₦airaland Forum

LesbianBoy:
Is the girl a small girl? So because burna boy didn't protect himself she allowed him. Why didn't she tell him "Woss wobi if we must do the do you must wear candam"

He's a grown ass man. He shouldn't have to be told. I have no sympathy for him

LordofNairaland:
You must have been a possessive partner. His breakup line was courageous. Possessive partners are difficult to manage. They do not know how to appreciate individual differences and they are not healthy people to have a child grow up with or around. They will raise their children to have low self concept.

If me asking you why you didn't pick my calls for two days and didn't bother to call me means I'm possessive, then so be it. I was only trying to be a caring gf. You don't know anything about me and you automatically concluded that I must be possessive. Please take several seats. My friend still asked me if I snoop and I told her no, she looked at me weirdly as if that's abnormal. Now tell me, if I'm so possessive like you say, why don't I snoop? Excuse me if you don't have something better to say please. Not in the best of moods.

Targaeryian:
"My cat doesn't like you."

Sounds like what an old white lady will say

My boyfriend just broke up with me barely an hour ago. His reason was that I was too inquisitive. I went to his place to find out why he didnt't pick my calls in two days, why he didn't return my calls and why he didn't even try to get in touch with me throughout the weekend. I just figured that he was looking for an excuse to break up. To make matters worse, he said something about thinking I could change him but unfortunately I couldn't. I'm here like, "when was I ever given the power to change another human being?" I can't change you if you don't want to change
Nairalanders, please what is the most ridiculous break up line your ever heard?

SAMBARRY:
That's what happens when women don't know how to respect themselves

Because she impregnated herself. Stop being stupid please.

cana882:
Please an uncladed white girl gets a pass from who? An African??


Beside we know we ain't marrying them so our African girls (our wives to be) which should know better from proper home training should not imitate them.

Do you know that Africans really started covering up a little over a century ago. All these clothes we're wearing is actually borrowed culture and it came in with the influx of religion. We're just being hypocritical #justsaying

theDEVILisHERE:
SMH

Look
You are not a man
so you cannot speak on things like this from a mans perspective !

Listen and listen good

Nothing kills a man faster than irredeemable Humiliation

if you don't know this before know it now

what would humiliate a man to this extent might differ from men to men

For some men
This situation is a humiliation beyond redemption!

Once a man is humiliated to this extent
he is half dead already
What you have left is almost a walking corpse

This is not about pride or ego
those are inconsequential here

This is about he's very essence of being
1st a human being, and then a man

To the Man
He has become worthless at this point

This stage of a Mans existence is unpredictable, anything can happen at this point

How can you even compare this to rape? Please shut up. Stop embarrassing yourself. It's like comparing the damage insults cause to domestic violence that can actually lead to death. Mtchew!

Owliver:
I won't fight d rock cos I know he'll physical over power me. but it's someone I feel I can physically over power then I'll fight. besides there are people who'll beat d rock if he tried such on them. that's my point

So I guess we both agree that domestic violence & hitting a woman is more about show of strength than disrespect. Hence it is abuse and it is wrong. If you can control yourself when someone who is obviously stronger than you insults you as much, then you have no excuse to hit someone who is obviously weaker than you are.

Owliver:
nobody should slap anybody. all these your male female talk is bullsh_t.... but if there is a good reason to slap someone male or female abeg slap. nobody is above slap

Nobody is above slap abi? When t
D-rock insults your mother, go slap am shogbo?

MRBrownJ:
the cheating wife should be laid right next to this guy, and receive just as much lashes, as she is just as guilty!

I'm sure if it was the woman that was being flogged, you won't ask for the man. Nigeria and double standards

Scholes007:
. I have no beef against Ibadan neither do I believe I'm more travelled than you , but ranking Ibadan anywhere close to 10 infrastructurally developed city is an insult to Nigeria. When it comes to city road network ibadan has a very poor mark in that when you compared to most cities including Abuja you said you lived in. Access to electricity? There you made some gleering wrong assumption again, every city in Nigeria has some degree of unstable electricity power supply, but when it comes to which has better supply, Ibadan is no were close to the Abuja, lagos, PH or enugu. Water supply? Did you say ibadan has an excellent what supply(at least by Nigerian standard)? Ibadan is just a regular nigerian city when it comes to Night and social life. Better cities like the ones i mention earlier has far better night life. Like i said Ibadan is not and shouldn't yet be among the top 10 infrastructurally develop city in Nigeria. Unless you talking of the very cheap housing and stuffs like that.

