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mushystuff:
I do not know the circumstances surrounding this particular incident but there are times when a woman though married, may have to abort a pregnancy. For instance, it could be a careless conception and any pregnancy would jeopardize her health; it could be that it's too soon after a birth and she's not ready for another pregnancy; it could be that she n her hubby are AS, they do an a test and determine that a fetus is SS so they elect to terminate than bring a sickly child into the world. Perhaps she senses that her husband is not ready to Father another child or there is a domestic situation where she'd rather not be vulnerable with a pregnancy or bring a child into such toxicity.

You never really know so it's not best to judge.

...and nothing should stop her from informing her husband if she has a good reason for that. About the domestic situation... well. Hmmm, people get mind.

Biko, who are the women marrying the broke guys? Cause I am not understanding. Does it mean only rich men are having girlfriends or getting married?

Obiaksnews:
Getting married to the love of one's life is one of the best things to happen to a person and Bilkisu Kabir Mado is grateful to be spending the rest of her life with her lover.
Mado, who is a beautiful disability advocate, shared the good news on her social media page. Excited about the new phase of
her life, Mado noted that she tied the knot with the love of her life on her birthday, on Saturday, October 5. The beautiful woman who describes herself as a wheelchair queen clocked 24 on the day of her wedding ceremony. According to her, she got married to the most amazing man in the world. Being in a wheelchair did not stop Mado from dancing with the love of her life. The new bride noted that her husband was so happy on their big day as he was grinning from ear to ear.

For more pictures check here: http://news.obiaks.com/191007101406/Love-at-it's-finest--Beautiful-disability-advocate-gets-married-on-her-birthday.html

Wow...this is beautiful

Adriel3:
The key to any deep, passionate relationship understand how you participate. for so many of us, the focus is on what we are getting out of the relationship – and not on what we are giving. but when you put your partner’s needs before your own, and are truly present with each other, you experience love on an entirely different level.


Learning how to be present in a relationship takes time, energy and a willingness to look inside yourself. What happened the last time you got into an argument with your partner? You probably wondered, “Why doesn’t he just understand?” or “Why isn’t she listening to me?” It is easy to think they are the one at fault, rather than you.
Being fully present in a relationship requires more than just sitting and listening to your spouse when they want something. It requires knowing that while there are two of you, the only person you can change is yourself. The changes you make in yourself will reflect in how you see your partner and how you understand them, and understanding is the first step to a stronger relationship. Stop telling yourself “It takes two” or “They have to meet me halfway.” Instead of focusing so much on your own needs, look at a situation through their eyes. Hone in on their needs – and put their needs before your own.


Next time you speak to your significant other, take stock of your situation. Are you really there? Are you really hearing them? Many of us hang on to prior disagreements, spats and differences – and we hang on to them for a long time. This detritus builds up, creating a steady negative force that leans on our relationships even during the good moments. And when your subconscious mind is so focused on the past, it becomes impossible to even think about the present, much less focus on being there.
When you let go of that emotional debris and commit to simply being in the moment with another person, and making their needs your own, you are freeing yourself to show up fully for them. Forget the past – what matters is the present moment and the future that is to come. Focus on understanding your partner. What they need from you right now – whatever it may be – is your immediate priority. Put aside everything else. Listen to them – and more importantly, understand them. Don’t just assume you are absorbing what they are saying; instead, ask clarifying questions. Share your feelings with one another. Take on their burdens and let them shoulder yours. Only when you are expressing yourself and communicating openly can you truly be present. As you commit to this new mindset, you’ll build trust between yourself and your partner. As you make their needs your needs, they will make your needs their needs. This is how you pave a path to extraordinary passion.
Learning how to be more present in a relationship also means pushing aside other distractions. For example, technology has become a persistent third wheel in many relationships. We have trained ourselves to always have our phone, laptop or other electronic device close at hand. Can you really devote your full attention to your spouse when you’re itching to check your social media feed or wondering if your boss emailed you the latest update? Put the tech aside, even if it’s just for an hour a night. Treat other distractions similarly.
By changing your own limiting beliefsand habits, you will teach yourself how to be fully present in a relationship – and in life.

lovely post.

It's very possible, but it shouldn't be so. I really don't know how some do that, before going into another relationship... try to heal first. Purge yourself of every feeling you have for an ex. An ex is an ex. Ex stands for excluded. An ex is excluded from your current life. They had their times and it failed. When someone is excluded, it means no way for them. Several marriages have been broken today because of this. How can someone marry another man/woman and still feel something for an ex? It is well o.

bellachibaby:
Two friends have reunited 27 years after they last saw each other.

The men whose names have been given as Kola Aina and Hameed Abubakar grew up in the same neighbourhood decades ago and only just reunited by chance in the same neighborhood.
Kola Aina and Hameed Abubakar have since taken to Twitter to write about their chance encounter.

