Family › Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Ikem11(m): 9:58am On Dec 08, 2020 |
grandlexuz: Lol. We can all never have thesame composure because we are men. Afterall no two pennis have same colour, girth and length..Lol
That said I understand the shortcomings of the OP. Despite being badly treated by my woman I never contemplated suicide for once. I love my kids so much to see them grow up without the stigma of a father who left by suicide. Besides I love living, one of the reasons I beat the odds during a time of severe hardship.
Still I dont expect the OP to have my resolve. Though he didnt throw much information if the text messages were explicit enough to show sexual content, I suspect that was the case. There is that much you can't throw online.
I think it's wrong of him to contemplate suicide but depression has varying effects and consequences for different people. That he is still alive is reason enough that he is holding strong despite the odds. I will like to have a more personal chat with him to encourage, and know the depths of his problems. We can and should always be our brothers keeper. Well said my brother . |
Family › Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Ikem11(m): 9:27am On Dec 08, 2020 |
berrystunn: How ..? How can you take charge without money? This a weak man question. For a man to ask this question it means u suppose be gay not a man trust me |
Family › Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Ikem11(m): 9:24am On Dec 08, 2020 |
grandlexuz: I am sorry to hear about your issues. Believe you me a lot of people on nairaland are insensitive and stupid. I know what it means to throw a sensitive issue like this on nairaland. I have been through the lions den. Being maltreated and abandoned by my wife when I was severely sick.
Forget about all those condemning you. I do understand your problem both from self experience and a medical perspective. If you really need someone to share life experiences and talk to contact me on whatsapp and you will never regret it. I live in Cameroon. My number is 237. 653 924 176. Your case is different brother don't encourage men to act weak like a woman. Is he sick? Read this guy write-up it full of errors. First he complained the wife cheats but never admitted he caught her cheating Secondly he jumped to the fact the wife love money Then to the part the wife don't like him spending on him self ...again, she don't have time for her family. All this she been doing to you for 7years. Then you as a man what you been doing ? Believe me this guy is the problem of him self not the wife. Had it been he caught his wife cheating that's a different story |
Family › Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Ikem11(m): 9:16am On Dec 08, 2020 |
MeeztaFabulouz: 7 years of struggle to cater for and build a decent home, I have spoken so many times and to no avail. Since I was born up till this year, I hit a woman for the first time in my life. The reason is just because she did something stupid, I didn't want to get involved in any argument or fight, I just went to book a hotel room and had a quite time to myself that night till the next morning and on getting home she just attacked me saying I went to sleep with another woman. I have given her the options so many times to go her way if she is not happy being with me but she won't go. As am writing this, I have not eaten her food since yesterday and I just got home only to see her serving me food and trying to make up but this is not the first time. I practically made her not go to the shop today and I was expecting to see that she went to the shop. When ever we talk, she listens and behave herself for a while but its like there is a spirit that comes into her and when it does, she forgets everything and only tries to bring trouble and more trouble.
Go back to your fathers house, she will not. Ok go and be with any other person that will tolerate your attitude she will not leave my house. All she does is money money money this and that. Even with her business, she does not use a dime for anything in the house aside her own stuffs. Can you imagine she had a fight with me some time ago because I personally went to pay my kids school myself? All because I didn't give her the money to go and pay herself as I normally do?
Can you also imagine she had a fight with me one day all because I bought a jeans and slippers for myself without buying anything for her and the kids because I had bought some nice stuff for all of them including her like a week before then.
This is a woman that has never bought me even a boxers since marriage and has never gotten me anything gift for my birthday or anything but I just ignore all that and focus on making the family happy. Yet I am not happy in my home because I know what I go through especially this year that corona made things rough, I have passed through hell just to ensure my family is fine and we are not put to shame yet a matured thinking lady does not even care about anything.
Those saying I am a fool for thinking of suicide because of a woman, it is not because of the woman I am thinking of such, if you really know what depression can cause, knowing how hard you struggle to earn your money and spend it on someone who cares less for you, you will understand. Oga no vex, did you catch your wife cheating ? Based on her phone chats u read did you see anything that she actually having sex with those 2 men ? Apart from if answer to those 2 questions is "yes" then I can advice you on what to do but from all your write-up it seems u just suspecting she might be cheating because you are broke . (Hustle my brother) We men do complain too much when we put our selves in mess . Didn't you date this girl before marrying her? I bet if u did you would have known she like money cos women no dey hide that part no matter how they try unless the man is too blind to see. No marriage is perfect just do the ones u can and leave the ones you no fit do. Like I said, unless you have 100percent evidence she cheats on u I will call u a fool if u thinking of suicide option |
Politics › Re: Shehu Sani Reacts To Jonathan’s Refusal To Blame Buhari Govt For Insecurity by Ikem11(m): 5:13pm On Dec 07, 2020 |
mike8804: All na permutations....trust a Nigerian politician at your peril. But you trust APC when they shouted change? |
Business › Re: Dangote Refinery Named Among 20 Most Influential Projects by Ikem11(m): 3:24pm On Dec 05, 2020 |
BIGGESThead6: NA DANGOTE alone get this Country. Children of hate go come Dey talk rubbish now. God punish all of Una, where Una papa dey when Dangote dey HUSTLE LEGALLY?
