₦airaland Forum

Sirchiboy:
I formed aweareness against yelloww women in Nigeria.
Those people have destroy the life of their kids and made their childhood traumatic..
I keep saying , you don't know what God had done for you if your mother is a black mother.

Stop posting these gibberish you keep posting like a bot here! The fact that your mother is ALLEGEDLY a bad example, doesn't mean all fair mothers are like her!

My own mom is a typical example of a "yellow pawpaw". She's fair and very beautiful like the typical Igbo ''yellow pawpaw '' but you needed to see her working those days. She worked like a Jackie and through her combined efforts with my dad, all of us acquired university education.

I get irritated whenever I see your posts castigating your parents here! From what I can deduce in all you've been posting about your parents, you're the problem and not your parents! Your entitlement mentality stinks to high heavens! Don't go and work and change your family's financial situation. Remain there and be looking for whom to blame!

Just imagine! That's why the sector is in shambles!

Go to most of our public hospitals, they're still grappling with shortage of health workers and lack of equipment and drugs!

No wonder those hospitals lacked antivenoms to treat the snake bite victim! What kind of country is this please This is wickedness of the highest degree we are witnessing in our health sector!

You can't tell me there's no money in this country to get our health sector fixed! The opulence and extravagant lifestyles of our political office holders is a clear testament to the fact that there's money in this country! Our evil, wicked and unthinking politicians are simply sharing all the money to their selves and their families! Chai! God save this country nau, abeg!

Entanglement:
so if you caught her cheating will you forgive her?

Cheating is a different thing all together. My girl knows that cheating is a deal breaker for me so I'm sure she wouldn't dare!

Kalulu44:
Forgiving her short comings like sleeping with another guy while still with you abi

That would be the red line and I'm sure she won't dare! But most other things that lead to marital issues can be overcome by constant forgiveness of your partner even after showing your displeasure

dollytino4real:
do u know where good men is? because dey are not from my tribe o

I'm sure there are many good men in your tribe or other tribes around you. You're the one who chose to marry a man who is giving you hell!

Wise ladies are able to decipher good men who would give them peace in marriage but the unwise and confused ones focus on ephemeral things and then end up with the bad guys only for them to turn around and start complaining after the marriage.

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cmikel:
Failed state , where the medical staff care less of human life.

The way theses hospital staff behave to patience on that country will make you wonder wat a country is that.


Everything boils down to failed leadership


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Health workers remain the hardest working cadre of civil servants in Nigeria yet they are grossly underpaid, overworked and suppressed!

Government fail to employ enough health workers to man our hospitals thereby overworking the few ones available, why won't they be unhappy

Hospitals are meant to run 24/7 but government would not employ enough hands to deliver health services! It is a shame! That's why you see some health workers being unhappy and venting their angers on the patients!

Let FG develop a system that ensures that employment of health workers gets easy to ensure that the hospitals are running efficiently such that as older health workers are retiring/resigning, they are effectively replaced by newer ones! Also, they should be well-paid and have their other welfares taken care of.

If the above is not done, we will just have to live with the consequences of being cared for by an unhappy and unhealthy health workforce!

eniolorunfe:
Your wife was 19/20 when you got married and you were 30/31 and you didn’t prepare for drama(s)? The age difference is a lot! 11 years?! More than a decade

As per your question, the ball is in your court. Your wife no send you.

So, older women don't display dramas in their marriages Why do you guys like lying about age difference being a cause of marital issues and wives' dramas? Just anything to discourage men from marrying younger girls!


@op, I'll advise you to do everything within your power to get your wife back. Attend the funeral and make sure your wife notices your presence. Do everything you can to help give your mother-in-law a befitting funeral.

After like one months of mourning, go back and do everything to get your wife back. Good thing that your father-in-law seems to be on your side. Remember that in our culture, men are usually the ones who marry off their daughters! Or did you pay her bride price to her mother?

