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Lol at whooping u call ordinary 500k dt, I am very sure u will faint if u see 2 million naira

Fourwinds:
Jesus only came for the remorseful sinners not the dead hearted sinners who are perpetual in their acts. so keep shut

Sinner na sinner

Let me educate u

After the death of Jesus things has changed as all we need is to believe and confess him, we are the righteousness of God in Christ Jesus

Fourwinds:
so you want to tell me you don't know the ten commandments? so it is right to willfully and consciously commit sin? I think it is you that lack common sense.

sex is meant for the married....

Jesus only came for the sinners and all have sinned and fallen short of his glory so shut up already

Maychang:
This is for Singles.

As much as we try to twist God's words to suit our selfish desires, the truth remains the truth. A sin is a sin.

How do you guys/ladies have Sex and still find it very easy to go to church? No guilt, no remorse.

I have seen Men and women who cohabitate or spend weekends together (please dont come here with nothing happened) and attend church service together.

U lack common sense

Church is more for d sinners than for the righteous

Gungnir:
True but some women who aren't from such background will still be disrespectful.

This OP case, their family were average when he met her upon hitting big, attitude change. It's why they say money magnifies who you truly are. Everything hinges on character.

Yes u are right, money reveals the true character of people

Gungnir:
But either rich or poor, it takes a very understanding woman to walk with you through such circumstances. Women that are not from wealthy background are disrespectful to their men, so it's more about the character than the financial strength of the family.

A humble woman should be sought after irrespective, they make a man's life much easier. There are those who get nasty when money comes so, it's more about character.

Its more difficult for a woman from a wealthy background. For her using anything less than turkey meat to cook food may be war but fish of 300 naira is okay for an average background lady. I DNT blame the wealthy background ladies too I blame long throat men

Trivia:
They say events come at you either as blessings or lessons. My marriage has been half of both. I married from a relatively richer family, and I must add that the fact that my wife came from a wealthy family, had absolutely no influence on my choice. I met her when her parents were not as wealthy as they would later become, and we were in love. At that time, my parents gave me a ‘mid-budget vehicle’ shortly after my graduation from a state University in Nigeria. And so, even though my father was not Dangote, he could afford quality life and education for his children. My wife’s parents over the years ascended in wealth and riches, and our wedding was relatively big. Dowry from her side of Nigeria was expectantly high, and I paid it with relative ease.

Fast forward to seven years afterwards, when as a man your financial apron-strings to your parents has had to be cut even before leaving your parents’ house, as you make your way for yourself. I have come to learn that these apron-strings are easier to cut for a man than they are for women, especially women from comparatively well to do backgrounds, and hence the troubles for the unwise woman in this situation.
Leaving the comfort of my father’s house in Ibadan, I could afford a mid-income apartment in a sub-urban part of Lagos, with few house gadgets and facilities. My business was doing great, and even though not luxury, our living was comfortable. But then, comfort is subjective, for no matter how much sacrifices I put into stocking my abode with items to ensure comfort for my wife, she and her parents always believed I could do better. They rarely visited, and when they did, would sit in a corner with their noses in the air, and as they leave shortly I would swear they will take a long bath in hand-sanitizers when they got home. Nonetheless, I did do better, and over the years things went on fine at the expense of my personal self-care.

And then came that family-finance stifling recession. You assure yourself that things would be fine, and all you needed to do was double your hustle. Hustle doubled, and results reduced. Bills increased, and nagging followed suit. I have found out that a woman’s nagging on her husband could either be overt or covert. I’d take the overt nagging any day, over the quiet and obvious discontent. At least with the expressed discontent, you can target your financial attention. No matter how much you try, her communication reduces and you know why. She starts visiting her parents more often, and discussing financial choices with them. They start dropping hints into her bank account. She starts paying some bills and buying ‘luxury food-items’, but you cannot complain, even though you know where the money came from. Yet you double, nay, triple your hustle and hope for better days.

And that’s when the problems started- A classic case of he who pays the piper. Her parents start giving instructions without consulting you. It starts with suggestions, and then downright directives on how your home should be run. But you are the man of the house and you direct otherwise. Short of them laughing at your effrontery, they are infuriated that you dare overrule their wishes. Who are you? You observe the gradual disappearance of your wife’s respect for you, while you notice that her parents don’t even factor your presence in any equation. You are vilified, and your wife is torn between obeying her parents’ wishes and abiding by your directives.

