ngwababe:
Believe you me, if she forgives you, you go still find another thing to tell her. Sometimes, I wonder where the boldness to talk down on others right at their presence comes from. Bros, deal with whatever you brought upon yourself.

The thing tire me o.

Richy4:
That was cold blooded bro.. A technical knock out jizzzz!!!..

This kinda situation deserves 'hail Mary'

Bro this is from me to you.. There are people in this world that got acid mouths. Oh!! When they open it a little, it can divide the red sea.. and u are one of them unfortunately

Killing someone does not necessarily mean using gun or knife.. U have destroyed her self confidence man.. Try and keep your tongue in check in future man..

As for the present situation, maybe you have done enough begging and pleading. Time for action.. U have done your courtship and u know what she likes.. start with that.. she might act like she doesn't want it but keep on doing it still..also give her a little time and space to breathe and think ... She will come around.

In my opinion, taking this case to a third party will further humiliate her the more because that person will like to know what you were fighting about and what you said that made her so upset .. and u can't trust the person not to say it to another person... That will give them a weapon on what to hold against her should there be any misunderstanding between herself and whoever it was that you told..

On a lighter note bro I will suggest that you buy chewing stick in future and keep at home.. if she does or says something that upsets U, and u can't leave the house at that point, and u know that if u opened your mouth, it will shut the whole thing down, just pick up one of the chewing stick and start chewing.. That will keep you mouth in check

Hahahaha @chewing stick. He needs it true true. At least he's still mature to admit his wrongs. Some men will humiliate you, destroy your self confidence and still get angry you don't want them to continue doing so. Lol. Marriage nowadays is scary.

pocohantas:
If my husband tells me such, no matter how long it takes...I must get my pound of flesh.

But then, I am not your wife
Except I suffer amnesia sha. Total one o



By the way, thought it is only women that have bad mouth in marriage? So, una sef dey talk nonsense like this?

Hahahaha, men own worse o. Some of them can talk nonsense! This one is even fair compared to others.

AleksAndria:
There's this statement that goes 'listen clearly to what someone tells you in anger, they've been dying to say it'..something like that.

I bet your wife wouldn't trust you as much again, and word's like the one you uttered isn't something to overlook at all. Everytime she looks at you she just sees the face of someone who did not really want to be with her.

She has options to forgive, forget, and trust. The first is possible, where the problem lies is 2 and 3. Don't know how you'll fix that.

Even if you had not made the statement that day, I think you'll have said it some other time. You've always had this in mind. The tongue and brain aren't in sync all the time, that's the reason people utter words they shouldn't.

Thank you.

Cutehector:
Naaah naaah naaah...


This is skin deeeeep. Bro you pierced sorrow into her heart. Even if I were the woman, i'm not sure i'd forget that in a lifetime.


Nobody can help you bro, it is finished. You killed the love and also made sure it was totally dead with such words

Hmmmn.... it is finished.

bomasek:
Baba u no love the woman,make we leave story

That's the summary... but he'll still lie to himself that he loves her o, hahahaha.

omotola224:
A woman loves unconditionally but when you cross boundaries she can decide to unlove you with the same energy.
Men can often be insensitive through their actions but when you say it to their face then it's a confirmation of what you have been thinking. Never get to this point with a woman who genuinely loves you. That being said
You have to keep trying...
When she leaves you alone in the sitting room go and meet her. Gist with her.
Take her out on dates
Surprise her
You have to do things like you are just asking her out all over again.
Over one of your dates tell her you are sorry and would love to be the love of her life once again. Pls let it show that you are truly remorseful.

She will forgive you only you might have to reassure her over and over again.

Note: watch what you say henceforth .

Goodluck!

