queenice7: I've been heartbroken so many times that I am starting to believe that I am possessed, pls I need some care, love and advice because I am losing it. This is not the first, second, third, or fourth time I've been heartbroken or taken advantage of. I am 23, very hardworking, very beautiful, smart, kind, with a heart of gold, I get all these compliments often. I am also cool, calm and collected. I don't understand how someone would decide to take advantage of me. It usually starts when I demand to be treated right. This last heartbreak, I was dating a Nigerian guy in another continent, b4 we officially started dating, he pestered me to date him, I was so scared, told him about the heartbreaks I've suffered, how fragile and soft I am, how people has returned back my good with evil, how I am so scared of giving love another trial, and how i don't think long distance relationship is worth it. He told me how he has gotten a fair share of heartbreaks from ladies, and how he'll never do shit to me, he swore, promised, every every and I believed him. And one thing with me is that when I love, I love wholeheartedly, I won't withhold anything, my spirit, soul, body, everything, you'll just know that I love, and that is when the other party usually starts misbehaves, when they've seen how deep I've gotten into them, how I create time from my very busy work schedule just to speak/chat them all the time, how I try my best to please them. The most painful thing is that this guy made me so committed to the relationship, when he saw that I really have less believe in long distance relationship, he did everything possible to win my trust and commitment, he assured me ours would be different. When he'd won my heart he started replying late, stopped video calling and started pretending he missed my video calls, and all. We had an argument after I complained about how cold he has become, and I told him I wanted to be left alone at that moment. And that was it, up till now, no call or chat from him. Its been almost 2 weeks, I tried reaching out to him to know if he's owk, but he ignored my chat. I feel so bad even though we're yet to meet in person, but because I really opened my heart and soul to him, after he made me believe he'll not hurt me. I feel so bad that my only wrong was demanding to be treated right, that's the only thing I've ever demanded from him, I feel so bad that I've been heartbroken yet another time simply for loving with all my heart. I feel sad that I've not had any relationship that didn't end in tears, any relationship that was worth it, I'm yet to experience it. I am now having a feeling that I have offended somebody I don't even know. Even aside relationship, love matter, I've often been taken advantage of by other people, colleagues, so called friends in such a way that I became a loner, lost some self esteem. Pls help me with advises or books to read, else I'll give up on love and humanity
I don't think you're possess. I think you have one repugnant character that's making them to leave you.
Believe me, if you work on those repugnant character, you'll have someone who'll love and stay with you u equivocally.
Victoria407: I have two bad behaviours: The first one: whenever I wake up in the morning especially when I wake up in a bad mood I just pick someone around the house to fight with... I fight with that person and by the end of the day I always regret it..I remember my cousin that stays with us..I woke up as usual and i remembered something bad she did to me a year ago and I got into a fight with her..the next thing I didn't cook her food with the rest since I an in charge of cooking the girl just kept her cool...by evening my anger was gone and I started talking to her again.. It can be either my mum,sister, dad or brother.. Once I wake up frowning ...don't just near me... I wonder if this is a mood swing or devil at work...
Second behavior:: I don't behave ladylike, not like I behave like a boy o ..i manage a poultry with my mum and whenever am working and my mum sent me on errand I don't even get to change, I just zoom off With that dirty working cloth unlike my younger sister who clean up even if she is going the next house.. I remembered my mum sent me fuel one day and I went without bra then I saw a guy staring at my chest,I gave him a bad stare that day..again I remembered going out with my friends and I ordered amala instead , I didn't pity the food at all, I was biting into the hard meat like I was at home...it was when I got up to wash my hands I discovered some people there giving me disgusting looks even , I didn't care anyways but my friends said I was shameless... Whenever I go to parties I tend to eat a lot without caring...my mom would have to caution me... My mom and dad are serious Christians and take no nonsense since am the first born and 21 years ...I had a bf once and when my parents found out ,my dad took belt and my mum turning stick and dealt with me...the next day I took out the anger on the guy and gave him a resounding slap..he broke up with me afterwards...my mom took me to all the pastors cuz of this bf issue .....all this made me view myself as a weirdo and its bothering me... Someone pls advice... Thanks
can I see that your chest to see what that guy is starring at?
my wife is from East. When I was courting her I didn't see language I saw LOVE. Am from north and we are living together without any language barriers.
