₦airaland Forum

Puss360:
After seeing this topic -https://www.nairaland.com/7803848/leave-good-woman-man-because -
I decided to ask when does "We are dating" officially starts in a relationship..

Assuming a guy exchange number with a girl on Friday, they began chatting, on Friday the following week, they met for lunch...

Fast forward to a month later, the guy discovered that Tuesday before the Friday they met for lunch, the girl had sex with a frnd..

Can the guy claim the girl cheated while they were dating??

I'm confused here ..

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So this economic hardship never reach ya side wey you get time dey reason relation matter. May be na parents still dey feed you.

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Verbal intervention will not work. The fundamentals are weak. The best he can get is a knee-jerk reaction that will be short-lived. Investors and speculators are paying more attention than he would admit. Naira is heading to abyss. Any appreciation in naira against US$ is an opportunity for people to hedge into dollars. They thought "Consumption to Production" is a joke. Reality is gradually taking over.

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A teenager who married a 80+ years old grandfather cannot get any lower. Actually, dating Portable is an elevation for her.

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Darlingme:
Honestly things are really getting crazy with the nature of story that spring forth everyday. I was in counseling session with a woman days ago and I lack what to adviced.

What can you advise in a situation where the husband refused to go out to get a job nor engage in any form of business or do anything to provide for his home? He always complain and turn down any job suggestion from his wife, thereby watching her do all the struggles all alone?
He stays back at home and wait for what his wife's beings?
What kind of situation is this?
Are they men out there who really practice this kind of lifestyle?
What would you advise such a wife?
Is this enough reason for a woman to cheat?

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Women want romantic men that are in touch with their inner feelings. Thank God the men raised from mid 90s till mid 2000s came with that effeminate energy. They are gigolos and love to be taken care of. So how dare women complain about the choice of men they make? Don't tell us he changed immediately after marriage.

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Oh No!

Not this silly Ogechi Njaka again.

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Revolution2022:
Devaluation of the currency doesn't help the economy of a country.Nigeria has been devaluing the Naira.Still,the economy has not improved.

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Devaluation is very good...but only for countries with high exportation business. It makes goods in such countries cheaper and attracts foreign merchants.

For Nigeria, it will be good if Nigeria refines her petroleum and exports to other countries. But since Nigeria is heavily dependent on importation and consumption with minimal production, devaluation will quicken the destruction of the economy. It is worse considering that income remains stagnant. N100k in 2023 doesn't have the same purchasing power as in 2003. The losers are those who look at the numbers and think they are doing well.

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You called for strike. Then cancelled it at the last time.

You called for another strike. Then cancelled it after one day. In all, status quo ante persists.

Now you are threatening another strike. NLC leadership are jokers and must be ignored.

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Na these ones want go fight for Niger?

Tinubu should use shakara style avoid war make Nigerian military no go embarrass themselves.

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FalseProphet1:
So the CBN governor doesn't know what to do and has to wait for the president to give him marching orders before he implements anything. We truly have block heads holding strategic offices in this country.

This I have seen.

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Professionalism among these educated folks in Nigeria exists only in their CVs. Critical thinking is not their forte.
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IamKizzbrown10:
Approximately 95%of marriages in India are arranged, with the divorce rate at 1%. I come from a big family, with 25 first cousins
and many more second and third cousins.

Out of these 28, 24 are now married and 2 are engaged. All arranged marriages, with no divorce to date.

I am the black sheep of the family, with the first love marriage in the history of my family. I believe that I am the custodian of my own
happiness. I believe that God gave me free will.

So, I cannot marry someone my parents choose for me because even if they trained me from birth, they have limited knowledge of what
gives me fulfillment, especially in the area of choosing a life partner.

What are your thoughts about these

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Everything is possible in any culture. The Indians are raised that way just as the Arabs are raised in a certain way that work for them. It becomes an issue in Nigeria where the people are not sure if they want to be black or white because they were indoctrinated early in childhood to look black but think white.
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Eyes go clear una soon.

Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me.

