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LadyD22:
Is there any trustworthy dating app that you know ?
I tried to check bumble but everybody is just looking for a girl to have sex with and then they lie about it too
Noone should come and preach for me about God's time or go outside and search , people that are finding their partners online don't have two heads

no wahala. Am online now you can equally find me here too because nairaland is online too.

I HATE NONSENSE. HERES THE FULL GIST. NOBODY SHOULD CLICK ON THAT LINK.


A Nigerian lawyer and Facebook influencer, Olakunle Allison has revealed the reason why he neglected a lady, in spite of his affections for her. He made the post on his official Facebook page today.
Read what he wrote below;

“Ghosting a lady I really liked.”

“People may not know this, but a guy can “ghost” a lady for reasons that might have nothing to do with the lady herself. It might be about someone else in her life or her family. Or it might be about her friends or some other “dumb” reasons like that.”

“And a lady can be ghosted simply because the guy isn’t just sure that she is really what he wants AT THAT POINT IN TIME. Or he might just be confused about his feelings, not knowing what to make of them.”

“Yes, guys can be indecisive especially when it comes to making that big decision. And especially if they have other options.”

“I know this because I have done something similar.”

“There was this tall, pretty and well-trained Igbo lady I used to really like. Very intelligent lady. She graduated � with a 2.1 CGPA from a University in the UK. She was and is a combination of good looks (height) and brains.”

“Amaka is her name.”

“Amaka and I used to meet at the BRT bus terminal every morning on my way to work. I was working in a Commercial Law Firm in Ikoyi at the time. She too worked on the Island at Pricewaterhousecoopers LLP (PWC).”

“If you knew PWC or someone who works there, then you’d understand how much of a big deal it was that she was working there. They employ only the best and they pay extremely well. She was employed solely on merit. She told me how she got the job.”

“Since Amaka and I met every morning at the BRT terminal we gradually got closer whilst we waited for the next BRT bus. We chatted to while away time before the bus came.”

“And when the bus arrived we would sit beside each other and continued our conversation. With lots of traffic on busy, bubbling Lagos roads from Berger to Obalende, marathon gisting was guaranteed for both of us.”

“Amaka was so simple and naive in a very attractive way, in addition to her physical beauty. She also had this innocence about her that made her even more attractive. I doubt she could hurt a fly. She was that kind of a person.”

“Naturally I began to really like her even though I was with someone else at the time, but that relationship was having issues. And I think she (Amaka) began to like me too.”

“So one fateful day I asked if she would like to see a movie with me.”

“Without hesitation, she accepted.”

“So we fixed a date and time to see a movie in Silverbird Cinemas at the Ikeja City Mall.”

“The movie day came. She showed up a few minutes after I got there looking pretty as usual with all smiles.”

“We went to the Cinema premises where I bought movie tickets, popcorn and drinks for two after deciding which movie to see. We chose an American Movie. A romantic comedy.”

“I think I can say we both enjoyed the movie and each other’s company that evening.”

“As we walked out of the cinema hall, Amaka spotted her big brother in a seafood restaurant and dragged me along to say hello to him. Her brother happened to be a medical doctor. They are all well read in her family.”

“When we got to him he was seated looking quite business-like, reserved and frankly a bit too serious. She introduced me to him and him to me. I said “good evening” and he responded casually. A bit too casual. Not even a handshake.”

“A tiny part of me felt ignored, like he was not too pleased to see me with his sister. I am pretty sure I may have read his body language wrongly but that was how I felt at the time.”

“For a few minutes she and her big brother got talking while I stood there waiting for her. And soon enough they were done. We left her brother and made our way out. It was already night.”

“As we came out to the open space within the premises where cars usually park, she became a bit more playful oblivious to my sour mood. I didn’t begrudge her. She was just being herself.”

“Clearly she enjoyed the evening. But I was not feeling the evening anymore. I was mildly sour because of her brother’s perceived coldness towards me.”

“Don’t get me wrong. I was not expecting her brother to give me a big hug or smile from ear to ear at me. But look at me and my height for a second and tell me whether I look like someone anyone could ignore like that.”