North Amaka. Yet north account to 90percent of Nigerian poverty rate . Go hustle lazy man and leave dangote wealth |
Music/Radio › Re: 4 Dope Comeback Songs By Nigerian Artistes by Ikem11(m): 3:52pm On Nov 02, 2020 |
slawormiir: Damnnn niggarrrr Isoright Bunch of untalented moda fuckkers Including my sister called cynthia Ikponmwenosa(cynthia Morgan) Not to talk of that untalented moda fuckkker called davido who uses too much voice enhancer in the studio and still dishes out dogg shitt to his fans
Until Nigeria artistes comes up with something good My play list will remain like this cole The weekend Imagine dragons Sia Burna boy 2face Katty pery Passenger Bruno Mars WizKid Avicii( rest in peace) Twenty one pilot The Chainsmokers Dig the kid Cold play Khalid Maroon 5 Calum scot John legend Selena Gomez Post malone Ellie Goulding Christiana aquilera A great big world Rita ora Clean bandit Dua lipa Martin garixx Major Lazer The night Edsheeran Taylor swift One direction Lewis capaldi Sam smith Ariana Grande Kehlani Billie eilish Camilo Cabello This nigga is back @Op what did you smoke? Apart from "how star do" all na trash and mi mi never hear ani |
Politics › Re: Nine Nigerians Contesting In Tuesday’s U.S. Elections by Ikem11(m): 8:03am On Nov 02, 2020 |
Egein: These are Americans, not Nigerians. They are of Nigerian origin, but not necessarily Nigerian. Read you won't read. Didn't you see where it well stated when they moved to USA? They were all born and schooled in Nigeria |
Family › Re: What Do Some Men Gain From Sleeping With Other Men's Wives??? by Ikem11(m): 10:58am On Oct 24, 2020 |
thesilentman: My signature? Oh I didn't remember thanks for that. What's paining me is that I think he feels that am too small ( young ) to have such a beautiful young wife. Only heaven can help me now.I just wanna teach him a lesson.Am no gentleman. Oga no go kee ya sef cos of woman ...those bitches ain't royal. Any secret a woman reveil to you there is hundred if not thousands she ain't telling you Better behave no go kee for a woman cos when u behind bars yo eyes go open cos that ya pretty angelic wife u see now go dey chop yo best man. So my broda just dey soro woreey no loseguard |
Crime › Re: Zimbabwean Man Caught Trying To Sleep With Boss' Wife, Beaten (Photos) by Ikem11(m): 3:43pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
Openbusiness:
Women and cheating na 5 & 6 you are poor, they will cheat on you you are rich, they will still cheat on you you are a commoner, they will cheat on you you are an emperor, they will still cheat on you you give her nothing, they will cheat on you you give her everything, they will still cheat on you you don't marry her, they will cheat on you you marry her, they will still cheat on you your d**k is small, they will cheat on you your d**k is big, they will still cheat on you you are ugly, they will cheat on you you are handsome, they will still cheat on you you are a civilian, they will cheat on you you are a military, they will still cheat on you you are alive, they will cheat on you you are dead, they will still cheat on you..... Is there any type of man that women don't cheat on  Yes the single ones |
Career › Re: Lasisi Hadji Alli Dies: Oldest Practising Surveyor In Nigeria Is Dead by Ikem11(m): 10:50am On Sep 03, 2020 |
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Career › Re: Lasisi Hadji Alli Dies: Oldest Practising Surveyor In Nigeria Is Dead by Ikem11(m): 10:49am On Sep 03, 2020 |
When I reach that age I will kneel and thank God for a life well spent. Rip |
Politics › Re: Miyetti Allah Sets Up Vigilante Nationwide by Ikem11(m): 8:42am On Jul 30, 2020 |
Amotolongbo: Nothing is good here.
Each man should man his territory and no need for interference in another man’s territory.
