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Ngokafor:
..My thoughts too ..
..Erhmm @Keppy sorryoo you hear,next time form novice in that area..
..besides becareful about divulging such info on this forum sef,or else it might be used against you to butteress why you are 'loose' the minute you disagree with some she-males here ..execise caution.

Ngokafor, very right
Kepppyy please go and delete or modify..
Plenty she males will dig up and use it against you.That's their stock in trade oo.

@babyosisi
Please modify where you quoted keppyy in case she's concerned about Nl..who knows?

@ keppyy
Next time please deliver a few strategic bites here and there to appear like you dunno what to do.

Most of them cannot handle a woman who knows what she's doing.They prefer to be deceived.Very very few are matured enough to appreciate that a girl could be versed in the art of delivering se xual pleasure without being an ashana.. Yet they are on se xuality section sharing info on ashawo joints.
Hope you've learnt your lesson.

@babyosisi
E dey sweet me like sugar

Silly boy.
Your mom shouldn't have s ex again in this life because she born you?
Your papa no de shag?? Hope u are holding him to the same standard.

Instead of rejoicing that she's protecting herself you are feeling rage.

Welcome to the real world..your mother is having beautiful orga sms, she has every right to enjoy her sex uality.

Get used to it or hug the nearest transformer.

I dunno why they are crying about deciet..how is it deciet?
The babe is simply not volunteering unnecessary information.aka being economical with the truth..

The painment on this thread is real.If you like employ FBI,a woman who is coded is coded.Nothing you can do about it except the chick works in a well known brothel.

No to unnecessary mouth flapping

Chimamanda my heroine!!
Excellent speech, saving as a prototype for my children,they are still too little to understand.

Excellent points @kandiikane and stillfire!

Depends on the cause of the seperation.If they still get on help can be rendered but if it was a bitter split,I doubt they would even at this point want to be around each other.

Being a care giver for a helpless person is difficult..Even when you love the person,there are days when you may feel frustrated and angry and may even lash out at having to bear that burden.

Imagine having to do same, to feed,change and bathe someone you may semi hate/dislike.. someone you have severed ties with.Omo if I'm the one on dying bed,I'll summon my last energy and say no thank you.

If someone is unwillingly saddled with that kind of responsibility because of what people say,I can assure you that there will be a lot of abuse going on behind closed doors.

Better to let sleeping dogs lie.
Thank you

It's only an Idi otic woman that gets caught.
Many are chopping under gee happily while keeping up the facade of happy homes.

Usually,if an average married woman cheats she's subconsciously tired of her tooth pick dick horseband and willing to face any consequence.Imagine resigning yourself to living with 1 inch eraser and the person attached to it is cheating ontop

I don't know about this whole kicking her out thing..In my neck of the woods,he's the one moving out.As I've said before, if I'm contributing to the rent or a huge chunk of my money went into building that house,my fat a ss ain't going anywhere.When you are tired,please move out or we sell the house and you gimme my share.

No one is forcing you to pray for a cheating husband. it's your choice..my own husband knowing my heart na stone of course does not expect me to forgive any indiscretion. If he chooses to,he's prepared for a raft of consequences,if I do I also don't expect forgiveness.If per chance we happen to forgive each other,fine but no one will leave me with the shorter end of the stick,lai lai.


Will a cheat change? maybe but I'll be damned if I spend the next 25 years of my life praying for him to realise his mistakes and come back to the forever persevering wife.By then,he'll probably have e rectile dysfunction and looking for who to be his nanny while he shits in adult daipers..Count me out mennn..

Loyalty begets loyalty in my books..simple and short.

Una still dey hia?

There are some kinds of men you can confide in and there are some you should NEVER even say pim to even at the point of death.CHOOSE WISELY.


If Nairaland is to be the general representation of Nigerian males,do most of them sound like people any sane chick would want to confess anything to?


Ask why its the runs girls that are getting married while the good even churcheos sisters are single??
The babes have studied the Nigerian males and know what their medicine is- pretense.Ashawo male wants vajin- become one.. tell him exactly what he wants to hear.

