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Mynd44:
Well actually, its her body and she can decide not to have any children sef.

This would be correct if both were single but within the institution of marriage, this statement would be incorrect.

In definition on marriage basis, neither of the spouse can take decisions concerning the family alone. It's no longer your life, your decision. By going into marriage, you have taken a partner whose opinion matters just as much.

The flip side is that it is his life, he can decide to walk out of the marriage to go have more kids.

If both parties can't reach a mutual consensus or compromise, then this would be valid. They can both walk away.

These things shouldn't be binary. Childbirth isn't easy and a lot of women after going through one dont want or are scared to have another and they should not be blackmailed into it. But women should also not blackmail men into staying in a marriage where she has refused to have more and he refused.

I think this is a case of, if you can't stand the heat, get the F out of the kitchen.

A better solution is surrogacy. Her eggs, his sperm and someone else (paid or whatever the arrangement is) carries the baby to term. Everyone is happy.

Most people don't want that and most people can't afford that. Can we talk about things that are feasible please?

Childbirth does a lot of things to women, a lot of women have to stop their careers, have to give up dreams, have to watch their body go through (sometimes irreversible) change so please do not blame them for not wanting it.

There are two options involved.

1. Don't get married at all

2. Find a partner who don't want children

P.s: I don't believe having a career is better or even remotely more noble than fostering lifwe.

But is it selfish? Of course it is. But is it wrong? No.

In marriage? Prrrreft

Reader530:
Good day nairalanders. I want a sincere advice from you people.

A friend visited me almost two weeks ago. He has never visited me before, but when he came I thought he would not spent more than two days because apart from the cloth he was wearing the day he came, he didn't bring additional cloth, no brush, no soap, etc.

At first, he told me he can stay with me even up to a month with one cloth. He said, besides, he was sacked from his work.

Today, he forgot that he told me he was sacked; but he told me that he is on annual leave. The father asked him to come home for burial of his relative but he told me he would not go. I told him Npower has not paid us, but I will source for his transport, but he doesn't understand me. He thought, I will give him the whole money even if Npower pays, all the money I planned and budgeted for his coming was exhausted. I added some money to make sure he eats good meal thrice in a day.

In a nutshell, I am tired, I want to be alone for now. How should I tell him I want him to leave in a pleasant manner. Please positive advice will be highly appreciated.

Thanks all

Tell him you want him to leave. It's your house. It's time you started acting like it is.

I'm not gonna put up with someone on the expense of my own comfort and sanity. I can't afford that

kimbraa:
I don't understand. It doesn't seem like he has even stayed up to a month, and you're already complaining of privacy.

Does it matter? Even if it's a year, month, week, day or even an hour. When someone needs their privacy, they need it and no one is entitled to accommodation from another.

I think he's going through a lot and a good friend would be understanding.

I will be empathic but not to the point of unconvincing myself so much that i get fruatrated. The OP sounds fed up and this is a point no one should entertain. He is not the cause of his problems and it is not his responsibility to carry it for him. If he thinks he can't cope with it, his friend should go and sort himself out.

I'm not trying to blackmail you whatsoever,

I think you kinda are.

I just think you shouldn't spoil the goodness you've started.

I rather think his friend should not push the limits of his luck on their friendship. Don't be a liability on someone else because we are struggling and its hard enough already to add someone else to it.

His friend should know better than overstay at a friend's place. You viait, you leave.

Your best option is getting him tell you the state of things, and how long he would be staying.

I agree. Tell him you need space and want to be alone that it's time he left.

The best you can do is to very polite and kind with it

HomoLuminous:
No sir!

I don't practice religion. If that's what you mean.

But you subscribe to biblical conception of God?

delkuf:
I like Christian, always giving them the truth. God will continue to increase your knowledge

Are you a Christian?

HomoLuminous:
Google's definition of emotion

a strong feeling deriving from one's circumstances, mood, or relationships with others.

God cannot be in a circumstance. He is connected to all things

So he is incapable of emotion.

Only love for all

Are you a Christian?

krattoss:
Take him to court

what will be her case? I'm curious.

I am going to reply this but i am too sleepy at the moment. Let me sleep for a couple of hours more then come back and reply

tartar9:
One of thae most murderous institutions the world has elver seen now advocating for the abolition of the death penalty.
The doctrines of xtianity keep changing to fit please the times.I guess they would readily sing a new tune when a new trend emerges on the death penalty issue.

Don't you think Islam should do same?

felixomor:
- But the opposite of omniscient is not inept
So i will take it that your use of the word to describe stems from a bias you already have towards God.

That little spark of Dishonesty will not allow you to pick the point in the post.

Secondly Omniscient means all Knowing .
That I know everything doesnt make me obliged to do everything
As a matter of fact, my knowledge can cause my action to cease.




- Wrong!!!!
Thousands of years ago,
Maybe this would have been correct
Not in the world of today.

Human knowledge and technology has advanced very well and rapidly.




I already explained omniscient
Omnipotent means all capable
All capable doesn't mean all willing

If you hear
" a father refused to pay his sons school fees"

Can you therefore conclude that the father is not capable of being a father based on only that sentence.
Wont you ask for reasons first?
Its simple.