They packaged rubbish in 2015. You bought. The same agents packaged another rubbish in 2023. You bought.
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Perhaps I am the only one that don't understand this African nonsense and beggarly attitude. Africa is suffering more psychological defeat than physical defeat.

North Korea is not faring any better but they looked inwards and built up their own military so that when they cough, the world listens. They have had failures in some of the weapons tested, but they keep improving without looking back. Nobody seems willing and ready to attack them no matter the allegations.

If Africans cannot look inward, start research and development to invent weapons to defend themselves, they will end up running from one colonizer to another. If US, Russia or China does not supply weapons, Africans will be helpless. What exactly are African engineers and scientists learning in school even with their Ph.Ds they love to brag about? It is shameful indeed to say the least.

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Wizardslayer:
Why would the supreme court administrator send thugs to burn down the palace.

Maybe he disrespected the administrator.

Asari dokubo them militia.

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When the king first start running mad, he kills the kingmakers. All the traditional rulers were mute and complicit in the maladministration going on in Imo State believing that keeping quiet in the face of oppression will buy them favour in the hands of Uzodinma. Now that they are becoming victims, there is no empathy wasted on them from any angle.

All the insecurity going on in Imo State and SE as a whole, nobody heard anything from the Council of Traditional rulers. They are suffering from the taciturn support they gave to evil.

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IamKizzbrown10:
Many people have happy, fulfilling, healthy
romantic relationships without having sex
with their partners.

It ultimately depends on
your personal beliefs, physical desires, and
the nature of your relationship.

There are many reasons why people don’t want to, or don’t, have sex. However, this doesn’tmean that the relationship will be unhealthy.

And it certainly isn’t a sign that your partner
doesn’t love or value you!

This is my humble opinion though, tell us what you think nairalanders?

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Billing and Sex are like Siamese twins. You can't have one without the other. Abolish sex. Abolish billing.

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Whoever advocated for freedom in Nigeria did not factor in the people's penchant to abuse every opportunity. Dress casually to class has turned higher institutions of learning in Nigeria to quasi-strip clubs. Absolute freedom to teenagers is disastrous.

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That's what happens when there is no government oversight and the state is on autopilot(no pun intended). How can any reasonable person charge 50% agency fee and people are paying? So the total charges is more than 100% of rent. Ridiculous!

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Babe1994:
Hi

I’m a girl in her late 20s, I live abroad was born here but spent most of my schooling years in Nigeria. I came back to do university. I’ve been with a guy now for 7 years who hasn’t paid my bride price properly due to the fact he did an arangee marriage and the divorce process is taking too long. I got with him in my early 20s.. and have a child with him. I believed in him but now I’m at the point where I’m honestly frustrated and tired. I really don’t know who to run to to express myself. We are living together but I really want to run away and start my life afresh but I want to be told the truth. I really want to be married and content, It feels like this guy has reduced me to nothing. Im so ashamed of my situation with him, it’s like I’ve disgraced myself and my family. I’m going to try and list out all the issues we’ve been facing.

1. He’s very confused about his career path. One minute he’s a musician.. then he wants to be a painter.. then he wants to be chef. This is a man in his late 30s

2. He has anger issues. We have tussled on some occasions and he threatens to beat me when he’s angry but so far he hasn’t

3. He has addictions. Betting drinking smoking. To the point where he drank so much that he almost killed himself . I was honestly fooled by the fact that he was a worker in the church and I “believed” I could change him. Young and dumb I guess.

4. Cannot communicate properly. To the point we have not had a proper conversation in almost 2 months but we are living together. I feel so lonely and stuck.

5. He insults me so bad to the point where I question myself.

6. He is not very hardworking and I don’t gel well with his family and friends.

7. None of his family ever talk about marriage or paying my bride price. All they ever ask is when I’m having another child for him. They have reduced me to nothing and I can’t blame them.

I will say that when I’m angry I can be verbally abusive also. He also claims that I’m too reserved and isolated. I feel like I’ve been pushed to the wall and I can’t recognise myself.

I really want to run away.. and start afresh. Where will I start from? I have a son how easy will it be to find love again? All the love I have for this man has gone..I don’t know if it can be rectified. He has really seen me finish.



Thank you .

