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ufobabe:
THANX A BUNCH DEAR!

BUT I STILL THINK I SHOULD LET GO.

I THINK 2MUCH OF HIM.

Lol, dat's only natural, it'll even up wit time.

@ rosquare
i'm good o, can't wait for friday, "the experience thingy"

@ Bolarge
U, where do u always run to? hope u r back to stay?
Not only will i not let u go, i'm strapping u on my back, Lol

@ Poster
Hmmn! _*yawns*

After u are done with your "slapping-a-girl" exercise u are now into "marrying an underaged"

Its pretty obvious ur dictionary includes only the word ABUSE

@ Ufobabe

LET IT STAY

@ Poster cool
trust Jakes

Almondjoy, "crazily sensible" girl.

One perfect Oxymoron dat suits u.

@ Poster i think u've solved half of ur problem.

I like people who are strong to whatever they are facing & hopeful

God is ur strength.

& to ur sister u've just got to forgive, it may be hard, yeah true, but u will eventually have to. Ciao.

@Nihil-cem
Its really cool of u apologizing, good spirit!

Hey guy, if u keep using the silencer method, ur marriage might be heating the rocks o. If u think its a solution then think again. I'm not married but i think i have quite an experience in my relationship. If i notice anything, i talk about it, then its cleared up, if again i'm not satisfied, i bring up the issue again. & its cleared up till i'm satisfied.

Seriously i would die, if my husband keeps silent on me for a day. I would personaly go & pull his ears or pull his trousers, i'll look for something funny to say dat would definately close the gap.

look i learnt something from my friend recently, she said "Never go to bed while still mad at ur guy" this is even relationship wise o, talk more marriage.

Don't give chances for the devil o. cos he's a tricky Bastard. Do everything to make sure u quarrel less. peace.

Sweet topic

They met in the choir, they were both choristers,

its a sweet gist, hail me for more

tonia2000:
@poster

so sorry bout your case but how come u are 27yrs on your profile, and here u are 30?

Tonia, u are a bad bad girl

@Poster
have a talk wit ur guy, tell him u want to know ur stand, cos at this point, its no "lets wait & see". Forget the guy's family, they can back out anytime. A real man makes his intension known, he only seeks for family's advice if need be, so don't go Calculating dat his family loves u, cos many times they have a weak say. Have a sit-down-and-talk thingy wit him. But most importantly pray hard about it. Cos its not a funny thing to start a new relationship at that age. either 30 or 27?

Fileki:
Jk preety,
do guys still say all those? i heard somin' like that while i was in JSS

They do some fine tuning when older, not as direct as when younger

@ Poster

I don't think u should keep in touch, just move on, act like his dead so perhaps, if he realizes his mistakes he could come back.

Don't place ur mind like u think he may come back. Although he could if u are deeply sure he once loved u.

Right now, don't give any attention to him, don't call him Ignore him totally. because i know this feeling that comes when u don't want to see somebody, any kind of move from u to him at this point will be very irritating to him. He needs to be freed. So free him ignore him, act very independent. This act shakes guys after sometimes becos they would have thought u can't do witout them.

Stay away from him as much as possible. People like dat, when they hear u've gotten a brilliant job urself, they ache to come back. Most importantly don't act like ur Age is getting on u to any guy at all.

Ur Sanity is most important, don't loose it cos of a guy.

Please almondjoy & frankies take things easy. Can't u get this over with? from thread to thread? I think U have over-extended this. Please put a stop to it.

I was enjoying this thread & the replies & was really learning alot from the married peeps. I really would wish it would continue.

@Administrator
Can we have a court section on nairaland, where people can carry their case to instead on using threads, we have enough lawyers on NL that would be of help. seriously but i wish their could be.

Dablessed i thought i had goose bumps on this topic, but your story, oh God! is so touching, God is your strength woman.

