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what is the big deal about the size of his manliness? it is the size of an average manliness. afterall, chinese men and some nigerian men have much smaller manliness.

it is obvious that the picture was taken by a girl. this is a lesson to all men that jump around: be careful. you never just know when you will knack the wrong girl.

i have the full album and i am loving track. i have the track ''as we enter'' on repeat.
some tight rhymes and NAS was blowing hot .

when will ladies learn that meeting the members of a man's family is no guarantee that he will marry you.
you can meet his father, mother, grandma and also the grave of his ancestors and yet he will not exchange wedding vows with you.

how old is the guy?are you sure he is not married or already engaged with someone else? i can understand his reservations about meeting his family but a man that shields you from his friends has something up his sleeves.

my advice: relax, be your self, enjoy the relationship, keep showering him with love but do not put your heart 100percent in it and when the time is right, he will be the one begging and pleading with you to meet his parents. however, do not allow him to meet your parents yet though.

papabrowne, you have serious time/energy arguing with kobojunkie.
arguing with her is pointless

if you leave her alone,locked up in a room, she can argue with herself

i find it amusing that some people think i made this up.

what exactly do i aim to acheive from such.
just an update: we are still together, our love has been waxing stronger, we've had a few arguements which is normal in any relationship. we have been supportive of one another in numerous ways, lovemaking has been wowwww
i thank God for bringing our paths together
truly: men like him are rare !

JJYOU:
just let him know he has your back always and enjoy the relationship. make him your best friend and avoid exposing the relationship to people who dont mean you well.

I will do all that. Thank you JJYOU

Ujujoan:
@ helovesme abeg enjoy yourself jare. I'm sure the love you guys have for each other is great but sometimes love isnt enough. You have to go an extra mile to keep him because he's going an extra mile to keep you. I know he dosent do that for all his GFs.

yes, he is special and i know the fact that he is going the extra mile just to keep me

thats why i started this thread. just ideas on how to show him how much he is appreciated

JJYOU:
. people whose only idea of loving a woman is sleeping with her or buying MTN card.

aus 123

that line clearly decribes your kind. so am not joining to belittle myself by joining issues with you

aus123:
I dey go class,

so you are still in school? no wonder, the hate posts

maybe if you spend just half the time you spend on the internet reading your books , you might just be lucky to graduate at the same time with your mates and with good grades and get yourself a decent job

Druss:
helovesme

the unilag sentence wasnt aimed at you - i put in brackets as an 'off the statement' yarn. Please never take him for granted. Believe me a lot of girls do that to guys who take care of them like this. What happens when he doesnt have that job? What happens when he cant do this for you?

I can understand those feeling you are in it for the materialistic part. I can understand yours as well when you say it is a sign of his love for you. True every guy loves to do stuff for his girl.

Advice - do not boast about this guy to your friends. Some will scheme to take him away from you. I used to think it is paranoia but experience has taught me. Enjoy but this is life - In an ideal world, I would say throw your house open, invite everybody to see the goodness. But now hold back - hold back. Already even on NL where peeps dont know you - some have cursed you.

About showing him how much you love him - a simple hug and 'i love you' might suffice. I always feel at peace when my girl looks into my eyes, pecks my forehead and says those three words. Any other stress disappears.

about the three questions - if you truly dont know what 'play away from home' means - forget i asked. It is best you dont know.

I started the thread with innocent and pure intentions. i never envisaged some of the scarcastic remarks that have been posted here

Even if he has nothing any longer i will still stand by him. That was the reason i went and withdrew money from my savings and gave him when he claimed he was broke and i should lend him money. Prior to this, he had not done anything major materially for me although we had started dating

I will take note of all you have said.  thank you. may you also find a girl that will love and appreciate you

Druss:
I posted after reading the first post and now that I have read the entire thread.

i) helovesme - i see your userID is based on your boyfriend

ii) i still stand by my post. There is an advice about preaching good news.