Your judging infrastructural development by night life? Lol, OK. No more comment.

kITATITA:
I didn't pay dowry on my female boss

And you think the value of your wife is the the amount you paid in dowry? How sad.

Scholes007:
huhuhu. Clearly you are from the north... Like I said leave your ibadan and travel a bit. I wanted to discuss infrastructural developed cities and i thought you will be talking about Abuja, some part of lagos, parts of port harcourt or parts of enugu or kaduna but when you brought Ibadan of all places, i clearly know there was no discussion unless am ready to trade insults.

I'm pretty sure I've traveled Nigeria than you. Infrastructure is not just buildings hun. If there's any part of Nigeria I've lived that actually has a working public water system, it is Ib. Those areas you think have brown roofs actually have the best roads and highest supply of power, but you wouldn't know that would you? Before I left abj, it only had 2 cinemas and I don't think that has changed much now, ib's got at least 3 besides those theaters for stage drama. That's just an example, not very strong sef. May I ask when you lived in Ib? I didn't use to like Ib myself until ajimobi came into power. Things have really changed here within the last 5 years.

Morewealth121:
always use the SMS to forward messages, when the person is not picking up, simple... not all calls I pick and I don't appreciate frequent calls. call once or twice a day am okay.

You must feel very important. When you have a dad like mine you'll learn. You'll be stranded like this and the man won't puck because he doesn't recognize the number. It's a bad habit. Change. God forbid someone you love is kidnapped. I know you won't understand until you're in dire need and someone does not pick your call. Message tones don't ring as long as calls and unless you're with your phone, you won't know you have an urgent message. If you're with your phone when a message comes in, what is stopping you from picking the call instead? Pride.

lrguru:
the reason women don't beat men is cos they don't have the power. have u not seen two women fighting? have u not seen two or more women attack just a single lady? have u not seen a woman bathe another woman with acid? have u not seen a woman inflict deadly wounds on their house help's, and u think women are saints? or have u not seen stronger women beat up their husband? my dear, women are far more volatile than men.

no one has the right to hit anybody whether u are a man or woman.

Why are you going off point? Where in my comment did I refer to women as saints? Fine na, let everybody beat everybody when they're angry so that we can keep our lawyers busy with murder cases

Scholes007:
What do You mean by that? Where do you know in Abia? Actually ibadan shouldn't be a City to be too proud of. I would not like to compare with any city as I was exceedly disappointed my first month in Ibadan. Ibadan has considerable large population with little to no govt presence. Unless you want to lie to yourself

Lie to myself ke? Abeg joor. I've lived in Abuja, schooled in Lagos but I will still pick Ibadan over anywhere else. Live with it. And no, I'm not from Ibadan. I come from the north.

Akeelahtunez:
women!! the fear of women is the beginning of safety

April u came out to say what ur bro did to u but never told us what u did to him

he is human and not a god
I beg u ladies to please watch what u say cus most of u just talk anyhow to anyone without 2nd thought. am not supporting what dis guy did but for every action there is a consequencial reaction

Women don't have monopoly of words. We face insults from men everyday too but we don't go about beating them. It is not about the insults really, men beat women just because they know they can and they'll get away with it. When mayweather insults you, go and beat him shogbo? Next time when you feel insulted, insult your own back, simple!

frubben:
Well to do ko, do to well ni
My friend shatap ur mat dere

You don't have to be uncouth to make a statement. You know how I know? Her dad was a close relative's boss when she got married. I was really young then but the news of Kanu's marriage stuck back then by virtue of that.

Ilovemystate:
Ibadan that I know, three skyscrappers in middle of slum, is that what you called infastructure

The slums you speak of have better roads and more electricity supply than the so called non-slums lol. Do you even know what infrastructure means?

Movic1:
Some peeps just av natural hate for ibadan! they re agitating just because Ibadan was placed at the top of the list.

No mind them my fellow Ib person o jare. They are a bunch of ignoramus.

SorayaLeticia:
Stori for d gods. Who wouldn't need a multiplication of sum?

So she should marry down just to ease your complex abi?

Afrok:
check my post very well, u'll deduce rhetorical questions there... Moreover; there's nothing like she came from a well-to-do family coz the rich always likes getting married to the rich. So, we're almost saying the same thing...

You made it sound like it's a bad thing.

Mikollon1:
When I was a novice, I thought like you.

The reason why I stated 70% of males in the world are intact is for you to ask yourself how often you have heard of 70% of males complain of genital issues arising from hygiene.