Drop your ego at this point and beg your wife and in-laws, buy her favourite gifts and melt her heart. I'm sure that if she sees the seriousness in you, your wife will come around. The issue wouldn't have lingered for this long if not that you allowed your ego get a better part of you. So, drop that ego now, beg your wife and get your family back.

There's nothing serious in this issue to warrant the lingering separation. After reconciling with your wife, make sure you don't repeat this mistake of laying your hands on her ever again. Don't listen to all these people here advising you to move on. Many of them would crawl to their wives if they find themselves in similar situation!

I have been saying it here since that Christians in Nigeria have been totally emasculated politically by the Muslims!

This is largely due to the fact that while the northern and Muslim population keeps soaring, the southern and Christian population is on a steady decline! This mismatch is the result of the fact that while the Christian south is busy imbibing western ideologies and lifestyles which does not encourage population growth, the northern Muslims stand against the western lifestyles hence their continued population growth!

If this trend continues, I can assure you that in no distant time, the southerners and Christianity would go extinct and give way for Islam to thrive!

The only thing that can save Christianity in this part of the world is a total division of the country either along religious line or along tribal and regional lines so that the different people can grow and thrive at their own paces!

Jorussia:
You guys have refused to let this misleading claims of no Anti venom end.I watched videos even from close friends who where present when anti venom was administered to her.Her was particularly painful and it has nothing to do with supposed lack of anti venom.

What sort of anti venom was administered to her and in what state was the supposed anti venom? Or perhaps they just administered an expired and weakened substance to her and claimed she was given anti venom? And why did the previous hospitals she went to not have the said anti venom Does it not boil down to the same thing we are saying?
Something as important as polyvalent anti snake venoms shouldn't be out-of-stock in any A/E of any hospital!

Her death was due to lack of urgent and timely care caused by unavailability of polyvalent anti snake venoms in the previous hospitals she ran to for help! The venom already did irreversible damages to her system before the supposed anti venom was administered!

Hmmmmm....so, this girl is even an Ada Nkanu!

Chai!!!

Her death is really heartbreaking! Imagine running around seeking help and watching her death coming close yet no help was rendered to save her!

What kind of country is this please An oil-producing nation with lots of other resources yet government has failed woefully to fix our healthcare sector! Our hospitals lacked common anti snake venom to help this young and beautiful soul live!

RIP to you, Ada. Your country failed you!

And that's the only thing they bring to the table yet they can't do it well.
Seeing a lady who knows how to knack and is not shy or inhibited in bed is a really difficult task.

Samantha, I'm sure you must have been having a tough time looking for any contents like this so you could use it to taunt your lovely SA sisters who are married to Nigerian men. At long last you were able to find this! Congratulations on this "achievement"!

News flash: For every single Nigerian man/SouthAfrican ladies marriages experiencing turbulence, there are hundred more that are peaceful and stable.

Even this very one doesn't seem like the couple have serious issues in the marriage, just normal brawls that occasionally happen among couples! For you to use it as a basis to taunt your sisters married to Nigerian men only portrays you as unintelligent.

While I support the USA, Trump must know where to draw the line and stop acting like a bully to every other nations --- including allies!

If the rest of NATO decides to come against the US, Trump will be in a hot soup!

Honoredeblazac:
Really? What killed a sitting senator so quickly

You know some of them have the culture of not caring enough about their healths and thinking they are too strong to die until things get out of hands

Anybody going into marriage must prepare his or her mind to forgive his or her partner over and over again! It is actually in marriage that the number of times we should forgive our offenders as written in the Bible comes into practice. This is why I'm marrying the girl I genuinely love because forgiving her shortcomings will be very easy for me because of how deeply I desire her.

Not only that they should refund the money but the cause of death must be investigated as it appears she was given an overdose of anaesthetic agents which sent her into coma and led to her death.

Autopsy must be carried out and if the hospital is found culpable in her death, appropriate punishment must be meted out to the doctor(s) involved. That's aside the refund of the 500k paid for the procedure.

