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omojoshy:
Wishing the remaining 5,990 appointees best of luck

funny guy!

freelance777:
Dear Nairalander's

How are you all doing? I hope you guys are doing well? I am writing this post to express my fears of the unknown, because I have been a very trusting and reliable husband to my wife.

Before marriage, my wife have once told me about his ex who is supposedly his best date ever in her life before she met me, that apart 2 years into our marriage, we had an arguement in which she confronted me about a number saved with a lady's name on my dialled list. I openly and honestly told her it was my old school mate whom I missed her call and had called back. But she wanted to know more like I was doing something shady, that got me all roused up and I just told her to leave me be.

A week later, I received a call from her straight from work that my daughter had a serious cut on her lips due to an
accident, I quickly rushed down to the school, but met them at the nearest clinic where my daughter's lip was being stitched, few mins later I walked down to her school where she works nearby to pick up her car key then bring her car nearby so we could all go home, surprisingly, I found her wedding ring inside the glove compartment. A ring she wore out to work that very morning.

I didnt question her immmediately until the night of that day, I asked her why she had removed her ring and kept it in the glove compartment knowing fully well that the wore it out that very morning, she said it was because I have had mine removed since the past 1 month, so she also had the same reason to remove her's.

A week later, she opened up to me that she has been talking to her ex whom I described above, I asked her about what? She said she has been taking advise from him whenever we have issues. I kept shut and moved on.

2 more years into this marriage, I recently found out that her ex had sent her a whatsapp message, but she didnt respond, so I opened up a discussion with her based on ex's. I asked her if keeping contact of ex's or communicating with ex's is good for married people be it the man or woman, she said its a no no, that infact she will never accomodate such and that its wrong for anybody to do that. I immediately told her to open up her whats app, she did and I showed her her ex's whats app message, she at first was scared, wanted to cover up the phone somehow, but due to fear, she slowly relaxed herself and she said well that I can see that he is just talking and she has not been responding, and that its possible for someone you do not have on your contact list to send you a whatsapp message, I agreed, but countered her saying you also have saved his number with Abbreviation, if you never intend having future communication with him, why then did you save his number thereafter? I didnt get an answer, until later after two weeks when she told me she was in communication with him in order to secure a job for his younger brother. ( Very hard to believe) I moved on.


A few days later again, I was on my way to help her fix her iphone which she has abandoned like a year and the half, something just prompted me to dial his ex's number on that phone, behold she had saved the number as 'rsif' someone who bears Williams. Anyway I kept quiet still. The the final incident that gave me a final warning that this my wife might be cheating on me unknowingly was just a month ago when she told me she had met this dude on the same estate we reside, that he was into business and had also gave her his complementary card, I asked what he does, said he is an estate agent, I responded saying estate agency does not correlate with what you do, she said at least he can provide us good offer for housing by the time we are ready to move. When all of a sudden, she said that same guy had asked her to help cook since his own wife had travelled to the USA to give birth. She asked if it was right for her to go ahead and do the cooking, I immediately denounce that move that it is wrong, and that the guy has another motive entirely. I told her to tell him that he should ask his own family member to cook for him, and that she should immediately cut communication with him if she wants to last long in the marriage.

My wife responded by saying, she does not think the guy has bad intentions and that he is a cool and nice person with a very mild personality,that if the dude has such intentions, that it would be the most surprising occurence to her. I said well just do as I have said. Lo and behold, I investigated her phone and I found out that she had already cooked for this dude even before she asked me the question. I confronted her, and she said it was because I might not find it funny and thats the reason why she kept it a secret at first. I then promise to show her that the dude was infact a cheater whom is planning to cheat on his wife with my own wife. One day, I impersonated my wife, and started sending text as such as that am ready to give him what he wants, lo and behold, this dude was responding and was even asking where I was at, that he is ready to heal my wounds, a hug and everything that I needed. I showed my wife the text message, and she acted all surprised, but I was not, because based on the conversations that I have seen, it seems to me that whenever I have issued, he rushes to call the guy and tell him everything, which was a good avenue for the guy to provide emotional consolation in order to get what he wants.

I apologize for this long story, but I just needed to detail this story well, so that I can get insight of what I need to be thinking, what I need to do, and the right steps to take.

