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Thank you, thank you and God bless everyone that has supported.

Why don't you start small?some women I know started soap making @ home and grew with time.

Start small, remain dogged and focused, someone someday would notice your spirit, strenght and determination and partner with you.

Waiting for someone to open a factory just like that for/with you is a defeatist trait. No one wants to identify with such people.

@OP, Gods grace is sufficient for you. Please don't even think of giving up. Is your wife bringing in something as in working? Please while waiting and applying for a good job, you can as well pick up a teaching or coaching job, to keep body and soul together and keep your head sane. You can still network from there.

God is not asleep dear,it is well. Be strong!

Congrats CC on your boy's success.

Debrief, how do you ration the bosoms for the "whole boys" without cheating any or get summoned to WHO court for not being a good mother/wife?

I need tips.

Internet sweet long epistles aside, how do we relate to the people (colleagues, employees, strangers, needy) we come across daily?how do we treat the people we see as 'failures, no good'? How do we treat people below our 'class' ?

A simple smile, saying sorry or thank you goes a long way!

I read in one of the dailies about a married man killing himself over a loan the wife took to assist him in building a home for the family. The man lost his job, wasn't servicing the loan anymore and neighbours were making fun of him. Long story short, the man took his life.
May God help us sha. The country is messed up, people get tired of hustling with nothing to show for it, the rich and blessed are throwing it at their faces and some see suicide as the solution.

May God help us.

Happy birthday Jarus.

Givers are always on top, never lacking.

I asked same question @ Odumchi's "fruit thread" but got no answer. In my own case, I need both Igbo and botanical name. We call it just "fruit" as kids.

To be sure we are on same page, OP,the fruit I'm talking about is green when unripe, red or yellow when ripe. Same for yours?

@OP, try being Nigerian in America.

Reading from the sidelines and can't wait to jubiliate when this would finally be over.

If he came up with a repayment plan, its two years plus now, he would have remitted a tidy sum.

Never give up, OP.

I'm the first child and only girl of my family and I do NOT understand any of this. How old is your wife?

Nwanne m are you isolated from your family? Did you marry this lady against their counsel?2 pages and no mention of your family is rather. . . Strange.

Did she leave with your children?I hope you married her properly?

I must confess, this period won't be easy on you, going home to an empty house but trust me, you'll be fine.

Call and inform your immediate family of the development. If possible, get one or two of your most favorite siblings to stay with you now.discipline yourself, don't call your wife, don't pick her calls, don't reply her sms for atleast 1 week. If you paid her dowry, your dad and male uncles can go visit her family(no females to avoid drama) just to remind them the type of war they'll get if anything happens to your kids.

One week and she does not bulge, involve the women. They can now do all the shouting, dirty talks and fights. If that does not work then its time for your kit and kin to go for proper reconcilation, call both families together and trash out everything from the roots and that should include banning all relatives from sleep_over visit for atleast 1 year.

Whatever decisions you make, I hope it works out fine for you.
Btw, I'm assuming all you wrote here is the truth.

CC, if the wife sef dey his side and its only in laws misbehaving then I'm all up for involving relatives but as it is now, he needs to first, ACT a man.

Ask the MIL to leave, if the wife says she's joining, oh please let her go. He shouldn't even try to talk sense into her head. That would send signals to them that he's not a vegie anymore and besides you know women, the wife won't stop reminding him how he "begged" her to stay .

His relatives can come in later.he is their(in laws) cash cow, when the wife and all stays out for 1 week without him asking after them, they'll be the one to beg and initiate reconcilation and that's when his relatives would come in. They can now go back to the drawing table and decide on how to live without any in law bullshyte.
If my mom dares come call me out when I'm having a talk with my husband, I'm 100% sure she's sleeping outside that same day. . And the only thing I can do is to either take her to a hotel or plead on her behalf. Argh, some men really need to be MEN oh.

Does he want his wife at all costs or he wants peace in his house ? Both aint same.

He can sure have his wife but be ready to endure and live with endless tantrums and insults on his person or man up and ask them to go to hell!

Damage has long been done and at this point he's got nothing much to lose or save by putting his feet down firmly.

So, what do you propose he does? Beg the MIL and wife?

The MIL must go and if the wife says she's leaving with her mom, please let her go. She'll come begging when she stays 1 week and the man no send them.

My fear is that che che my brother no get the mind. They know it and are using it against him seriously.

I think you are too soft and never laid down the rules from the onset.

Your house is your in laws railway station!you couldn't talk?Haba, its so annonying!

Sorry but you gave your wife and her people the space to walk over and now shyte on top your head.
Borrow some balls and guts if you can't grow one, throw them all out.

Na wao.

Did your wife follow your mil when she came to disrupt the discussion last night?