I understand what iice & spoilt are trying to say, It is naturally believed that that the wealth of the family belongs mainly to the husband here in Africa, so If the woman dies, i've not seen any case of wife's people going after the property & sending the guy packing. The reverse is usually the case. Forgetting that there are women who actually earn more money than their husbands, but have decided to make this lay low within the family & make it not obvious to those outside e.g driving the less expensive car & making the husband drive the more expensive one. Many ladies are in this position. It can only be known to the public if the Status of the woman is so high & can't be overlooked.(although i admit that not all women are that good)

Now if such woman dies her wealth all goes to the husband & no family comes sneaking. Is it now that if we've realized we are successful, probably more than our husbands, we should keep mute about some investment put to the name of only our children? i think its really unfair to the women because not all women have the heart of holding that kind of secret.


Its really pathetic the way u see things change in families when, especially the husband dies. My best friend in Primary school just just in j.s.1 when her father died, & by the time i came home for holidays myself, i was told that, they've all moved to their village. That the father's family came to take all they had & asked them to go to the village. I guess that was the first time i was seeing life! We wrote letters to each other until after Sec. school & lost contact. All that time i was young but it pained me so hard, i wish i were older. This is someone i know the life she lived before reduced to a village girl.

I think is fair for the guys, but more painful for women if the husband dies.

ginnie:
Showing off how wealthy they are because they want to get you

As in - introducing his wealth first before himself as if it is only his wealth that matters and his money would cover up for all his numerous flaws .


Nothing could be so annoying and disgusting

Thank u jare, What can be more annoying than that.

Its even better if its their wealth, more annoying if Its their father's wealth or name. Funny if its a relative.

"i'm a cousin to dangote", "Adenuga is my step Father" Huh, so boring!

I'm scared to take the next step! got it poster

Romance section, with its recent Ugly/beauty/pretty/plain/chimp girls topics. Do i smell some complex here

They have their ways around people. It has happened to a couple of people i know around. Its just some food to the hungry. And asper xmas is approaching. They need xmas shoes now

U've led her on, now u want to turn back.

When u knew u had a girlfriend, why the sweet giberish!

U've caused ur whahala, go & solve it, with the same mouth u used to find it.

I know that recharge card thingy! if any one does it for me, u go wait tire

good for u Yimi, God saved your ass head

@ Poster
I understand this ur demonstration of love thingy o.

I traveled past seven states, to see my 'ex. Nah! that was stupidity.

@ Poster


B4 u came hear, & posted this topic, i'm sure u are damned sure dat u like this corper friend of urs. & u'ved become almost confused. That anything has not happened is by pure grace.

Ur girl friend knows u enough to smell trouble when its coming, no matter how lightly u phrase ur "she's just a friend" dat's why she doesn't want to come closer

The so called corper, might as well have things up her sleves. She might just be using the "i'm going to get married as soon as i get out of here" thingy, to make u feel she's on guard & does not fancy u.

I smell a a dead fish here,Hmmn! i wonder how u could describe the corper with such words "a fresh air? or what was it u said? In reference to ur other thread, placed here. Boy! U've been looking at dem girls too much. Be careful b4 ur girlfriend becomes history.

Make ur girlfriend ur bestfriend. Amout!

@ poster
i just see this as some kind of small jealousy that occurs, when some girl takes away ur favorite brother. Ur cousin is sure feeling she has lost u to somebody else. & probably feels hurt knowing the fact that u'll be having some one closer than she is to u, more so someone that u barely met, taking over the show.

This is some natural thing dat happens, i'm sure your cousin will get over it & if she dosn't Hmmn! U might have sparked up something in her that u simply do not realize.

Hmmm! its must have been too much of ladybird stories (Cinderella, snow white, beauty & d beast). Its quite good to have a thought of a prince charming & a "live happily forever after" ending after marriage. I wish it were real, no troubles, no trials, no temptations. Once u've found love its the end.
Hmmn! maybe modern day Nigeria got people reasoning this way. Becos i'm sure the moonlight stories, that were told to our fathers, under the trees in the village, were more of virtues, morals, etiquettes which molds good upbringing & hard work with no fantasy.