- ok



This is where the Dishonesty landed u.

If I wanted to compare Prayers and Medicine

I would have probably started with another type of paragraph.

The writer I replied Implied that prayer was ineffective because millions died praying.

I replied by saying millions also died while using treatment.
Mind you, I was expecting him to also subsequently ask
"Therefore is Treatment ineffective?"
Knowing fully well there are things that can make treatment fail

I would have also replied thus
That there are things that can also make prayer to be unanswered.

If you read the Bible, you would know them.




-
Wrong again.!!!!

Failings of science can be due to human factors such as poor procedures, compliance to treatment, non standard conditions etc.




15%
Wow. Good
So How Are u then sure you are analyzing this issue properly with the right amount of brain capacity?

#sighs. Ok

felixomor:
Likewise
Are u saying advanced medicine is inept.?
If yes, then why do you depend on it?

I am saying humans are not omniscient, humans are not omnipotent. Our medical science and technology is grossly limited.

Use ineptitude if you will.

Human knowledge and technology are still at infancy.

It can't be compared to that of an omniscient and omnipotent being.

If you don't see the flaw in your comparison then cool.

You are more intelligent than this obviously,

My post simply tells you there are many other conditions and circumstances which surrounds faith and prayers just as there are also many other conditions which can cloud the efficacy of chemotherapy or cancer treatment.
In the Bible,
Job prayed to God.
Jesus prayed etc.
There are conditions which surround prayers etc.
There are unanswered prayers etc
So many things.
Its simple.

Comparing it to medical science is a bizarre comparison.

Answered prayers are forms of charity from whomever answers the prayers.

Failings of medical science is simply due to it's limited nature.

So all i am saying is that it is a weird comparison to compare the results (or lack of it) of an omniscient and omnipotent being with that of humans that do not even use up to 15% of their brain capacity.

oyb:
Ehen? My first salary was 25k.

Mine was 17k. No amount is ever too small to start a life with

LeoFish92:
Greetings family-landers, I'm having this issue which has been bordering me, I finished service last year, recently got an online side hustle which gives me 30k per month.

And at 26,I'm no longer comfortable staying at home with my parents, I can't hang out late with my friends without my parents drowning my phone with calls, as early as 8.pm at night the calls will start flowing as if I'm a customer care agent. (really frustrating)

Almost all my guys are living on their own, and to make matters worse, I can't receive any female visitor cos of my religious parents and lack of privacy.

On the flip side, I'm scared if a 30k monthly salary can be enough for a guy who wants to rent and probably furnish a self-con of 70-80k per year. (I'm not the extravagant type)

I've never lived alone so I'm really confused if I should make this move at this point in my life.

Guys who are living on their own, what's your take on this?

I left home at 23 when i was still earning 17k a month. Shared a 1 room apartment with a friend.

Now i am 25 and i live in my own flat.

Take that first step bro, it will not be anything near easy but it is necessary.

If you do not do what you can't do, you will never be more than you are.

You will definitely suffer, it will be too hard but you won't die.

You will only get better.

You have food, you have a shelter over your head, you don't worry about nepa bills, you don't bother about anything.

Step out of your comfort zone, that is when you will understand the necessity to do more

felixomor:
Millions also die while using drugs, chemotherapy and advanced treatment.

So.....
Whats your point.

Is it really a good argument on your part to compare the efficacy of man's devices in all man's ineptitude with that of God who by definition is not inept?

Are you saying God is inept?

Are you saying God can't or do not know how to do better? (Which contradicts omnipotency and omniscience)

This is not really a good counter argument to the argument the guy above raised bro

Hahahaha now this is something and i was keenly following the thread.

TruthXXX7:
..

Please what happened? Why did you stop half way?

Holuwaferanmi:
yeah my bad , i just wondered how stars that are very distant from each other will be arranged to complete the task Mr seun Stated

The maker of such system could easily do it. We are very tiny creatures and thus the creator of the cosmos will be at least not as small as we are in contrast to the comsos. At least big enough or powerful enough to alter anything he wants.

madridguy:
I'm pointing that out for you to be rest assured that Issa Ibn Maryam is a Muslim and not otherwise.

Are there biblical references that shows Jesus was a muslim? Or is it just as much delusion as thinking he was Christian?

budaatum:
.

What is the book about?

Holuwaferanmi:
Stars are suns tho

More correctly, the sun is a star

vaxx:
it seems you do not understand the argument raised.. the philosophical position of Buddha is the causes of suffering can be remove by removing desire at the third truth. And he again said to remove the desire we should follow the eight fold path. which means . If you do not follow the Eight Fold Path, desire cannot be removed. It is self contradicting as well as self-defeating to say that desire will only be removed by continuously having a desire........because once we remove desire, how can we follow the eight fold......


It seems you don't even understand the argument raised.

Or perhaps you do not understand the arguments Buddha made (Not Budaatum)

Even i who just read the reply from budaatum and donwit up there figured out that there wasn't really a contradiction as you have argued.