Couldn't have said it better. Some men could be so insensitive ehn.

usernamepass:
Bla bla bla..
Op shut da Vuck UP and hold your mount pim..
You are simply not man enough to discuss marrage talkless of getting married.
Real men dont talk too much..
I bet your mouth will leak again and you will repeat the same okpata yaRn again..
You have succeeded in keeling the woman in your wife and now that shes gone..
Bear your cross and dont you ever... I repeat dont you ever come on here to disturb our peace again.
Abi SA Xenophobia never do??
SHOOO

hahahaha,you dey para sha. The truth is, he'll say something worse later. But what he said is better compared to what some men say when angry, smh. And at least I respect him, he knows he's wrong. Such sensitive things kill a relationship. Wish I could use the woman's approach though, I'm too forgiving and give people several chances. No one has the right to humiliate you... NO ONE!

Dorischuks:
A housewife, Talatu, on Monday, dragged her husband, Nasiru Sulaiman, before a Sharia Court ll, sitting in Magajin Gari, Kaduna State, seeking legal divorce, saying she has been sexually starved for five years.

NAN reports that Talatu, 35, who resides in Makera, Kaduna, told the court that Sulaiman denied her sex for five years.

“We have six children but he has refused to enrol them in school. I enroled them but he pulled them out, saying that I want to change their belief from his school of thoughts.

“For nine months now they have not been to school.

“The house we live in is dilapidated. It is infested by rats, He gives me only N300 to feed his seven children.

“Sometimes I go out to do menial jobs to assist the family but he accuses me prostitution. I can’t continue living with him. I want a divorce,” she said.

The defendant, Sulaiman, denied the allegations made by his wife.

”When I left my wife was pregnant. When I came back, she told me that he had an abortion because she does not want to bear any child,” he said.

Sulaiman admitted that he gives his wife N300 daily because he has all the foodstuffs in the house.

Ruling, the Judge, Murtala Nasir, ordered both parties to settle their problems amicable.

Nasir adjourned the case until Sept. 23 for report on settlement or continuation of hearing.





See more here https://thickmatch.com/husband-starves-sex-woman-tells-court/

Some women sef, when will they start considering birth control? Six children even in that condition? What if she had died in the process of abortion? Some people get mind sha.

eni4real:
Brown skin girl

Brown skin rocks

LewsTherin:


Not at all. Like hundreds of Kung Fu movies teach us, when the student is ready, the master will appear.

Just kidding.

But jokes aside, there is so much I have learned from my 16 years. If I tried to start writing, it will just lead to bored reading. But you have given me a lead, and I will run with it.



Fortunately, she isn't the garrulous type. I am an introvert and so is she. The problem isn't her talking too much. The challenge we face is in no one talking at all! So we have to make conscious efforts to raise topics for discussion. Talk about the kids, talk about the business, talk about the guy we saw crossing the road in funny shoes, anything. It also doesn't help that we have widely different interests. But we try to find something to talk about.

If by talking non stop you mean nagging, fortunately for me, she doesn't nag. I have made it clear to her though that the easiest way to put a man's back up is to nag and complain unceasingly. She's a good woman. She does her best. On my part, I do my best to keep her from needing to complain.




Considering that we run a business together, I fully understand if and when she's tired from a stressful day. Mostly because I'll be stressed myself. That's what restaurants were created for. Any day we realise that no one is going to have the strength to do any cooking, we stop by some joint or the other and get take out.

There is more to this though. We decided before we got married that we will have no live-in help in our home. (my wish, by the way). So we tend to share chores. Early in the morning, while she's bathing the kids, I make breakfast and pack the kids lunches. Many evenings, I do dinner while she prepares the kids for bed. It's not cast in stone. Sometimes we choose to have what only she can prepare. I help where I can.

But if she is just feeling lazy about cooking, well, I'm a good cook myself. She also tends to cook in bulk and freeze it. So it can be as easy as bringing a pack of soup out and making eba. Or stew and I prepare yam or potatoes or something. And where I can't be bothered either, there's take out. Dominoes. Suya and garri. Bread and sardines. Boli and groundnuts. Options art plenteous. There is no need to make a big deal out of it.