Your in-laws and wife have no respect for you, none whatsoever. And living so very close to them does not help matters.

When your FIL said the mother would only leave with her daughter in tow, what was your response?don't tell me you kept mute please?

Where is your own mom?confide in your people, maintain your stance! Give your MIL an ultimatum, she has to leave and if her daughter wants to go with her, fine, so be it! Say it and mean it!!!

Go falconets!!!

Depends on where I'm going. Some trips are more fun when embarked-on by road.

Pagan, thank you for yabing me. Lol

Now that we know "your people" can you revisit that cremation theory? Which, when and why would a "real" hausa man cremate?

Btw, no kitchen talk?hausa cuisine? Methinks its very low on nourishing nutrients, so much carbohydrates.

The reason our fathers had many children was to help out with farm work or whatever else that would bring in money.children are sent out to work in peoples farmlands to earn wages(more income for the family), girls marry wealthy men (status upgrade for the family, steady flow of material goodies from the groom). And ofcourse, high rate of infant mortality was a factor too, albeit secondary.

Its absurd to say our mothers didn't know or use contraceptives till the white men came! With all the leaves, herbs at their disposal? Don't kid me, please.

Che che, 3 already? Boys are not smiling.

@topic, your MIL behaviour is not the problem here, the issue is that all is not well between you and your wife now. Your MIL is only acting out a script directed by her daughter.
Be very firm, call your wife and settle whatever differences/issues you have with her. Don't talk about her mom with her,that would be like making her feel too relevant. Concentrate on your wife, deal honestly with all your problems and see your Mil either change overnight or start quarrelling with your wife(as the table is now turned against her)

If all fails, invite your own mom or sisters. Women have a way of sorting themselves out.

Rainmakers just don't make rains fall, they also stop rain from falling by pushing it to another area.

Science has found a logic to that effect. Something to do with seeding of clouds with silver iodide crystals. I don't have all the details but somehow, scientists now have a backing for "rain making"

African rainmakers have existed for long, doing their thing. Making rain fall and withholding it too using incantations, herbs and more. So its not just voodoo.

What comes to your mind when some preacher shakes his hands and people fall down? Anointing or spell(a by product of voodoo) ?

I'm mobile now so can't type much details.

I think we've got a lot of things mixed up, from the onset. Let's try and clear things up.

Voodoo is a religion as you said. A religion that IMO, involves magic, spells, animism, rituals with a touch of catholisism.they firmly believe in dieties, spirits and ancestors and communicate with them via dreams, trances and ritual sacrifices. Therefore magic is a by-product of voodoo, or to put it succinctly, a branch of voodoo. It works with charms, spells and incantations.

A man eating bottle is better described as voodoo, one that works with charms and incantations, a man suddenly loving up a woman he erstwhile had no single interst in can be under a spell, a love spell while making a bird to fly out from an empty pot would be magic . All are sub elements of voodoo. I stand to be corrected.

Anyway, power grows through belief.

Hmmn, tosh dikwa ka o di serious ugbu a.
Marie, ele ebe i gworo ogwu gi? Lekwanu tosh oh. Posing for contacts.

Ara a gbala m final.

Achi kedu ebe ino?

Who hid my post ?
Which silly spambot dared to hide my post?ara a gbala ndi ara. Ele odumchi ?

Ikomi, peacock wu eze nnunu.

Tosh wuru eze nkoto, eze umunwanyi.

Ikomi eze ndi ngboto.

Agaba, eze ka udele.

Pres elect, eze ka ibe ya. Eze obi m. Eze ify.

OP,protect your privacy, edit or delete your names, email from your posts.
You actually don't have to post this here, no one is doubting your story.

I pray your relatives be able to recover your phone, funds or the con man.

Be extra careful next time.

God bless everyone that has supported so far.

@debo, our accountants would be posting an accounts update by tomorrow morning.

Lucky chap!
Very lucky.

It would be a miracle if you recover anything. Assuming the man is yet to pick it, a rogue working with NIPOST can likewise claim it.

Best approach:send your people or friend in lagos to visit NIPOST surulere office. Scan and send all necessary documents to them.

Kpele.

Chei, ify eriela nshi. Lekwa Ikomus i ku m mba. Oh choochi, ijiji ha ndi singing, ejula ha ndi Christian mothers.

Ngwa, a biala m. Kedu ihe i puru ime, eh Ikomi?

I choro i ba m ogu?I choro ime m gini?

Btw, translation i wetara for peacock is cool. Peacock =mariatosh!
Kemgbe Maria jam-uru Tosh or vice versa, nmadu a naghizi anu ihe na threadia. If Tosh is not writing long poems, Maria is shedding tears.

Anyi ga ahu isi ya.

Lol

Na wao.
What an end.

@OP, what about the BB lead?the police still working on that?