Just saw your post. What do you expect - How much does the average Nigerian live on? The man is spending a small fortune on you. In Proverbs there is a verse about a man cursing his neighbour cos he greeted him 'Good Morning' too loudly in the morning.

They have reason to doubt you - cos it is observed that those that front like big boys and girls are just pushers (UNILAG girls una own too much!!) and are fake. The real big boys and girls dont show ish - they dont boast ish. They dont need to prove anything.

Anyways my sisters always tell me I overpreach. I got 3 things from your post.

Do you love him back or are you feeling you are taking him for granted?

Do you want to play away from home?

Do you feel you are not worthy of this?

okay. i am not a student neither did i school at the university of lagos. he only does all these to me. so i do not see it as flaunting or boasting. he only took my friends out for dinner because he wanted an opportunity to meet my friends.

he is has a very very very good job. i have stated that here already

yes, i do love him back. very much. much more than i am even willing to admit. and no i dont take him for granted. if you read through my posts, you will see where i stated that i have top respect for him. i do not think its possible to respect a man that is being taken for granted.

i do not understand what you mean by play away from home

i do feel worthy because i am a very decent girl. although sometimes i tease him about how come he spoils me so much after all my p***sy is not laced with gold. he laughs it off and tells me that it is my personality and my character that endeared me to him

Druss:
Even if this was true - you shud not post this. This shows a sign of insecurity and lack of maturity!!

All you had to say was you had a man who was and is very good to you and how would you thank him.

Learn and my advice is ask the mods to delete this thread.

i accept.

my apologies

i was only upset that some people think i made this all up

all i want is suggestions on how to thank him

is that too much to ask on a public, anonymous forum

aus123:
I can't c the phone,

then you must be either blind or dumb

aus123:
@Poster

FAKE!! FAKE!! FAKE!!!

NL are too smart, intelligent to be deceived,

You are just letting out ur wish and dream man!

I pray ur wish will come true one day,

You have a high taste 4 a good life,

You better work 4 it,

Even if ur is dad is the president of Naija,

Best of luck,,,,,,

Its really painful that some people think that i am telling lies and i made this all up

to show that this is no fake story

i have taken the picture of the iphone he got for me. i snapped it placed on a piece of paper with nairaland written on it

i have been asking, what do i stand to gain from bragging

who knows me? who knows my man? do i know you?

Ujujoan:
@ Poster, I have some questions for you?

Is he very ugly? Cos he’ll feel privileged  to be dating a pretty girl.
Is he very short? Because then he’ll need to go an extra mile to keep you.
Is he disabled in any form?
Is he sick in any way?

If all the answers to my questions are no, then honey you’ve got yourself a rare gem and you have to do all you can to keep him. Of course there are guys who can go an extra mile to make their girl happy, but they are one in a million.

Somewhere in your past sweetie, you must have done something really good. 

girlfriend, you are very funny.  
my man is not ugly. with all modesty he is a very good looking man
he is healthy
not disabled
everything is complete

i know i have got myself a rare gem and i am probably being rewarded for being a well mannered and decent girl
reason  why i just need ideas on how to show i appreciate him

pls note: am not seeking for advice on how to keep him. the love we have for each other has sorted that out

prittigrrr:
Why is she being condemned for posting on a forum? Last I checked we all post under a username so what  attention does she gain by posting under an assumed handle? I feel this platform is perfect for what she originally asked. She makes far less than her man and she wants creative ideas abt pleasing and thanking him. She did not ask for commentary about whether he was a good guy or whether he is legit. @ OP, do not feel you have to respond to attacks and comments that are not responsive to your original post.

you have said it all . thank you

i am not here asking for advice on how i can keep him or saying that i am not convinvced of his love for me and vice versa

all i need is creative ideas on how to thank and appreciate my man that has decided to share his blessings with me

he can afford to go for his vacations all alone and show me pictures on his arrival but the impression he has is that what is the point of going alone if he has a good girl that he loves and he afford the expenses for two of us

sistawoman:
I dont see anything wrong with someone asking for this type of advice. She has a really good man (from her account) and she does not want to loose him and wants him to know that she appreciates everything he does. I am happy that she opened the thread and I am happy that she is eager to learn new things and new ways of pleasing her man.