Nlfpmod front page please

Thanks

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Life is all about choices. Bad choice; bad outcomes.

Sometimes it is a waste of time and effort to advise people because they can only learn the hard way.

You dug yourself into a mess and only you can get yourself out of it if you so desire.

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famozine1:
There was a man named adonija, Solomon older brother he went to meet king Solomon mother Bethsheba to make a request that if possible king Solomon should give him the virgin girl given to their father king David when king Solomon was told his brother request he got angry and put him to death...
So here is my question bcoz am somehow confused is king Solomon action right or wrong

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The more in depth you read the Bible, the more you will separate yourself from the Biblical God and start seeking answers that will lead you to the truth.
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shogotermies:
I just wanted to ask this short quick question.
What do you think of Christians who goes to work or open their shops on Sunday?

My personal opinions are;
Except you’re a 7th Day Adventist Christian, a university student (probably needing to attend a tutorial) and a government worker e.g Health workers and Security outfits.
I believe God made Sunday for rest and he commanded it.

What is your own opinion?
And if I’m wrong, tell me why with scriptural references. Thanks in advance

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Actually the sinners are those who go to work on Sabbath day (Saturday) if we choose to be honest to ourselves. But we are too focused on the Book written by other men in Medieval times that the whole world left us behind in 21st Century.

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It will be a miracle if there is no coup in Nigeria in the next 2 years.

Power pass power. If the likes of Ibrahim Traore of Burkina Faso enters a room, someone like Tinubu will be calm as a dove.

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Fresh in Aso Rock without knowing where everyone's loyalty is, it is foolhardy for Tinubu to embark on this war to protect foreign interests in Niger. His biggest concern should be to ensure that what happened in Niger doesn't happen in Nigeria too considering the high level of discontent in the system.

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Dennisbulkan:
Tinubu is a disaster still waiting to happen. He has shown himself to be a willing tool for the western warmongers.
I never imagined him to be this dumb. The entire Africa is against this senseless proxie war he's out for. He will pay dearly if he dares send Nigeria army to Niger. We are still waiting for the day ECOWAS & democracy champions would declare war against the fantastically corrupt leaders, elections fraud, & endemic poverty in the continent, not just a proxie invasion of sovereign nations whom her fed up with the currupt political elites scheme called democracy.

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They have the dossier on his drug deals which they will use to blackmail him to do their biddings.

Europe/USA love third world leaders like him that they can easily turn into puppets. The sooner Africans realize that Europe/USA couldn't care less about their existence, the better off they will be.

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Men will be honest when women stop preferring lies.

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One would expect those schools that charge millions in school fees to be producing the best students. Or is it just packaging just like most things in Nigeria?

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People have been praying for a better Nigeria since 1960 and things are getting worse. So it may seem that the answer to Nigerian prayers is reversed.
Adeboye is being smart by half. He knows that God disconnected Nigerians from his network since because of all the noise. Prayers from Nigeria do not reach God.

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NtoAkwaIbom:
No free speech

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There is no such thing as free speech anywhere. A word like “libel” in developed countries you pretend to copy means that speech has consequences.

No government should tolerate misinformation and propaganda.
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This should be easy.
APC should organize a mega rally.
Once the occasion starts, lock up the venue, conscript the attendees and ship them off in chains to Niger to fight the war. Chains? They enjoy perpetual slavery.

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This is good news!

All those who bragged and taunted others about the huge crowds at APC Presidential rallies have all gone deaf and mute.😂😂😂 I hope they are getting discounted prices in everything.

Reality is awesome!

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jumper524:
Even our retired military Generals looks more gallant than these jokes.

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The difference is clear. One set is in the battlefield commanding troops as they should while the other set is in a hotel somewhere drinking peppersoup and champagne with slay queens while embezzling the entitlement of junior officers.

Military is not a modeling agency.

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The moral of the story is that the lady or man standing next to you shouting "Renewed Hope" or "On His Mandate We Stand" may already have his or her visa in process. S/he abandons ship before shit hits the fan and you are on your own.

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They deserve it.

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They should set up Jagaban vs Obasanjo in Lagos.

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