Why do many females instead of admitting to se xual intercourse with maybe a boyfy they claim they are raped? Because the average Naija man would rather believe she was forced to have s ex than that she was in a full fledged se xual relationship.

Whether we like it or not,many females will keep having se x.The sooner the society and men in general become less judgemental about it,the better for everyone.

Se x is natural..what we should teach that se x is a beautiful thing between mature consenting partners,teach about protection and teach it earnestly. Illegal abortions are on the rise because people are not really serious about using condoms to protect themselves. Even the bible thumpers are sleeping with the choristers.Pastors living in white house with 'holy' sisters.Are they playing chess day in day out? let's stop deceiving ourselves..Fewer people are abstaining so we must increase se x education.
Not against abstinence,but along side it teach about the reality of se x not about transfer of spirits as a consequence of s ex.

Plus stop demonising mas turbation(sorry to the holies).. 98% of males who abstain are chronic wankers ,most even have carpal tunnel syndrome from excess use of their hands and Vaseline.So no one should come here and claim they don't shag they don't self-service..There must be an outlet( for most)

Mast urbation again is more demonized in females,for everything the woman is punished.The chicken has come to roost and many are rebelling.If I can teach my children everything they need to know about se x,curiosity will be reduced and they'll have more abilities to tackle peer pressure and the 'I'll just put the tip in' crew.

A balanced society is coming soon where the males MUST realise that the girl they are with may have been with some other guy. Simple. The less judgey you are about it,the more likely it is that she will be more truthful.If not body count remains 2 or < 2 forever.

I wonder why a dirty used up guy would think he has rights to marry a virgin.Who are these dirty guys cheating on theiir wives with?? Is it not the ones they call the sluts? What does that make you?

The only person who should be asking body count and co is a guy who has been able to keep himself chaste..Look at how men treat ladies who before had engaged in s ex and then choose to desist? So much scorn.

Abeg use stapler on your mouth till society is fairer.

Confess ndi mmo.

Biko she males and sh it stirrers desist from.quoting me.
Thank you

HOLY!! HOLY!!! HOLY!!!

I love how when its woman matter they all start preaching confess confess.
Those people talking no vex oo but have you confessed totally how many prostitues you slept with or you are still sleeping with?

How about the one night stands?

How about the times you got your ex pregnant and she aborted?

Our society is NOT the right environment for any female to confess anything.If your brother comes and tells you his gf had 6 abortions, cheated on him or was an ashana won't you be the first to say dump her?? No matter how courageous she was or how reformed? Na una go scream 'harlot' pass.


Aren't 95% of you virgin hunters?? Una go poke but want to marry unpoked.Sorry.No wonder hymen repair is rampant.Sleep around, then go and become virgin again to fool d fools.And they'll be boasting,I married her a vajinn.Disregardng soo many other things about her character which are important.Was it not the other day that some governor married a chick and claimed he was disciplined while married to his first wife of blessed memory?? This same man famed for being a man -LovePeddler with uni chicks? shouting he married his wife cos she's a vajin? he and his mother also insulted Nigerian women


Abegg when men speak like others are dirt cos of any se xual past why would any sane thinking girl come out to really really talk about her body count?


Confess ko confess ni. Only an idi ot with a past would be reallly honest to the average Nigerian man.If you are caught red handed or if there's really no way out,then you can tell the truth as much as you feel is permissible cos a good percentage of the time,it will be used against you.

If you have chopped within or without the marriage/relationship, clean mouth quietly,discuss with your maker and move on.How many times has he come to you to confess that he chopped outside too? Even most men caught in the act will deny till they are blue in the face.

Only confess if you are ready to take a gamble that the relationship will die.If you are sick of his tired ass,please go into minute details ,he will flee by himself.

If you want to talk of the past,have u dated other people? - yes or no. body count questions are usually asked by the sanctimonious - avoid answering,its not his bizniz. abortion nko- of he asks,ask him how many he has taken part in first. A non judgey guy would never ever want to go into fine details cos he believes past is past,but the one wey go ask what color of pant you were wearing for each se xual act?? Flee.

Till Nigeria stops shaming women for having and acting on their sexual urges,nothing like confession.Mr Femi Kayode released na ked pictures of his ex gf when their relationship went south and he went to the extent of shaming her family and giving details of secrets she 'confessed' to him. ladies,talk at your own risk!

