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@ Poster, exactly just how u fell in love b4

i don't want no romantic bla bla when being proposed to. Its the truthfulness to the significance of the ring that matters to me.

Anyways in Africa peeps can almost tell where their relationship is heading at, so the ring hardly becomes a surprise, only welcomed. That's if it doesn't end up being on the day of ur traditional wedding. . Hey no beefs some guys don't see d need.

Show u care as much as u can, also in the best way u can & let her interprete it as love.

I laughed last & laughed best. Lol

Its so cool to be wanted back

Sure Even God said don't put ur trust in man.

But stil we've got to give a little trust, if not we will be doubting every man.

Some people's behavior will just earn ur trust

Whatever trust u give whether 100% or 5%, it hurts when we are betrayed.

oziomatv:
live confortable and have something to show as a big boy, maybe you'll be the one to choose.
big boys don't fall in love they hang in love.
first do you have a well paid job? If not bury your total dream of having one.

Hmmmmn!

Nice to know, its good for something

What u don't know won't hurt u. Its ok if your partner tells u out of love or excess gist. But don't go digging. Let what is past remain in the past.

Please don't Present a mouth wash wrapped as gift for him, no matter how u look at it, its very insulting. Just tell him that their's a particular mouth wash u use that makes ur mouth really feel fresh for a long time, & ask him if he'll want to try it out. (make sure u say this playfully with no hint of an intension). He'll definately not say no.

Look u have to be bold enough to do this, don't think some of ur friends haven't perceived the odour. Whether u like it or not, it will rub on u too. So be quick at finding a solution.

Tell him after brushing, & using a mouth wash to use warm water (almost hot) to gaggle. Its kills germs & dirt easily, especially those activated after brushing.

I'll rather not go out with u in the first place than deal with it. I'm sorry good diction is part of the things that attracts me. That would be a large clause to overlook.

@Janami pls this is not understandable at all. Wit girls yes, we call names very often we play wit guys, we can call their names like 20 times b4 we finish a sentence. Very very possible with girls to miscall names.
But guys, u peeps hardly call names, except names of people that are ur favourite. When ur tongue gets twisted over two names, its the names of peeps that r dear to ur heart. Ha! this one i know very well.

@poster their is a skeleton in ur cupboard, i just hope it hasn't gotten out of hand.

@niceuzor i was not replying u, i assume u are not the poster, write ur own difference & don't quote me.

I have a reason for writing that, if the poster needs more explanation i'll expatiate.

Seun Administrator u can close this thread

I know u purposely brought this topic down here to murder the objective. U should have just deleted it instead of taking it to a place where people barely go to. I was only called to order by another member who said "i don't think seun likes stuff such as this o" What would it take u to say ur view concerning the idea, if u think its wrong, say ur reasons, instead of being such a ----. I'm sure u've heard many people talk about ur attitude. Don't make urself like a super lord over some subjects. Drop that "airs and grace" carriage that u put on & try to be humble. Reduce that shoulder u carry high & lower urself. Yes u created nairaland but u did not make it, people made it. Don't destroy what u created with ur own hands. Even if u destroy the Ids, u can't destroy the people.

@Poster,

Look if he's all that u say he is then i don't think he intensions are genuine, Look when a man is serious with a girl, yes friends may know but his family comes first to his mind, he takes u straight to his parents, & introduces u to his siblings.

He's got all it takes to settle down, so what is he waiting for, & he still goes around calling u princess with no action. Now this is not the amount of outings u go together or how much he spends on u. When a guy is indeed serious there is a way they go about it. A guy may say he loves u & u are his everything, but will never allow u anywhere near his family. Even if u've visited his family home, if he did not introduce u to them, its still nothing.(atom of an unserious guy)

We had an occasion and we were showing my uncle my cousin's girlfriend, The man just said "well he hasn't introduced her to me, even though if seen her with him" That was really a "wow!" to me, cos indeed we knew it wasn't a serious relationship.