Both the police and army are shooting sparadically moving from house to house and beating people indescriminately. There are combat helicopter hovering over the region.
I just wonder why the security personnels in this country cannot carry out their duties without abusing the rights of other citizens.
those other citizens should point out those ppl causing problem in their community
DonFreshmoney: In Benue you will hardly find a 20 year old lady that hasn't done abortion or have a child.. 20 yrs is even high... Benue na my hometown but the only career or job those young guys do apart from farming na kpanshing... even their streams in the rural areas, guys and girls bath naked.. why wont they kpansh without condom after seeing each other?
In all relationships that ended, it is always women complaining that they were left, or the men were on the wrong or men messed it. My question is, are women always innocent in case of a break up? No, this is a clear answer. In some cases, women are the wrong and led to the man leaving them. What I know, women always play victim. They might even push the man to going away so that it will seem like it is the man who left or the man was on the wrong. Tactics women often use are: -
1. Rationing sex. This is a sure deal breaker. A man who was used to getting constant sex is suddenly denied. Slowly, such a man eventually reaches a breaking point and “cheats” thus giving a woman the perfect excuse to go.
2. Being overly demanding. This literally chocks the man until he feels he is not a man enough for her and simply bails out. 3. Living beyond her means making the man feel useless.
4. Nagging. No man ever wants a nagging woman and this is a sure way to push the man away.
5. Flirting with other men openly and when the man raises an issue he is told, “they are just friends, you are just insecure, you are just too protective, it is just casual friendship, etc.” but she knows what she is doing.
6. On the flip side, a woman who knows she has a very high libido might become overly demanding to the man making him feel not a man enough and thus the man literally runs away from her.
7. She begins to dress unattractively so that the man gets pissed and embarrassed to be with her. With time the man begins to notice other more attractive ladies and it is a matter of time before he leaves.
8. She cheats on him, and throws the blame to him e.g. you are never there for me, you do not satisfy me, etc.
9. She begins to compare him with other men often richer men until the man gets tired of her and bails out.
10. If she gets married with a child, she begins to get in touch with her baby daddy something which men really hate. Very few men can survive this.
11. She begins to slowly cut off communication and when the man asks why, her reasons are she is busy. When the man pushes further, he is labelled insecure. Within no time, the man is tired and going away. The girl is smiling But after all these, they often cry foul of being dumped but they engineered the entire process. So, men, be wary of the above and much more. When a woman wants you to leave, she will craft a way out for you such that you will seem like ‘the bad one’. Be wise........
ochejoseph: Gov Ortom Wake Up: Benue COVID 19 Palliatives In Kano Markets (VIdeo)
At this difficult time in our Nations history Benue state should not be in the news for Shameful reasons such as this .
At a time when our people are hungry , evil men and women are selling off food items donated to them as Palliatives by the coalition against COVID-19.
When i initially saw this news i felt it was an attempt to blackmail the state Government until details emerged that evil men and women within the government are responsible for these travesty of Justice.
“The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing.”- Edmund Burke
This is a direct call the Gov Ortom to Wake up from slumber before evil men rubbish him and his Government, its a disgrace that Benue is selling off her COVID 19 Palliatives. This Palliative must be returned in full and shared to the needy and those who truly needs them. For....
Thus says the Lord of hosts: ‘Execute true justice, show mercy and compassion everyone to his brother. Do not oppress the widow or the fatherless, the alien or the poor. Let none of you plan evil in his heart against his brother.’” Zechariah 7:8-10.