“Deep down inside me I felt he was not too pleased to see me and his sister together.”

*After I said goodbye to Amaka that night, I ghosted her.”

“I hated that I did it, but I did it.”

“And I justified it by telling myself that there was already someone in my life (even though that relationship was no longer promising at the time). FYI, I am no longer dating the lady I was seeing then.”

“A year or two later, Amaka got married to a guy who works at PWC. I saw her lovely wedding photos on Instagram and I congratulated her.”

“She responded with thanks. That was the first time we spoke after that movie evening. But I was truly happy for her.”

“I think what happened to me and why I ghosted her was because I have always had this paranoia about having Igbo inlaws.”

“I always felt, whether rightly or wrongly, that you needed a lot of money and title to satisfy and please Igbo fathers and brothers-in-law.”

“So when I got that attitude from her brother at the restaurant, it worsened my fear for Igbo inlaws and i just disconnected mentally from her. That then gave me the license to feed my fear and run.”

“Unfortunately, she doesn’t know this till today. All she knows is that i went cold and quiet.”

“And if I am to be honest, a part of me is not proud that I did that to her. She didn’t offend me at all.”

“But that’s it guys. Ghosting happens and it might have nothing to do with the lady.”

“And that’s why ladies who find themselves in such situations SHOULD NOT beat and blame themselves unnecessarily because men always have their own “dumb” or whatever reasons for doing it. And you cannot blame them too.”

“Just move on like a big girl that you are. And if you can still be friends be friends without holding it against such men.

Asabe4:
Nope,I am not

Which state are you from?

Asabe is an Hausa name.

Asabe4:
Thanks

you're welcome.

This your name Asabe, are you from the north?

mii4u:
I was really disappointed, a man of his caliber shouldn't have made such a comment,even his meddling into politics calls for concern.

he has betrayed God

mii4u:
Hmmm, actually I believe he was called by God (though I'm not Catholic) but I don't understand him anymore.

he has become tools for devil to use since he sale his calling for political money from politicians

Asabe4:
No,I am not

better

Uzomacharles:
That's how one mugu in my compound is wearing boxers every morning expecting married and single ladies to keep staring at him but mugu didn't know that meeting is going on behind him to report to the landlord...

He's even married with kids but dropped his wife and children in village

can you imaging.

mii4u:
Lol, I really don't like talkn abt anyone that claims that God has called him.

scared? After all God say test every spirit to the one from him.

Uzomacharles:
How you go dey wear boxers for family compound?

How old are u?

he's the one tempting the married woman.

Booringa:
And Tilumbu is planning to present Muslim Muslim ticket

I laff

they have plans but it won't work because we have a God that answereth prayers.

Asabe4:
Madness...

hope you're not in Kaduna?

mii4u:
Wetin Catholic Church do dem?

Mbaka no go tok anytin now na to attack Peter Obi him brother na him e sabi.

He's (Mbaka) is a demon in cassock. Know this and know peace.

WISDOM FOR WIVES! -:

As a Wife, Your BEAUTY attracts your husband, but
your WISDOM will continue to keep him! Your
ELEGANCE catches his ATTENTION, but your
INTELLIGENCE convinces him! NAGGING irritates your
husband, but your "Constructive Silence" weakens him!
Remember that the "boyish" character in your husband
comes out occasionally, But your ability to always
handle it, is a sign that you are a MATURED WIFE!
Every man has "Secret Struggles and Pains, including
your husband, if you should ever find them out from
him, Please exhibit the greatest maturity by asking the
Originator of your marriage,(God) to help you with
USEFUL IDEAS, that you will suggest to him (your
husband)! In the long-run, your WORDS matters to your
husband than your "LOOKS"! So always invest the
RIGHT WORDS! Earn your husband's respect and he
will consider you as the yard-stick for all his actions!
Learn to mould your husband's moods, and he will
naturally give you his "FUTURE" as he recalls your
maturity in the past issues! Note that, WOMEN are
everywhere, but REAL WIVES are scarce, let the
QUEEN in you come alive, and your husband will always
hold you in a very HIGH ESTEEM! Please don't be
selfish, forward this to every wife you know, so that we
will together make the "BEST MARRIAGES" In our
society at large!