I also attached a meme showing some statistics in my original post. Study it.

I've got more numbers for you:
About 80% of males in Europe are intact.
The number of intact men in the US has risen to about 50%.

The foreskin doesn't require much to clean. Just pull it backward n clean while showering. It's that simple.

By the way, ever asked yourself what your ear and ear lobes are for? Think about it.

There are varying types of FGM. There's the procedure that cuts completely the labia for hygiene reasons. Dirt hides there n makes the P stink. That's a good reason for MGM right? Or is there a better approach? Is it more human to teach the girls good hygiene? Sure it is!

How about teaching the boys good hygiene? God forbids that right?

Finally, the foreskin contains many times more nerve endings than the cleet.
Read more and enlighten yourself.

Just so you know, we genitally mutilate boys in this country just because a Rabbi says so.

Kamdan.... I'm not fighting with you

Mikollon1:
These are a few ways the Nigeria descrimates against men.

1. MALE GENITAL MUTILATION.
Do you know that about 70% of males in the world are intact I.e. not genitally mutilated?
Our constitution bars FGM but MGM is okay.
Some will say GOD okays MGM. Well, GOD didn't okay it. The white man just told us his GOD okays it and despite our education, we're still stupid to know better.
Our traditional religion told us our GOD okays FGM. With education, we've realised that practice is bad. Yet we weren't afraid of applying it because it has to do with the girl child. The one that has to do with the male child, who cares?

2. MEN AFFAIRS
Ghana has a Ministry of Gender Affairs. Nigeria has a Ministry of Women Affairs. Ghaninians are smarter than us in this regard.

3. RAPE
Nobody cares when a woman rapes a man.

4. VIOLENCE
A banker in lagos severed her husband's manhood because he was broke. The story was in all major blogs yet no one batted an eyelid. The woman was invited to the station and was given an earful by the police but no charges were filled. Infact, a radio station in PH had it achors laugh at the man.

5. LIFE WORTH
The worth of a male life is less than that of a female's.
In 2014, BH attacked 2 coed schools. They killed and kidnapped some school boys only. The number of school boys kidnapped in both episodes are about 200. How many times have you heard of BRINGBACKOURBOYS or BRINGBACKOURBOYSANDGIRLS?

6. EMPLOYMENT
All job seekers know female applicants are given extra marks.
For example, a coy wants 10 people and the top 10 test scorers are all male. If the last male i.e. the 10 male scored 73% while the cut off was 70% and a female scored 70%, that female will be chosen and the male will be dropped.

7. MARRIAGE
Bride price? List? Is the man free of charge?
Nobody forces a woman to take the man's name.
Both surnames can be hyphenated:
NGOZI OKONJO-IWEALA
OMOTOLA JALADE-EKEINDE
DIEZANI ALLISON-MADUEKE


I think parts of our constitution is sexist against women though.

Women should work at night.
Women should be allowed to be foot soldiers on the frontlines. They should be the main MOPOL officers for female politicians. No male MOPOL should protect female politicians.

Let me just address your first point. When the purpose of a thing is unknown, abuse is imminent. Male genitaal mutilation is usually done for the sake of cleanliness. You know how dirt hides inside your navel? It's the same with an uncircumcised penis (you can read more about that). Female genital mutilation on the other hand is to prevent women from "being wayward". The clitoris is what gives women pleasure during sex and when it is cut off, a woman is as good as a sex robot or baby-making machine. She derives no pleasure from it. When a man is circumsized, it doesn't affect the pleasure he derives during sex. Personally, I feel a circumsized penis looks neater, finer and more presentable. Asides that, I see no reason for circumcision. But I get your point.

Afrok:
Really ... But money was the determining factor, right?

Even my pic has said it al..

You know she's from a well-to-do family right? Don't be too quick to judge please.

Michellla:
she could have avoided all these if only she closed her legs.

He could also have avoided all this if only he kept his di.ck in his pant. Their image have both been tainted now, including his mom.

GlorifiedTunde:
There is nothing you have said that is not reflected in what i said initially.
When I say ladies of today wanna be in charge I know what I'm saying.
How many ladies put it the way you did these days? They don't say "air my views", they say "I'm not up for any man's control", "why must I submit to a man?", "there's no such thing as the man being the head" etc.
There are too many ladies today who enter marriage with a mind set of not submitting - so how will such a home work?

I am not saying men are not wrong also, but the rate at which gender equality is being crusaded, its already breeding women who will not find submission easy.

