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@coogar it is you who did not read the op very well. The US official says delivery cost at least $60,000 and you must show proof of having the money. $60,000 is not the least; that's a blatant lie from a government official

I have friends and colleagues who gave birth legally in the US (based on medical referral) and they did not spend even $20,000!

May be the officials believed that by exaggerating the bills potential foreign Mothers will be discourage.

@aniffy4eva and dubem3 I'm sorry about your loss and I thank God for the restoration and the strength to deal with the loss.

cantell: @Op,
You're not in a positon to open a thread and ask people to share their experiences, when you've got absolutely nothing to offer in return.
For one, you're not a therapist or a doctor. Before you can ask anyone to share their horrible experiences of abuse with you, you must have at least had an inkling or experienced what real abuse is.
If not, you just want to read other people's stories and remind yourself how lucky you are.

@ Cantell. I think you're missing the point here. Anyone who post here know that this is not a shrink forum and by the way Jenny stated in her post that some people are even in an abusive realtionship wihout knowing it
I am assuming thread like this will be educative for all to recognise the early symptoms of abuse (physical, emotional/psychological) and how to deal with it. If you are a therapist then please share some tips on these symptoms.

@ post Abuse could occur in different fora e.g. abuse between married couples, romantic relationship, ordinary friendship, family; parents to child or vice versa, amongst siblings, work place and even in some religious organization.

@Post

Madam, this your hubby is definitely up to something with his secretive nature

Please itemized all your areas of concerns with the ways he treat his ex (is she really an ex ), the kids and you in an objective manner. Do let him know as calmly as possible how all these issues are affecting you and your marriage going forward. Present your case to him without being judgemental.[i][/i] and listen to his explanation or reasons. If truly he is completely over his ex and wants you he will reason with you and make amends. Be very vigilant though because the outcome of this discussion will be a pointer towards whether you are in a subtle ploygamy and what you are going to do with this reality or whether you will get your husband back fully

Majoo: My people Dangote company is not good for nigerian to work there. Dangote enslve Nigerian and Enrich Indian he pay nigerian Technician N40,000 and pay Indian Technician $2,000 with house, transport and feeding free of charge. Dangote has 89 indian GM and only one Nigeria GM and in Dangote company no union any attempt you will be sack immediately without questioning . [/color]

[color=#990000]@ Majoo, What you type is an absolute lie, Dangote has more than one Nigeria GM. I happen to know 3 of their Nigerian General Managers. Stop whipping up sentiments. Most companies pay Expatriate more than the indigenes; much as I am not justifying paying one person much more money simply because of his citizenry I think we should not colour the facts. Expatriate pay versus Nigerian pay disparity is a product of our corruption-laden system. It has almost become the norm in Nigeria sadly

@ topic training allowance for a participant undergoing pre-employment training/pre-employment assessment should not be confused with training allowance for a fully employed permanent staff.

Teach your girl child how to clean up after using the toilet early enough e.g from age 4 and above so that no uncle or auntie get them abuse while pretending to be cleaning them up!

Marriage and family is all about sacrifice. The choice of where to work, where to live, type of vehicle to buy even sometimes types of friends to be close to are very crucial once you are marry and have children.

Op, you need to balance this new career choice/move with your family. If your wife is not in support don't go. With offshore rig job even if they are in the same city with you, you wont get to see them until after your shift; most oil companies are very strict they want your undivided attention during your shift.

If you are however prepare to 'loose' your wife and family then take the job against your wife's opposition.
Money is not everything!

Miss big time :
Did she fire her hair stylist

@ Post

If this is true, this is the most bizzare end of year gift I have come across in Nigeria

Is Access bank in partnership with Dangote, BUA Sugar or they've taken over the asset of a customer dealing in sugar

They could have arrange a gift card for the same value of the sugar that is acceptable in major stores where staff could pick items that is of value to them[/b]. Their HR team and management creativity is really poor. Even small home appliances (with the same value) would have been an alternative if they cannot afford the usual rice.

Packets of Sugar

May the soul of all the victims rest in peace and may God grant their families comfort and strength

@Post
Have you try visiting a Gyneacologist? May be your wife Veegee needs to be examined; I don't know but it may be an abnormality.

Did she have normal delivery during your child birth or CS?

Congratulations debrief! Wish you many more promotions and blessings!

Incredible disciplinarian!

God bless her

Anybody who is familiar with Ifeanyi Uba will know that it is a question of time for him to crash-land
The guy lacks financial discipline which is a key success factor in business especially when you are heavy user of bank loans

I remember attending a meeting with him 3 years ago and how shocked I was when he made financial pledge running into millions of naira on the spur of the moment. I personally followed up with the organizer and was equally surprised to learn that he redeemed the pledge the next business day after the meeting

Excuse me, Is this in the joke section
Why are people posting 'jokes' and derailing the thread

@Post, I agree with your list except "Rice Cooker". You can actually use it to cook rice easily with no stress. I use it whenever we are on generator; put rice, water, salt etc plug in and then move on to something else. Mine has a timer so I do not have to check intermittently if rice is done or not.

My list for now goes thus:
1. Sandwich Maker (My family do not eat "cooked" sandwich; I think I've only used it once in the last couple of years)
2. Vegetable grater (I use my hand grater or Food processor instead of this)
3. Electric Pressure Pot (PHCN will not allow me to use this so I use the gas cooker Pressure Pot instead)
4. Percolator (Now we take instant coffee and percolator is now redundant)


quote author=sophy09]There are some kitchen gadgets that are waste of money and yet people still buy them. These are some of the kitchen gadgets I feel they are a waste of money:
Electric Wok (why not use a frying pan)
Electric can opener
Electric knife
Hand blender (what do you need it for when you have a blend already)
Rice Cooker
Salad spinner[/quote]

If USA was Nigeria, today's headlines will read:

· Don't celebrate yet, Romney tells Obama (TELL magazine)

· Concede defeat, Obama urges Romney (Punch newspaper)

· 20 opposition cadres riot (The Sun newspaper)

· Romney Demands Vote Recount (Vanguard newspaper)

· Elections rigged (Guardian newspaper)

· No evidence of manipulation (NTA news)

· The Church declares elections free and fair; Boko haram threatens to disrupt swearing in ceremony (News Line)

· There will be violence if we lose; Romney declares,as area boys gear up (LTV 8 news)

· Election results for Arizona awaited. Niger delta militants hijack electoral commission members; demands N12Billion ransome(Channels news)

· Trucks with suspected ballot papers crosses into USA from Mexico (Tribune newspaper)

· Romney is an opportunist - Go back to your farm (AIT news)

· I will not accept results, Romney tells Obama (STV news)

· McCain(not romney o!:s) heads to Election Petition Tribunal (MITV)

· White Majority rejects results (PM News)

· Kenyan Big Boy Senator Obama Throws Lavish Party to celebrate Election Victory (City People)

· Free for all fight at Obama rally in Grant Park (Channels TV)

· Northern elders, Arewa and Sultan rejects results (ThisDay)

· Republicans and Democrats supporters clash in Ketu and Ajangbadi, 14 dead, 5 houses burnt; Romney threatens more heads will roll

· The people behind Obama's victory: Tinubu's behind the scenes role. True story uncovered... Newswatch

."My husband are not a cheater" - Patience Dame Obama,whilst thanking "fellow colleagues and all Nigerians for pressing their hand on Unblerra"(This day).

Source Olu Gbedu (Facebook page)

OzReal: Bwahahahahhaahaha! Is this true or you're just exaggerating?

Absolutely true! The guy did not even showed any sign of discomfort or stress. I think he must have assume he did very well at the interview or that 'enemies are at work'