After all,if confession is so good why do the men who have forgiven cheating partners lie about it and join the crowd to shout God forbid,kick her out.Simple,its cos it is a taboo for them to accept that someone shined Congo better than them and they'd be laughed at for still going on with the 'slut'.

Talk if u have HIV or life threatening disease ,just be careful what you give away in the name of 'confession'.Daz all
I deviated a lot,sorry.

I understand what you mean my dear..but believe me when I say that if you fix things in your home front,then your husband will be able to coax /bring your MIL in order or at least shield you.

Its unfortunate your parents are being treated this way, its up to you to address the anomaly.Excess money or lack of it isn't what determines how a person should be treated.Integrity and self respect matter most.

Why I'm interested in your parents is because I see a point where their time with your kids will be limited or disappear completely for no just cause.You sef may become cut off from them.

The best thing to do is address the pushing and the parents issue first.You can discuss about MIL with your husband but I doubt it will do any good cos she has already by her inaction shown that whether you are dying or not she doesn't care..all in the name of not interfering.

I don't know why she's done this but at least its clear to you how she feels about you.A cordial relationship can follow,you can forgive as that's what's expected but never forget that when the chips are down,you will be the loser.

Good luck!! I'm glad you aced your exams.

I wonder why you are focusing on your mil?
Your husband is the one who pushed you and you sustained a head injury.

Your husband is the one who locked you out of the house.

Your husband is the one acting like your parents can't care for your children.

You both have issues which are deeper than you are letting on and I feel the focus on mil is a way to deflect.Take care to discuss with hubby that getting physical is something you will not accept! You too be careful what you do.

Your husband and his mother have huge plans for your kids,with you in the picture or not.You are not even allowed to make decisions on the care of your own children.Locking out of house And you are busy focusing on MIL

You'd best start sorting this out before the river will swallow you.
You are the woman of the house,better solidify your position there.You can ignore or patch up with MIL later,your choice.Of course you will be forced to say sorry for something you aren't guilty of,forced to say sorry for her disrespecting your parents too.That's the naija method...total humiliation.

What did your parents do that they are not allowed to care for their own grandkidsThey will be cut off very soon unless you stand up for them and refuse to allow this nonsense.Abi they are not as rich as your hubby and therefore underlings??

Good luck,you will need it!!

Oga your bribe was too poor naa,ah ahhh!!
Just peanuts No wonder they rebelled
Bless you all!

Op,
The way you've talked about your wife is ugly. You sound bitter and resentful.Such a shame.
100k out of 500k for taking care of the whole house plus her own personal expenses and you are blowing like damaged exhaust pipe?

Come out and say what your real grievance is.You are in knots because she doesn't work.If you could type this online I wonder how you treat her in reality.

Please o women,check your partner before you decide to do housewife..the pain is real.You feel anger that she's not making money but she's spending it anyhow.Imagine running gen 24/7 and the guts to sit her non working ny ash to watch dstv!!! Chaiiii.

Anyways,your lifestyle matters.Things are costly and its for 4 people probably used to a certain standard...If its too much for you,take over and start going to market,cooking the food etc.You can also switch the gen off and cut off the dstv subscription.
she can make up for it by taking fresh air outside and singing folklores.

If you are used to a certain way of life,you have to pay for it.Next thing someone who earns 50k will write that he gives his wife 5k for 12 people per month,and also write recipe for 1k pot of soup with chicken that should last 2 years.

If you are unhappy,talk to your wife and then take over for a month.Yea and pleaaaase let her get a job before your insults will increase cos you obviously are not the type to appreciate her contribution to the home if its not in cold hard cash.

No please don't call your mom and talk to her like an adult she is.
Why don't you wait for her to be infected with HIV,genital warts,herpes, syphilis or gonorroea.

You may likely want your mother to die from diseases instead of arming her with information so that she can protect herself or move on.

You should give her the option so she can make an informed decision,I'm pretty sure she must suspect your father by now but at least solid proof may help her save her life.