@poster it has started

But u are the last on the list

Shinatu:
Most of our contributions have been on the basis that the man dies, what if it is the woman and she has been more wealthy than the man, what does she do? Make the man her next of kin and leave all her savings to the man, only for him to marry again(which he has the right to) and start to spend the woman's money on the new wife and children since the new wife will be around to make sure that her children's interests are taken care of?

What do you think?

Wow, u've got a good point there.
With that situation, the answer is studying your spouse enough before u get married. But only a stupid man will use all his late wife's investment on another wife & kid. When things such as death & re-marriage occurs to a man, its takes a woman with a complete good heart, to give the former children the best as if it were hers, but this is so rare.

This is a situation in which we shouldn't pray 4, its really sickening to think about all issues raised here. I'm having goose bumps already. Lets pray to die old & as well our spouses, that way we won't be scared of anything but happy to move on or is it let go?

this is just about somethings i was making my brother understand yesterday. i simply told him i can't sit down @home & not work, if my husband asks me to. I don't see my self as someone dat will sit down doing nothing, changing diapers, cooking & waiting for my husband to come back from work. I told him i'm sorry i can't afford to live a stereotyped life.

He gave me an instance of his boss who's wife is a medical doctor, but now at home. I told him i would be darmd crazy to have such qualification & be at home. We argued over this for hours, it ended like "okay o if ur husband ask u to stay at home with the kids don't stay, run after career" i told him, i'll ensure i fix myself up wit some other thing dat'll at least still save my family, if my job gets so tasking.

Women wake up, Its starts from when u guys are dating, when u are being over pampered by ur spouse it leads to some unnecessary weakness, & u put all the glory on him, he has showered u with so much dat u feel, u need less struggle. I think this problem starts from u guys, don't over pamper your spouses, like she's one idol or some decoration to be worshipped daily. Talk to her sometimes like u are talking with ur fellow guy. Make her able to come up with something. If u have a company show her how its run. If u don't bring out that aspect of her, that thing u see she's good at. I'm sure u got to know her best color without her telling u, so i see no reason why u can't see where she belongs.

I've see women that their husband seemed to tie down at home, but developed some other natural interest. Like adding chemicals for liquid soap, creating an extra room for sewing (i intend learning how to sew myself) or making hats.

I saw a role model in my mum, there are times in the family, even when the spouse dosn't even die. There are times the family is shaken so hard. If the woman is not strong, u can imagine what will happen.

Be careful guys cos this mistakes comes from u too.

@Poster i think u are senseless, & presume u want to remain senseless for a good part of ur short life on earth.

If u simply can't smell dat the guy is there to ruin ur life, then i wonder the essence of ur brain.

U don't need a reply 'cos u are simply a sick person who has chosen to remain a concubine for life.

Duh! Get a life.

rockiedink:
@yimiton
perhaps you might be right, but what if he is the shy type that gets cold feet easily? you could help him out y'know let him know. i never said you should let him know overtly. covertly would do the trick(you ladies are professionals at that) especially when you see the guy digs you and is just shy?

jkpretty, whaddya think?

Since i dint help him in his oral English classes, why should i help him out in this case

Joking though, but aint gonna help nobody, if he digs me so much & don't have guts. He should buy it

@ Poster
that is one of the sister's rules "Never date ur girlfriend's Ex"
_{cos whether u like it or not, one of them has a selfish plan}

I'm sure he can't be the last man standing on earth, so why should it be him.
_{even if he is, i'll go to mars}

Is this for the guys only Even if it is, i'll drop

All i can say is that its usually very hard for a guy to find true love while working, what ever happened to the girls u met while at school?

What ever though i believe u can find love anywhere. school girl or no school girl.

yimiton:
The best thing to do here is this: NOTHING!

Dat's the best thing dearie, do nothing!, wait & watch

cos anything u say or do, may be detrimental. ciao!

Pain:
Why Partake in The Murder of the Innocent?

This case is simple. Send her off to the BabyFather!

Pain, did these words really come from u?