Islandlady:
Nairalanders I need y'all mature advice on this issue, No insults tho

I have been friends with my male friend for over 11years now, so he is more like a brother to me! He got married 3yrs ago, But we live in the same district, I do visit them once in a while! And I usually bump into his wife at market places, malls or on the street due to the fact that we live in the same district.

My friend is hardly around for the past few Weeks due to the fact that he do travel for work. . .But recently I have been seeing his wife with a Man just about the age of my friend, I have seen them together at the mall for 3 times now for a period interval of 3 weeks, I usually dodge and escape myself so they won't see me! The last time I saw them together I took a sneak pictures of them, I don't know this man, I have never seen him when I visit them, he is not a family member! I have been curious so I feel I should call the attention of my friend to this and send him the pictures too!

Should I tell him about it or what? I am confused!

yes but do it anonymously.

My new address is
No. 1 Peter Obi way
off Atiku Abubakar junction,
Very far from Tinubu bus stop .....

My new address is
No. 1 Peter Obi way
off Atiku Abubakar junction,
Very far from Tinubu bus stop .....

My new address is
No. 1 Peter Obi way
off Atiku Abubakar junction,
Very far from Tinubu bus stop .....

ItsGoodToBeGood:
Especially those Nigerians thinking of voting for Tinubu

Hahahahahaha
Guy you no well. You just make me laugh here with tears coming out of my eyes.

Machinegun91:
Fake news, I just passed area 1 now and everywhere is cool

even me too.

Everywhere is calm.

KKele:
Who are the white spectators cheering Nigeria goals?

Moroccans

ThreeEyedRaven:
Put it in a warm place else it dies of cold,
Also be sure to feed it with grains like rice, millet and guinea corn etc.
Thanks for being a good animal rescue hero

with insects too

9182736455O1999:
Things are more expensive in SS than other parts of the country.

guy you're absolutely right

Emma2Seconds:
But the thread dey some how nah . Hope you dey reason the matter with me Who dey buy suya without tasting first.

na him mek me dey laf

Emma2Seconds:
Why U dey Laff ??

e dey funny na

Emma2Seconds:
U Mean U no dey test car b4 u dey buy am Can't u differentiate second hand products from New brand products, u better get Eyes for proper vision.

pretydiva:
What sought of stupid news is this on a Saturday morning? How's this post beneficial to nigerians

And this is somebody's future wife and mother oo. A big shame on her

thank you sisterly

Anobody:
I'm a single mother of two teenage sons, lost my husband 10 years ago and have been struggling to cater for them singlehandedly. My first son is 19 and the last 17 years but I'm getting fed up with the disrespect and regret not taking them to the village so I could remarry.

They both left secondary school and working to save up for school and I don't ask them for a dime. My last son suddenly started behaving like a tout, pierced both ears and turning his hair to dread, takes my stuff without my permission and even to extent of holding my hands when I get furious to beat him.

My first son is dating a girl and spends all his money on her to the extend of asking me for transport fare sometimes. Sometimes they come home by 10 or 11pm and are ready to fight me if I get furious to discipline them.

What broke the camel's back was that my last son went to a friend's bday party overnight without telling me, my first son said he called to tell him he won't return and NONE OF THEM TOLD ME under my roof.

I've tried talking calmly, denying certain privilege and discipline but it keeps getting worse, my last option is to take them back to their father's village before I die of hbp.

I'm depressed nairalanders�, please I seek matured advice, thanks.

Please help me push to front page

very easy yo handle them. Go to any army barracks near you and report them to the army. But make sure you remain anonymous. Let the make them to see on their head. That punishment will humble them both

SeriouslySense:
So far human-pox is more deadlier.

If one can survive human-pox, surely monkey-pox is more survivable.

you think so?

Monkey pox loading