The chances that your father is using protection is very very slim because a study has shown that 95-98% of Nigerian married males who have illicit affairs do not use condoms.

Don't be an id iot who perperuates the ignorance is bliss bullshit Nigerians are famous for.

I bet if it was your mother cheating you would've rushed to act righteous or start claiming you are disgusted.

ARRANT RUBBISH!

pickabeau1:
It is good u say slaves to each other as that is the true situation

A man subjugates himself to the betterment of his family while the woman does same

When u say work..I guess you talk of house chores

Is it the same chores that are being taken up by men to support their wives

Is it technology that is making chores less cumbersome

This chores you women rant about....

Hmmm

hmmmmmm.no comment

pickabeau1:
Why do u refer to marriage like that
This is extreme....

It rhymes nicely that's why.. Slaves to each other and d kids..mostly d woman slaves though as the bulk of the work falls on her.Studies prove that by the way so no need to argue.

manuelpepper:
stop crying foul.......was it the guy's decision to do it in her village? Why cant u read the details i posted before commenting?
It would even be better if the said wedding is done is jos....maybe u dont know the place of tradition in our society.
Her tribes demands the traditional wedding to take place where her parents her. Wat else can the guy do?
Abi u no sabi comprehension?

I no sabi comprehension
She doesn't want and she can't be forced..
I don't know much about the locations as per jos and co.I just feel there should be a compromise tradition or no.
And d way u r forcing the issue,being so inflexible and sounding so pained.You are very likely the man in question
You don't win someone over by being so forceful.. Maybe d babe is even trying to review her options by delaying the wedding.
Poor baby

Una go die for feminist matter one day..
Thank God women are getting smarter hehehe hehehe.
Sweet.

manuelpepper:
people do their weddings in the village even celebrities do it too. No one is exempted from it. Tradition demands she do it where her parents her.

Na wa

Abeg u people should allow this babe enjoy her wedding. she doesn't want in village naa,is it by force??
Tradition ko tradition ni.Err last I heard people do weddings where it PLEASES them,wherever makes them happy.
What kind of friend r u sef? Instead of advocating for compromise u dey here de carry matter for head like cross of calvary
Poor girl,I pity her already

Oga place your hand on your heart and swear that you've not been having affairs??

You just rejected this one cos according to you she's not your taste.if you are so principled your friend would never ever suggest you should date her.

I hope your wife is sharp enough to read the writing on the wall and arranges herself accordingly just in case she meets someone that's also her taste.She has probably been suspecting you. Start kissing bye to her blind trust from today she will start doubting you.

You are trying to convince us that you don't know how to block her off watsapp..you have all the energy to tell her you are not interested but can't take the steps to get rid of her.
I laugh in kafanchan..

Funny man,good luck.I wonder how wise it is for a couple to be apart and leave the doors open for all sorts.Hope you won't be sad when you see another man's kondo on her ipad..a man who is not her taste..

And you OP are the voice of righteousness?
Or are you Mr Edun?
I smell jolosi

were you there when she was travelling first class with her kids & buying the expensive jewellery?
Please stop attacking your fellow woman and mind your bizniz.
Abi you wan join the Ambode? Who the fa ck is he anyways.

How do u know she was happy in her marriage?She has found a better alternative and ported.
Face your life and stop crying more than the bereaved


Ajayi worker,leave the sl ut shaming for the males

PS I'd be more sympathetic if mr edun is d one complaining..he may even be glad he's gotten rid of his wicked wife.

OnyeEgo1:
i am not comfortable with the 3, sex, love and marriage... Tho my looks are deceptive...

My Bros,nothing do you as long as you have largest size of Vaseline by your side.
May the force be with you.

toecyne:
if you are a married man, i pray ur partner cheats on you severally, only then would you know how it feels

Taa kpuchie GI onu there.. Make him cheat naa.He cheats,I cheat we repent and sin no more...Who no want fresh blokos...

Only a man who doesn't cheat deserves a faithful wife and has a right to judge.
For a woman to cheat,she must be frustrated.. Abeegi make we live and let live.

Na dis woman foolish ..confess ko confess ni.Na her husband holy pass?