I give you an example. This here school is where my children will go, because that’s what I can afford and they are happy in this school, you say. And the response through her, of course because they don’t call you directly but speak to your wife. They say, ‘what? That school? Okay, find a better school in your neighbourhood and let us know how much it costs.’ You get to know about this when your wife starts hunting for a new (expensive) school. I can’t afford that for the two of them, you say. ‘Don’t worry,’ she responds. ‘Mummy said she will pay for it.’ Now, domestic violence is a big matter to the state government and the news is rife with men sent to jail for wife battery. Otherwise, you would have sent those series of slaps in quick succession, enough to wipe her make-up clean off and change her phone network. Besides, if you had done that, her parents would be glad to take her back in their huge mansion, while you battle for your children’s custody or even access to them. Since you can’t react, you swallow your anger and put your foot down, albeit tenderly.

But things did change for the better part of 2017, far better than before, and during the festive season you conveniently sent bags of rice and vegetable oil to them. Occasionally, you send recharge cards and cash, no matter how small to them, while maintaining your physical absence. You can now restrict your wife’s visit to them. I must add, that the respect has grown tremendously, and hilariously too. Now they call for permission before they send her on errands. Now their calls always go unanswered because I am busy, and they graciously understand, and just wanted to check up on you.

Lessons: In family relationships, money is important. Your love is noticed when supported with money. Maintain your respect with strategic absence. Money used strategically buys your wife's (and in-laws) respect. Teach your wife to always reveal lesser information than necessary; the less you reveal to people (in-laws) about what goes on internally, the better, and more respect both of you get. There can only be one captain in a ship, and as a husband you need to put your foot down, sometimes diplomatically. Your ships must sail in one direction, and orders are from only one captain. As much as possible, reduce or eliminate holes in your matrimonial walls, to prevent matrimonial lizards from creeping in. No matter what you are going through, you will go through it. I knew that that phase would pass, and I pray I live to tell this tale to my kids when they are about to get married. Importantly, I have learnt that my boys should pick from a home and not a house with arrogant in-laws with the feeling of entitlement. And if you can avoid it, try not to marry a woman from a wealthy background, unless you can assure yourself of her humility.

This was the reason I didn't marry an ex governor daughter I once dated. U can never impress or please a girl from a very wealthy background. Ur extra ordinary is below average for her n her family. What nonsense I had to kick her ass away. Again u will appear as a gold digger no matter how well u are doing when u married her

NwaAmaikpe:



How does this car send Buhari back to Daura?

Spot on

Whatarewehere4:
Wow please what’s a ticket system ? I would love to get a first hand analysis/information from you on here,thanks so much .

Ticket system is for big players and requires that u have a park in all ur routes and driver doesn't touch money of passengers as ur staff does dt

D only way to control d driver is if u are starting a transport company like peace mass and there is ticket system. Else give them on hire purchase n have a contract with them. this style of paying them salary will mess u up if u dnt have ticket system.

Start with one car and drive it to test d market first

Note who ever u give ur car must have three guarantors their parent, pastor and someone on decent employment bc some drivers can sell ur car in a few days via olx and come crying that robbers took it on gun point

FluidQueen:
She's cute. Cute son too.


I don't get why the society frowns at single moms but praise single dads. I can't even fathom the hypocrisy, and outright sexism. Every single mom deserves to be celebrated. Women are Earth.

When will you have common sense

Back bumber needs to be changed

Let's see front bumber and engine pic

If you swear with your engine on something you kw it's untrue the car will kill u in a fatal accident

Never tried it so someone shld try it and confirm if it's really true or false

EgunMogaji:
OP runs to check ECU

Jesus mu yeee, runs to check car again
I will need a mechanic to even confirm if it was stolen or not ooo chai. It doesn't seem so with my observation.

Hw Abt Carina e

Mileage is nothing u r just a complete learner

Good maintenance is key a well maintained Toyota vehicle will easily reach 500000km on d factory fitted engine

Some cars with 250000km are better than others on 150000km bc good maintenance is d difference.

Why always pay Doctors higher every professional is equally important nonsense

I got the shocker today when I woke up to discover that boys have stolen my car battery and CD. So I ask what are the steps you took to ensure that your car CD and battery are safe. Give tips

1. My mechanic has suggested I go and construct a lock for my battery compartment dt will take a bulldozer to unlock and I have noted dt but what of my car CD, I can't ride on a car without good music system

2. Please how much will it take me to change my car door lock as dt lock has become an ashawo that can be opened by some keys.

