Nigeria.

Tinubu is an enigma. If we have 36 police squads better equipped like this in all states, then maybe the insecurity can be lessened especially when it comes to what the police can handle.

All thanks to Jagaban!!!

So all of a sudden, its his creation after assuming office 40 days earlier...(29 May 1999)
You people are funny

Nedangel:
.. When I ask my wife for s*x, Most times & always she says she's tired.

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This part is what I don't get...
A typical Nigerian lady will spend half of the year doing fasting and prayer for God to bless her with a husband... And then 50% of married men today complain if this about women.
I don't get what the problem is with women, the man wants to be faithful, and this is what he gets...
He forbids himself from having another wife, but this is what he gets from his wife.
Claiming tired, headache, this and that... This is becoming too common and destroying homes

SultanOfPuna:

Typical Fathers behaviours, especially when they are expecting their first baby boy.

Reminds me of our family friend that has 4 girls no boy.
His wife got pregnant, did her ultrasound in hospital in Aba.
They told her it was a boy.
The husband literally threw a party celebrating this news.He was in cloud 9

Only for the day of delivery, na girl the woman born.

Village people change am

NotBeenPaid:
This is the third ribbon snake I've killed within a year on the same property. And this is the biggest of them all. Runs faster than Usain Bolt.

What are you waiting for?
Go and fumigate your house, or buy knapsack sprayer and those wicked chemicals (dilute mix with kerosene or another wicked thing)...
Use all round your property, till you empty it all.
Make you for fit sleep well

Amazingbaby:
It is kind of surreal

My husband took his bag and left the house after an argument and have been gone for over a week now, trouble started when he came back and told me he wanted to hire a particular girl to work with him,this girl was working with his friend before he closed up.he told me his friend beg him to hire the girl.
Earlier in the week my husband told me he was going for a convention,I checked his phone and saw when this particular girl was asking him when he will be leaving the house at 7:44 in the morning,I didn't talk or made a fuss about it,so when he told me he wanted to employ this girl my suspicion grew,I asked him how does he want to pay her he told me the lady said she would work for free.
I started laughing,which girl on this island would want to work for free if you don't have anything to do with her.i started bombarding him with questions;
If the girl is your friend's employee how did she know about your business?My husband said he has not talked to the lady since last year but he never knew I saw the messages.

I told him to give me his phone only to see that he has been exchanging Whatsapp calls and phone calls with her.i got angry and was asking him questions he took his bag and left that night.

That was when I confronted him about the messages I saw the week before only for him to say he doesn't owe me any explanation.

I am deeply hurt that he would want to employ a person he has a secret relationship with and has the mind to tell me about it.he deletes any conversation he has with this lady,he hides his phone and would never pick a call in my presents.

Pls how do you think I should handle this,I told him the only way I would ever listen to him is if he tell me where he went with that lady on that Saturday. Calling her sounds desperate and I don't like fighting my fellow lady because of a man.your opinion pls

This is serious o.
Just find 10k, call a guy who is well built, I mean we'll built.... Tell him to (pretend to be that slay mama's boyfriend) and threaten your husband with better embarrassment outside (maybe 2 factory reset slaps and ishakole).
Baba go start to avoid that girl like poverty ni o

pocohantas:
Women of good quality and standing would find worthy men, whether as morning, afternoon or evening newspapers.

The men you meet in your 20s, would be very different from the ones you meet in your 30s, provided you work on yourself and blend into the right crowd.

That is why I hate when some ladies start pity parties. There are men you appeal to. I know redpillers would hate this, but there are men who love evening newspapers. As in, that is their spec.

Now look at her fiancé, tell me which of these alfa males can measure up to him. I dare say a young girl in her 20s cannot get this guy. Where una wan take meet? For Coldstone? Wetin una go dey discuss? This is not some misdirected ancestor like Ned.

Ladies should focus on the men that matter. The men doing the marrying are not in the Romance section ranting every other day. Don’t allow these small boys that dare not put on generator before 7pm get to you.

Congrats to her…

OMG... Where are you from?
You just finished these young guys claiming alpha male, line by line, paragraph by paragraph, back to back.
That cold-stone part made me open my mouth, olboy... Wetin these new generation people do you laidis? Before I knew it, Ned sef collect stray bullet... Chaiiiii
Though, I know they can really be annoying by their nonsense talk

rowland545:
chai....Mumu man

Their mumu too much... Chaiii

obailala:
Yeah but wetin concern private refinery and electuon?

These politicians know how uneducated Nigerians are, so they use it to score weak points as the uneducated are mostly the voters.

obailala:
Wetin concern election and private refinery?... Meanwhile Dangote Group announced since 2020 that the refinery will be ready in 2022. So whats the link with election?

https://egyptoil-gas.com/news/nigerias-dangote-oil-refinery-to-operate-by-2019/

We don hear this thing tire before election.

Election don come again, all of a sudden it will begin operation.
Same thing they claimed before 2019 elections.