The world has become unfair - every empowerment and enlightenment is towards the female gender, and you forget their male counterpart - those who will be married to them.

Why teaching the girl child how to be confident and have a good self esteem, why don't you also teach the boy child how to respect and care for a woman? This is an anomaly that will keep the current situation lingering.

Sorry about the diversion there.

At the end of it all, its better a lady gets married to a man who has an understanding of love, affection and care for a woman; and a man marry alady who uunderstands respect and reverence of a man as the head.
This is the balanced equation. A failure in one is a failure of the union. No one should take advantage of the other. Why?

Just like a sensible man will find it easy to love a submissive woman, so also will a sensible woman find it easy to submit to a loving man.

Note the word "sensible"

I agree with most of what you said except the 'control' part. Machines are to be controlled not humans. The word 'control' shouldn't even be used on kids. 'Lead' would be a better word.

praxisnetworks:
Stop that! Ssssh!!!

He/she is right!

Jazzlite:
this is au u fail exams...... the question is was she beaten to death?.... Police said NO!

I replied to your comment not the post. A man who beats his wife even if it is not to death is a monster and a murderer in the making. So no, I feel no sympathy for him even if he didn't kill his wife.

agoadiv:
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11. Don’t store your bananas in a bunch or in a fruit bowl with other fruits. Separate your bananas and place each in a different location. Bananas release gases which cause fruits (including other bananas) to ripen quickly. Separating them will keep them fresh longer.



12. To keep potatoes from budding in the bag put an apple in with them.



13. If you manage to have some leftover wine, cocktail drinks at the end of the evening, freeze it in ice cube trays for easy addition to sauces (white wine works wonders in sauces, I don't joke with them) in the future.



14. After boiling pasta or potatoes, cool the water and use it to water your house plants. The water contains nutrients that your plants will love.



15. When defrosting meat from the freezer, pour some vinegar over it. Not only does it tenderize the meat; it will also bring down the freezing temperature of the meat and cause it to thaw quicker. # Note every woman should have vinegar in her kitchen.

Everyone should have vinegar in their kitchen. Not only women have kitchens.

Jazzlite:
proof? you messenger of falsehood.... landlady says he is quiet and 9ce, you apostles of marital doom said he beat her 2 death! Police autopsy said she wash not beaten to death.....yet you insist he's a wife basher! haba free the man jawe, must you nail an innocent person at all costs, just to satisfy some domestic issues you're having?

Autoposy says she was beaten. Not to death, but she was still beaten. Reading comprehension.

GlorifiedTunde:
No man should control his wife, not even domineer.

However the husband is the leader, the captain in the home. This is a position of responsibility - he should be blamed for whatever goes wrong with the family.

But ladies of today feel they must be in charge, it is impossible! There cannot be two captains in a ship. A husband passes every decision in the home ( after consulting with his wife of course).

But whatever the man says is final, if he's wrong, then the wife should enter the "war room" and God will definitely touch his heart.

But if a wife decides to drag authority with the man in the home, its gonna end sour, and its even against the scriptures.

So the counsel for ladies is that they should marry man who would listen to them and respect their views while reflecting it in the decisions of the home.

If God has said the man is your head and you are the support, better get a man you can entrust your life with else submission will be difficult.

You people keep saying women want to be in charge, how exactly? Women around me want to have a say, not be in charge. It's like wanting to have a say in what concerns your life now equals wanting to be in charge. And sometimes, you shouldn't quote scriptures to make your point. Not everyone is a Christian or Muslim, thanks. Y'all make submission sound so easy, you never talk about how to love wives. If women are loved the way they should be, there wouldn't be any need to discuss submission. Play your part as a man and stop this one sided argument. Even kids are asked to honor their parents. We rebel sometimes but our parents never stop loving us. You men have been asked to love and honor your wives, do you know you must love irrespective of whether your wife submits or not? Because that is what love is. How many men can actually do that? Do you see us shouting it down your throats? You say the only solution to a woman's problem is the war room right? How about a man's? Do you go to the war room when your wife does something wrong? Whatever a man says is final? Lol. Pray and God will definitely touch his heart? Are you even married? Married women will tell you otherwise. Being in a marriage where all I worry about is being in a war room so that God will change my husband's mind is not what I dream of. Some women have spent their whole life praying, and to what end? Please let us all be realistic for once. Women are whole human beings with feelings, we are not robots. We are adults who can make decisions for ourselves too. We didn't come to this world just for the sake of men & kids. We love you but we also love ourselves. Always put that into consideration please.