Thanks all.

Man, your story is kinda pathetic but frankly speaking, it has not gotten to a stage of divorce. You have gotten clues that she may be cheating on you based on her actions and reactions; but I think you should relax abit. don't get heated up as I believe you may be even as at the time you were typing this. Be as loving as you use to be (though it may be difficult) but now pretending to be uninterested in what she does. At this time, her messages and chats will be deleted, her calls will be coded and will be at specific time. But man, if you have not, then try to find out where she goes and when she returns whenever you are not around (this depends on your time schedule anyway). You may not get any relevant information from her now since she knows you are suspecting her moves. I would advice never use any of her friends too to get the information you need.
you may secretly and politely confide in any young smart male colleague where she works who could squeeze out the necessary information from another colleagues closer to her or who may have gotten a rumor about her infidelity. Or you may also try to know where her ex lives especially if your wife comes sometimes abit late or leaves work at odd hours. you may try to know where she goes and seek for ways to know if she is really there at that time.
cheaters uses a "coded" place for thier activities and after sometime they would change the place, if you can find that you will nail her.
Or, you may call the ex in a polite manner, speak to him as a man and find out what he has or wants from your wife. After this, some men do apologies and frees your woman completely. At this time, watch your wife's actions and reactions and chide her like a man when you need to. If after your talk with the man, their relationship continues, man, call the man or meet him physically with a friend or two and warn him seriously. As for your wife, she may have to take a break in her parents place till she values her marriage.
Another last option is that, women are more jealous than men and wouldn't want to loose her home to another woman or lady, show her a man have nothing to loose. Let her see her actions and reactions in you as a mirror. Don't pretend so much about it and let her be aware. Watch to see who feels the pain most, I bet you she will realize that her position is under threat and she would seek for ways to make amends. Note, he who comes to equity come with a clean hands and until you catch her in the act, she may keep denying and you may have no case against her except an emotional one.

Karlman:
not sure any of you have seen a copy of the constitution

not sure any of you have seen a copy of the constitution

where was the constitution when Buhari certificate saga came up. Where was the police. Even, the court could not speak any more? Who is fooling who in this country? Bunch of Nitwits!

I got same today, nawa oh. Scammers everywhere. But many thanks to nairaland, s platform that has been enlightening people

ishaq062:
hi good people of nairaland ,please I will like those that av attended and passed workforce aptitude test to please help with their question like and any contribution that might help
I will be taking the test tomorow .
pm:ishaq062@gmail.com
I hope to hear from the great guyz in the family soon
thanks in advance





OP please front page for maxi and urgent contribution.

when did u get the message and when is the test.

eleojo23:
How long shall we wait for Buhari to act?
Everybody is running out of patience.

It's been a month now and we cannot tell where we are headed.
We are running on autopilot without a compass!

people running out of patience, wow! Its laughable. Meanwhile who are those? The gap between patience and actualization would have been bridged by now. Its so unfortunate we are starting all over again. My sympathy goes out to those that have lost loved ones. I don't pray for this but Bob Marley sang " ..many more will have to suffer, many more will have to die, don't ask me why.."

Nicepoker:
Food not ment for SW and SE.

I bet you u, you will definitely see the southeasterners living and trading happily in Bonny.

"The worst human right abuse was the one caused by the militant sect" I so much hate that organization called Amnesty International. Are they fighting for the right of different militant groups? I suspect they are one organization that sponsors and encourages these deadly sect to keep carrying out their devilish activities.

Lets ask ourselves, whose agenda has the nation newspaper been promoting? I doubt this news because the APC and those against saraki are doing anything possible to discredit the election that brought saraki and Ike ekweremadu in order to bring in Tinubu's nen. In as much as I don't trust saraki credibility, I believe if the president is ready to fight the oil thieves and corrupt individuals in this country, the election of saraki and co cannot stop him from actualizing his campaign promises. So Nigerians and those elected should not fall prey to the antics and propaganda of the APC.

superstar1:
People will insist on buying authentic things from the malls and rice from their regions. What next?

how many of them can afford it? I was in a friend cosmetics shop when a lady was shocked that what my friend sells at a price was sold twice the price at shoprite to her. She couldn't believe her ears. You increase the rents, the buyers pay. You increase tariff, the buyers and end users pays. Drop the igbos in a pit, they will survive and haters gets more jealous.