Sista ignore the negative stuff and follow the positives. Take good care of your man.

Treat him like a King and he will continue to treat you like a Queen.
Peace and blessings to you.

thank you sister woman

i appreciate all your words of advice and encouragement

jaleyne:
I am a female NOT a male.

and i will say she sounds like she is lying as well.
no offense to you poster.

i have a husband who also works for an oil company in europe, and is european , and when we were dating he did way more for me than you describe.

He never bought me clothes and all that nonsense but the things that he has done did and still do have meaning.

Why you seem to be lying is not because of what he has done. YES men do these things and so much more for the women that they love, but the women that they love do not see the things which you choose to highlight as important.

For all the visa money, and plane tickets, and computers and bills and whatever other material thing (as our relationship like your was long distance) my husband gave to me, what I saw as important was not a plane ticket or phone; it was the fact that he CARED! And I could not imagine coming on here and saying,

'he bought me this and that and got the most expensive one, how can I thank him'

More likely than not, I would come on here and say , 'I am with a really sweet guy, who cares for me, and is always concerned about my feelings, and my welfare, and he makes me smile so much everyday , i didnt even think it was possible to be this much in love, what can I do to show him that I love him this much and that I appreciate his companionship'

How would your boyfriend feel to come on here and see what you have posted? If I were him I would feel like the only things that you bothered to notice is me throwing money at you and pleasuring you in bed. People are supposed to mean more than that to each other when in love.

But hey; life is not that serious. So enjoy him, and enjoy life.
Maximum respect poster.

You amuse me with your post

you say that i sound like i am lieing yet you are claiming that your European man did same and much more for you

so is it that you are contesting the fact that a nigerian man can do such or what?

am sure if i had posted here that i was dating a white man, i will be called all sort of names

you think if i do not make him happy and if he did not enjoy my company, he would take me along with him for his vacations or is there a decline in the number of girls in europe that he cannot have his pick? if we didnt enjoy each other's company and if he is not aware of the love i have for him, you think he will extend his generousity to such extent? what ever happened to eleko beach? he would not have to take me all the way down to a fancy beach in spain just to see me dressed in a bikini.

you think that a man that is not concerned about my welfare will do all these for me? if truly you have experienced half of the things you claim your white man did for you then you will understand the emotions that are running through me. you really should think well before posting.

if my boyfriend should ever stumble on this thread, knowing him for who he is , he would have a good laugh and tell me that i am yet to experience nothing yet-that he has only just begun with me and next thing he might say is that we should take time off from work for another vacation

i have only stated the material things that he has done for me and people think i am bragging, lying or exagerrating. i wonder what they will say if i state the quality that my man possesses, the qualities that i possess and the things we do together

the n
You sound a bit silly there because you are contradicting yourself. First you try insinuating that such actions from a guy is not possible and then next you say your cousin's fiancee is doing twice

How sure are you that i am not the girl? Or what do i stand to gain coming here to brag? Do you know me? Do i know you? Do you know my man? So what props am i going to achieve?

I am happy i stated my case here on nairaland because i have learnt some tips that i think will wow him the more

Yes,family and friends are aware although i do try to downplay all he is doing but it is really difficult

I am happy i have never listened to the advice of some of my friends and relatives because if i did maybe i would not be with my man

How do you explain advice of telling me to get pregnant to hold him down so that my man will have to choice but to walk me to the altar asap

Friends told me i was foolish not to have accepted the offer of the car when he first initiated it. I told them that he had something he was working on and was taking some of his finances i wanted him to finish that first. And they said i was foolish.