These people take marriage seriously.
But our akay queen's here take single motherhood/baby mama thing as the reigning thing.

spydera:
until she said going to church will enable you, amongst other things take lots of selfies and pictures with others people– Òmó, I became mute and yielded.
Which do you prefer and why?

I am yet to be proved wrong, this up there is the reason many people go to church

TheGidRedpiller:
When was the last time your girlfriend ever returned the money she "borrowed" from you?
Or, have you seen a situation where its awful for a girl not pay back the money her boyfriend gave/spent on her
Answer This Question Pls

They always return, no jokes.
That's why I said it's the type of ladies you have o.
If you are able to sell on credit to a lady and recover your money without problem, then you will understand the type of ladies you should have around you.

Na the type of women you get o.
Aside that, people should learn to return whatever they borrowed... That's why you are seeing foolish app loans disturbing Nigerians daily.
When you ask someone to lend you cash, please return it when you should, don't assume people don't need their money.
If you don't have the means of returning it, then ask the person to outrightly give you, so he knows in his heart that it is not a loan.

Spherical77:
Then i assume you know nothing. If the man tries to evade his responsibility assigned to him by law. He'd definitely see the consequences

Okay then

Myexdisturbs:
Misery loves company,I just knew you're a single mother without reading all. No wonder you're eager to welcome her to your suffering club

Divorce is even different.
She was never married, that's why she is looking for new members.

RPG2020:
Carry one of your brother give her since no big deal

There kids almost 10 years

If you don't gerrite forgerrite

Leave that one, her reply shows she is a baby mama, never married, so she doesn't understand what OP is trying to remedy.

(promiscuous life wey Dem rename to baby mama... E get name yoruba dey call such kids)..

Spherical77:
The man would take full responsibility of the kids upkeep provided he owns them. The woman only needs to work and be supportive. Moreso, she needs to stand firm for the kids

You are really funny.
That means you have seen too many movies and believe that is reality..
Reality will shock you bitterly

MansoryMX:
One fact you should know is 95% of marriage worldwide are in tact because both partners decided to make that ultimate sacrifice to stick together when they shouldn’t be together anymore because of THIER KIDS. I will not ask you what lead to your husband serving you a divorce paper, I will not ask you who is at fault because there are always two side to a story. What I will advice you is you called the short one last time by having a sit and talk discussion with him if y’all really wanna go down that path or find that spark back!. I had a serious issue with my wife and separated for 6 months and got back, not like we both did anything outside during this 6 months (Me I didn’t on my own part though and I don’t know if she did even though I believed she didn’t because she is faithful, loyal but bitterly stubborn woman). 3 beautiful kids with any woman is enough reason for me to put up with her flaws for life and stick with her. My dear it’s a cruel world out there, try and fix this marriage if you can as a wife because of your kids!

Learning from you too

I can't even advice.
I just hope and pray a lot of young people are reading the comments, to know its nit about how fine the pre-wedding pictures are (which sometimes turn post-wedding pics), or how fine the uniform (aso-ebi) cloth is, or how big the day is....
I think people need to be asked serious questions, questions about life before they get into it.... Questions like, what if you find out your wife/husband is cheating after 2 years of marriage, what would you do?
What if your husband /wife is so disrespectful after 2 years of getting married?
What happens if another women turned up that she is pregnant for your man?
What if he/she is the type that reports everything in the house to his/her family, without regards?
What happens if he/she becomes abusive?
What happens if he/she becomes so lazy that they don't get involved in house chores, and dirty habits sets in?
What if life happens and one is hospitalised?
What if life happens and financial aspect is really affected that to eat becomes a problem?
What happens if your wife change and your siblings and mother are not comfortable coming to your house anymore?
What happens if your wife and your mom are not on good terms?
What happens when you are not crazy about each other again, when those energy for love has vanished, what do you think next?
Then finally they should think, what could lead them to divorce?


I believe these questions will help all young people know what they are going into, and know how to tackle whatever wants to damage their home...those questions are the reason for those plenty talk of in sickness in health....
Forget all the fasting and prayers, leave religion out of it, these questions are reality check.... In fact, it happens after 1 year of the wedding, check many homes, this things happen steadily.

Godzilla is coming to Unilag

Any experience wey pass me, I mute my mouth and learn from elders.

So una believe this thing?
These people will use anything not associated to score cheap campaign points.
Same way they used Dangote refinery during 2019, they have started with this one now.

The kind headlines these days ehn...
Problem too muchhhhhh

At least, Dem go fit each other now..

Ayam not understanding...
Who is the mother who is the son? Cos na same height I dey see

I don't know the name...
But he sang "problem E no dey finish, dey try to dey enjoy"

What are able bodied men gaining in this thing?
Please someone should enlighten me.

Olarewaju89:
Those one just wasted their life for nothing sake.

When they were small, people will be calling them the future of tomorrow. now look at them.

Dem even do child dedication join sef...