YoursGEJ:
Nuclear plant in Nigeria? Make these people respect themselves abeg. If Niger delta militants or boko haram get their hands on enriched uranium, shebi na sorry dem go tell us

apart from that too, even in this unfriendly relationship Russia is having with the U.S in the international front, I don't think it will go down well for Russia to build a nuclear power plant for us. The U.S may look for ways to make Nigeria pay heavily.

God help us. RiP to the dead.

QuotaSystem:
I've never heard you guys sound so humble, the wind of change!

this is not an issue of being humble. The igbos that will be pressing for the betterment of thier people will, those who care less about the government are numerous. So I am only giving the fact about an average igbo person. Or have they not been the highest demanding ethnic group in this administration ? But then, even if much may not come to thier table, but thier relevance and right must not be taking for granted.

Interesting piece. But it sometimes better to remove the little clogs in ones eyes so as to see clearly.
No doubt Nigeria is experiencing challenges like terrorism and her inability to fight against corruption but the South African can't claim they are corruption free if we could recall the case of thier president on a multi-billion estate and many others. Thier hate for other blacks is so conspicuous because the later is more hardworking than them hence, thier discriminating and killing many other African Nationals.
Notwithstanding, I love the fact that they acknowledge the contribution made by some of our clever citizens which our selfish politicians have not heed to since the 1980s. But, I believe people are watching with keen interest to see what this administration will do about corruption and the issue of Boko haram. How they will improve the state of the Nation. Should will wait for another government or is this the government that will set our foot on that journey to greatness? Only time will tell.

What I believe is that igbos can never suffer even in the difficult of all situation- God always make a way for them to the shame of those that hates them for no good reason. So the earlier other tribes understand this, the better and quicker we try to move this country to a higher level. What this country needs is matured and detribalized politicians who is ready to build a greater Nigeria, not those seeking for faults where not necessarily.

Interpreting the phyno voice, seems this Amnesty International drank OMO! In a guerrilla war like the boko haram type, everyone is a suspect. The good this military officers have done have turned to evil because, they were dealing mercilessly with those urchins and blood suckers whom they (Amnesty International & co) have been sponsoring secretly. What should they tell us about the number of innocent lives those mindless sect have destroyed and what the government should do about them when they are caught. Rather, they are seeking for the head of these hardworking men. Foolishness.

I don't want to believe he doesn't understand English, but if that is truly the case, it is a big shame to that financial institutions that employed him. Meanwhile, hope something good comes out of this case, because they have already started pleading not guilty. Probably the money being siphoned will be useful at this moment.

O boy! Goose bumps all over my body! Shiiit. Me na one leg up, one on the floor oh!. But lets think of this, what if the person had already done the pooh thing and the incident occurred, how does he/she clean the "bombom" with all the pains?

barcanista:
After reading my piece the VP decides to visit onitsha. Who says opposition isn't working?

I am been thinking something even before the elections. The APC have agents on mediums like this hence thier prompt response to the criticism of oppositions. Well nice one. The opposition will give then a sleepless just like they did GEJ and the meaning of democracy will definitely be well defined in all sectors.

Hope vigilantes will be honest in their work. They should rekindle the trust the communities have on them. Good work.

francizy:
In Benue state, Principals of schools, business owners, etc, have a club and hotel they hook up. When attending such deadly meetings, they always go with their NYSC catch. Some even go with two girls. Don't underestimate what money can make even the so-called graduates do.

A friend of mine told me about this during my NYSC in Benue state and it all came as a shock to me due to the high level of HIV spread in that state. Really, some babes get mind oh...

with the level of unemployment in the country, many young ladies have been blind folded with pieces of money and promises of opportunities. The smell of these two things have made them unable to identify the moral and health implications of thier activities.

He should make known his assets public even if he would take home billions. I want to be sure that his net worth of his asset do not exceed the money used to purchase the nomination form for the election since he had no money to buy it.

What can I say? This has been in existence for long. But for them to have graduated from the university, they are assumed mature to accept or decline any offer that is morally wrong. If they keep calm, then I believe they love it and I have no issue with that.