Cc gazzuzz n co

deanxy:
My fiancee and I have been in a relationship for 5 years now. I met her since she was in secondary school. We both love each other and she is very nice, loving and supportive too.

We have talked and started planning on settling down and that should before the end of the year but I am beginning to have a second thought.

The problem is not my fiancee but her mom. The woman is very nice and welcoming but lately, she did something that I am not comfortable with. Last week she sent me a text asking for financial assistance. That her daughter (my fiancee) is yet to pay her house rent at school and that my fiancee younger brother is yet to pay his registration fee. And so she had asked me to loan her some amount before the end of the month when she will remit it. That she considered me a son and that's why she confided in me. I later sent her SMS that I don't have anything.

I was like why would she asked me for loan when her daughter never asked for one naira in our Five years of relationship? So my fear is, should I marry her daughter, wont she trouble me with further demands? Please is there anyway around this? Please what do I do?

Nawa ooo

You were very rude as a prospective son in law to the poor woman. You shld have made sure you sent something to her no matter how small this is her first time of asking. This is someone you have been fucking her daughter for 5yrs nw Free of charge.

This will be heart breaking and a shocker to their entire poor family mind u they might have ran out of options with you as the only one B4 asking and you embarrassed them. Tufiakwa

Amedak:
My girlfriend is 7 years older than me, I'm 28 and she is 35 and we plan to get married.

●She can cook
●Religious
●Beautiful
●Hardworking
●Humble
●Experienced sexually
●She looks younger than her age.

She has all the qualities I want in a woman.

What are some issues we might have to face that same age couples wouldn't?

Mature response please!

Thanks.

U call 35 yrs old madam GF, u get mind sha

You DNT kw a woman until u marry her, forget those qualities they are superficial and meant to trap u.

Free dt old cargo n look for a nice graduate below 23 n marry

Adam was created before Eve
Desperation makes older ladies to be exceptionally submissive n good DNT be fooled by fake character

Olarewajub:
I just got my first earning after one month buffer period.

So basically d buffer period is one month not six months

1m serious buyer

So u actually go to filling station to buy 6litres of fuel. See wetin buhari don cause

Any woman above 30 yrs is bad market successful or unsuccessful

Only lazy poor gold digging men go for them. 28 yrs is my Max. High mileage ladies are like second hand Naija abused cars Soo unreliable.

obekediamondfuto:
bros its not just about the carelessness of Honda users, what about time and resource? have we ever stopped to think about this? imagine someone who resides in an area with terrible terrain/ landscape....... if that person buys Honda no need for sound system na, the kpakutukpa from the legs is enough music! and yes the OEM pulls too, that's y u have to change it every now and then! how many Toyota users have seen changing ball joint every now and then? time nko? so to buy Honda u need to have enough spare time else u risk one random kazeem helping u press the spoil button! if u want to use pros, its not everyone that's so buoyant cos those guys ain't cheap @ all confirm from Gazuzz; they'll get the job done no doubt buh origins must be downed after work. after u save money buy ride then u begin to apportion a significant percentage of ur salary for maintenance and if u start hearing music before the expected time....... hmmmmmm na die!

these are the reasons people clamour Toyota cars shikena, not just about being boring, careless, porous and naive people! as for me, nothing is more embarrassing than having a k legged car in the middle of the express! all because I didn't listen well enough..

for all those with hearing impairments...... stay away from Honda, the pros up there have spoken oh!

**drops mic***

Gbam

If this was fragile Honda it would have pulled like one year ago. Blame d idiot dt owns d Toyota for extreme carelessness

Most people dt advertise without putting price are dubious

lumzybo:
Buy a steering/pedal lock. Use it always. It Myt sound crude but it works.

IMO, I think you are just paranoid
#staywoke

Spot on dt was d only advice I have for op

Again they don't steal Honda like dt here bc it's hard to resale if na Corolla or Camry or Toyota product u shld be more worried

Toks is1.3m n u wan sell Naija used 1.4m

No first body, no engine, no gear, no access wetin person dey buy 1.9m kwanu

emmyeuler1:
After 5yrs of dating,companionship and serous affection,my girlfriend finally dumped me for a banker.We are both undergraduates of the Obafemi Awolowo University,Ile-Ife and about entering final year.I just discovered a change in attitude on her part.She finally opened up that she was no longer interested and started dating a banker who works at the Access bank located inside the OAU campus.Please should I go spiritual by making her pay fir it or ignore it?...I need ur advice

What are u doing with a girlfriend when u are jobless broke ass dude, save urself d stress n focus on getting a job after sch first

Is she that jobless