Girl ask ur guy questions dat will shake him, tell him u are not ready for any Dog & Cat dumbo thing. If a guy meets someone he intends marrying he knows from the word "Go". Its only in few cases that things are different. Don't take excuses from him. have u met his parents? Has he introduced u? Why should he be running from meeting ur parents? Ur mum is usually the first they want to meet. They want to meet the person that gave birth to u. Boy! girl he's not serious.

blueband:
people only seek advise to validate an action they intend to take.So they feel less guilty about it.

At times people don't actually need the advice, What they have in mind is usually always done.

@Poster if i answer ur questions it will be full of "what ifs"
e.g
What if things change for him within the speculated time?
What if he doesn't still get something to do?
What if u don't find true love again, when u leave him?
What if he changes his attitude to u once things gets good for him?
What if?

My sister do what ur heart pleases. U never have anyone to blame.

Vuitton:
@ To Whom it May concern,
WE NEED SOME LEVELS OF COMMITMENT
I THINK THOSE WHO ARE REALLY SERIOUS SHUD FORM AN AD HOC COMMITTEE

Jk, your the initiator so u must be the general coordinator
Some other exec members of the committee are needed
I'm willing to make inputs towards the success,
Wanna freestyle my xmas
We could be 5, 10 or 20 in number ^{remember less is more}

Lets do this, Alpha Beach, 29th Dec., 1pm(no Nigeria time)
More input pleeeeeaaaaaase

I'll assume any position u put me, but that doesn't even matter, we just need more input.

modele2:
Deep down every woman wants to respect and admire her husband, the respect grows when the woman feels her husband can do something she holds in high esteem better than she can.

So marrying up may not only be material it can be that the guy is smarter, more organized, speaks well, whatever,

Materiality is the bane of the day, that is why we seem to narrow it only to such issues, when a man cannot add value to the woman it brings about contempt and ceaseless quarells, please do not blame the female folk.

word!

whatever, i'm sure its no crime marrying up, i believe in one way or the other we all will/do. Cos there has to be something u see in the other person that makes u go for them. So by dat u marry up, except u had "no choice"

@biolabee
i think sunday is rather too tight

and concerning your idea of drinks & all that. we don't want to start having committee over something that is days away. i just think like i said earlier that each person should try & bring something (edibles) extra for the next person. Bring what u can share. & that is convenient for u.

@Vindoheney 1st is off the plan, its reserved for loved ones.

@ Poster i don't understand u should we marry down?

I have judged myself to know dat at least i'm good, but if i find/have someone dat is upper should i becos of modesty leave it & go for the lower & to satisfy who? Please explain

Guys sorry i made a reply earlier, but i guess it did not load, don't know what happened.

Anyways,


the Venue is chosen: Alpha beach

Day: 29/Dec

Time: 1.00 P.m No African time

That i believe some part sorted out but we need a spot that with a name we can easily identify, then we need something to use to easily identify us as a nairalanders. I would not want a dress code but something dat would kinda make us identify each other easily. (like a tag) whatever, opinion open

Okay. someone suggested something like a banner? At the spot. Is that feasible b4 29th.

these are just some of the ideas i have u can input urs. thanx & cheers.

This is cool, i think we are heading somewhere

Nautillus are u down with the Dj thingy?

Please who brings a deck? Some of u could come with ur game of interest, chess, cards, ball, ludo, scrabble e.t.c.

And please though i've been to alpha but don't know any name to specific spots. Does anybody know a name to any strategic spot we can meet.

I think we r down with 29 Dec alpha beach for now!

Look as far as i'm concerned this topic brings in different sub-topics.

i personally believe that being rich is a mentality & planning in one's life should be utmost!. There is no amount of salary u collect, if u've not got what is binding enough to sustain ur marriage it will still collapse. If not, why is it dat some people u know that have enough money or u know their income is awesomely large still have finance problems or other problems at that. Even if u earn 500k per month, once u don't have the other things that makes a marriage tick, it will still head for the rocks. Why are we children of nowadays so money conscious. We know very well that our parents of then barely had enough funds yet managed resources together & sent us to school, even to their own detriment, yet they are content & happy.