Lol. Governor AY the Comedian.

Its now becoming clearer to the ijaws that Ojukwu was not wrong after all. His fight was for the greater good of the people of the then eastern region, but some of their fathers both dead and living blew that in a act of sabotage. Now, its basically difficult for them to succeed alone without the help of other ethnic groups closer to them.

barcanista:
The Governor of Akwa Ibom state should pursue empowerment programs, boost human development through grants and scholarships, support SMEs in the state and create environment that is attractive to business. Human development is key to societal growth rather than frivolties like hotels, stadium, and stuffs.

Barcanister I read and many times enjoy your comments but how could you say it is a frivolous projects. We all know a conducive environment includes good roads, better housing, security, hospitals, beautiful environment etc which this man has put in place. He gave the people free and compulsory education, its is left for them to grab the opportunity. For grants, we all know Nigerians, people we seize the opportunity and bring thier loved ones even when they are not qualified to benefit thereby breeding corruption the more. For the project in question, the first four points hotel was not built in Akwaibom or are we saying it was the governor or the governor of Lagos that owns the hotel in Lagos? He was able to attract foreign investors and because they believe the state has a future they came, so lets applaud him. What the new government should do is to make friendly policy that will make SME and industries spring up, build markets because business will make more people and banks move to the state and more revenue wil be realized. A comment of yours say the stadium is not need, my brother, it is. We all know tourism and sports is the next and clean source of income coupled with the fact that Akwaibomites have been cleaners and drivers, thier experience will be taken to an all new better level. So he is on track, what the people need do,is encourage the incoming governor to improve on his successes. For a country or state to thrive, it need infrastructures. And if we can be honest, this man has not failed in that regard even if he wasn't 100%. Let the people of the state Judge thier own.

I am not from Akwaibom, but all I know is that this man has positioned his state for greatness. Even if people likes his projects or not, this man can see what other selfish governors cannot see. He has seen a future beyond oil and rather than waiting for the federal government to diversify for him to follow suit, he is diversifying and waiting for the federal government and other state governors to follow. If cross river governor had built on the success of Donald Duke, it would have had no worry about oil or no oil. Good governance is not a party affair, it is an individual love for his people because even if the person is misbehaving, the party never voted him and cannot do anything to him but rather the people with the power of thier votes.
lets see, Amechi got almost the same amount Akpabio got, but we can judge for ourselves who people appreciates (sentiments apart). I only wish the new Akwaibom state governors consolidates of his achievements which I have no doubt since Akpabio is going to Abuja to represent his people more better and attract more dividends of democracy for them.

OkutaNla:
Lol. I'd be concerned and apprehensive about any prospects of a long-term political alliance with Ndigbo if I were in the shoes of your non-igbo neighbors too.

Such fears are not without justification, considering historical precedence and the overly aggressive and arrogant manner with which some militant igbos engender hostility in their relations with some of their neighbors.

Take the whole Lagos "no mans land" issue for example. If the igbos can exhibit the effrontery to lock horns with a major ethnic group like the Yorubas over ownership of Lagos in the Yorubas own region, how much more would they intimidate and dominate their more timid SS neighbors? It's a no-brainer, really.

I'd be seriously apprehensive about Ndigbo domination too if I were your neighbors.

I never expected any comment other than the issue of intimidation and domination from someone not in the regions in question.
The issue of intimidation and domination are words your likes spreads to instill fear and disaffection on some shallow minds on some people of the SS whenever they decided to make a head way with the people of the southeast. But, I think with the way the election went, many of them now knows better. The picture became clearer that Ojukwu though may not have have taken into consideration before embarking on the war, meant well for the people of the SS and SE. I have discussed with an old man from that region who said, the election made him know the Igbos better than what your likes always put out. He regretted fighting against, and sabotaging the effort of the Biafrans. I think maybe you should tell these to kids, markets women, girls who have no interest in politics, young boys who never wanted to study history.

Good luck sacked the inspector general of police, NPA director etc but why adding "close ally" to Peter obi. Is that to distinguish him and make him target for the new administration. If he had sacked others, why do u think others are not close allies of friends to close allies? Na WA for Una u oh!