Who told you that there is political advantage for us to set up Amotekun and OPC in the north? They have more advantages than us setting up security anywhere in the country. Hence, the need to fend them off setting any security in our land. If u don't know he is an agent of demons... Just ignore the bastard |
Politics › Re: Miyetti Allah Sets Up Vigilante Nationwide by Ikem11(m): 8:39am On Jul 30, 2020 |
IDeyNL: That's good.
We will also set up Amotekun and OPC in the north Nonsense! Stay your North we stay our south. Wicked set of souls |
Politics › Re: Repentant’ Boko Haram Member Kills Father In Borno, Reveals Ndume by Ikem11(m): 8:17am On Jul 30, 2020 |
I guess this may be why the first coup took place. This wicked politicians play games with human lives. And the soldiers pay for it.
A soldier suffer bullets and many of his men die in battle and later apprehend terrorists and the government feed them and send them back to the society.
What a wicked world |
Crime › Re: Godwin Obla: Magu Ordered My Detention After I Demanded ₦763 Million Legal Fee by Ikem11(m): 8:10am On Jul 30, 2020 |
omokab: I dont see any reason inviting obla to this investigation. The issue of all allegations level against magu does not surface at all. Reading through the lines, the lawyer bribe his way to win the case. You paid 5m unknowingly that the judge also have interest on said building.this is a typical lie. Ago salami should not let malami use him to nail magu.He should be very careful in handling this matter.magu is not a saint but the allegation were fake.Another case there is the 75m for winning a case, the money is too much. How stupid u people think. So you foolishly think the money is too much now and u never thought It was an agreement before the lawyer accepted to handle the case? If I wish to charge you 1billion to win your case and after winning u then realise it too much? Oga fear God |
Politics › Re: Fresh Crisis Looms In APC As Party Members Threaten Exodus by Ikem11(m): 3:25pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
No be only exodus, they will soon reach revelation |
Politics › Re: 5 Reasons Buhari May Have Omitted Obasanjo’s Name In Train Station Honour Role by Ikem11(m): 3:24pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
oshe11: How did OBJ kill Rain?
It didnt Rain in Nigeria during his tenure Me too no even understand how the man kill rain  |
Romance › Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by Ikem11(m): 3:17pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
@op I never seen where rendering help is a burden cos u call it help. If u don't have it u don't have it my friend.. U are not mandate to do things above your capacity.
Secondly, are u dating this girl (or is she sister in the Lord) if u dating her well I weep for you cos u will soon cry(don't ask me how)
Draw a line and make up your mind based on your capabilities ( I won't ask u to stop helping someone in need) but never to your detriment.
You have a life far ahead of you... Plan that. If u love this girl and wish to have future with her go meet her parents and make things official so that (no woman no cry)
I wish u all the best in your decision |
Politics › Re: Wife Of Mubarak Bala Pleads For ‘Proof Of Life’ by Ikem11(m): 9:27am On Jul 28, 2020 |
hopefulLandlord: This can't hit front-page. It's an atheist that's being "prosecuted" if it were a Christian it'd have hit Why are you allergic to sense? |
Crime › Re: Rape: Izu Madubueze Reads Suicide Note Before Killing Self Over False Accusation by Ikem11(m): 7:56pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
This exactly reason why media trial should be a crime... People should allow justice done in the right way.
Go to police, report a case, police file to court and you accuser arrested.
I can never pay attention to media sympathy nonsense posted by any oloshi. I don't even give a damn about the quality of the crime. Go to police and get justice
How do you damage someone image first and then request the person to start proving his innocence? |
Celebrities › Re: D’Banj Continues ₦1.5 Billion Libel Case As Seyitan Withdraws Petition by Ikem11(m): 11:59am On Jul 25, 2020 |
Xisnin: Civilians don't file rape or any criminal cases, the government do.
Don't you think the same should apply to all crimes? Perhaps we should start jailing police for every case that court exonerate a suspect and also jail the person who reported a crime such as armed robbery or car jacking.
This baseless argument have been made since the 15th century. Yet, here we are with rapist facing more penalty(not lesser) and backlack everyday. Rapist defenders will never ever change their mind regardless of the merit of the case. The good news is that their opinion is inconsequential as it won't affect the real legal case if any.
England actually made now-defunct laws to protect against "false accusation" but it didn't stand the test of time because no other crime is afforded the same protection and it allow rapists to operate freely.
Suppose you live in a shared flat and your newly bought iPhone XR got stolen. You decided to report to the police and the likely suspect got interviewed but later freed. Should you be jailed or harrassed for "false accusation"? Should everybody who ever reported a wrong suspect be thrown into jail?
