Any loving father would..

Met her ex for what exactly?
Did she go to beg for wedding money or for final Congo polishing?Or did she just see him in passing and have a nice empty chat?

I'm anti Exes..Ex is in the past and should stay firmly there.Some are still pals with theirs.What does your lady believe? Take it from there and then reach an agreement on how to handle exes.

Una never start ,belle don dey ,ex don enter.
Abeg settle all this before you decide to sign the dotted lines and stay miserable.

Wife not cook jare.
I'm a full fledged human being with wants and needs.
I go out to work and I bring home cash same as you,
I work same hours or longer hours than you.
What's the difference between us then apart from genitals?
I'm made for wayyy more .
If food dey we chop,if e no dey abeg carry pizza come back.
If na d reason u wan bring new woman,feel free,I don taya for your pot belly.
I been de find reason to chop new blokos since.
Chop clean mouth na d game,you chop.i chop .Universe no go vex.

No shaking.

U should have kept him by the side away from your kids for bedroom duties.Youve done marriage before,what's the big deal?

You have children,you should have considered then first and investigated him thoroughly before bringing him in to share their space.You owe them that.


Your own don kpai tho,once the contracts dry up ,prepare to be played.

Long monogamous relationship if you so please is the way to go without chaining yourself down.Now your marriage is most likely not even valid/legal as he may still be married to his wife.

Loneliness doesn't mean you should marry abeg.

I have no cure for this one,just be careful and keep your finances and contracts to yourself and in your children's name.True color loading.

NL males and their endless fuckery
24/7 messages and warning bells for women to wake up before all the men run away.
Why are they so scared?If women were that worried they'd be calling meetings to aid in carrying out the 'duties'.
Most threads are usually from the males teaching us our duties ,we don hiaa


As long as women are flooding the workplace and also bringing in the cheddar,all these expectations must be cut short.Women are learning that there's more to life than being a jacky.

In a loving relationship,there's never any need for excess talky talky cos all the partners want to do is please each other,make life simpler and more enjoyable for each other.What is cooking when compared to a peaceful loving partner especially when there's se x to be had.

Its usually all these moi moi boys with dead blokos that go round sounding alarm bells cos they are not man enough to lead without shouting like town criers.
Please ur wife-F9, See x- indomie, money - zero.

What's the threat? Bringing in another woman??
What's new? There's no new trick in the books abeg.Landed property-check, money in bank-check,kids to call your own-check,hot youngy eyeing you at work-check,old papa promising you heaven- check.


Try something new,this stale record is tiring.

I hope you won't shed hot tears when your wife applies the same behaviour to your mother

red pant wearers in d house

First of.all you need to clear ur head by having a massive or gasm.When you realise the power of s ex to ys you understand that sexual satisfaction isn't dependent on a male being present.

After your head clears then you assess your situation critically.If the union isn't beneficial to you and your kids anymore,and you have tried what you can you may need to disappear with the kids for a while.Go away and find peace. You are busy crying when he's moaning on top a female or male partner( no one can be trusted these days).

No one is worth the tears o jare.It will pain you at first but you need to be strong and realise you are a single.mother living with a roomie.

Men haven't finished o.Clarion Chukwurah snagged a young man to keep her warm,you are more than capable.Forget any man making you to lose your confidence.
Find a job and start living,if you can chop and clean mouth without sentiment and be as coded as your hubby is ,carry go( condoms full ground so all the STI threats na wash except you are careless).If you cannot,then you have to carry your cross.

Unfortunately being a virgin or a faithful wife won't change a man bent on self destruction.Let him destroy himself alone,protect yourself and your kids.
Sorry

Damned if you do,damned if you don't.
Some families would be offended if she didn't join in the pics ,some (op) were offended she wanted to join.And the way a person behaves depends on where they come from.Maybe in her family there's no differentiation,chai!! Pesin wey open her whole heart and mind has been put down well well in public.She will never forgive or forget

I feel sorry for her though,I believe she's a bit immature believing she's what she's not.Mistaking daughter in law for daughter . When will we all learn?? Ur MIL can never be your mother ,your FIL can never be your father,when the chips are down you will see it live.Too bad it happened in public for op's wife.

I don't even understand why she insisted on making a scene then?Was it out of embarrassment? Op you too shame on you,at least you should have covered up small and let her take one and then whispered to her to shift so you can take your pics.That was one opportunity for you to show her you have her back but you failed.

Prepare for a personality change towards your entire family though.That one Na sure banker.sorry in advance

Lesson: forget all this accept as your family treat as your mother and father,such relationships take time to build and most of the time it's a manual for wives to follow which normally always fail.We must learn to accept relationships as what they are and build them up as best as possible.Not everyone will be lovely dovey.Respectful relationships with boundaries can also be beautiful,no need for fakery.