Now this one is a big deal. it can be a deal breaker if not handled properly. But we discussed this before we got married. Long and short, we decided that any issues concerning her family, she deals with it. Any issue concerning mine, I deal with it. But being the man of the house, it is almost always from my family that issues can arise. That's kind of like an African thing. So I set boundaries right from our dating days. If you have an issue with my lady, take it through me. If you think you can straight up bully her because she married your brother or son or whatever, be ready for my banana to fall on you. No joke. Within our first year, I head to tear eye for my elder sister. She didn't act out of malice, and I understand that. But she made my wife cry needlessly.

I guess I am fortunate in that my family is made up of basically sensible people in the first place. Her family respects me as well. So....



Like with in-laws, we discussed this well before we got married. Heck we discussed quite a lot. 8 weeks of premarital counselling will bring up almost every possible issue in marriage and give us time to discus and agree and how to address these issues.

First off, there is no "my money", "her money", "your money" and what have you. We have "our money". We have a joint account for savings and major expenses. At first she ran the budget but over time it became clear I was better at that, so I run the budget now. The bulk of our money lies in accounts in my name - to which she has access to the debit cards and knows the PINs. For mobile apps, my finger print, her finger print can unlock the phone and the apps. We also discuss every expenditure with each other before making it - at least as much as we can. So far, the only time we have money issues is when there is a general shortage of funds in the first place. It then is no longer a thing of who spends for what but more of what do we have to spend for what. The kids are the biggest expense anyways so.....


I hope this helps.

Wow! I'm speechless.

missjo:
Sir do you know the meaning of effective communication?

he doesn't

Jennifer129:
I'm sorry if I'm bothering you but I just want to know that I did all I could. If this doesn't work then I guess i can finally be free.
I've been battling depression for a long time now and I've had series of suicidal thoughts. Last night I took enough aspirin pills to kill me but I woke up this morning and I was so angry and frustrated that my feelings went numb. I am tired. Then I thought maybe God kept me alive for a reason but I still can't think of any reason yet. I am scared to die but scared to live too and that's why I need help. I've been too tired to think of any other way to kill myself so right now I'm just trying to survive.
I still hope the aspirin pills would work later and kill me cuz I'm sure that I took enough to kill me and I'm still surprised I'm still living.

Hi Jennifer, please respond to your mail.

internationalman:
There was a time me and one car owner were in a race to win a girl's heart; guess what I won..

Don't try and label all Nigerian girls the same..

Some of them are different, only that people with your mentality only attract girls with your mentality to themselves..

God bless you o. I don't even know why some men think when they have car, every lady loses her sense of reasoning.

extremelygolden:


I just like the attitude of the lady. If he is rich now they won't let us hear word on this thread. We will be reading comments like.
> Olosho
> Gold digger
> She has nothing to offer than pussy
> Nigerian girls are greedy
> Nigerian girls this, Nigerian girls that
They will then conclude it on how they will all marry white women.

This time ehen, a determined wise sister is telling Op We die here". No retreat, no surrender! Hahaha

You dey mind them? When they're also devoid of the love. They don't believe a lady can love a man with or without the money. Imagine the comments on the thread where a pretty lady got married to a blind man. Most said there's something else to it, it's not love blablabla.Certain things attract ladies aside the physical attributes or the money but they won't believe. Some ladies need attention and care. They think money is everything. Those that meet those kinda ladies won't even know what they have till they tear eye and see that such ladies are rare. But this lady own, e get as e be sha. She's obsessed and I'm scared for OP.

extremelygolden:
Alitair, behold your wife. Wifey, behold your lovely husband, Alitair!

What a determined young woman. I like her already. You aren't balling anywhere, ok? Just stay put where you're. You have been hooked, bros

Start loving her already. The sound of your wedding bell is so loud and near, dear.

Now you have found a Nigeria girl who loves you for who you really are and you're complaining. The same gender that believes Nigerian women love money so much and are not capable of loving "not-too-rich" guys.

Hahahaha, this got me laughing. Let's say he's not going to value what he has now until he loses her. Wedding bell indeed.

budaatum:

Can she? Didn't know she had history, but he deserves it, in my opinion. She was not obsessed before he defiled her.

