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Celebrities / Re: Linda Ikeji Set To Leave Her N500M Banana Island Mansion For Her Husband's House by Izen: 7:37pm On Jun 12, 2018 |
Jesusgirl92: Okay sorry I disappointed you. I'm just tired of the attack on women on NL. If there wasn't any other thing I was gaining from this forum, I would have deleted my account since. So sorry again. |
Celebrities / Re: Linda Ikeji Set To Leave Her N500M Banana Island Mansion For Her Husband's House by Izen: 12:18pm On Jun 12, 2018 |
Jesusgirl92: Well yes, whatever. Why didn't you call him out? I guess it's convenient for you to tolerate bad behavior from your kind. You have no moral standing here. The hypocrisy. If we had more of you telling them off, we wouldn't have to do it ourselves. |
Romance / Re: Men Touching Women Boobs In Public Bus Must Stop by Izen: 8:21am On Jun 12, 2018 |
Next2Bezee: Shut up! Sexual Harasser oshi! Justifying nonsense. If I climb bike, do I press my breast to the bike man claiming that's the only way I can sit? If you try that nonsense with me, you'd be the embarrassed one. Olodo. When these predators try some of these things with your sisters/daughters, that's when you'll understand the implication on women's psychology. Very insensitive bigot. 1 Like |
Celebrities / Re: Linda Ikeji Set To Leave Her N500M Banana Island Mansion For Her Husband's House by Izen: 1:23pm On Jun 11, 2018 |
Jesusgirl92: It was called for because they forget that the women they insult, drag and disrespect and also people's mothers, daughters and sisters. You're not really a good person if it's only people around you, you are good to. |
Celebrities / Re: Banky W Reacts To Chimamanda Adichie's Comment On Men Holding The Door For Women by Izen: 2:15am On Jun 08, 2018 |
safarigirl: Or they'll want to stay on the outside lane/hold your hand while walking down/crossing the road. I just laugh in their faces when they do that because me and them know that I need more protection from then than from anything else. Forming protection that is not real. When they see lion, they should stay and fight na. |
Celebrities / Re: Linda Ikeji Set To Leave Her N500M Banana Island Mansion For Her Husband's House by Izen: 9:03pm On Jun 07, 2018 |
yeyerolling: Eyah..... like your mother abi, as that's the only thing she's good for - waiting on your dad. How romantic 1 Like 1 Share |
Career / Re: Lady Who Just Got A Job Reveals What Happens To Her Each Time She Gets Home by Izen: 10:43pm On Jun 05, 2018 |
Daboomb: If you want it to work that way, then we would need to start from the scratch. Because no way in hell will I go through all I went through as a child and a student, the tests, the exams, the projects, the ridicules, the sexual harassment from lecturers just to come and be your housewife. No way in hell. So how about propose that females shouldn't be allowed education anymore so that we can dedicate the rest of our lives to caring for our men. Mr Smart A.ss? Plus, you better be ready to fund whatever lifestyle I choose Shey you said you're wise? 2 Likes 1 Share |
Career / Re: Lady Who Just Got A Job Reveals What Happens To Her Each Time She Gets Home by Izen: 10:35pm On Jun 05, 2018 |
Cuteamigo1: All this "better at" you're shouting are things that were taught and are things you can learn. Being domestic doesn't come naturally to women, we were taught to be domestic. You think you provide better naturally? Come, let's compare our portfolios so that I can lecture you. Funny thing is, no one is even dragging 50-50 with you. How is that even measurable? The problem is you lots won't even lift a finger. When you do, we won't hear the last of it. "I'm just helping o, it's not my responsibility o", as if it's not your household too. Abeg oga, you'll see your type. Marry her and enjoy. Stop shiting in your pants about the rest of us cos frankly, we don't care about you too. God forbid I marry your type. 1 Like |
Career / Re: Lady Who Just Got A Job Reveals What Happens To Her Each Time She Gets Home by Izen: 10:26pm On Jun 05, 2018 |
Daboomb: Guy said brain work They keep coming up with new and ridiculous things. Naaa mehn..... Not marrying a man like you. Not all Nigerian men actually love seeing the ones they love go through all that shi.t alone. "Brain work" What will I not hear? |
Career / Re: Lady Who Just Got A Job Reveals What Happens To Her Each Time She Gets Home by Izen: 7:33pm On Jun 05, 2018 |
drewxx88: ....why you lying, stop f.u.c.king lying, hmm o my g... |
Career / Re: Lady Who Just Got A Job Reveals What Happens To Her Each Time She Gets Home by Izen: 7:31pm On Jun 05, 2018 |
Daboomb: When you people want to argue, you don't even make it believable. One of your colleagues too was saying changing light bulb, taking waste out and washing car up there..... LMAO. Anyone that compares a once in a week chore to a 3 times a day job, or a chore that would take all of 3mins to one that would take nothing less than an hour; such fellow is too dumb to argue with in the first place LMAO. 1 Like |
Career / Re: Lady Who Just Got A Job Reveals What Happens To Her Each Time She Gets Home by Izen: 6:51pm On Jun 05, 2018 |
Cuteamigo1: Because you have no comeback for my question, you decided to derail. I asked a simple question, your woman is also providing so why is she still expected to be solely responsible for the home front? You think paying her for the chores is more important than actually collaborating with her? Even the big corporations you all work for understand the importance of collaboration and team work, but I guess our men enjoy the bliss of being blind to the truth. 2 Likes |