Congrats

https://www.nairaland.com/3527018/son-looks-like-wifes-former

This is the reason why she wasn't honest.To avoid this sort of scenario in future.However,she's not a good liar at all.
People are not truthful about their body count because they fear the one they love cannot handle it.

If you really cannot cope with the knowledge that someone you know ate the cookie,best move on now so you don't end up with high BP or seeing things like your fellow man in that link.

loyallove:
The problem is basically the use of prostitutes. Its a difficult addiction but i sure know it can be stopped. I got myself into it and by Gods help I will get myself out of it. God is still changing lifes

So what exactly is your reason for using prostitutes? When you answer that honestly,that is when you may begin to find answers.God will not come down to change you,you have learned a behaviour which has become something you crave,the only solution may be total behaviour modification when the craving arises as per doing something else that gives you a feeling close to the adrenaline rush you get when you pay for sex.
Freedom from prostitute addiction is very hard ,its normally a lifelong cross like any other addiction. Normally you have support groups filled with people with the same problem helping each other out and at least having someone to talk to and keep them accountable when the need arises,just like alcohol anonymous.
Unfortunately in naija this isn't seen as a problem in many circles. I would've advised to find men in your church who suffer from the same but I know none will come forward.
Hope you dig yourself out of this hole,marriage won't make it better ,sex with wife won't help as sex itself is not the issue.
Good luck.

Obviously trolling and goading people to work themselves up.

Sex twice in 7 months isn't addiction.
Now is your problem the fact that you are having sex or is it the fact that you just want to have sex with prostitutes? Is it specifically about sleeping with prostitutes or that you are sleeping with a female who is not your wife?
They are two totally separate things.Addiction to prostitutes will probably be almost impossible to cure because the high comes from the anonymity and being as dirty as you like without any hangups.I may be wrong though.

If your problem is sex twice in a full moon then hope still dey,at least that one is a natural urge which may be controllable with a willpower of iron.

Good luck

Nl pipu will soon come with stories of doom about people who left broke asses and started regretting later after marrying a man who was comfy.Not everyone marries into poverty.That a man is poor today and you struggle with him does not ensure future happiness,no loyalty in this life.That a man is comfy already and you marry him does not mean you will be miserable.It could go.either way in both situations.C choose what best suits you.

If this guy isn't what you want,please move on.Does he have potential? Where do you see him in 5 years? Where does he think he will be in 5 years?If it's not in concord with your own dreams and hopes,you both should call it a day.

I'm usually wary of above 30 directionless people (male and female).

Theres a man for you,theres a woman for him.You must not be together..
Degree is important to you,he can't magic out a degree from the sky.Most likely no degree in the horizon,no skills,no spirit of hustling so what exactly is it that he's going to do with his life.Book-nil,bizness-nil,hardwork-?,maybe being good puts food on the table

The world is generally tougher now,i advice for females to.now be very calculative about their future especially marriage.There is no glory in being broke.Pick your BEST option ,pick a union that is ADVANTAGEOUS to you.Love won't feed,clothe or house a family.

Good luck

Very hard for me to believe sex hasn't occurred.Red flags- the woman is his spec 2. She's in a bad marriage 3.Bf endless praise singing of her attributes 4 All the time spent in her house-training overnights and weekends 5. Personality changes in bf when he's with her 6. The woman basically dictating tone of your relationship .

This has gone way past emotional attachment ,blame your bf not the lady.Hes the one who should be drawing lines not her.You said whenever he's with her he assumes a new boldness,ask yourself why.

If your instincts are flashing red lights at you,there really is something wrong.Trust your instincts except you are naturally foolish.
I don't see this ending well though.By the way the stumbling block is your bf not the lady,hes the one swallowing gifts and accepting like a starved fish.Fovus your attention on him.He will still meet tons of women will you keep having revelation and High bp daily?
Help yasef ma.

Good luck

Na only you waka come OP?
Ever since you got married one week,one trouble.Ahn ahn.
You are seeing your wife in realiity,go and talk to her and stop chronicling your life on the internet for strangers to comment on and insult her(or is that your aim?)
The fact you belittle the nursing process shows how much you lack understanding of what your spouse is going through re :the hormonal changes,changes to her physical figure which may be affecting her confidence etc

Stop whinging and go and learn how to make your wife beg for sex from you joo.

How has no one mentionedd that maybe the wife simply does not enjoy sexual relations and now has an excuse to void it at every turn.
Is it possible that pre baby sex was so damn good she had or gasms at each turn and all of a sudden she'd rather almost run out of the house than of spend any time in bed at all.
This is purely a case where someone has thought aall along that he was a fantastic lover meanwhile madam has been faking it.Now she has seen a chance to grab freedom from unwanted touchery and is embracing it. Even to the extent of him sulking and she no send,concentrating on her makeup instead.