Kola wrote: “The last few weeks have been nothing short of a miracle. Thankful for life, health & 2nd chances. A key highlight was randomly running into my man @Hameo1 in the same neighborhood where decades ago we spent some time. 27 years later, same building – we got silly.”



See more here https://thickmatch.com/friends-reunite-27-years-recreate-childhood-photo/

Awwwwnn

lilwetdick:
There is nothing to emulate from him

He was faithful because he was on National TV, in the eye of the public..

leave the man with 20 naked girls in private, lets see if he will remember his "Queen".

A man saying another man can misbehave in the midst of unclad girls behind closed windows and doors, he is also "onishina".

AntiBrutus:
Why should you marry a dumbass hoe?
You be goat?
Nawa o!

chimooooo....

Tajbol4splend:
There's this girl working for one customer of mine, she thinks I am having crush on her so that's why I look at her curiously whenever I go there to see her boss, she doesn't know I'm amazed with the canopy called eye lashes in her eyes so I stare at her like I get something for her

hahahahaha

Nastybrave2016:
Relationship expert and psychologist, Joro Olumofin, has listed out 20 things guys should watch out for while dating a lady. According to the love doctor, if any girl is guilty of more than 5 of the things he listed below, the guy should break up.



See list;



1 If she can’t use N5,000 to cook decent meals from Friday – Sunday. (A Full weekend)



2️ If she has more than 3 married men as “besto”, “fwends” or “my G”



3️ If your girlfriend demands a gift on every birthday



4️ If she borrows money from different guys without asking you



5️ If she doesn’t call your mother on Mother’s Day. .



6️ If your girlfriend has been to Dubai 3 times from 2018 till date and she doesn’t have any income



7️ If you have given your girlfriend up to N500,000 / $1400 and she’s still broke or doesn’t have a business.



8️ If she is always commenting on known Yahoo boys pictures and Billionaires pictures on IG : “Yas zaddy, i tap into ur grace sir, check ur DM”



9️ If she doesn’t know what you do to make money. E.g she knows you’re a banker but doesn’t know what department you’re in



10. If she takes Postinor 2 like M&K every month



11. If she idolizes runs girls & copies their IG post and Snapchat. “She May be an apprentice soon”



1️2. If she has cheated on you in the past 12 months



1️3. If she’s a student & you can’t locate her on weekends



1️4. If she has never bought you anything apart from perfume, belt & boxers on your birthday. E.g she should buy you books & inspirational dvds



1️5. If she spends N40,000 on makeup every month & she’s not a makeup artist or making money from the makeup.



1️6. If shes always commenting on celebrity pages saying “ Bless me”. .



1️7. If more than 5 night club bouncers know her name in your city



1️8. If she would rather go to the cinema than mid week service



1️9. If she doesn’t let you wipe or clean her up after sex.



2️0. If she gets violent. Trashes your car, assaults, burns your clothes. .



*If your girlfriend is guilty of more than 5 of these and not willing to change, you should consider reentering the market

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJFOw12_F1EmpOouFZriPRg

Lol... I'm speechless.

idom101:
Hello everyone,
it's really my first time to ask for help here.

I will be 35 20 days from today and I intend to get married very soon, but after a bitter break up more than 1 year ago, I finally make up my mind to love again but I am caught up in between two lovely women.

Note: I am not dating any of this girls but they are my friends and wonderful people character wise.

I have known the first one since childhood, she has turn out to be an amazing young girl always supportive when I need her, living with her I know I will definitely be very happy in my marriage but she is less of a goal oriented person, which means I will have to work more, she is more of an extrovert also very loyal.

The second girl is very okay character wise, very submissive and is great goal getter, marrying her means I will do less for us to achieve our goals but she is more of an introvert, she is this kind of girl that can keep to her self, and she very loyal too

both of them outwardly does not carry the body I would like but inwardly they are amazing people. both of them support my vision in life so well.

Please marriage expert in the house help me, as I don't want to make mistake in my marriage. I am still praying but I feel I need to also find a way out.

which of this girls would you chose to marry and why?

matured advice are welcome.

thanks

People change. At the end of the day, these things you mentioned about the two ladies will not really matter. Love alone isn't enough and in your own case, I don't see love in the picture. Be careful when choosing a life partner. I repeat, be extra careful.

virgoquin:
The table that men wants you to bring something to

hahahaha,yet they say women are the most confused people. Really? With this, isn't it obvious? I can boldly say the aspects of my life where I had peace of mind in abundance is when I'm single. I'm no feminist but it's the fact.Doesn't mean I don't believe in love but with the way these men talk about women with no respect ehn, I dey fear for our female children and the unborn ones. Men these days just want every opportunity to blame women, whereas we sef get stories. We can't be here ranting or insulting every male gender because of our past experiences with them.

AntiBrutus:
My sister, this is the library where notes on understanding them dey. Membership na free, just come and read...make you no kill yourself by yourself

lol...understand them ke? I get such time? I just marvel at the level of their hypocrisy.

virgoquin:
Anything to attack females nah....once they see this kind topics you will see them rushing like soldier ants to come and comment rubbish.