ElevationD:
Where is the match there? Do you prefer to continue the endless looting over accountability?

Umahi was in no way Oshiomole’s match. I wonder how you youths did not clearly understand what Oshiomole was driving at. He was asking for accountability clearly and rather than defend the budget prepared by his ministry, Umahi resorted to insolence, braggado and his usual arrogance.

The cost of construction at a point was detailed by Umahi as 14. 1 million and Oshiomole wanted to know if it was a highway or footpath. Oshiomole further asked him to focus on fixing existing roads and making them longer lasting, rather than building brand new roads, appropriating trillions of naira on new roads that will go on endlessly, just like his “legacy” Lagos-Calabar coastal roads. It showed that leaders like Oshiomole who did not agree on the construction of those kinds of roads.

Until youths like you begin to question the leaders of this country and demand accountability, they will continue to keep you all in bondage.

I didn't excuse Umahi from being accountable for his dealings as minister of works. What I meant was that Oshiomhole whom we all know with his thuggish braggadocio met his match in Umahi who also exhibit same attitude.

Oshiomhole definitely met his match in Umahi!

Dave Umahi na no-nonsense man o

The UK is not saturated and there are not more Nigerians there than people from other countries.

All that is needed is for the UK government to sustain its laws and ensure corruption doesn't creep in. They should get both migrants and citizens strictly adhere to laws governing the country.

Nigerians are hardworking people! They only need to be provided the right leadership that would keep them in checks. They'll contribute greatly in building a better economy for the UK.

As for Nigeria, I don't think we are ready for a change because during elections, tribalism, nepotism and religious fanaticism are what Nigerians emphasize in choosing their leaders. Under such conditions, you'll agree with me that there's no hope for a better Nigeria.

For him to receive those two awards concurrently means that he's truly working.

Kudos to him and congratulations to Zamfara people!

This is the height of betrayal!
Killing your friend who may have even done so much for you!
May the criminal be found and made to face the full weight of the law.

RIP to the dead

If your story is true and if she's really unhappy in her marriage, I'm sure the problem didn't stem from age difference between her and her husband. Rather, she might even be the problem herself but has failed to see that she's the problem! Also, I can assure you that if that lady was married to you she would have still complained to other guys that she wasn't happy in the marriage with you. She would probably have wished she married someone older.

So, the problem could be from her!

Dalohad:
You have self-confessed cultists like Kabaka appointed and sponsored by the Governor, building mansions and building hotels, yet you want to stop cultism in Edo?

With people like Kabaka, young Edo youths can see that cultism pays in Edo. So how do you argue and advice them otherwise?

Keep fooling yourselves in that state.

Exactly! Kabaka, Bob Izua and other prominent men in the state all belong to one cult or the other. Even Okpebholo himself!

What the governor seems to be doing is a perpetuation of inter-cult rivalry because he's fighting only the NBM while giving leverage to the other groups to thrive, including the Eiye(2-2) which I learnt he belongs to. So, what they are doing is exercise in futility because the youths are seeing that most of the people rising to prominence in the state's politics belong to one cult group or another.

They're seeing that during elections, these same politicians pretending to be fighting cultism now are the ones who still sponsor the hardest guys among the cultists to rig elections for them and gain political appointments or other political favours from the governments they helped enthrone. So, why would the youths not want to belong

This is really heartbreaking!
Nigeria has claimed yet another beautiful soul!

If the government had done the needful and prevented the last strike by health workers, many of these deaths wouldn't have happened. But no! The minister of health in conjunction with NMA thought they could muscle up the health workers and force them to return to work!

Many of our public hospitals are not functioning optimally the way they should due to problems ranging from lack of equipment, gross shortage of health workers and maladministration by the medical doctors who occupy all the leadership positions in these hospitals. Go to some departments in our public hospitals and you'll see that just a few number of staff are employed to attend to the multitude of patients coming to the hospital. This is despite the fact that hospitals are meant to run 24-7.