Your argument do not distinguish between desires which in it self is a flaw (A misrepresentation) of the premise.

Read Budaatum's reply slowly. It's too obvious to miss

pressplay411:
There's so much I wish to share with you but you cannot get the Rhema without the Holyspirit. If I share them with you, they will only confuse you more and probably lead you astray more.

Please accept Christ as your Saviour. Choose to Follow Jesus Christ. He is the only Way to Truth and Life, Peace and Joy and God's abundance. He is simply the Solution to all problems and for all people.

1 John - That which was from the beginning, which we have heard, which we have seen with our eyes, which we have looked upon, and our hands have handled, concerning the Word of life— 2 the life was manifested, and we have seen, and bear witness, and declare to you that eternal life which was with the Father and was manifested to us— 3 that which we have seen and heard we declare to you, that you also may have fellowship with us; and truly our fellowship is with the Father and with His Son Jesus Christ. 4 And these things we write to you that [a]your joy may be full.

5 This is the message which we have heard from Him and declare to you, that God is light and in Him is no darkness at all. 6 If we say that we have fellowship with Him, and walk in darkness, we lie and do not practice the truth. 7 But if we walk in the light as He is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus Christ His Son cleanses us from all sin.

8 If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. 9 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 10 If we say that we have not sinned, we make Him a liar, and His word is not in us.

Wow. Ok

pressplay411:
Satan, yes. He was his best, before Pride crept in and he fell.
Satan has God-given Wisdom which is why he's a genius. But as a true believer and disciple of Christ you become wiser than him.

If God created the originator of evil, doesn't this make God the primary source of evil?

pressplay411:
Perhaps it will help if you knew some of the names of God.
God is Light, Truth, Righteous, Holy, Good and Love.

On this premise, everything good is of God.
Genesis 1:31 God saw that everything He made was very good.
Consequently, everything bad and evil is from you-know-who.

May your curiousity lead you to theTruth.

Did God also create you know who?

awesomeJ:
Divide 1 by 7 billion, what do you get? zero right?. That's how insignificant you are. Who cares whether or not you're convinced?

Argumentum ad populum

ProfGday:
1... He's a song writer ...not buyers
2. He's creative...check all his videos
3. He has the voice that sooth his act
4.He has the charisma of a band leader
5. He's also an activist not like those kids screaming toto and dicks all over their albums
6. He has scandal-free career ...u know waramin ?
7. He's amal mater is OAU...Oba awon University.
8. His name command respect .... I'm not talking about over-hype musicians who know next to nothing about keys on keyboard.
9. He's a multi-instrumentalist but takes Sax as his baby.
10...Argue with facts if you're not convinced

You are trying to tell an Indomie generation end time child what makes Lagbaja legendary?

I mean the name alone is enough for anyone who was born then to know.

Don't bother bro, don't bother

vaxx:
I don't know how I can made myself clearer better than what i put up....he said he wants God to rearrange the stars in such a way that will spell ""I am God and he exist"" and I said if such scenario play out, I will deny such God because that evidence is too low in comparison to say '"wonder of evolution"" for an
Example.....

ok

TOSIN116:
I don't buy the idea

For you to say God do not exist or christianity is false you should have enough evidence.

Or you claim is just a simple assumption.

Evidently you don't understand how logic works then ...

vaxx:
you don't even get the oxymoron .....the former statement made by seun that he want to see stars rearranging itself in a statement that will validate the existence of God.....which literally means seun is indicating that if God exist he should let the stars arrranged itself in such a way that will tell everyone he God exist.....and I do reply that if such scenario work ,I will rather worship the stars rather than the God because it is an insufficient evidence.....you need to read up again dude.

I still think you do not grasp or misrepresenting what he said.

vaxx:
if this are the way law proceedings works in court of law, We will never arrive at any conclusion. Let me put your logic into another perspective.......assuming abacha family decide to sue the presidency that the money claimed to be stolen by the ex head of state was actually not his money because there is no data that credit his name to any account in Switzerland bank. Will that alone be tenable in court of law when there are evidence that links him to several account overthere......

It seems you are asking for too low evidence....seeking for a star to declare that he is God....if such a scenario work.i will deny that God and worship stars....because that is less sufficient and not even up to the wonders of evolution. I can only agree on evidence that links him to every creation...

I think this is strawman because this argument misrepresents his argument.

There is a difference between God rearranging the stars to spell out 'I am God; i exist' in ths sky

And

A star declaring it is God.

Seun's comment was hinged on the former, i don't know where you got the later from.

TOSIN116:
Are Atheist able to prove beyond reasonable doubt that there is no spiritual force and religions such as Christianity are made up?

This is burden of proof reversal. The onus is on you to prove there is. Your lack of proof speaks louder

urheme:
Morality is positive if effect is given to it by an enactment.

What if an action is not positive but is collectively agreed on by the society?

On the second note I agree with you, society spell out what is morally acceptable not individuals, morality must strike at the collective conscience of the people.

So what we term moral is more so social acceptability?

Johnydon22 is bin a while.

Yes my brother. How have you been?