I am still saying it I pity anybody that follows the words of Alfa males here. Are these not the same people who go from thread to thread shouting on top of their voice that they want a woman who is working and financially independent... that being a full time housewife is not something women should embrace .

So what changed now

And they'll be asking "aside sex what can she bring to the table"... Hahahaha

AntiBrutus:
#BlameFeminism
#TheWomanMustBeAtFault

You say feminism and the idea of a working woman is a scam- then you still see housewives as leeches. Oga, which side you dey?

One person...two perspectives

lol...are you minding them? Try this with most Nigerian men and you're in soup. The fact that you're even trying to secure the job sef, he'll still rub it in your face that you're lazy...not to talk of the one who willingly quitted. He'll remind her how worthless and useless she has become- to herself and the marriage. Yet they'll still feel insecure about their wives' success, or try to kill her self esteem by every means possible. In short, they're confused.

24kmagic:
I personally won't stop with the stereotype until I see a girl that is different from the rest.

I always say this; Any particular set of people known for a particular thing, they are truly that thing.
Except for some very, very few exceptions and like they say, majority carries the vote.

I didn't click that link but you see these talks about Yoruba women being dirty, it's 95% true.
Igbo girls their own is money, they can follow Lucifer to hell if ego is involved.


Last, last, 9ja men are in serious trouble when it comes to women, going by the calibre of women the society breed these days, especially in the south.


Hoes everywhere

The calibre of men the society breeds these days is scarier. You men really think you're saints too? I laugh!

Beautiful Post.

Kendumazy:
Nice one. They've had the cute looks and same complexion since childhood. Nobody bleached, nobody has a fake skin color. Mheen! This marriage Na original ooo! HML to them.

You took the words outta my mouth actually.

Kamani8:
1. They like to settle down with decent women if possible virgins but still cheat on her with slay queens.(haba oga mi)

2. They want their wives to have kids(2 3 4 5 6 kids or even more) but want her belly to be flat and with no stretch marks. (Iffa hear)

3. They don't want their wife to work but get upset when she depends on them for everything. (Ok o)

4. They want their wives to breastfeed their babies atimes even when the woman is exhausted. Some reject the idea of formular in totality but they don't want to see saggy boobs. (U do well sir)

5. They want their wives to be contributing towards the bills and buy them nice surprise gifts but want her to be at home n take care of the home like a housewife. (I'm only one person o)

6. They want their wives to dress decently but chase after their neighbor who wears skimpy dresses. (Iffa catch u eh)

7. They like to have a praying wife but hardly take the lead in family prayers.(encourage us na please )

8. They praise their wives for forgiving them when they are caught cheating but heaven is let loose if reverse was the case. (You see your life?)

9. Men want transparency over how the wife spends her money who she calls etc, but transparency jumps out of the window when its time for them to do same. (This is hypocrisy na oga)

10. They don't want their wives to keep single friends but their own best friend might be a single guy. ( why na?)

11. They abuse their wives emotionally, financially, some even physically but you dare not try same with their sisters. Some go as far as beating up their inlaw for daring such on their sister. (U better lead by example next time)


12. They praise their wives for being able to manage the little allowances they give them but sponsor lavish lifestyles of their side chicks. (This one weak me finish)

lol..number 3 tho. Confused set of people.

Beautiful... congratulations.

Akposy:
I want the rice. Happy birthday ma! Cheers to more fruitful years!

My birthday is this month oooo. Hope I'll get cakes and gifts from this space

Thank you so much. Happy birthday in advance to you too.

sassysure:
Happy birthday to u
I will take the pepper soup

lol,no wahala. Thanks a bunch.

Jchi9876:
Try cooking that jollo with palm oil and grill that fish served in a calabash

I like the presentation (onion and cucumber) concept

Okay, noted. Lol @the calabash aspect. Do people still use that? Okay, I guess you're from the north. I only love the calabash for fura and nunu, hehehe. Thanks.

In the spirit of celebration, I present these. So one of my Facebook friends asked exactly what we're celebrating today. Well,even if the country is a mess at the moment... the only consolation I get is, I celebrate my existence today. So even if it feels like there's nothing encouraging in the country to celebrate, here is me celebrating myself. I matter. I'm awesome. God has been so good to me.Happy birthday to me.

ednut1:
girls with this kind of mentality cannot make good wives. Bros look for another girl.

Some make big compromise and still regret in the long run.

olabrinks:
After a long time of not having frequent sex, maybe she has become accustomed to living that way. Maybe she doesn’t see the excitement of sex anymore. Sometimes when you don’t have sex for so long, you can even forget what it feels like, hence her nonchalant attitude. I’m sure once you guys start having frequent sex again, her libido will go back to normal. Do not assume she’s cheating when there’s no evidence or any suspicion to think so.

Exactly @first sentence. A large percentage of women are wired that way.