VENUSS:
@like some1 already said, 'not all that gliter is gold'

pray he is really, that his purse will never dry,
pray 4 long life together in good health.
be faithfull, respect him


but hope u remember to save half of what he gives u, u never can tell wen tins will go bad

sistawoman:
Girl I am so happy for you. You have yourself a good Yoruba man.

May God bless you with a wonderful marriage and 3 little boys like yall desire.

May God always bless you and yours.

Girl be the best mother and wife that you can be. I am sure your mom has taught you well.
Also since you are close to his mom, ask her to show you how to cook some of his fav. meals just like she used to cook them for him.

Surprise him with a candle light dinner
Buy him flowers sometimes
Write him love notes and leave it in his wallet, underware drawer, car, suitcase, suit pocket.
run his bath one night and guide him to the bathroom.

prittigrrr:
Poster, it seems all he REALLY WANTS IS YOU, so give it to him! One night when he comes over, arrive at the door with lingere he has never seen and have a huge bow tied around ur neck, waist or somewhere else on your body. Have his fav meal ready and have a bow on his place setting (flowers and candlelight wd b nice 2--I know women like this stuff more than guys but u want to show how much trouble u went to). Have a dessert of strawberries and cream and chocolate with the items gift wrapped. Maybe give a massage. I think you can guess the rest. Keep ur mind open and give him thank you dates every 2-3 months or so. I am sure he will feel appreciated. The trick is to take time to make him feel appreciated fully just for being him.

touchmeder:
oh my God is this for real? Only you?Satisfied in all ramification, seemingly lacking nothing. carry go jo my sister. i beg make una quick quick marry oh make the equation for balance.

I have taken note of all the things you ladies have suggested

Thank you

JJYOU:
@ OP,
in my opinion that is why he his doing what he is doing. i dont know why showing love and respect to your other half suddenly become strange habit. our men really have loads of apology to do.

i like the fact you respect her mum any good man will give his arm and leg to go the extra mile for any lady that makes the effort. i personally cant stand women who think having good relationship with your mum is a threat.

as for advice, other than the good ones people like sistawoman, charminme and others have given i like to add be graceful. be very graceful and forgiving. if you have any anger problem begin to quietly deal with it now because that is one thing that scare people like the man you just described.

one more thing is begin to help him plan for his future. help reduce his spending and do more investment. dont forget leading from behind someone said. be gentle with him and know you dont have to win every time.

do everything to protect this relationship from everyone knowing your business. i will strongly recommend you read garry smalleys making love last forever. it will be one money you will be happy you spent.

good luck and best wishes.
very well said

To say i give him upmost respect is an understatement

I even use ''E'' (the yoruba way of addressing someone older for him and he is just some few years older than i am
That alone i think drives him crazy

Yes, i bonded well with his mum
That i think also impressed him because he keeps telling me that his mum has told him that he must not let me go and his mum keeps telling me that she is looking forward to meeting my family in the nearest future

I do control my temper and when i am upset with him, i talk calmly or i just ignore him
Sometimes i do 'threaten him' by letting him know that there are other men that are attracted to me
I know this bad because he hates it. I am trying to stop. I do it something just to know his reaction and see if he will let me go. These days he seems used to my ''threats'' and laughs and tells me that i am going nowhere except to be with him


Yes, i do talk to him about investments and he listens. I try to cut down on his spendings but what can i do when i am at work and i get a package from DHL with some fancy gift from him?

I will look for the book and i will read it

Thank you

Gamine:


@Poster,

I could Almost Swear you are "K"
Small world, wont be description enough for my shock!
LOL.
Just keep being Who you are and Do what you can with Love.
Guys usually dont need much more than sincere appreciation and respect.


Wats up with all the Bad Belle on this thread?
Ive seen more than this happen.

Great guys exist

Great girls exist

Do i sound like anyone  you know?

I am also stunned by all the bad belle comments as well

I am stunned to read here that some peeps think this is some cooked up story

I am damn honest and serious about what i have posted

I have heard stories about Ibo men that sponsored their ''wife-to-be''/ ''girl'' all through secondary or university. So i really see no big deal in a man deciding to share his blessings with me

And yes, my love is a nigerian. He is a Yoruba man.