Career / Re: Lady Who Just Got A Job Reveals What Happens To Her Each Time She Gets Home by Izen: 6:35pm On Jun 05, 2018 |
Harrynight: Because our mothers never complained doesn't mean they had it easy. It was just unnatural to complain in their time. You know "suffering and smiling". Thank God I have a mum who is open and honest. Hers is a path I don't wish to toll and thank God she doesn't want that for me either. Work, contribute "even more" financially, and still hold the home front solely. All for what? God for bid. It's not grace, it is stupidity and exploitation. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Career / Re: Lady Who Just Got A Job Reveals What Happens To Her Each Time She Gets Home by Izen: 6:30pm On Jun 05, 2018 |
lekonso: I don't even want to get paid for it. Just collaborate with me. |
Career / Re: Lady Who Just Got A Job Reveals What Happens To Her Each Time She Gets Home by Izen: 6:25pm On Jun 05, 2018 |
Cuteamigo1: If she's not providing, she won't be working Do you guys deliberately want to be blind to the truth abi am I missing something here? 1 Like 1 Share |
Family / Re: My Wife's Elder Sister Has Finally Settled In My Home & I Don't Know What To Do by Izen: 9:54am On Jun 02, 2018 |
JONNYSPUTE: Yes Mr Final, there's no point talking to you. Plus, read my comment again, I never suggested he remains silent. Stop looking at marriage from the angle of fight. Drama queen. |
Family / Re: My Wife's Elder Sister Has Finally Settled In My Home & I Don't Know What To Do by Izen: 6:40am On Jun 02, 2018 |
JONNYSPUTE: Please don't damn the consequences in a marriage o, it's a long term thing. Your wife may grow to resent you. Imagine your mum does the same, and your wife is asked to damn the consequences. That's still her family member abeg. I'll advise the OP to talk to his wife privately about how the situation makes him feel. Not in a harsh or blame-throwing manner but in a logical way that won't make his wife think he's being selfish. Perception is key here. In the process, he and his wife should form a team to present a United front. His wife should do the talking to her sister but if she's too worried about being in the black book of her family, then he should do it himself. There's no way OP asks his sister in law to leave by himself that she wouldn't. She can still give excuses to her sister but not to him. The funny thing is you're assuming the wife likes this arrangement. Same thing happened to my mum before and she was the one even complaining. My father took it up and spoke to the family member in the most loving way possible and the person started looking for accommodation from then until moving out. So my guy, abeg marriage na partnership, no be every time muscle. E ma a calm down. 1 Like |
Celebrities / Re: Pokello: Women Who Talk About Men Being Broke Have Nothing To Their Name by Izen: 8:15am On Jun 01, 2018 |
OfficialDad: like marrying you is some prize.....delusion of grandeur |
Romance / Re: Man Lists Advantages Of Dating A White Woman, Shares Photos With His Oyinbo Babe by Izen: 8:33am On May 26, 2018 |
donstan18: But this environment mentality is not gender specific o. Abi is it entitlement only when it's about money? |
Family / Re: "Men Are Totally Useless" - Lady Tells Man Who Advised Wives by Izen: 12:47pm On May 25, 2018 |
donstan18: She has a point though her language was extreme. But no responsible man will speak of a woman the way you just did. 2 Likes |
Family / Re: My Father-in-law Is Making My Wife To Disrespect Me! by Izen: 8:38am On May 25, 2018 |
winningwinner: You're talking like this because the woman is bringing in the dough here. If it was the man, you wouldn't mind him calling all the shots. The hypocrisy on this thread. This justifies my resolve that Nigerian men are the ones putting financial pressure on themselves not the women. I mean, how else will they call the shots? They need to remain in that financial position of power to call all the shots init? I hope we reach a level in our society where every human is respected not because of the size of their accounts. 1 Like |
Education / Re: U.K Exam Question: "The Advance-Fee Fraud Is Also Known As Nigerian Fraud" by Izen: 2:49am On May 24, 2018 |
NaijaMutant: Abeg, you people are just greedy. Own your truth. 1 Like |
Business / Re: FCMB Depositors Lose Over N600m To Fraudulent Staff by Izen: 8:35pm On May 22, 2018 |
I transferred money to someone using fcmb since 2nd May this month through my bank's mobile app. It left my account successfully and upon investigation, the money was actually sent by my bank immediately. The recipient never got the money, I'm talking over 50k. The recipient kept going back to complain but they kept claiming nothing entered the account. It took me going to my bank yesterday and following up today for that transaction to be eventually traced. Guess what? Awon oloshi got the money but never posted it. The recipient just sent me an alert this evening showing the account just got credited today. Imagine, from 2nd May to 21st. Remind me why I should never bank with fcmb. Useless bank. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Crime / Re: Five Men Rape And Videotape Teenagers In Ondo by Izen: 1:52pm On May 21, 2018 |