I personally believe that no matter where u are, u are always in a position of envy to another person. Some people earn very low income yet u wonder how they managed resources to purchase somethings. (PLANNING & A GOOD WIFE)

I think the question here is greed. Even if we start earning that money we are aspiring to get, our taste moves up. we hear "i need to get that house in V.G.C" why? will u die if u don't have the house? i think being content is another solid factor.

Pardon me to say to the guys that some of u want to impress the ladies u intend marrying or u hope to meet that's why u are hoping to get to a particular class. What ever happened to those ladies u met while at school ready to be there for u thru thick & thin. Moreover when the money comes don't some of u later feel the girl u once had no more fits in? Dat's why we see lots of "made guys" still looking for a wiffy

@ TOPIC: Its not how much, its LOVE, GOOD PLANNING & GOOD WIFE.

thanks vuitton

ok we make it Island, Alpha beach? Is dat cool?

@sauce kid
I thot i mentioned earlier every man should bring more than what u can chew, bring something u can share. depends on ur pocket. At least giving somebody else out of what u have. cool?

why do u want to know?

Okay, i've never been to kuramo, & i don't think kuramo as i've heard sound like a good idea.

I can easily get to suntan/badagry beach from my side was just trying to be fair by calling those beaches on the island. But i guess there's still no beaches like those two.

Bringing stuffs depends on individual. Bring edibles u can share as in make it at least more than ur stomach.

As for deck, games, ball e.tc, bring games of ur interests. Pack what u think is convenient for u.

Lets decide on the beach first

@Topic Thoniaslim hit it on the head.

The truth is she's feeling the bitterness of rejection & can't handle facing u.

So the best options she thinks is behaving u are irritating. Bone her jo & let her wallow in th pains of her "daughter of eve" games.

Ok this was my Ex-guy

I was in my 2/300 level, he was in another school, he was quite popular, but peeps knew we were hanging out, though in different schools.

I heard & confirmed he was having a thing or two with a friend of a girl i loathed so much at school then(but was her friend at home). Small world, he thought this was secret but things got to school & i heard thru my friends, some told me out of bad mind some out of care. It pained me so hard that that particular girl could know stuffs about me talk more of my guy.

I marched up to him & demanded explanations, on his next visit, he knew what was coming & he welcomed me with a nice wrist watch & wallet, yeah right! told me what i would want to hear, dat "she's just a friend".

I just behaved in school like i heard nothing & that nothing happened to other peeps that were interested. & i ensured his visiting was more regular. I guess gist naturally traveled back to that girl dat, my guy has someone he is serious with & quite known with, & she backed out. That issue gave me headache for too long. We are not together now, but really cool friends

Sorry Poster

the answer is easier than u thought, if Dr. friend is the last hope. i guess the hubby has no choice.

I'm dating a Doctor, & on the very path to marriage. He asked me a question like this. "Can i allow a friend of his (he mentioned his name) to take my delivery? i went mad with a blatant "NO". I asked him what he'll be doing when someone else is taking my delivery and he said "Professionally it's not right" But the argument went on, that "what if there is no other option and all dat". After much argument i came to the painful but reasonable conclusion. Anyways i'm quite used to his medical jokes. He finally told me the question often comes up amongst medical peeps

And the answer is there has to be a difference btw ur social life & ur profession. Most medicals peeps draw dat line. Even if the Gyno Doc happens to be extremely randy even in profession and extends it to his friend's wife, i guess it has to be mutual for something to happen.

Its most realizable for those living in Lagos true,

As for the beach

Eleko -chosen by yimiton on romance thread

Lekki

Suntan

Badagry

But really there isn't much difference in the beaches its d fun that matters