Must one chop only one soup till death? I'm happy for the women with monstrous husbands who are cheating underground. A man wey de carry mistress steady,his home dey peaceful and calm ask urself why?? she's polishing an agile blokos.

Keep on deceiving urselves,holy nwejes.
If u r a cheat and u quote me,may amadioha strike you with warts and impotence.

Pickabeau,

Wetin I do you sef?? I'm married,yes.
Allow me to troll in peace naa
Ah ah

As per Op,is it not her fellow women that chop in peace and still go home and live happily?
Her man may be chopping,has he confessed?
All these local guilty conscience people.

Y I no go vex for her?

She should move on from the limp d ick already.
If he's been faithful he has a right to judge..if not,abeg make him gerrout.

She was stupid to confess though..giving the dude unnecessary upper hand.

Olodo

Not everyone can walk away..people do lots of things in anger,that doesn't make them less well bred than the next person.

Once someone is stretched to the elastic limit,their response to aggravation may be explosive.

Easy to sit here and say you should do this you should do that .In the heat of the moment when provoked people respond differently..

In an ideal world the husband will handle.if he never rises to the occasion nko?

Eg I may ignore you when you think u can f uck with me..I can ignore for ages and be silent but the day I decide to deal with you, hell would be a better alternative. no apologies.
Very funny thread tho..saints nwekes signing out

Daz all.

Oh well!! You've formed strong man,now you are jobless.

Hope your 'mandom' will pay you and feed you when your stomach starts to growl.

When you work for one man business,you bend your head take as much as you can while looking for another job.Private businesses do and undo especially in Naija.

Pride ko man ni..you de even compare yourself to boss child.You never start

Why on earth would I want to do my wedding in my village? What if she didn't grow up in the said villa? What if all her friends and colleagues are in the 'city'? What if she prefers the city feel.
Village get levels abeg...who doesn't want lovely wedding pictures and a nice party before tying herself to everlasting slavery aka marriage..
She must have good reasons for not wanting it there.
Chaiii...poor girl.
Next time,you get with someone with the same taste as you or you wait till you save enough and bear the cost of a non village palm frond wedding.

@IDEApro
You pay her her own share and she can go
Ahhhh you and mama leaving na there e better pass.
No cleaning or cooking ,just face the kids,no overgrown baby blocking space.. Sheer bliss!
That's like granting her mini holiday..who no like beta thing??
How many men have their own homes before marrying? Very few so the woman still contributes,then they're talking send her out
Try am naa,only an ode that doesn't know her rights will shake

@pickabeau
The ogaontop no go gree.

All these send her away send her to her parents gist.
Who the hell do you people think you are sending away? A toddler?
House wey pesin blood,money and sweat help build na im una wan send away.

Or is it when she hears sending away she starts shaking? Who still has that fear? a woman who works and can handle the bills?
I laugh in Jakarta..una never start.
Who's money helped pay the rent...

Na you go pack commot or you wait when rent is up I renew the lease while you can go find somewhere else.
If I contributed to building the house,we sell it off and share the money or you pay me my part.
Una never see before.
Its only an idiot that's moved by useless threats in this day and age

Send her to her parents my pancake yansh.
Rabbish!

And as I said,I do not see the advantages of marriage to any woman.
Marriage or no doesn't make anyone responsible.
Exactly,who needs marriage its becoming outdated.
I ask again what is the advantage to a woman,? Esp when she ends up doing all the chores cooking cleaning washing kids plus work and then should form p orn star for night..

Abegi, the end is nigh.Thank God people are realising that its all been a big scam

Is d man paralysed?
How was he doing it before he got married?
He should go and buy a machine please and move on.
No to domestic slavery in the name of marriage.
On to election results jare!

Marriage on its own is going to be obsolete very soon.
There's no real advantage in it for women.
Society has decieved us into thinking there's real gain in being married.
The only thing is avoiding ur kids being called bastards.

Cook clean chores kids,na woman.You go work on top yet come home and continue plus no help?

So of what use is a man then?Thankfully the world in general is wisening up.No need to marry,split all bills and yea you can live next door.

Cannot see wait for the dawn of an equal world!!
Soon and very soon. Muhehehhehehehehe