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Optimus212:
Hi Nairalanders....Please Admin, help me push to Front Page, i'm in dire need of people's opinions.

Pls ignore my writing skills because the way the matter be, my head dey shake like this.

My story is brief.

I am married to my wife & we're blessed with 3 kids,
..My wife starves me of sex over minor issues, even when we've settled by my apologies & me assisting remarkably well in house chores.
There was a period 2 years back she starved me of sex for 4 months because of one little misunderstanding we had back then which was unbearable for me & made me to cheat on her,..And my relationship lasted for more than a year with that lady.

Right now she (my wife) has started again with same attitude, its going to a month now. I am confused because I don't want to cheat on her again. What do i do? Should i keep facing such punishment? For how long? Or, should i file for a divorce? Don't you think such attitude will have reoccurrences in time coming?. It is disturbing me badly because I find it difficult to be sleeping alone at nite without her by my side. I have begged & begged her to let whatever anger towards me that is deposited in her to just die off, yet to no avail. The funny thing is, we'll discuss and play very well before going to bed but, whenever I start making advances towards her, she shows up a different attitude.

I am confused!! It is really really disturbing me. How & where did I go wrong?.

Pls, matured advices only, you can insult me too, of course its Nairaland but, I need serious advice, I am very worried.
Thanks.

Pusyiter:
This is not new neither is it rocket science
Nigeria can dwell on Solar energy like China or any other alternative power sources
but saboteurs in the form of generator importers and their likes will not make it work
In 1999, Tinubu had almost finalize discussion with Enron but OBJ govt. of saboteurs bungled the initiative
20 yrs later, we are worse off.....

deltateam:
Why would he ruin his career?
Its like leaving Barcelona to join Burnley.

No matter the money offered, it's bad decision.

Cowmilk:
So of what economic benefit is the visit


Guess we shd fry beans


Those who don't give a f*ck didn't open the thread

Marbella003:
I have a main account but I decided to create this one to post this in order to avoid embarrassment or reveal my identity.

I got married 4 years ago to my husband. He was in his 40s and I was in my 20s. The age difference between us has never really been a problem as we are both educated, well spoken, have similar personalities and share a lot of interests, and as a result we mesh well. My husband is a very caring and thoughtful man. This is one of the traits that made me fall helplessly for him, along with his intelligence and fun personality. I will not reveal anything pertaining to kids as this might punch a hole in my wall of anonymity.

I've always loved my husband and I still do. But I've never really been sexually attracted to him. This is not to say that I find him unattractive. No. He is okay as far as physical appearance goes, but his look has never been the kind to turn me on sexually. To put it plainly, I find that I'm only sexually attracted to young men around my age with tall, athletic bodies and with the energy and agility to please a woman satisfyingly in the bedroom. I met this kind of man in my work place and after we talked a few times I couldn't help but become attracted to him. I realized he was also attracted me, and fast forward to a week ago, we had sex in a hotel room.

I'm ashamed to admit that sex with him was glorious, but it truly was. It was better than anything I had ever done with my husband. I loved how he tossed me around the bed and did stuff to me that my husband doesn't do and I liked how ever part of his body felt firm and strong. After the act I felt a wave of shame wash over me. I recognized that I had committed an atrocity and I knew I had broken my marriage vows. The guilt of what I had done followed me around like a stench. I hated myself for betraying a man that had always loved and cared for me.

The problem I now face is that despite the guilt and the shame I constantly feel, I still yearn to experience another period of sexual bliss with my colleague. I can't help it. I'm torn. I already told my colleague that that one time was the last but deep down I don't want it to be. I know that if I tell my husband about what I did, that it would mark the end of my relationship with my colleague, but I don't know exactly how my husband would receive this information. I don't want him to look at me and see a betrayer of trust; a woman lacking integrity and virtue. No. I even thought of resigning from my job or requesting a transfer so as not to be in close proximity with my colleague but I know that wouldn't solve anything as I still have his social media info and occasionally stalk him(yes I do). I'm so conflicted. I don't know what to do.

