₦airaland Forum

Toks2008:
Apparently you are getting it so twisted.A guy can suddenly ind himself broke and might just be fortunate to have a rich lady as a partner or spouse who may decide to help him bounce back.

This is a different ball game from the guy depending on the lady for 10k,20k,5k and any responsible man will find this annoying.

A lady can loan a guy huge sum for him to use purposefully and many guys have really become millionaires by the help of their wife for instance MKO Abiola and many more.

Its one thing for a man to be aided by a financially buoyant spouse and another different ball game for the man to be a consistent demanding partner.

As for me, its a NO NO to share my responsibilities with my wife,or depend on her finance for this and that,honestly its annoying demeaning and foolish.

You are not making any sense at it's obvious you aren't married.

You need to get yourself outta the mindset of me me me in a marriage. There is no singular in marriage and all income earned should be for the marriage

It's idiotic to be suggesting a man should loan money from the wife then share the proceeds as at when it yields results.

I accept that circumstances are different and all as in you could be the sole earner or whatever but that doesn't mean you should still make yourself the superman without making her responsible for some family expenditures.
What happens if God forbid you lose your source of income and the stupid pride has enabled you cultivate the singular culture in your marriage?

You had better throw your mindset in the bin Unless you are already a wealthy man

kilode100:
Nna, forget the poster and her wahala jare..

You do know you look very good and ever since I click on your profile, my life has not been the same. What I'm trying to say in case you're a novice is that I dig you

Just say hi and put this Lover girl out of her misery.

Hi lover girl

Busybody2:
Spare me the lies and balderdash and BS, newsflash, "the fact that Tehn official Spokesperson does not have any personal beef whatsoever with me" MEANS THAT HE STARTED HIS SMEAR CAMPAIGN ON THAT THREAD AGAINST ME AND MY CHILDREN "ONLY" TO DEFEND TEHN. END OF...I have never ever had any other altercation with Jaybee on/off Nairaland. He stated this motive clearly on the thread, stop feigning ignorance to save Tehn face!!!


Again, it's a forum and not your forum so no one is forcing or begging you to read nor will you get paid to read so gboju mehn and stop feeling fly with your sly self!!!

Why do you lie so much ehn? Where on earth did i mention or attack your children?
I have a problem with you not them so why would i give a fvck about them?

I have a probelm with you because you are spreading rumours that we are killing people

I have a problem with you because you have questioned MY integrity

I have a problem with you because of your continuous allegation of gross negligence. So you know, we wouldn't have uprooted John Doe to India with no clear direction of how the bills will be paid if we were to start the case all over.

I have a problem with you because you continuously mentioned TeHN spending close to 2M on DJ's case even though it's one of your deliberate attempt to paint us bad.
Here is the itemisation of what was spent and i'm sure you aren't blind to see the spread of the expenditures => https://www.nairaland.com/1995601/rip-djdola-miss/157#31585196


BTW: I'm still waiting for your idiotic county court summon so i can finally put a sock in it. I've also gathered my own evidences so bring it on

Toks2008:
Im begining to see how special,different and disciplined i am when it comes to taking my eyes off my woman finances.

i may be as broke as brokelyn but i give no hute about my lady s money.

if you like be a billionaire,i will still buy your undies for you with my money because thats my duty,to take care of my woman

some guys are real jerks.

That much pride in your own marriage, who are you competing with?

So you will deliberately stop growing as a family so you can always be the MAN or how else would you navigate an income/expenditure mismatch

kilode100:
Op, you were not right hoohaa.

You knew, that you married a toy man whose only interest in the marriage was your money and now that you ve stopped him from assessing those funds, what do you honestly think will happen??

I am not in support of him but the money aspect was what made him push the "chicks" away and he decided to marry and do right by you.

Give him his right and ve Your peace of mind o... That your quiet husband will soon become a thorn in your flesh if you don't.

NB; never start what you can't finish.

How would she have been able to find that out before marriage when it's not as if he has always had access to her account

Besides, why have you comfortable ignored the fact that it's OUR projects not HIS projects?

The husband has obviously gotten comfortable with the idea of using her as a financial buffer hence why it's necessary to approach it with an agreed budget approach where the both parties agree on a month by month basis using needs based assessment to decide on expenditure and % contributions

enoqueen:
One of the many mistakes we women make is allowing our men know that we av money.

U did not do anything wrong and let it remain so even after paying ur fees.

When men sees money with us, they will be coming up with different project that they cannot do alone just to make sure that we spend what we av.

Do you understand and accept that marriage is a partnership?
Do you realise a relationship based on pretence or deliberate falsehood has no chance?

You absolutely do not need to lie about your worth if you are the more financially responsible of the two. You can always say No whenever you aren't comfortable with any financial request

Why are we even debating this since he has proven his financial irresponsibility time and time again with no iota of remorse.