fecta: It's not everything you joke about. Your comment is very distasteful. Grow up #notfunny |
Celebrities / Re: Linda Ikeji Is Pregnant by Izen: 7:06pm On May 20, 2018 |
swiz123: Calling someone a slut, how moral of you. You're an hypocrite yourself. 2 Likes |
Romance / Re: Why Do I Always Meet Poor Girls With So Much Demands? Please Help by Izen: 8:04pm On May 19, 2018 |
Elder001: Lol, finding a Nigerian man that thinks that way is like finding a needle in a haystack. But I agree with you on dates and special/occasional gifts, anything outside that is stretching it. I don't even support the giving for business thingy except there's an agreement that expressly states you as an investor with rights to dividends, or can be eventually bought out. Then loans too are fine, but be sure this person will pay back sha o. 1 Like 1 Share |
Romance / Re: Why Do I Always Meet Poor Girls With So Much Demands? Please Help by Izen: 7:46pm On May 19, 2018 |
yabas: First, let's get this out of the way - It's unrealistic to date someone that won't be comfortable enough to ask you for something without feeling judged. Naturally, you would want to give to someone you love. That said, I feel you've been an enabler in this situation. A lot of ladies have the mindset that money is the only thing a Nigerian man can offer them and they may not be totally wrong. So if they're going to cook for you, clean up after you, do all kinds of stuff for you, they must get something in return. Trying to get our men to offer anything besides money in a relationship is as difficult as difficult can get. You might want to say but what do women offer too? Well, if you don't have expectations from your girlfriend such as, cook when they visit, wash your clothes, etc, then you might have a point. But if you do, well that's what they have to offer you. I know you want to say "I can do all these things by myself" but then you're not doing them by yourself and you will judge them if they don't do it for you. Another reason why I think you might be an enabler is that a lot of men want to stamp their foot early on in a relationship to show who is in charge. We all know money speaks and it gives bargaining power to the holder. Subconsciously, a lot of men show off that they're more than capable and as such deserve respect. In turn, the ladies in their lives interpret that as them having a lot of money to throw around. What to do; 1. Build your confidence in such a way that even without money, your woman will respect you still. A trick is to respect your woman too, it works magic. 2. Be ready to offer something besides finances that will make your woman more than grateful. E.g. she's got exams, stay up with her to revise her books, get her a cup of tea while at it. Little things like this go a long way, and it shows you care about her progress. Moving on, while it is wrong for anyone to blackmail you emotionally to spend on them, being overtly stingy too is a red flag. If you're dating, it means there's a likelihood of you settling down together. No woman on earth will knowingly marry someone she has to plead with before the children's wardrobe are changed or school fees are paid. Giving is a habit that doesn't suddenly develop when you get married. Finally, you may be looking in the wrong direction. A lot of men want "wife material". Naturally, any woman comfortable enough to be a wife material in the Nigerian context will also expect her man to be husband material in the Nigerian context, aka sole provider. If you feel strongly about the women in your life being demanding, then you might also have to change your expectations of them. I know a lot of ladies that will rather drop on their heads than ask their man for money. Because they're very concerned about being financially independent, the last thing on their minds will be trying to be a wife material. Basically, any decision you make has it's pros and cons. So decide which is more important to you. We can't always eat our cake and have it. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Crime / Re: Politician Beats Up Phone Repairer For Trying To Stop Him From Beating His Wife by Izen: 2:42pm On May 16, 2018 |
BluntBoy: Yh, but I was replying in the context of "mind your business" |
Crime / Re: Politician Beats Up Phone Repairer For Trying To Stop Him From Beating His Wife by Izen: 11:12am On May 16, 2018 |
BluntBoy: Going by your logic, there's actually a correlation. Social studies and civic education teaches us that it's our responsibility as citizens to report crime and not shield/support it. Domestic violence is a crime and it is your business to report/oppose crime. Kapish. |
Celebrities / Re: Mary Remmy Finds Dried Snake In The Crayfish She Bought (Photo) by Izen: 12:58pm On May 14, 2018 |
Shedrack777: Remy's husband is the CEO of Iroko TV. In fact, Remy herself is the brain behind ROK channels on DSTV. She is not an olosho. 2 Likes |
Travel / Re: 10 Reasons Why You Should Consider Studyin In South Korea by Izen: 12:35am On May 12, 2018 |
What they won't tell you is that South Koreans are even more racist than Americans. |
Investment / Re: Investors Are Needed for Gas Plant by Izen: 10:07pm On May 05, 2018 |
Sorry, but you'll have to prove that you can be trusted. Is there a business plan? |
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