MrBrownJay1:
You have to be honest with WHO YOU ARE... Aka a betrayer of trust, a woman lacking virtue and integrity. And the earliest you accept that, the better it will be for BOTH of you. Why waste time pretending to be who you are not, pretending to live a life that ain't you. What you need is right there at work....so the choice is yours: be miserable for the rest of your life OR be honest and free yourself from this charade you call marriage.

I won't even dwell on how I would feel if I was that man and getting to find out the above by myself...

Proudlyngwa:
How does this pictures discourage someone from bleaching.

MiaB:
"Each time he get paid he'll always lie to mum that they've not pay them, he always appear pitiful"


Sit your mom down and tell her the truth

candlewax:
please I need cheap 2hectares of land in ogun or Lagos for animal farming

Jayneek:
Just thought is nice to cool the stress and exercise the brain this beautiful Monday morning.

The question:

What are you suppose to call your uncles fathers brother?

No insulting please.

lacapine:
Hera is complicated kind of. Her parents never legally married but they.sha lived together and made babies. Her dad abandoned them to remarry another woman who he currently lives with and has babies with too. So her mum is alone..

Faster006:
Hello everyone, my daily prayer is not only to have my own online business but also an online business I can depend on financially.

Here's my little problems:

I created a blog, got adsense approve
My Challenges:
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What to write

I tried android app development.
Created one android app , I integrated admob and hundreds of downloads recorded.

My challenges :

It was very difficult to build
Time consuming.

I tried also Web design.
I have designed and hosted up to 5 website
My challenges
Getting clients

Above all here's my major challenge :
No PC : I did all with my phone but it fustrate me a lot.

Please need suggestions on area I should improve on, or new online biz to learn

Faster006:
Hello everyone, my daily prayer is not only to have my own online business but also an online business I can depend on financially.

Here's my little problems:

I created a blog, got adsense approve
My Challenges:
Traffic
What to write

I tried android app development.
Created one android app , I integrated admob and hundreds of downloads recorded.



For what to post troubles, you need PLR with licence to use them as you wish.

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My challenges :

It was very difficult to build
Time consuming.

I tried also Web design.
I have designed and hosted up to 5 website
My challenges
Getting clients

Above all here's my major challenge :
No PC : I did all with my phone but it fustrate me a lot.

Please need suggestions on area I should improve on, or new online biz to learn

Lukgaf:
I'm just tired of all these bad news. But do we have any leader in this country?

WhiteSoup:
Nmandi Kanu / Sule Lamido 2023.

We will further reduce this broom to sand come 2023. All we need is the support of the Yoruba people to achieve this dream.

prizequest:
I got married to my wife few months back but she stays in another state due to her work and there had been measures for she to join me until now. One thing she had repeatedly complain about is my low sex drive as she has boosted of how other men in her life before are stallion but she doesnt want me to be one but be able to meet her libido demands. This comparison created psychological issues for me hence the lack of drive and she really want to make a baby due to her age. Not having more sex has made her fight me, attack me, despice and disrespectful but i have pleaded she give me more time to sort things out but she's more persistent hence we'd been separated for 4 months now, 3 more month to our anniversary.

Another angle is a week after our traditional wedding, i and wife decided to go to the marriage registry to get a certificate but her dad got to know through her, put a call to me and cursed that my children will disrespect me for not informing him. My Wife is a divorcee from another marriage

polymaths:
Go for good brand , like Samsung, lg, iPhone, Motorola, huawei, zte and so on forget all this made for Africa China phones. Even the name will discourage you, Wikko. Even I don't use techno, infinix and itel.

obi4eze:



Jubrin Al Sudani will never attend a live unfettered media interview in Nigeria because he doesn't want to be disgraced. Besides, he knows nothing about governance in Nigeria other than what Presidents Abba Kyari and Mamman Daura have told him.

Funny enough, the only things the fraud seems to know are the lies he has been fed with. Everyday I pity my fellow Nigerians because we have been scammed big time.