You already know it's an issue that affects you and the family so the common sense approach is work out and agree to a family budget where both of you will transfer your monthly contributions into an account that both of you will have access to.

Open a new account that only you can access so you can save your remaining share of your salary into it.

You can't keep exposing yourself to his lack of financial control. If you keep allow him with putting any checks and balances in place then you will surely suffer as family going forward

Please under No circumstances should you start hiding things from him as honesty has to be embedded in your relationship. Part of the honesty is you having the brutally honest conversation on how you going to approach the case going forward.

He already knows what you earn and you are allowed to save and spend whatever % share of the salary as you deem fit

Sleekyshuga:

A dull dude gets a dull response..
It takes two to tango ..

Hmmm

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LUKCsUoj9UE

eleshin:
Is it true that Bastian is out for 9months?

Bastian is currently playing with a cigar whilst marshalling the defense with so much poise

Memphis is definitely a baller

I'm impressed

We will look into the case to see how we can be of help

As always, no guarantees as we will have to consider the merit, complexity and extent of involvement before arriving at a decision

How come they didn't bother to proofread the article before posting it on their website?


How could it have depreciated by 42 naira if the baseline value as at June 28 is 220 naira

Surely it's a very simple subtraction which would have enabled them arrive at N22

We definitely have to recommend family planning to them as the bare minimum. They already have 3 kids and now expecting additional 2

Maybe we should just focus on the boy if there is anything that can be done to remedy the situation

#Just thinking out aloud


Thanks caracta... Much appreciated

Teespice:
Oya tell me the truth.

how many women have u used this approach for.

Hehehehe

bamidele029:
I was wondering o, 3 times ke it's not even near 2 times . All these bloggers and lies

It was during GEJ's presidency that the naira got devalued and the value of the dollar around that tine in the parallel market hovered between 210-220.

Therefore, 1.2 times is the magic multiple

Enypie:
His extra cash.

Correct girl

Straight up honesty the way we like it

Sleekyshuga:
You want to add her to the list of 75 ladies you are following??

Fear God oo ..

Choi na wa oooo

cockblocking on kentro level

Religion + New baby = Antichrist?

jackyraw09:
This does work but don't say it in a gentleman manner else u r a goner, be a bit aggressive when approaching

a lady the first time. something like "Good day, you look good etc.." is a turn-off and isn't gonna get u her digit

but go thus .. "heyy, i said hi but u finding it hard to respond. hope no ishh?" she go respond "sorry but i didn't hear"

THAT'S if she's interested in u (ur dress sense and accent/voice or how mature u look comes into play here).

If she ignores u then just free her.

If she replies by apologizing then u go at her again by saying "it's okay but i'm seeing u around for the first time. What's ur name?"

and then continue ur journey of getting her number.

obviously it depends on what you are complementing them on.
I don't expect the boring "Hi you look so beautiful" rubbish

If she dazzles in a bright red dress, then say something along the line of "Wow, that dress sure going to turn heads today. Fits you perfectly"

If her black hair Mongolian or whatever they call it is curvy, say something along the line of "Surely, this weather won't do justice to such a beautiful hair you got on"

Above all, your approach matters and you need to be able to come up with something witty on the get go.

Women don't have time for all 'em formal approach ish. Be confident and see results

SomebodyLovesMe:
90% of Nairalanders mix those words up! For you not to have noticed, you are evidently among them.

Read the article and thank the OP.

Does it really matter though?

We are still able to communicate without paying too much attention to minute differences that may exist in English words

The easiest icebreaker that will most certainly get their attention is by complementing their look

elantraceey:
I thought as much. Their owner hasn't come around yet.



No more questions of this sort.

heheheheh

I hope they aren't playing the role as secondary school students

elantraceey:
So what haven't I told you?

Why you are hell bent on suffocating those twins

"Beatie was originally a female but he had his breasts removed through surgery and has been living as a man ever since."

softysparky:
See as you dey accuse innocent girl like me.

Would you even believe that statement if you had to read it again, I'm quite sure you will agree with my original assertion

elantraceey:
lol , you're sure you're quoting the right person?

I'm as alert as Fvck

Na you na, my sweetie pie

softysparky:
Buhahahahaha I just say make i hail you as you be FTC on a boobi thread naa.

How i take get that FTC, be like say una don stop to dey follow me from village ba?

elantraceey:
Na , there's a difference between jaybee and my partner .

Jaybee/partner is your interchangeable choice of word that you've been using for days

Quit the shakara

softysparky:
Boring nairaland.



Because it's not a boobi thread

You sef don get monitoring spirit?

sparky ndo oooo

luigiajah:
Every Nigerian can testify that the Naira has dropped more than 3 times since Mr Buhari came into power.

Why should i take you serious if you slept through maths class?