My friends too were rather surprised when they saw all he was doing and some even thought he was probably some politician or aristo until they met him. True to his style, he took the six of us for Italian meal at Eko Hotel (he suggested somewhere more expensive but i insisted on Eko Hotel)

I have asked him what is the catch and he tells me that there is nothing that all he had always wanted was a girl that will be honest, true, caring and faithful to him and that he has found that in me

He says that he put me to a lot of tests when we began dating to find out the type of person i was, and he did not find me wanting

I never demanded for a dime from him when we began dating although i knew he earned a fat salary and he was loaded

He actually asked me to loan him some money which i did. I was surprised because i knew he could afford it but i gave it to him all the same. I had to go and take the money from my savings. A month after he didnt give me the money back neither did he say anything about it and i never asked. I carried on with the relationship and didnt stop loving. He went overseas briefly and i got a text on my phone thanking me for the money with western union code asking me to go pick up the money from the bank. It was twice the money i lent him.

So many times when he takes me shopping to some exclusive stores , i always pick the items that are lowly priced and i even drag him to shops like primark where he laments about the crappy items but i tell him that what i want and he pays for them.

Sometimes, he tells me to call a cab but i tell him, that no, am cool with ''okada''

There is no time that i visit his mum that i dont take gifts along. Sometimes monetary and there is no time i go on vacation that i do not get him something no matter how small and he always appreciates it

Like i said marriage is seriously on the cards just that no formal proposal yet but we have talked about future plans, babies, etc

He tells me that this is the best time for him to spoil me and for me to enjoy myself because when marriage comes in, i will too busy worrying about three little boys running around the house

Besides, he says he wants us to grow old and grey together so that when we look back, we can smile and say, yes, we did have a swell time in our youth

Maybe he has a large heart, maybe there is something in me that he has seen, i really dont know
However, whatever it is, i am happy and really in love with him

All i want is advice on just how to show him how much i appreciate him

Treetop20:
what is there to hate about?
maybe your boyfriend has never bought anything for you before?
any sensible man will do what he is doing for her and MORE!

Thank you
May you find a girl that you can shower with care and love and i hope she appreciates you for it as well

Treetop20:
she just wants advice on how to appreciate him
how does your reply help?

Yes thats all i need
I wonder why all the bashing

tope2000:
I'm sensing jealousness from NL men??
i thot women get jealous over stuffs like this

Am surprised as well

When i was still in Uni, i know nigerian students that spent heavily on their babes

So i really do not know some people are stunned that a guy that works with an oil company can spend so much on his girl

sistawoman:
Men love a woman is above all else loyal.

They love to be able to brag to thier friends what a good girl you are along with your beauty.

They can feel it like you do when a woman really loves him.

it is in the small things that he will see the love.

Follow the list I gave before and trust me he will know that you appereciate everything he does.

Learn him above all else and you will be able to cater to his needs before he knows he has them.  This he will not forget.

If he likes a glass of wine when he gets home, make sure you are never out.
If he likes to put on his slippers when he gets home make sure they are where he can find them.

Be an asset to his life and compliment his life well.

Get along with his parents (esp. mother) and you are in there like flin.

Please never let him walk all over you or he will start to disrespect you and will never stop doing it.  But if you dont allow him to do that he will respect you and love you for it.