If what OP said is true, the girl according to him was forming "alpha female" if there's any word like that, lol. Asking him not to get emotional and that love is a scam. Why the sudden obsession? The girl being described here is confused.

AwkaetitiBabe:
Rude? I'm simply advising you to apply wisdom cos her type can actually stab you or probably commit suicide

Exactly!

budaatum:

Grow up and get married! She sounds like she good for you.

Good kwa? Lol. What's your definition of "good". The lady is obsessed. She can kill!

Fountainofyouth:



Blaaaaaaaaaa, no lady makes hair every weekend no matter how rich she is, so this fiction is horseshiit, but let's say we believe you, means you spent close to 2 million Naira on a girlfriend, not bad, for a guy on nairaland.

lol @for a guy on nairaland. After all the awareness! Hmmmn.

BiafranBushBoy:
Not good and it is bullshit, I will explain.

Have you see a factory worker putting on a suit?

Or a footballer wearing an helmet and safety boot?

Every work sector have a dress code that allows for seamless workflow.

If he is doing this for the camera, no biggie then.

If this is real, then he needs some reorientation.

that is why it's called "corporate water"...lol.

vibre:
This marriage won't even last up to one year

Pessimist

vibre:
This marriage won't even last up to one year

Pessimist

Kennyprince:
They are very real

Hi, seems you know a lot about O'Ride. Do you know about their Brand promoters? I mean any idea what the job is about? Received a mail for an interview scheduled for tomorrow.

genq:
I will forever love, cherish, pet and pamper my mother and that's where it ends. God forbid I ever follow this formula for the Nigerian woman of today.

AMEN?!!!

genq:
I will forever love, cherish, pet and pamper my mother and that's where it ends. God forbid I ever follow this formula for the Nigerian woman of today.

AMEN?!!!

Isabellah:
I once dated a Femi, he was all I could want in a man, loving, caring, sweet
Always satisfied me all round.. Showered me with praises ..made me feel like the only woman in the world.

But guess what he still cheated..
Femi Aderibigbe, wherever you are God punish you.

lol.. this got me laughing!

victorVIC1:


I eventually went to the ENT clinic. The wax removal was not painful. Unfortunately, I still hear the ringing sound mildly when the ear is placed ontop of pillow or any other plain surface. I guess it's because I stopped using the drugs that were prescribed by the doctor as one/ some of the drugs were spurring up hypertensive reactions

Thanks for your response. So the manual ear wax removal might not stop the ringing sound immediately? Mine is reoccurring. The drugs only stopped the pain. I need to tackle the main cause of the reoccurence. Though I still think yours needs some time because those drugs ain't responsible for stopping the sound. They are meant to cure the infection. Thanks once again.

victorVIC1:


Morning bro. I noticed a slight improvement. Actually, mine is a ringing sound. I noticed a slight reduction in the volume of the sound after using the peroxide.
I'm considering seeing an ENT today as the sound is very disturbing.

Thanks a lot

Hi. Were you able to go to the ENT clinic afterwards? I'm here to read people's experiences on the manual ear wax removal,cuz I'm nervous. I've been placed on Fleming tab, 625mg. It really helped but I still need the ear wax removal. If you experienced it on your last visit, was it painful?

missjo:
Seems you started the game of not picking calls and despite the apology, she still felt hurt enough to want to give you a taste of your own medicine. Lol

Just ride it out,then when she finally picks up, say to her baby you've made your point and i heard it loud. I'm never gonna ignore you again for as long as i live

hahahahaha, you play too much miss.

scaramucci:


Rubbish! These things don't work.

hehehe,how about I ask someone to try it on you?

Ibyus01:
When is the closing date for tma 1

inconclusive. I'll advise you do it as soon as you can.

OMG,so cute!

Fafesot:

yea..those ones you mentioned

central North and southern Kaduna
hw is their character...can I control them as I wish?

lol. He's looking for who to control. You deserve a "partial narcissist" like you sir.