RIP to the young lady! In her next life, I'm sure she would not want to be born Nigerian. Too bad!

You see why they say that ''He who seeks equity must come with clean hands "? The political class in this country contribute largely to all the crimes we have here! During elections and even after, they patronise the criminals and form alliances with them just to win elections and afterwards they come pretending like they want to fight the same criminals! It won't work!

Can Okpebholo swear that all through his political career, he has not been in alliances with a cult group? You can't be owing allegiance to one group and pretend to be fighting cultism! It doesn't work that way!

franchasofficia:
If you are a man, I doubt you are financially buoyant and successful, until you attain that height, let's leave the discussion till then, have a great day and thanks for your attention to this matter

The way some of you reason here on this matter is just somehow! Is it that you don't know that there are many principled men out there who would not want to break their vows of fidelity and commitment to their wives regardless how rich they become or what? I don't know the cycle of men you have around you but my own cycle of men are principled and level-headed men who would not compromise their integrity for a few minutes of pleasure with some side chicks. And some these men I'm referring to are bastardly rich and influential in the society!

So, you guys need to stop with this annoying generalisation of all men as being incapable of staying faithful to one wife.

So, what's the essence of this write up? To discourage people from leaving the sh1thole or what? While there may be some challenges with the UK healthcare system due to the fact that not many people over there want to go through the stress of studying medicine and other healthcare courses due to the stress involved, that doesn't in away mean that the Nigerian system is any better!

All the UK government needs is to open up their borders to absorb more healthcare professionals from India and Africa. That way, they'll be able to solve the problem of inadequate health work force.

All the other problems you mentioned can be seen at a worst level here in Nigeria. Insecurity, bad economy etc are in multiple folds here in Nigeria compared to the UK.

No matter how bad people like this op make life in the UK appear, the evidence on ground would continue to expose the truth. We have relatives who left Nigeria out of frustration due to how bad things were for them in Nigeria. Yet today, those people are far better than they were in Nigeria. Many of them now have investments they never imagined having back in Nigeria. So, you can paint whatever bad pictures you want about the UK, evidences are always there to expose the truth.

OmoOshodi:
Cheating is in our blood ... infact cheating is our calling

Allow us to cheat in peace..

This is my 11th year in marriage...I never knack another woman out of my marriage despite plenty opportunity to do so
Conscience no gree me

Truly, na conscience things o. Me personally, once I'm inlove with one lady, I find it very difficult loving another to the point of cheating with her. My conscience and the love I have for my woman will not let me.

Fuckyoumod:
RIP to him.

The society forbids that, it irritates, it provokes and make people lose their sanity.

A wise man would have jettisoned the idea of being a gay in a place or society where it's regarded as a taboo.

I as much are you think he has the right to be a gay, the society also have a right to reject and say no to gay.

No parent should ever experience this level taboo.

Was it his fault that he was gay? Did he create himself

This guy's death is just annoying me so much! I wish I could sue the devils that killed him and get them sentenced to death by hanging!

Like my people would say "when carrying the corpse of another person's child it'll feel like though it is a log of wood"

This is really terrible! It is possible this young man might not even be gay but just misunderstood. Some people in this part of world would accuse you of being gay just because you're fair in complexion, feminine in appearance or for keeping long nails.

Even if he was gay, that's not enough ground to gruesomely murder him in that manner! I pity those supporting or celebrating this dastardly act because they'll certainly not escape the wrath of God.

RIP to the young man.

Those people criticizing her are very insensitive and heartless! Ffs, the young lady is still a student and only trying to make a living for herself. She has every potential of building good houses for her dad in the near future.

Mocking the dead is the lowest anyone can descend. Too bad!

DeltaBachelor:
This is the problem with marrying at a very young age

And what would you say when you see an older wife that beats up her husband?

This is not about age but about character defects! Normally, younger girls are even calmer and more obedient to their husbands.