Learn to LEAD FROM BEHIND

Thank you

With all modesty, i am a very pretty young lady

I have my own job but of course my pay is nothing compares with what he earns

I am not impressed about the phone or laptop or fancy clothes because any guy can do that

What drives me wild is the vacations on his tab. I mean its luxury throughout. The first time he suggested the vacation, i thought he was joking until he gave me all the documentation i needed to present to the embassy and then i was off with him

His mum likes me sooo much. I do pay visits to her sometimes, sometimes i go alone, sometimes we go together and each time i take modest gifts along to give her

Yes, i guess its the small things he sees

Although am pretty, i tell other men off point blank so i have never had any reason to sneak my phones or indulge in any of those small pranks girls play

I do cook for him and i try as to give him as much attention as he gives to me

IykeD:
I don't believe you.Even if he is the MD of the so called oil drilling company, will it be so easy to "throw around" money this way to someone who isn't his wife yet.Now the place that makes it even hard to believe, he pays you salary in dollars every month, what happened to the Naira? If he truly does all these as you claim, check him well, he might just be an "international ole", "big yahoo yahoo", and when he's caught, i pity you, you will be going down with him.Well ofcourse, they said you should pray for him, why not, pray that he continues to be your own mugu!

He was recently transferred to the head office in europe so he send  me money through western union

No. He is clean

Am not here to tell tales or brag

Why should i?

Do you know me? Do i know you? Do you know him?

DaPhoenix:
@poster, ummm I'm still waiting for his number.

Sorry Girl  

His heart is with me and his eyes are on me.

sistawoman:
Here is what you do:

Be loyal
Cook his fav. meals
Wear his fav. smells
Wear his Fav. clothes
Keep yourself up, same shape and style that attracted him
Never ever give him reason to think you are straying
And never ever let him walk all over you.
Lead from behind

Geetoylaz:
geez gurl u're not lady like @ all, more than half the gurls that r on here to talk abt thier man, are mostly complainer. someone came here to praise her man the least u could do is ignore the post. dont raise unnecessary insult on someone whos done u no wrong. wonder why nigerians r like this , every thread u go to, half the posters are get very insultive.

@poster, hun u know what they say. the kinda person u r, determines the kinda person u'll get. i'd say 'good for u' however sometimes u need u refuse some offers from him now n then, that will remind him that hes the most important thing to u. not his goodies. plus, its better to be a giver than a reciever, i know hes got it all but thing is, u need to randomly buy stuffs for him too. even if its groundnut guys appreciate things given to them just as much as we do. n pls pls pls, easy on the vacation things, sometimes u need to turn things down. u wanna thank him? remain faithful, also, help save his money.

DaPhoenix:
You can start by giving me his number

co signs.

Treetop20:
spot on

ikamefa:


@topic you go girl!!

go on with your BAD self!

tope2000:
i concur
u lucky biatch

Girlfriends, thank you

Honestly, i know i am very lucky to have a man like him

Yes, i do talk to him about reducing all the spoils but each time he does something new and different

I do get him some cute things sometimes and that makes him love me more
but i need ideas on other things that i can do to let him know that i really appreciate him so much

y me:
as i said earlier on always pray for him and make sure you know what you are doing

Thank you.

I do pray for him and i am still praying for him

tpia:
@ poster:

is all this leading somewhere like marriage or does the guy simply have money to burn?

If thats all it is, then rest assured he'll do as much for the next girl. And the next one. And the next one.

It can happen with women too, when they're rich enough.

Yes, marriage is on the cards although he is yet to propose formally

I have met his parents and he has also met mine

This is no fairy tale

I am presently dating a young nigerian man that cares so much about me and has spoilt me silly with all sorts

He has a very very very good job with an international oil drilling organisation. In less than a year, he has done the following things for me:

**Summer vacation to Spain and France for just the both of us. Everything was on his tab
**A brand new 3G 16gig iphone
**A brand new Dell dual core laptop
**Vacation to the UK. All on his tab
**Lunch and dinner dates at various expensive restaurants
**Expensive Clothes, shoes
**Bought me a lovely silver neklace with an expensive wristwatch
**Gives me ''salary'' in dollars every month
**He tends buying me a car in the next couple of months
**Sex between us has been fantastic. He is actually the first man to ever go down on me

I can go on and on. . . . .
And yet he tells me that he has not even started with me

Honestly, i do not know what i have done to deserve such a caring, faithful, loving and romantic man like him

How can i thank him and show him just how much i appreciate all that he has done

Please, ideas will be appreciated