How about journalist and people who comment online about "corrupt politician without "concrete" evidence. Should they also be thrown into jail? Did u read my comment well before quoting? Must u start media trial before police can pick up your case? Relax Oga abi madam, pray you don't fail a victim of media one day then u might understand. Like I said, rape is a serious offence and very emotional one I can never defend any rapist such way I can never defend any woman who falsely accused a man of rape cos to me its equally a serious crime. Now let's say a woman accuse a man falsely and somehow the man found guilty (which such case I seen) what do u say to this situation? My stands still remain why tarnish image of someone online when court never find the person guilty? What's your mindset before reporting such a big case online first before reporting to police? If not for fame and human sympathy |
Celebrities › Re: D’Banj Continues ₦1.5 Billion Libel Case As Seyitan Withdraws Petition by Ikem11(m): 7:47am On Jul 25, 2020 |
This exact reason I always say all this social media trial will only damage image of rape case
All this oloshi them dey use rape accuse dey do play play as if its a game. If u can't file a rape case with tangible reasons beyond doubt pls better hold your peace and allow your faith cos accusing such case put doubts.
Rape is a serious crime not just a crime but an unending emotional one. The way media trial of rape in going in Nigeria in future will start putting so much doubt that will soon bring laws that may somehow frustrate real rape cases.
I strongly think anti media case rape case should be put in place. If u feel raped, go straight to police or file a case in court and don't start media trial first.
Am sorry if my comment offend anyone . Just try read it in a reasonal manner u may get the point |
Romance › Re: What Is The Largest Age Gap Between You And Someone You Dated? by Ikem11(m): 8:04am On Jul 24, 2020 |
Am 18yrs older than my wife
My milf is 15yrs older than me |
Events › Re: Slay Queen Buried In A Manhood-Shaped Coffin In Ghana by Ikem11(m): 7:00pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
This one just weak me |
Foreign Affairs › Re: Saudi Arabia’s King Salman Admitted To Hospital by Ikem11(m): 11:13am On Jul 20, 2020 |
Fuckspambot: Corona virus isn't real. All these Leaders being hospitalized and claiming to be victims of the nonexistent COVID-19 are only deceiving the masses. even Ajimobi and Abba Kyari are still alive and have gone to live in the underground they built in their mansions to spend their millions and live in isolation for the rest of their lives after being bribed to deceive Nigerians that they have died through COVID-19. God will expose you all. cc GenBuhari How naive and stupid u sound |
Romance › Re: My Neighbors Wife Is About To Push Me To The Wall. by Ikem11(m): 1:01pm On Jul 18, 2020 |
skimena: the truth is my mind is not going the same direction with my body. my mind is saying no and my body is saying yes The body is weak while the mind got conscience. Advice: follow your conscience. |
Politics › Re: Arthur Eze, Elumelu, Obi, Ikwechegh Make List Of Top Influential Igbo People by Ikem11(m): 1:58pm On Jul 17, 2020 |
poshestmina: It's just really annoying that they tag Rivers State as Igbo. ONLY THE IKWERRE PART OF RIVERS IS PARTIALLY IGBO!!!!!
Rivers State is Niger Delta. There are many tribes, languages and cultures in Rivers State...and just One belong to them doesn't make Rivers State Igbo.
Rivers ,Bayelsa,Delta,Edo,Cross Rivers,Akwa Ibom are South South and Niger Delta. Because of this is one of reasons they removed history in school. Do you even know the origin and how that rivers u so calling Niger delta came into place? You are only naive and lack information. Try do researches and learn before making nonsense comments |
Politics › Re: Arthur Eze, Elumelu, Obi, Ikwechegh Make List Of Top Influential Igbo People by Ikem11(m): 1:47pm On Jul 17, 2020 |
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Health › Re: Man Suffers Penile Fracture During Rigorous Sex (Graphic Photos) by Ikem11(m): 11:47am On Jul 16, 2020 |
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Politics › Re: Goodluck Jonathan Lands In Mali On A Peace Mission by Ikem11(m): 11:46am On Jul 16, 2020 |
orlabass: Thought there's no international flight ,you guys crash poor people businesses and you flying like eagle....it's well with my country... Does that flight looks international or ordinary to you? |
Health › Re: Man Suffers Penile Fracture During Rigorous Sex (Graphic Photos) by Ikem11(m): 10:09am On Jul 16, 2020 |
The gods told me she didn't come. Somebody bring that woman am cuming to make her cum |