Don't see what the disclosure of abortion to NL has to do with anything though.Is it for us to insult her?If you are yapping about it here where there is absolutely no need for us to know,God knows how many times you've thrown it in her face in reality(just sayin).If your breakfast isn't ready,do it yourself.Are you crippled?She's still nursing a baby jare.

All this gra gra doesn't seem to be working and you are looking to blame a friend of hers instead of facing the fact that your wife may be fast losing interest in you.You have threatened to go outside and shes still not bothered.

Go and fix your love making skills and bring her to her knees my friend,this na small matter.Talk talk and go to God in prayer.

Don't forget to watch war room.
Good luck.

I find it ridiculous when people insult someone for asking questions regarding accountability and being genuine.
Common 3k,common 1k.If it's so common,go ahead and give it.This is the reason why scammers are thriving.People have worked hard for every penny so why should they give it away without making sure that it's someone that truly needs it?

If you are genuine,prove it and usually the people who ask generally receive more than thy asked for.Every kobo counts in this harsh economy abeg

Too much of nollywood and nairaland are affecting you.
Those movies which always show the classic happy ending where a useless absentee father turns up after abandoning his family for ages and they always welcome him with wide open arms and live happily ever after eh?
Hope it's now clear to you that reality is different.Children are watching and will not forget,even if they say they forgive the erring parent will pay for it in one way or the other.

Treating people somehow based on assumptions happen everywhere.I have some friends who were ignored for ages by their neighbors most likely because they thought as per black people,must be low income family.
They only started being friendly when they saw their kids school uniforms -private school.

I'm not wealthy yet o but make a decent income,they were doing some research that required disclosure of income so the woman doing it just gave me the page she assumed we fell into,even pointing her pen and when I asked for the back page,she turned red and was spluttering.Not that the income is so high o just that she assumed we'd be close to the bottom or at the most average ish,she then said we are a different type of migrants.We didn't even say anything,just a polite grimace.

People judge all the time based on appearance,I know that really wealthy Caucasians I've seen are usually the ones in battered range rovers,I don't know why.But you get to know their level when you then see lifestyle,not ostentatious but quality.So that Jean and shirt will probably be high end that lasts for ages.No obvious branding though.

When I was casually chatting about buying a house,someone was directing me to council houses ,he told me it's so I can be able to afford it

Everyone is different.
Religion and society forcing monogamy.
In a free world no need for adultery,just go and shag a man you fancy and move forward daz all.
Pity we are being made to live with all these restrictions

2 weeks if excessively busy ie if you mean sex with my spouse.I have never had to stay orga smless when my spouse is not there as there are toys.
For this situation the sad truth is that infidelity MUST occur (emotional,physical) unless the person has Holy Spirit perching on his shoulder.He will mix up with classmates,he will go out for drinks and lunch,he will make friends,he will have s ex.No amount of wan king will help.
The wife may be able to hold off as she has 3 kids which is enough stress but for how long?Is he going to be coming back 2-3 monthly?Is she going to be visiting often?The truth is that the two must just accept that the next two years will have kleg but in the end they will continue their marriage.They probably will be discreet about it.They also have to learn to separate sex from emotion no catching feelings or unnecessary closeness.You are here to scratch an itch-bye bye.

Very dangerous choice by the couple.I do not advocate for spousal separation no matter what.Choices are to go together or don't go at all or go and visit monthly or go and accept the consequences.

The trend of wives travelling to america with the kids to live while spiritual husband stays in NIgeria is ridiculous.Lots of heart break but the marriage must go on.

Why invite devil in then start crying when he builds room and parlor?

Before I got married i went through the same for even longer,lets say emmmmmm .. we were there emotionally for each other but didn't dig too deep about physical stuff and life went on till we were back together physically again.No questions or probing about sex,there were no hangers on,no scandals or stories.No one could claim he was dating me,and no one could claim he was dating her.No evidence of such

There may be people who can stay sexless though,nothing is impossible.

GOOD LUCK.

abeg make una leave am.everyone has a right to fantasise and hope.
We all know what reality usually turns out but nothing is impossible

You should not have anal sex x if you are not interested in it.Doing it doesn't mean you are gay.
Go online and order a dil do and next time he asks you,lubricate the dil do and ask him to present his nyash for you to start with.
If the devil is awake that day,and your hubby enjoys it your own don kpai.

No one should be forced to do what they don't want sex ually.

Hi baldman,
You are most likely writing online because you've not been able to find what you seek in reality.I applaud you though for being bold enough to write.

Maybe you should list what is non-compromisable for you.Dont be rigid eg the height thing..you may see all these in a taller or not so slim person.Just know what is extremely important to you cos frankly your list may be really hard for any human to fulfill.You should also list more about yourself.Which one is big baby?

I hope females follow your suit who knows the possibilities.


Good luck.P lease come back to tell us the good news